| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 10/13/2008 2:26:35 PM | Yep, she's gone. Bye Dustie and good luck. Well done rednecks.
Tell you what Dustie, if you come back, move to England, the risk of getting your kid taken away by the thought police for a bit of puff is vanishingly small. We have long realised that you damage kids by taking them into care, and that it is bad policy unless a greater harm (not merely a moral panic) threatens. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 10/16/2008 9:48:54 PM | | ur an adult, if u wanna smoke weed do it. just dont do it when ur daughter is around or exposing her to it, if u r not doin any of those things then whats the prob? ive had ppl blast me all the time for silly things just for goin to a community college (i know the topic is about weed but im makin an example)! dont let someone define u do shit that makes u happy as long as its not harming u, other ppl or ur daughter. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 10/16/2008 11:26:22 PM | | There does not seem to be anyone from the west coast adding their two cents in this conversation at all! So I will. Several states have medical marijuana laws that allow people to grow, distribute, and use this plant (that was put here on this earth just as it is) for medical purposes. Many people find it helps with different health problems. I myself can not take pharmaceutical pain killers, anti-anxiety drugs, or anti-depressants- and am very happy to say so, because abuse of these drugs has grown to an alarming level in our culture. Kids steal their parents pharmaceuticals more than alcohol these days, and it is widely accepted. As an Herbalist, and Holistic Health practitioner, there are plants all over the world that have been used for thousands of years, but demand respect and knowledge of how to use them. So if a mom smokes a joint instead of popping a pill, and it helps her to not freak out on her kids, or not have an anxiety attack because of what she has to deal with as a single mom, let her do it! Just know the laws of the state you are in...and know that in some states it does not prove you are a bad parent if you smoke pot. By the way, there are also other legal herbs that can be smoked or ingested in other ways instead of marijuana. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 10/17/2008 1:03:45 AM |
I have no simpathy for someone who can't write two sentences correctly
FFS! If you can't spell, don't be so arrogant. the word is "sympathy".
Goddess, yes, a constructive post, I believe - but when over in the US on business I always preferred LA to NY!
Toking did not stop my late wife being an excellent mother. The successes that our three children have made (one bigtime in Intel, another in Telsra, the third a rising star in design licensing for major UK shops) of thier lives I think indicate that. | |
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Posted: 10/17/2008 6:31:29 AM | | its funny how some parents teach their children to stay away from drugs, yet the parents do it themselves. go figure. Personally I dont do drugs of any kind and my children know it and are taught to stay away from it. Hopefully my young children will follow my footsteps and stay away from it. | |
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Posted: 10/17/2008 6:52:40 AM | Oh no, we didn't do that - we taught them that you have to be in control of the drugs and to know what you are doing. Take responsibility and take charge.
Daughter 1 never got much into any drugs other than alcohol, but had some very undesirable friends.
Son 2 was a huge consumer of recreational chemicals.
Daughter 3 again not much of a chemical user but toked a bit, but used to drink the local bikers under the table!
All 3 doing well thanks.
Personally, I never liked dope much, but I'm fond of booze. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 10/17/2008 8:28:44 AM | | Op. I am a christian and would never say anyone was a bad mother for smoking pot However smoking pot IMO shows extremely poor judgment. I would not date anyone that smoked pot especially if the did so in the capacity as a mother of pre 18 year old children. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 10/17/2008 9:05:41 AM | There does not seem to be anyone from the west coast adding their two cents in this conversation at all! So I will. Several states have medical marijuana laws that allow people to grow, distribute, and use this plant (that was put here on this earth just as it is) for medical purposes. Many people find it helps with different health problems. I myself can not take pharmaceutical pain killers, anti-anxiety drugs, or anti-depressants- and am very happy to say so, because abuse of these drugs has grown to an alarming level in our culture There's a difference between someone with a legitimate medical need for marijuana, and someone who just enjoys getting stoned most nights of the week.
I read all posts by the OP, and I read her profile before she deleted it. There was no indication anywhere that she was using marijuana medicinally.
The only impression I got was: she just likes getting stoned.
In my opinion, it's hard to imagine someone being a good parent, when they prefer getting stoned for pleasure, often, at times when they should be more concerned with their parenting responsibilites.
greengoddess, you were the one who compared marijuana to prescription pain-killers.
