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Posted: 6/19/2008 8:38:50 AM | It may be against the law and the reason it will be against the law in the future is that many people have the wrong concept of Pot. Mind altering drugs are infact a bad thing. Pot is not like crack or acid. It puts one in a relaxed state and if you are alerted you actually override the relaxed feeling. Smoke a joint and then post what you think about it.  | |
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Posted: 6/19/2008 8:44:14 AM | | instead why don't I fart in a can put the lid on it then take a match to it then tell ya what I think about it...at least its legal! | |
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Posted: 6/19/2008 8:53:44 AM | The moverman, I have tried pot years ago and I didnt like the effects as it made me feel paranoid and unmotivated. At the time I had just married a man who was a pothead, I soon discovered he too was paranoid using it but because he liked the relaxing effects of it he coped with the paranoia that insiduously invaded his life. He went on to attempt suicide many times due to feeling like everybody hated him and he hated everybody in return. His mum told me he was never like that before he got into pot. So until you have suffered bad effects dont say its good for everybody until you have walked in that persons shoes.
It amuses me why all you people who actually admit to using weed on here have "dont use drugs" on their profiles.....Thats like saying I dont drink alcohol but I like to drink wine. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2008 9:08:52 AM |
instead why don't I fart in a can put the lid on it then take a match to it then tell ya what I think about it...at least its legal!
That wouldn't be effective, because it would smell an awful lot like flowers lol | |
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Posted: 6/19/2008 9:48:42 AM | The OP has left the building!  Maybe CPS payed her a visit? or maybe the ex? or maybe she finally realized it wasn't very bright putting her picture in a profile and posting a thread about her addiction to MJ. Go figure. Carry on!!  | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/19/2008 10:12:31 AM |
Well, to get to the point, I smoke grass daily. Almost everyone I know smokes daily. I see parents smoke around their kids with no ill effect. Anyone who cast judgement on this subject without ever smoking themselves are ignorant. I would also like to add that after 14 yrs. of personal research, there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. Keep smoking.
And if this mother keeps doing what she's doing, by the time her daughter is 27 like you, she'll ALSO likely have 14 years of "personal research" about pot smoking, and have a social circle where "almost everyone she knows smokes daily." You're the perfect poster child for why she should wake up and show some responsibility. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2008 10:36:12 AM | While I'm not crazy about people smoking when they have to take care of kids, I wonder whether these same people who are telling you it's wrong would feel the same if you were dying of cancer and had tremendous pain and nausea and that was the only thing helping you?
As for what I think? Depends on how much you are smoking, whether it's strong or more like shake and how it affects you. Everyone has a different tolerance level and addiction level. Unfortunately most people with a high addiction rate don't find out until it's sometimes too late.
I've seen different types of users and different types of people. Some are responsible and smoke pot, some I wouldn't trust at all and smoke pot. Hard to judge without knowing someone first. Oh look, that would be being non-judgemental - how original lol | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/19/2008 10:44:44 AM | As I dont really know you or your daughter am not really qualified to answer this post. However, going by what you have stated, no I dont think your a bad mother. Not unless, you smoke this in front of your daughter, you get 'high' whilst she is in your care and/or you let your daughter smoke this to? Im assuming you dont so If I were you, I wouldnt take every guys opinions of you and your life, as they dont really know you. So dont stress out and enjoy pof for what it is. An internet dating site. Enjoy.... | |
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Posted: 6/19/2008 11:30:44 AM | Im with Dallas on this. You could lose your child over this. Your ex, has enough ammo, just from this forum post alone, to take that child from you. legally. Your teaching your daughter to respect the environment, but not the law.
Oh, and the antibiotic thing, I would hope if your child had an infection, you would see to it that she was properly treated. Lose innocent ear infections, can lead to total hearing loss, those eye infections, can lead to blindness, and so on and so on. but, I'm just a nurse and single parent of 4. what do i know? | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/19/2008 12:12:40 PM | Anyone who knowingly breaks the law is not innocent............
Neither is anyone who breaks the law in ignorance of it. The fact that you didn't know what you were doing is legal cannot be used as a defense.
if the laws are bad try to change the law....but in the mean time when one knowingly breaks that law it makes it criminal...............I dont agree with every law on the books...but I'm adverse to going to jail for breaking them so till they change I will abide by them............
Ever taken a prescription drug that was prescribed for someone else (like your SO) to avoid paying for a visit to the doctor and/or paying for something you already have? If so, you just might be a federal criminal. It doesn't matter if you didn't know it was illegal. You would still be a criminal, albeit one who wasn't caught breaking the law. You ought to check out your local statutes on the kinds of chemicals you can own without the presumption of intent to manfufacture based on merely owning them (or being in a place where all of them are stored.) You might be surprised on what you can be presumed of doing with some rather ordinary items. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2008 1:51:28 PM | Oh puh-lease, Scruff! It's not like she did not ASK for opinions, first of all.
