| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/18/2008 5:13:53 PM | I haven't seen where anyone's mentioned this (if so apologize for repeating).
It could affect your ability to find or keep employment. Most employers require a drug test prior to hiring and it's important to them because they get a big discount on their WC Insurance if they're DFWP. Also if there is a job-related accident or injury, they are required to have the employee drug tested and many companies have their employees sign a release to do random tests. It may not have affected you yet, but something to keep in mind.
Not really totally up on the confidentiality laws, but if you get flagged it could be hard to find a decent job in the future. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/18/2008 5:23:03 PM | And ya have to love the posts from the tobacco junkies (yes you are drug addicts)....
Never said I wasn't, but it is still legal
not to mention the fact that you make the rest of us breath your second hand smoke (including your children)
Wahhhhh....your profile says that you drink socially......I don't drink, and even though it is legal as well, I am not slamming you for it.
Get over yourself.
As to the other poster who said we do other illegal things like speeding....I am 42, have been driving since I was 17, and have NEVER, EVER gotten a ticket or anything. That is because I never do more than 5 miles over the speed limit because 90% of the time I have my children in the car. So  | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/18/2008 5:24:41 PM |
Cool! So does that mean I can go out and start castrating child molestors so that some day the government will legalize the practice?
I don't have any objection to that...Anybody? Anyone at all?
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Lighten up, people...it's not like she's setting up a meth lab in your neighborhood and letting her child play in toxic waste.The vehemence of some responses here is amazing. I hereby dub this phenomenon...
"Reefer Madness"!
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/18/2008 5:25:06 PM |
Please Google 'marijuana' and 'schizophrenia' and see how many studies have linked the use of it to the development of mental illnesses. Wow really? I had no idea? I tried smoking weed in high school and it just made me paranoid as all of hell.
 I thought I was going to be mentally ill and when it wore off I was glad. I seriously do not know how so many people use that stuff.  | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/18/2008 5:29:35 PM | Damo167, I like your post and a lot..
MOST people who smoke a bit o weed aren't down cast losers, that don't hold jobs, and are reefing on the American Tax Payers dollar, nope, in fact if you need statistics you will find that those #'s are high for those doing the hard stuff, and or alcoholics.
It is those that can't handle drugs in general that get caught up in the mess... Just as the same as it is for those that get addicted to any other dang thing that is out there including sex, bad relationships, over exercising, spending more than they have, and the list goes on...
Dustie, it IS a tough road to be an advocate... I know, because even though I live in a state where Medical MJ is legal, there are still some strong minded opponents that will give a person a raft of crap for the whole thing.
One day I went to the bank and the teller ask me what I was going to school for, I rambled off for what, then told my future goals were legal advocacy and advocacy for medical mj... I said that part rather quiet... The best advice she gave to me was NOT to be ashamed of standing up for something I believed in, and to state it out loud... There will be people that don't agree, BUT if I am going to advocate for something I believe in, then I better be willing to state so and out loud...
You have done well, because you have gotten beaten over the head, flogged and even threatened...
listen goodmother, have the courage of your convictions. it does not matter what i or anyone else thinks. all that counts is that you bring up a well balanced, bright, articulate, questioning and empaphising child, qualities some of your correspondants sadly seem to lack.
ps don't get caught.
This Bloke has some really good advice...
As for the person who says he believes in casterating child molesters... HMMMMM can we actually compare apples to oranges and things equate equally by doing so???? The most you have is two fruits with fructos, past that yeah...
And for the smokers that say they take responsibility for smoking...Really, so when your lungs crap out are a burden to the health care system, your insurance cancels because it is just to expensive to cover self induced damage who covers that???
At least with smoking MJ, if the user is smart, they can do it smokeless by use of an inhaler, and NOT have ANY tar, or other smoke related carcinogens...
It is all about balance, and sometimes what some people believe in is not going to agree with someone else... However it doesn't make one better over the other, just different... | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/18/2008 5:32:21 PM | | in response to simplelady66 (not sure how to put the box thing in, could somebody tell me how please as there are a few people on here who need putting right). is five miles over the limit not speeding then? do you think not getting a ticket means you haven't broken the law? | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/18/2008 5:51:30 PM | Icey43 writes:
But then I suppose my twenty one years of working in the front line of health care. Emergency/Main Operating Rooms ect says nothing to what I have personally seen.
What on earth would you see, with respect to Pot use, in an operating room? Why don't take a toodle on down to the Psychiatric Unit. Many of us here have worked 20+ years in the healthcare field and we've seen firsthand; the long term effects of drugs on the brain (including pot) - namely, Schizophrenia. I can't tell you how many sad cases of kids who grew up being pot heads, that ended up Schizo. Many even within the same circle of friends (major pot users). Trust me, it wasn't something in the water nor was it a coincidence.
