| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 7/24/2008 2:53:22 PM |
If you smoke or have it around your daughter then yes thats bad parenting. But I suspect your like some people I know and don't do it around your kids or even in thier house.
Harvey, she (and her profile) are gone so you can't see this, but you suspect wrong - and that's the issue here. Her profile made it clear that she was the sole and primary caregiver for her child a minimum of 6 days per week, 24/7 except when she was working. At the same time the profile was clear that she smoked marijuana "more than 3 times per week." Its pretty impossible to be a full-time sole caregiver at least 6 days a week, 24/7 - AND smoke marijuana more than 3 times a week - if you DON'T have it in the house with the child AND use it while the child is in your sole care. So as you said above, "yes that's bad parenting." | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 7/24/2008 3:35:06 PM | | hey never mind who said dat i smoke it a lot my mam and dad do and i cudent ask 4 better parents there nothen atal wrong wit wit it doesant make ya a bad mother u always get these people my parents never smoked r build joints in front of me till i was 18 im sure u a gud mother never mind dat ***hole | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 7/25/2008 8:12:58 AM | No more effective testimony than msg435 AGAINST parents and people smoking pot for anything but deadly illnesses!
Even though everyone is not effected so obviously it certainly does degrade the brain cells with regular use over a long period.
Use less regularly is not what the OP was talking about and she confirmed that when she was still here. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 7/25/2008 8:16:50 AM | hey never mind who said dat i smoke it a lot my mam and dad do and i cudent ask 4 better parents Maybe better parents could spend less time getting stoned, and more time nurturing their child's learning ability? | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 7/25/2008 8:58:48 AM | Good grief you guys are cooooold this morning. LMAO He's just forgotten where his bong is and he's Jonesin' a tad. 
~OT~ The OP has probably already been to Court Ordered parenting classes, detox/rehab and a bitter custody battle and everyone is still arguing whether she was (is) a bad mother??? Whether or not she is/was/or continues to be a bad mother, makes no difference really because she was definitely mentally impaired to some degree (whether stoned or what) to have posted this crap in a public forum on a public website with over 1.6 million members. I don't think I could be that drunk, no matter how hard I were to try. Mental midgets aren't always bad parents however.  | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 7/25/2008 9:12:52 AM | | baby i think that people who dont smoke are worst people because they drink or do something thats worst that they dont say i am having troble finding a job cause i smoke do u know how to beat a drug test | |
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Posted: 8/17/2008 10:20:51 AM |
People like you and the OP that complain about our government should move to another country where they are free to do the things they want. We have many soldiers dieing for you to be able to complain, so complain all you want but I still think you should move to a different country and smoke all the crap you want to.
As a Marine who fought for your right, and the OPs right to voice both of your opinions, I will now voice my own.
The OP has choices to make, and is fully aware of the consequences (if she wasn't, this thread certainly enlightened her) But we ALL have a right our opinions, and to suggest that one American's opinion should force them to leave the country (where, i dunno, we have more freedoms that anywhere else in the world) is beyond absurd.
Personally, I believe that anyone who wants to FORCE their opinion on my own, or anyone elses, way of life should be shipped off to a place where THAT behavior is acceptable. If it doesn't affect you, why do you get so wrapped around the axle about it?
My right to swing my arm stops at the end of your nose.
And if you don't think she's doing the right thing, forchrissake, just don't DATE her!
(on the topic of drugs, i date MEN, not drugs, because I don't want them in my life, if your 420 use doesn't affect my life, i'm not even entitled to an opinion on your usage) I make my choice on drug use in that I don't date men that use.
And for our hypercritical parents out there... she smokes a joint after the kid's in bed, have you ever gone out, had a few drinks, and come home to relieve your babysitter? Or opened a bottle of wine to get cozy with your partner after you FINALLY settled the munchkins in for the night? nah, I didn't think so. Please tell me the difference in "reaction time" statistics on a single joint versus 3 mixed drinks on your average woman in the US... i'd LOVE to know.
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Posted: 8/17/2008 11:21:50 AM | U ROKK, Syd!
Thank you for your continuing service to our ideals.
Cheers!
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Posted: 8/17/2008 1:45:41 PM | Syn, thank you for your levelheaded approach.
I appreciate your opinion.
I also think your comparison is very valid. | |
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Posted: 8/17/2008 2:03:09 PM | "And for our hypercritical parents out there... she smokes a joint after the kid's in bed, have you ever gone out, had a few drinks, and come home to relieve your babysitter? Or opened a bottle of wine to get cozy with your partner after you FINALLY settled the munchkins in for the night? nah, I didn't think so. Please tell me the difference in "reaction time" statistics on a single joint versus 3 mixed drinks on your average woman in the US... i'd LOVE to know."
