| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 12:27:25 PM | I'm a single mom who smokes MJ too. My sons are intelligent, sweet, fun, repectful, talented and not neglected in any way by me. I hold down a full time job and have 2 college degrees...I can/will/do support me and my kids above all else; but occasionally, after a seriously stressful day, I like to take a couple hits of MJ, kick back and relax...sometimes with a movie, sometimes a bath, sometimes a walk...whatever...I don't go out and "party" all night, or use anything stronger than MJ (btw...all of you who think it's a "gateway" drug...you're wrong! I've been smoking since I was 15...I can live without it quite easily...and have for long periods of time: no withdrawls or "jonesing", and have never been tempted to try heroin or anything like that!)
I think you're a great mom! Don't let them get you down! | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 12:34:13 PM | like i tell the people who smoke it. -its something the government has decided to make a scapegoat. scare people by making fallacious propaganda showing it as a violent scurge -detrimental to society, when its merely a poor mans recreational drug (alternative to alcohol) that the government can't make any tax revenue off -(like taxing tomato plants -too easy to grow)
so they make it illegal under deception, put people in jail, (overcrowding the prison system -costing billions of dollars) take away their jobs -and children. all for possessing an organic plant that i would rather see the 75% of people intoxicated on the streets on the weekend nights than the alcohol that normally pumps through their veins. -head on collisions would be reduced to 7 mph head on fender benders, dennys, taco bell and mcdonalds stocks would surpass microsoft and bar room brawls would be reduced to bar room chants...
i dont smoke it, however that doesn't mean never became familiar with it and the surrounding patrons, parties and things associated with it. -smoking it makes you really lame, slows your thinking and makes you mellow to the point of being irritating, however how many people do you see every day on legal perscription drugs that have the same comatose demeanor. i have seen plenty of gravely ill people swear by its effects, -if it relieves their pain -why the f**K shouldn't they be allowed to smoke it? -what is the difference -chemical high or natural high -your still high.
o/p: teach your child to lead -not follow, maybe there is still hope for this planet | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 12:37:40 PM | Why do you care what other people think? You know it is illegal and you do it anyway. I for one will not tell you that I think you are the worlds greatest mom because you smoke pot and still give your child a wonderful life..... I gave my children wonderful lives and never smoked pot or did any other drugs for that matter...
Illegal is still illegal... Just because you want something doesn't make it ok....
How can you teach your kid right from wrong when you are breaking the law??
Spend your pot money on your kid.... unless you grow it, you gotta be getting it somewhere.. and are you saying you never smoke it in front of her or you are never high around her??? big difference....
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 12:42:45 PM | Perhaps what could be construed as you being a bad mother is putting yourself in a position where you could possbily be arrested for possession of a controlled substance if the proper authorities caught you. You won't be around to take care of your daughter if you're in jail, right? Smoking weed might not be the worst thing you can do, but that doesn't change the fact that the consequences for possessing it still exist as it is still currently illegal. Just something to think about. I agree completely!
I think supporting ANY illegal drug activity is just plain stupid. Do you have any idea what the proceeds from your purchases go for? Do you have any idea of the number of murders that occur just so you can partake of something that you see as harmless?
How would you like to explain to the wife and kids of some DEA agent who was killed in the line of duty trying to stop the illegal import of your doobie that it was too bad because you think it should be legal?
You talk so much about loving your daughter but you allow your money to fall into the hands of people who will sell drugs to children and think nothing of it? What kind of a world are you creating for her? Will you be one of those parents that screams at the police when your daughter is busted? Or worse yet talking about the poor police protection when drug dealers shoot up your neighborhood?
I have no problem with anyone fighting for the legalization of MJ or any other controlled substance or activity but just because you're fighting to legalize something doesnt give you the moral right to partake. That is just a delusional rationalization for your bad choice. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 12:51:05 PM | I partake also. I don't think it alters the mind. What was I talking about again, oh yeah, it keeps me calm. Just joking, the mind thing is from old age. MJ replaces Lexapro and it helps me sleep. I think it actually helps me chill out so I don't get so stressed and you know how bad stress is. I would be a bad mother if I didn't smoke it. But with anything, it should be used in moderation. I know a guy that has to smoke every hour. I'd go broke if I did that. I just like one after work or before bed, same as a glass of Sherry. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2008 12:59:35 PM | And another pot thread. If it bothers you then quit smoking pot. Otherwise don't worry about what other people think, its your daughter and you can raise her the way you want. Do you think the state would say your a good mother if you were caught with pot?
I don't think it makes you a bad mother because you smoke pot, but your far from mother of the year. If you openly smoke it and she knows you do I don't think its right to teach your kids that drugs are ok. I hope you don't smoke around her. It is illegal regardless of how you feel about it. I don't like the seat belt law, but I still wear it because its the law.