I think it's incredibly atrocious that someone who's "reportedly" in the healthcare field is on here, singing the praises of the use of illegal substances; even admitting to using herself. Wonder what your professional association would think about that? I can tell you - it wouldn't go over well. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/18/2008 6:21:28 PM |
not to mention the fact that you make the rest of us breath your second hand smoke (including your children) and what about the example you set for them?
A) I don't force you to breathe...stop whenever you wish! ;O)
B) Some of us tobacco junkies are courteous smokers.
C) Yes...it is an addiction...but a LEGAL one, thank you.
Just because it is legal makes it alright for you to tell this woman that what she does in private is illegal and that she is a bad mother?
Hell-loooowwww?! SHE posted in a PUBLIC forum, dipsh1t! If she did not want a variety of opinions, she should not have asked. If she only wanted sweet and cushy opinions to her liking...then she should have posted such in a forum of pro-legalization freaks! | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/18/2008 7:07:22 PM | You are STILL a GOOD mother! Smoking pot is just as good/bad as having a drink...in Moderation! Don't pay attention to what someone tells you through an email....when that person doesn't really know you at all! If someone is dead against pot, they will rag all over you about it.
Tons of people smoke pot/hash and just won't admit to it. To each their own :) | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/18/2008 7:13:11 PM | | ( Anjin74 ) thats because thats just how selfish most women are... It makes know sense how she can drink being pragent and drink while she is breast feeding but your not allowed to toot, why is that because alcohol is legal and the other is not perfect example of how controlling selfish women are...its ok for them to do things but not for men to be able to do things ....its good she is your ex that you dont have to put up with her bull anymore. She is weak to do that to you as far as im concerned......alcohol kills, toot does not..whats wrong with the picture their...only reason why alcohol is legal is because are suckie goverment can get there part....... | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/18/2008 7:24:29 PM | dustie, I agree with everyone here who warns you of your daughter's well being due to your smoking weed, legalities, everything. Many posters are 10, 20 years older than yourself. Stop being irresponsible and making excuses, grow up and address your issues for the sake of your daughter. You are smoking weed at least 3 times a week, or more. I can't say you are a 'bad' mother, but, guess what? .. the courts would. You are so busy justifying the fact that you have everything in control with your pot smoking .. but the minute your daughter gets hit by a car outside while you were out back smoking your pinner, or she falls down the stairs or hits her head in the bathtub and suffers tragic consequences due to her mother's inability to be there or make a quick and smart decision, or whatever, ... the courts say you are a bad mother. And you would ... do what? Continue to justify? A 6 year old child does not have the capacity to rationalize the way an adult does, and she trusts your judgment. What this little girl DOESN'T know is that mommy's judgment is cloudy. Stop giving your daughter the huge task of assessing your parenting skills as a 'good' mother because she is hardly old enough to assess a parent in the manner you claim to be getting the green light on.
Mother Teresa is on your list of interests and she incidentally was a strong advocate for the protection and well being of children.
Make up your mind, dustie. Mother Teresa wouldn't advocate this, so stop playing both sides of the fence and stick to the one you are actively demonstrating: the fact that you are not looking out for the best interest of your child.
Every single one of your posts addresses your justification for doing what you know isn't the right thing to do. And I agree with the guy who walked if your pot smoking was, in fact, the reason, because it showed that he wasn't in agreement with your choice to smoke weed, with your daughter present in the household, at least three times a week. It is simply irresponsible.
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/18/2008 7:30:40 PM | dusty, without reading the entire thread......from what i've read you're not a bad mom. some guys might think differently because of smoking the weed but as long as your daughter doesn't see you smoking or high then there's nothing wrong. if a guy's against smoking weed then why even contact someone that smokes.....it's like if a guy doesn't drink why contact a woman that drinks daily and vise versa for both things. i do remember some women in the 70's that used to smoke including a mother of 3 girls that i used to hang out with. she would sit with her daughters before saying the rosary and smoke a joint. she believed that smoking a joint once a day is a lot healthier than smoking a pack of cigarettes.
as long as you spend quality time with your daughter and do what a mother's supposed to do with raising her child(ren) then you're not a bad mom at all! | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/18/2008 7:31:56 PM | | If you had to chose between your daughter and mar. what would you chose? just quit it. I actually had a good friend who lost his job due to it and then lost his life . now his young kids will nevr see him again but what the hell its just mar. think about that one. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/18/2008 7:32:20 PM | PennyLane writes:
You are STILL a GOOD mother! Smoking pot is just as good/bad as having a drink...in Moderation! Don't pay attention to what someone tells you through an email....when that person doesn't really know you at all! If someone is dead against pot, they will rag all over you about it.
Tons of people smoke pot/hash and just won't admit to it. To each their own :)
Wow, and you're MOTHER? And you're supporting another Mother who has a young child i her care - and she's a chronic pot user? And so proud of it that she's willing to post about it, with her picture, and risk someone reporting her to CPS? You advocate young Moms getting wasted and then perhaps not being 'sober' enough to get help for their child should an emergency present? Unbelievable. Did you teach your own children that it's "okay" to break the law? | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/18/2008 7:51:53 PM | ***I have a relative that is a social worker with child protective services. She said states can differ but in most cases, if this was reported, you would be drug tested and they would interview your child asking what she knew about drugs, if anything at all.