Suppose that a parent of a young child, who had no legitimate reason to take prescription pain-killers but just enjoyed the high feeling, decided to abuse them often, at times when he/she should've been paying attention to their parenting responsibilities instead. Would that person be considered being a good parent? | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 10/17/2008 11:16:59 AM | No matter how many people THINK it should be legalized, as the law currently states (Canada and U.S): Marijuana is an illegal substance.
As most illegal drugs are sold by the criminal element in our Society, this means that those who buy illegal drugs knowingly & willingly place a risk on the health, safety & well-being of themselves, thier families & their communites.
This is NOTHING to be proud of! No Parent EVER has a right to risk thier families health, safety & well-being. This makes for a "Bad Parent" indeed! | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 10/18/2008 6:09:13 AM | | seems only the drug users agree with op doing dope instead of attending to her small child (cbr600f4speed) poor kid. ya i guess as the previous poster said there is a time and a place for everything including frying your brain lol. This is why so many children grow up bad. the parents were on dope and didnt take time to deal with them or raise them properly. the teen children are out of control. I live in a place where seems most of people out here are on dope. they dont take care of thier kids, hell half the time they dont even know or care where there k ids are. I see these young kids..elementary kids at that.. with rotten attitudes . I have seen 6 yr old girl r unning the street at night late. parents have no idea becuase they are stoned. These kids out where i live have no manners at all becuase of parents lack of attention due to dope. so a mom who sits around getting high is not a good mother to me. how can she raise a child when she is stoned all the time or even half of it. I see what it does to children where i live. which im in the process of moving to a better place. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 11/2/2008 6:20:41 PM | no way are you a bad mother because of marjuana. you could be a bad mother if you didnt care for your child or neglected her, which by the way, many acoholics do on a regular basis. yea, marjuana use is illegal in the states, but in canada, where i am from you can grow 5 plants in BC and you can smoke it as long as you dont have a over a certain amount.
for those of you who feel that it is illegal, therefore its wrong, Socrates would disagree. Now I am not sure if you have heard of him, but he is a philosopher who was put to death for going against his governments laws. yes he was killed for teaching and trying to encourage thought in children, and smoking green is a little different, but I am pointing out the faulty logic in saying that because it is illegal it is wrong.
what makes something morally wrong is if you are harming people or if you are not maximizing happiness and you are maximizing pain instead and if you feel that most people could smoke green and not be abusers. .. this is according to philosophy morals and ethics, not mine specifically.
i think society has to examine what is legal and illegal. using alcohol causes greater damage to children then smoking the odd doobie.
sorry guys but really there are more serious issues like abuse, neglect, and alcoholism that need to be addressed so lets stop passing blame on mom who smokes a little green....
is it wrong for cancer patients to smoke it... i mean, common here...
anyways....
thats just my thoughts | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 1/25/2009 9:32:46 PM | I'm sure there are plenty of parents that are worse. Who is taking care of your daughter while your high? I hope you don't think your capable when your stoned. What happens when there's an emergency and she needs to go to the hospital? Who is going to drive her? Chances are it could have been prevented if you were sober.
I'm sure pot has it's place but have you ever been the sober one in the room? It's always my friends are so fun, crazy, fill in the blank, when we smoke". They're not funny, cute or crazy. They're nothing but a bunch of idiots making asses of themselves. Find a real hobby. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 1/25/2009 11:16:41 PM | I'd say you are a bad mother because smoking pot is illegal but then, I have to keep my mouth shut if your'e in "delirium tremens", or living in Ca with medical prescription, or working at a brothel in Nevada or getting married as a lesbian in Spain.
So, I'd judge you as a mother for the attention provided and the well being enjoyed by your child and I'd give the how-many-stars-review by the love displayed from that child toward you.
However, my opinion is irrelevant, after your daugther's answer. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 1/26/2009 2:03:37 AM | I will not say you are good or bad... but let's just say for the sake of argument, that coffee were suddenly declared an illegal substance. That if I had it in my house... I risked jail time, possible loss of property - and my job. That in addition to all of this... I stood also to lose my daughter. You can bet coffee would no longer be in my home.... and I would no longer be a consumer of the dark liquid I love so much.
As far as your fight for legalization - why do so many people want to legalize a substance that keeps them in a stupified state? Additionally - who takes care of your daughter when you are smoking? Who would drive her to the emergency room if she suddenly became ill while you were under the influence? Who will tell her that school is more important than pot when she is 15 - and why would she believe you?