Secondly...her OP was a little on the strange side with her descriptives of WHY she is a "good mother!" I mean...so you let your kid roll around in poison ivy cause they're not allergic to it?! Ah...yeah...so...???
The majority of replies here that were less than supportive of her personal choices, were actually pretty tame. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2008 2:10:31 PM | opie got on here and wanted to know what other people thought, and she got we she asked for...if you can't take the forum heat get out of the forum kitchen and you can even take my can with ya!  | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/19/2008 2:13:50 PM | The way I view it is like this. Getting totally stoned out of your mind would not be any worse than getting totally drunk with your child around. I don't see it as drinking a beer as if your wanted to sneek a couple puff's.. Each to their own. I think this world we live in has too many rules. They say America is "The land of the free. I say it's "The land of "You follow our rules or go to jail"
I say each to their own. Smoking too many cigarettes in the company of your child isn't always the best for an infants lungs. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2008 2:16:50 PM |
Her choice her rights?? I guess we should of removed her abilty to choose also what the heck was everyone thinking.
Nope. She's doing something that's illegal. If the father wants, he can probably go to court and take custody of the kids away from her -- at least he could in the US. If her child's school catches on, they could call in social services.
Sure, everyone has "choices". You can drive drunk, do drugs, hold up a bank, but if you do those things you're going to be held accoutable.
My vote is for crappy mother. I sure wouldn't date someone who did drugs, whether or not they were a parent. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2008 2:21:41 PM | Oh puh-lease, Scruff...again! LOL Seriously...was there anything here about her being a single 'rent...other than the risks she might be bringing on herself, in a potential custody or DFS case?
I know Imma the last one to slam a young, single momma, dude! I am almost 42...with four ADULT children...and a grandson. LOL No single momma bashin' here! | |
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Posted: 6/19/2008 2:27:29 PM | | Bad mother I dont think so but I do have to agree with the the fact that it is illegal and what happens to your daughter if you are arrested she goes to her dads all the time and u only have a few hour visit with her a week? You miss her when she is gone the one day aweek Think what could happen and ask yourself how that might effect your daughter. Just my thoughts on it | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/19/2008 2:37:47 PM | People pass judegements every day......
Its a balanced weighing of evidence preparatory to making a decision based on corrobating evidence.......which in this case the OP provided on her own.......
I dont think anyone on this thread was excessively harsh on the OP............
She started a thread..............
People in a discussion in real life are seldon in agreement......
I think she got some sound advise and hope she takes some of it under consideration......... | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/19/2008 2:47:27 PM |
Ever taken a prescription drug that was prescribed for someone else (like your SO) to avoid paying for a visit to the doctor and/or paying for something you already have?
NO........But if I innocently do something thats illegal then I will pay the consequence.......I do know that I dont "knowingly " do so. Your point is ?????
This is about the OP" knowing" she is taking an ILLEGAL drug.....and to me its about the heartbreak she and her daughter may go through should she get caught............
Stop trying to twist a gnat into a fly............. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2008 2:57:05 PM |
I hope she is off enjoying her self being a Mother which I'm sure she is good at.[/b[
I 'm sure she is off spending time raising her child.
I'm sure the thread made her see into the biased opinions and how judementel people can really be.
Scruffy, you claim to be "sure" of an awfully lot of things that there's no way in hell you can be "sure" of, having never met the woman. But thanks for assuring us of everything that you're "sure" of - guess you must be psychic - or just not really "sure" of the meaning of what it takes to be "sure" of something? | |
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Posted: 6/19/2008 3:10:45 PM | | That is just dumb. Obviously the guy does not know the relationship between you and your daughter. If you take care of buisness first and put fun later then you are being a responcipal parent. I have my medical marijuana card and too me it is like taking any other drug your doctor perscribes you. It is up to you to use it in a manner that does not harm your child. Some people will say anything to belittle you or your lifestyle because they are just jerks. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2008 4:04:27 PM | You are not a bad mother (does that satisfy the mod?)
Seriously, if you chose to be a pot head and can function and continue to reach your goals and encourage your daughter to do so as well (hopefully encouraging her to do so without any outside influences) then that is your business.
I don't find pot anything I want to do anymore, it makes me sleepy anymore.
But I do drink and that gives me soemthing that maybe pot gives you, so I am not judging.
Drinking is legal, why any other mood/mind alterating thing is not I have never undestood.