If she knew nothing, and they felt comfortable with the fact that you did not smoke in front of your child, then that would probably be the end of the discusssion except for the fact if the drugs were in the same home that your child lives, that it could be a safety issue, and you would have to agree to a safety plan. Not having the drugs at your residence, etc.
If she was able to tell them about what you did, etc, then there could be a case for removal in most cases. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/18/2008 8:10:12 PM | As long as you never do it in front of her, in the same room where she will be, so what?
You work, you sound like your trying to be a good Mother, so what is the big problem here?
I don't think it should be done in the same room as the child anymore than anykind of smoking should be .
What happens if she tells her Father? Will he freak out? If so I would not do it again.
Take care and keep up the good work, from a Grandma to a Mom | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/18/2008 8:23:13 PM | i don't think that overall you are a bad mother but you are definately making a mistake.
you buy the mj from someone and it could be an undercover cop. you have to go to certain neighborhoods to obtain this. they could be dangerous. you could be arrested. your name could be on the police blotter of the local newspaper. your daughter's friend's parents could see the item in the paper and she could be austrasized or shunned or made fun of. you could easily lose your job and ability to provide for her.
smoking anything could reach your daughter's lungs. you could be high while driving and injure yourself or your daughter. while high you are an addle brained zombie incapable of performing 100%. have i said enough?
mj should never ever be legalized. we have enough americans in a coma now texting each other all day. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/18/2008 8:31:50 PM |
As long as you never do it in front of her, in the same room where she will be, so what?
The "so what" is that while she's stoned, her judgment and reflexes are impaired. What happens if the daughter accidentally cuts herself, the mother has to DRIVE her to the hospital, and she's been smoking weed for two hours? Or she's toking up while the daughter is at school, and emergency comes up, and she has to rush to the school to pick her up? Someone at the school recognizes the signs of weed smoking, and drops a line to CPS saying they need to keep an eye on this woman. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/18/2008 8:47:25 PM |
I miss her like crazy when she goes to her father's. How much would you miss her from prison? More important, how much would she miss you? Just taking a big risk of breaking her heart like that makes you a bad parent. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/18/2008 9:35:02 PM |
sweetjemgirl:
I am laughing at ten pages of people trying to tell this pothead why not to smoke pot. She is attention seeking, she asked for opinions ect. but clearly wants to argue her point and convince everyone that she is not wrong. On top of that she is only 24, her profile states all her children are over 18 (can't even count).
Aww, c'mon, you have to cut the OP some slack. She was probably stoned when she filled out the profile, so didn't notice that saying all her children were over 18 when she's only 24 herself isn't too bright! How she filled out the profile *might* reflect on how she cares for a six year old several days a week while stoned also. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/18/2008 9:52:49 PM | | You cannot judge a woman's ability as a mother simply by whether or not she smokes weed. Being a mother is so complex. You can't measure the worth of something like that based on a side activity. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/18/2008 11:41:57 PM | | Interestingly the OP hasnt given her argument against weed causing psychosis? Would like to know your views. Are you also going to dismiss hard evidence? If you were arguing against this evidence in a court of law you'd be laughed off the stand by the experts. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/19/2008 12:07:15 AM | I wouldn't worry about what a closed minded, judgemental ass has to say about you. He's most likely a dead beat father! He also is "hurt" because you wouldn't meet him. Little boys like that just need to go get their daddys porn mag and stay home! Can anyone spell LOSER?
Good luck.... | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/19/2008 1:06:50 AM | Ahhhh... I didn't post this to argue my side... I wanted to hear what OTHER people have to say, not what I could just say to myself...
and ouch!
... it seems like (by the hostility of your comments) some of you have picked up on the fact I also support cannibalism, bailing out on my taxes, the ENTIRE black market, female circumcisions, driving a school bus not just a lil intoxicated but completely wasted, anachry bla bla bla 
Okay, you guys are right.... I'm done with this forum... have fun with it :)
I'm gonna tell my mom to babysit for me so I can go to the bar...
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/19/2008 1:18:05 AM |
Can anyone spell LOSER?
H-I-P-P-I-E-4-0!
You're advocating it's okay for a mother, who is the primary care-giver to a young child, get herself 'wasted' 3 times a week.
It's no different from her going to the pub a getting 'four sheets to the wind' 3 times a week. She is still not in a fit state to look after the child when she's stoned, regardless of whether the child is sleeping or not.
The OP has asked for opinions and she's got them from both sides of the argument.
Besides the fact it's illegal, nobody has yet mentioned being stoned makes you a very boring person to be around, just ask Hippie! | |
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