You're right I've NEVER done that. You never know when you might have to make a trip to the emergency room. A parent should never be high on anything. | |
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Posted: 8/24/2008 4:53:23 PM |
You're right I've NEVER done that. You never know when you might have to make a trip to the emergency room. A parent should never be high on anything.
Congratulations to you.
Your children are safe.
But I have to tell you - I raised 3 children to adulthood. Not ONCE n their lives did I have to take any of them to the ER in the middle of the night. Something about them being safe in their beds.... I dunno.
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Posted: 8/24/2008 5:19:14 PM | "But I have to tell you - I raised 3 children to adulthood. Not ONCE n their lives did I have to take any of them to the ER in the middle of the night. Something about them being safe in their beds.... I dunno. "
I never have either....still not a chance I'd be willing to take. I stand by what I said, if you're raising children you need to be sober.
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Posted: 8/24/2008 6:05:33 PM | I apologize if what I said sounded condescending.
It was not meant that way.
But as an adult, I know how much of any substance (alcohol, et al) I can have in my system and be able to function as a responsible adult.
And I know when to say, hey, I'm going to have a rare weekend, honey, you get to watch the kidlets... just like I'd get a DD.
and ftr, I don't think I've had more than I could drive with in my system in 20 years.
What I show my children is responsible use of alcohol. But we each raise our children as we see fit, and I have no opinion on your lifestyle, because it does not affect my own. | |
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Posted: 8/24/2008 7:48:25 PM | | Smoking it doesn't make you a bad mother but doing something illegal that could possibly get you arrested and separated from your daughter, THAT makes you a bad mother. If you care for your child, wait until it's legal and then smoke it. | |
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Posted: 8/24/2008 7:50:07 PM | | Do you think you're setting a good example for your daughter? | |
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Posted: 8/24/2008 8:25:30 PM | You are setting a bad example. What if you get too high and she starts to choke or something, or falls and gets cut. You take her to the hospital, the doctors notice you are high.
Say bye bye to your daughter.
Is it worth it? Must be some kick ass weed.
Sooner or later it's time to grow up, this isn't high school anymore, you are responsible for your daughters life.
Chuck that $hit and be the best mother you can be. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 8/24/2008 8:43:37 PM | | Everyone must choose how they deal with people's insults and accusations. Its you who knows the truth. Personally I do not think its wise to partake in drugs because its illegal and harmful to you and anyone around you. Why not take the money that your spending on the weed and save it for your childs education? You of course know the answer to your question...... YES we do! | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 9/30/2008 3:19:17 PM | | Having been clean and sober for 3 & 1/2 years, I can honestly tell you that you may very well be a good mother, but you are not the mother you could be. Pot was my drug of choice, I went through rehab (for other reasons) andI was told that although I had no cannibas in my system, I had been such a chronic smoker that my brain was literally cover with a tar like substance that could take 6 months to leave. Food taste better, the world is clearer, and I am no longer in a fog. That is my story. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 9/30/2008 6:45:10 PM | Since there were so many answers I didn't read them all, sorry if I'm repeating anything said previously!
I work at the county child welfare office. Policies vary from place to place so I can only speak to what we would do. Unless there are other issues, if you were reported to us, you would get a warning phone call. A record would be kept, and if there were any further reports, they would be taken more seriously. If you should happen to get arrested, your ex could use that against you in court and it could jeopardize custody...not to mention the mess it would cause if it was found on you or in your home with your daughter there. Also, anyone who has any drug in their system at prenatal visits or birth is reported, automatically. Things to keep in mind, and wonder - is it worth it to you? | |
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Posted: 10/3/2008 5:35:43 AM | you are an adult, this guy didn't get what he want, so he went for the kill, what would upset you the most, someone saying you are not a good mother, this guy sound like an ars.....hole
some men can get vicious if they don't get what they want. you know who or what you are as a person, so stop worrying get on with motherhood.
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 10/3/2008 4:14:56 PM | | You are supposed to be more than just her friend. It is your moral resposibility to teach her that she must follow the law and all other rules whether she likes them or not. You are teaching her that she can break the law if she doesn't like it. Whether she knows now or not, she WILL know eventially AND if you are not keeping it a secret, you are going to find that other mothers dont allow their kids to play with your daughter because of what they may see or here. So yes, you are shirking your duty as a good mom. Be one. Put her first. | |
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