I am not a big advocate of marijauna as it just makes me tired anymore on the occassions that I may do it.
I think however that it is just as natural and equally harmless/harmfull as alcohol and do not understand why the government ok's one over the other.
One thing I would say is, smoke does affect another's lungs, legal or not.. and I am a cigarette smoker, but do not around my great nephew or others who do not smoke.
You actually interact and have a relationship with your child.. that is a good thing.
Many do not it seems, mom's and dad's both.
So I say you are not a bad mother.
Hope that answers the question.
Good luck to you and your daughter. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2008 4:15:45 PM | I wouldnt worry too much about it Dusty, judging from what you say on your profile if that is your everyday life then pay no attention to what narrowminded people say. If all you say in the forum thread is how you really relate to your daughter then there is nothing at all wrong with your smoking Marijuana as long as your not trying to teach her that its the right thing to do, If your not then you have done and are doing nothing wrong in my opinion and for what its worth I for one would be happy to know you. The people who judge you to be of a lower quality just because you smoke arent the people who are worth having in your life anyway.
Best of luck here and I hope you find someone who wont judge you on this and if you feel like having someone to chat with about life feel free to drop me a line.
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Posted: 6/19/2008 5:10:49 PM | Hi,
I have found it quite interesting to see the people who indicate that they "Don't do drugs"
Then they talk about going for a drink or coffee or smoking "socially". I would not exclude a person from dating simply because they liked to smoke weed.
What we are really talking about here is illicit (as in not Regulated through Taxation) drug use.
All "drugs" are not only classified scientifically but socially.
What is a drug? The list is long and differs between competing perspectives. There are drugs and then there are "drugs".
I might make you feel better about it in the short term. Smoking weed does not inherently make you a "bad" parent. You are simply exercising your freedom of choice. Feel better? Hope so!
Some people might go into the "average" parents home, look in the fridge/freezer and cupboards, then measure your child waistline and vocabulary and pronounce you either a fit or unfit parent.
But. Steel yourself. If you are a single parent living on student loans is smoking really in your budget? Yes? Does you child ever go without something because you choose to buy drugs? No. Good.
Of course these are loaded questions . Unless you get all your weed for free that is!
(*Please note that this part of my post makes two assumptions 1) that you spend money to buy weed and that you do not obtain it for free. 2) you are responsible for your daughters future education. If on the other hand these assumptions are wrong ... its still pretty solid advice for your average parent!)
I would also like to think that I can help you think about this from an objective, mature, parental perspective :
Smoking weed has been called in this thread "your Adult Activities". But are they adult in the long run?
If you are on student loans then what is the "financial measure" as a parent and student of whether or not its OK for you to smoke weed? Hold tight because the whole compounded interest in RESP investment stuff is going to blow your mind.
Here is what I think qualifies you to make that "choice";
If you can comfortably meet all your child's needs and pay ALL your bills on time; and
If you are also saving a minimum of $2000.00 into your child's RESP every year, hopefully since birth. This is the maximum that the Fed Gov pays with their FREE 20% grant ONLY on the first $2000 every year, plus that magic compound interest - they allow you to save up to a max of $4000 each year tax sheltered. If so, you should have somewhere in the 7 to 10 or more G's in the bank to secure her educational future. Go smoke some weed.
If you answer "No" to this criteria then the answer too your question is still:
"No" - Smoking Weed does not inherently make you a "bad" mother.
But it is a measure of your inexperience and level of maturity. Perhaps it is an indicator that you are thinking of yourself today instead of your daughter in the future when you choose to spend your money on weed.
I guess what I am saying is that even if you feel you can afford weed, perhaps your daughter can't.
In the end its all a matter of personal choice. You are choosing for two.
If all this sounds a bit rude. Tough luck, I have a young daughter too and apply the same criteria to myself.
p.s. Smoking? Never in front of a child, or even indoors for that matter. Drinking? (to excess) never in front of a child.
p.p.s Did you know that on the first year you buy an RESP you can buy back the previous year as well and save/earn even more!
Robinottawa | |
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Posted: 6/19/2008 7:30:17 PM | Dustie,
I see it like this. It is illegal and shouldn't be. It is actually less dangerous for you from a health standpoint than either alachol or cigarettes. It doesn't make you a bad mother at all. The legalities of this matter are your personal choice. In the state of florida oral and anal sex were illegal until 3 years ago. I know that NO ONE who had the opportunity to preform an illegal act made their decision based on the law. This is similar to me because it is an outdated and ingorant viewpoint of conservitative america. Almost the entire united states has been inundated with half tuths and outright falsehoods about MJ.
Sorry I kind of went off on a tangent...
I am not biased (I don't smoke pot) I am educated...
Jay | |
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