But I don't see how any of this has to do with letting her play in poison ivy. BTW I would suggest keeping her out of it as much as possible, or you maybe sorry. Our systems change sometimes. My mom used to not get it then one day she did. I never got it, but one time I got it in an open cut and broke out from it, but haven't gotten it since. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 1:01:40 PM | | sounds like ur a great mother...i know many pot heads who are good parents....the mother of my god child is a cronic pot head n thats all she does...we say a special cig in front of her child then make sure shes in her play pen with toys n her bottle then go have are toke in a diff room shes not allowed to come into witch also stays closed after we're done...some say shes a bad parent cause of it but they don't see how much she fusses bout her child when shes high....she actually becomes more aware of the surroundings of her kid when high same with the other mothers who do this | |
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Posted: 6/17/2008 1:03:47 PM | Dear OP....
I am 45 have have been around that block. I too agree that it should be legal but controlled. I was a heavy pot smoker for several years and continued to smoke even after I had children, but opted to quit when they were small for fear that I might get busted and where would that leave my kids. I have also had to deal with the hypocrisy issue as well. I never smoked around my kids and went so far as to kick the x hubby out of the house for smoking with them in the room. I was ultra protective of them on that front and educated them to be drug aware. They are both good kids who never caused any trouble.
The one thing that I discovered after laying the pot down is this: I was numb to much of the world as a pot smoker, I found, for me, and have had others tell me the same, pot makes you complacent, lethargic and can steal ambition. I saw it in my ex husband and in myself when we were heavy users. I have been quit now for 26 years and I haven't really missed it. I suppose too it can depend on your usage. I was a heavy user, light usage may not affect people in the same manner.
All that being said...being a pot smoker doesn't make you a bad Mom, however I do agree with several of the other posters here who have stated that the issue is the fact that it is an illegal substance. For this Momma that was enough.
You have to do what you feel is right for your family, no one here should judge, they don't live your life or pay your bills or stand in your judgment seat...but it is something to consider.
Good luck making the right choice for you and your daughter. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 1:17:01 PM | Peace And Love says she's been smoking MJ for 26 years but she "can live without it quite easily."
No you can't, or you would.
Maybe it hasn't been a gateway drug for you, but I saw plenty of my friends get into heavier drugs including heroin back in the 70s. One, a star high school basketball player, ended up literally looking like a troll and becoming a Hell's Angel and spending time in prison. Another friend, a rich girl who had everything, also got into heroin and went to prison for dealing. So there are plenty of people for whom it's a gateway drug, and your experience isn't the same as everyone's, not even close.
Arguably the best actor on the scene today, Robert Downey Jr., was introduced to MJ by his father when he was 8. A life of drug addiction and almost losing his life followed. He almost lost his career. Now he's a father, has mended his ways, and is pretty conservative in his life, believe it or not.
So OP thinks it's all cool to be 420 friendly now, but what if young girl walks in when you're smoking sometime? THC stays in your system, so you have a little buzz going on at all times if you're toking regularly. Your judgment WILL be impaired, and you might forget, and there you'll be. Or she might get a drug education program at school, decide she loves you when she finds your stash, and she turns you in, thinking she's doing the right thing. Or she tells her father and he turns you in. All these things could easily happen.
Are you a bad mother? Maybe not, but you are indeed breaking the law and you're tiptoeing on the edge of a slipperly slope that could, under certain circumstances, cause you to slide into a place you don't want to be. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 1:36:33 PM | Dustie,
The only aspect of being a single mom AND a pot-smoker that could POTENTIALLY make you a "bad mother" is if you tell your daughter NOT to do drugs, yet you do them yourself and she is aware of it... That would make you a hypocrite, and yet another "Do as I say, not as I do" parent... Kids of any age aren't stupid, in fact quite the contrary. Most seem to be blessed with an innocent mind that cuts through B.S. and tends to be more logical than our adult minds, which have learned to develop excuses/mitigating circumstances at every turn... 
Granted you may have only picked up pot-use as an adult, and therefore don't want her to try it until she's old enough to make her own decisions... However as former teens ourselves, we all know that seldom actually pans out; therefore the parent needs to at least TRY and set the example as far as these things go, IF they have an issue with their kids doing something... 
You sound like a loving, well-meaning lady that simply has her personal vice (don't we all). However you will always catch some flack while pot remains illegal, and like it or not, it does have a different set of long-term effects that people seem to vilify more than alcohol, whose chronic effects seem to take longer to become problematic (your liver does a heck of a better job of flushing out toxins than your brain).
I hope you and your daughter continue having a happy, loving life, and that perhaps her innocence inspires you to live clean. There's something about having our own children that drives us to try and set good examples to help them become even better people. The flip-side some parents fail to realize is that in doing so, we become better people ourselves for the effort...   | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 1:42:17 PM | He's just upset that you did not go out with him. Rejection gets them all the time! lol
I don't use any type of drug, but I don't judge others who do. Whatever floats your boat.
It sounds like you are providing your daughter with love and very nurturing. Therefore, I don't think you are a bad or unfit Mommy.
Do you smoke in front of her? | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 2:02:34 PM | Rejected suitor temper tantrums aside, I'm sure you are a great mom but maybe a bit lacking in judgement.