Grow up... fight for a cause that might enhance your child's life. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 1/26/2009 11:53:54 PM | i think your habits (whether she knows them or not) will rub off on her eventually
as a mother i think its a bad example, plain and simple
to need to alter yourself (by getting high) is simply saying your not satisfied with who you are
smoking cigarettes is legal, drinking is legal...i think those are also bad habits. key word BAD HABITS
as a mother its not about you anymore, its about the child
teach your daughter some GOOD HABITS....she will thank you...trust me (i have 3 grown kids) | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 1/27/2009 2:00:16 PM | Focus on the issue at hand. Pot is illegal (the extent to whether it should or shouldn't be is debatable), so doing something illegal doesn't set an example of good morality to your children. But, does that make you an overall bad mother. Not a simple yes or no.
Laters | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 1/31/2009 10:59:25 AM |
Focus on the issue at hand. Pot is illegal
In many states it's not illegal with a doctor's recommendation and President Obama is saying he is not going to enforce the federal law in those states that have legalized it for medical use. It's a legal gray area but saying it's illegal is flat wrong. Now to the question at hand. If you are smoking illegal weed in front of your child then there's problem and yes you are a bad mother, but using it legally for medical purposes to help you cope with an illness then you are OK. As far as weather you are a good mother or not, simply smoking pot does not make you a bad mother. Drinking alcohol (a far worse and debilitating drug) can make you a far worse mom then smoking weed. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 1/31/2009 11:48:22 AM | It is illegal in some parts of the world and legal in others. It is illegal depending on who is making the laws at the time. Like alcohol. Alcohol was illegal and now it is not. People drank it when it was illegal anyway. Because something is illegal does not make it wrong unless you are hurting someone. Save the illegal arguement. It matters not.
Maybe it makes you a better mother because it keeps you calmer and not instantly yelling like some people who need it. Maybe it keeps you from being an alcoholic and the bad choice making that comes with boozing. Maybe you treat yourself that way rather than eat confort food. I respect the poster for sticking up for what she believes in. And for having the insight to make a better decision than some of the others I mentioned. I would date her anytime. Caesar has spoken. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 2/13/2009 10:49:21 AM |
As far as your fight for legalization - why do so many people want to legalize a substance that keeps them in a stupified state?
OP, I don't necessarily think that makes you a bad mother, IF you are not neglecting your child because of it..I don't really support heavy use of ANY drug, including alcohol and many prescription drugs..the weird thing is, many ready to 'crucify' you probably are heavy users of alcohol or prescription sedatives, etc. I'm sure there are many drunks and people who get wasted on prescription drugs, who are far worse parents than you are.. fewer people get upset, because these are 'legal' drugs ..so ordained arbitrarily and without any reason that makes any degree of objective sense.
even people who don't ever use it, or even want to, might support legalization.
believing, as I do, that $$$ billions in law enforcement training, police salaries, costs of judges, prosecutors, courts, jails and prisons could be much better spent pursuing and jailing people that commit VIOLENT crimes, or huge financial rip-offs that hurt other people (think of Bernie Madoff, allowed to rip people off for years..)
than on pursuing and prosecuting people whose only 'crime' is to use a substance that MIGHT slow their thinking down temporarily..whom are they hurting, other than (possibly) themselves?
comical really..it's a fact that users of (legal) alcohol are known to do far more damage to themselves, others, and society..but the liquor industry gives too many political doantions to shut them down.
thousands of domestic violence, street violence, and drunk driving resulting in severe injury or death, all fueled by alcohol..
meanwhile stoners usually hang out sleepily..but they are the ones prosecuted?
things that make ya go hmmmmmmmmmmmm.. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 2/13/2009 10:53:47 AM |
meanwhile stoners usually hang out sleepily..
While I do not have a stance on this argument and am not against marijuana use. There are those that smoke and cause harm. One boy killed his gilfriend because he was driving stoned.
Driving stoned is the same as driving drunk. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 2/13/2009 10:58:19 AM | ^^
yes of course, it is highly irresponsible to drive or operate heavy machinery while using ANY drug that impairs your ability to do so safely.
INCLUDING:
-alcohol, marijuana, heroin, etc..other illicit drugs that impair reaction time, etc.
- prescription drugs that slow reaction time
-OTC medications like sleeping pills, cough medications, etc. that can do the same
- being addicted to yapping on your cell phone rather than paying attention to driving, having sex, eating, drinking, or smoking, while driving..
BUT far more deaths are caused by drunk drivers in N. America, than by stoned drivers
I don't think the OP mentioned anything about driving while stoned..? | |
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