You can certainly support legalization in principle. That's fine. But AT THIS POINT IN TIME, there are legal and financial ramifications you need to consider.
As a matter of routine, I seriously doubt that the police are going around searching out personal/recreational potsmokers.
However, were you to get on someone's bad side, it might be your downfall.
And it's no different than if you went out partying with a LEGAL drug(alcohol) and got a DUI...same issue of irresponsibility.
Cindy O | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 2:07:31 PM | If smoking dope is so wonderful and good.Why don't you share it with your daughter ?? Sounds to me like you are just looking for approval on here to justify your bad behavior.
Being an activist for legal drug use is another way to justify it.
Saying "Oh I think it should be legal" is your way of justifying it to yourself.
You know it's wrong or you wouldn't have posted the question.
Sooner or later you will realize that it's time to put away childish things and be an adult. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 2:09:51 PM | well saying you do smoke that crap online is not very bright. but i do think you are a bad mother for smoking it, I mean really you get high and what happens if something happens to your kids or kid. I am you cant drive, you are a freaking moron and a freaking ass for doing drugs, I am sorry but anyone that is a parent should not be doing any kind of drugs unless the doctor as prescribed them for you.. You are going to hell and i hope your kids get taken away from you.. you are an unfit mother you idioit!!!
you need a licencse to drive and to get married but they will let any dip shit have kids
oh i do drugs and i think im a good mom WHATEVER  | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 2:10:41 PM |
(btw...all of you who think it's a "gateway" drug...you're wrong!
You are very lucky ...but to say its not a gateway drug is wrong......for many it is.........just like some can drink socially and others become addicted and end up losing their jobs and families....if you have an addicted personality then the high you get from pot isnt enough and you want to go for the bigger high...........please.......do what you will...but to negate that for many many people its a gateway drug is wrong......just say that it wasnt for you................ | |
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Posted: 6/17/2008 2:14:56 PM | | Not as long as you don't do it around her. Kids are smart though and before she will catch on. What are you going to tell her if at age 12 she starts doiing it? | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 2:17:49 PM | OK, first off, there may be more to this part of the story but it seems that dude wasn't too concerned about your herbal choices until AFTER you refused to meet up with him. Sounds a lot like sour grapes to me--at least with the info that I have available.
Now, are you a bad mommy because of your propensity to partake? Hardly. I'll trust that you're being sincere in all that you say about your parenting and say keep doing what you're doing. I am also a proponent of legalization and have the good fortune to live in a state that allows medical use. Bottom line is that as long as you're handling your business, the bills are paid and the baby is fed then don't worry too much about the judgments of others who probably need to take a bowl themselves and relax.... nah mean??? | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 2:20:30 PM | It's wrong, here's why.
1. You get stopped in a random traffic check. The dog picks up on you and the next thing you know, you just lost your car.
2. You get hurt at work, a mandatory pee test is required, you fail, not only do you loose your job, they won't pay your workers comp, nor will you be able to collect unemployment
3. It's illegal
Those are the hard facts and for the record, I feel it's a better choice than drinking but...do your daughter a favor and stop smoking dope.
Greg | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 2:21:51 PM | | It's against the law ! I was a smoker in the 70's, and I might even smoke it again, but it's against the law. And until it's legal, I pass. I did not smoke around my child by the way. Actually, I quit smoking it when our daughter was born. Something about being responsible. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 2:38:27 PM | Alcohol should be illegal for as many - if not more reasons as/than marijuana.
Also, alcohol is more a gateway drug - what do most people try first when they start experimenting ?
True, you are risking getting caught which isn't good, but man I get sick of the hypocrisy . " It's ILLEGAL !!!! " everyone cries as if they're so free of any kind of sin whatsoever.
Gimme a break and turn down your halos already ! | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 2:42:23 PM | As the son of an addict, my entire world was torn asunder when I was 13. What heinous substance was the culprit? Beer. Legal, taxed, and socially acceptable beer. Prohibition may have outlawed it once, but few drinkers gave it up, spawning an entire underground economy of brewers and distributors. Sound familiar?
I can only assume that all those touting the legal issue have never broken ANY laws...period.
To that I say BULLSH!T. Ten minutes of observation reveals how many scofflaws are on the road, killing more people in one day than the demon weed has claimed in the past 50 years. If I was a cop, traffic court would be grid-locked. It's a speed LIMIT, not a suggestion.
Let them throw stones if they're so pure. I doubt if you'll need to duck and cover very often. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 2:42:44 PM | That would be like saying if you drank a glass of wine then you are a bad mother.
When is the last time you heard of someone robbing a bank after smoking pot...or going out and starting a fight...or beating up his wife and kids......quite often alcohol is involved in these instances.
I have always thought that we live in an ass-backwards society when it comes to their views in the use of marijuana....our uptight government and that guy you mentioned should chill out and smoke some themselves. They don't know how to relax!
I say fire it up...enjoy...and continue to be a good Mom!
Peace  | |
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