| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 2:52:15 PM | | Others are right the guy was probably a jerk. Now let me ask you this is that jerk on here? OK, now let's take it a little further, you are talking about partaking in an illegal substance, here, on an open forum? Where someone spiteful or upset or they think well intentioned. Where they can see from your profile the town you live in? WAKE UP!!! No they won't bust you for a joint, but they will if you have a dime bag. No matter your good intentions, your beliefs, your quality care of your daughter. You are breaking the law, you may not like the law, but it's still there. Arrest and any confinement or conviction carries penalties, jobs, family services dept. ,things I can't think of. Do you have the right to risk this with your daughter? I understand we make choices for ourselves, in your case your making it for someone who has no say, or any control, sorry, think about it, Bob | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 2:58:42 PM | Ok, smoking ages you. So does drinking vodka. I think playing poker doesn't age you, but I wonder what that "complicated" job is. Do you also deal drugs? Or are you just dealing with drug dealers?
None of this makes you *sound* like a good mother. Just more like a kid, to me. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 3:00:11 PM | | dustie mate ,im a father of an 18 yr old girl, and im a long time pot smoker from new zealand. ive always been open and honest about my use of pot and the social, legal, political and medical arguments around it...i wanted for my girl that when she came to make a choice about her partner, she would know what real honesty was, and would be able to make real informed choices, should she choose to use pot ,or not,...she is engaged to a really good guy,neither of them do drugs at all, ...never mind those who would have you hidden away, out of site... the only way laws get changed is when enough of us are loud and visible,and stating our case...good on you girl, you rock!!!!...oh, and that guy is a tosser.. kisses to you and your girl... | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 3:03:50 PM | OPie, there certainly is something wrong!
With berating strangers, that is. Count yourself lucky that angry chucklehead flew his true colors before you spent any time on him. Those chumps will always find something to chastise you for. Brush it off like a burning seed.
Users Lose Drugs!
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 3:11:35 PM | I think your kid should be with her father, You keep smoking that shit and see what happens. Apparently you dont really care about your daughter at all. I am sure she thinks your a loser too
For all we know the father might smoke it too. My ex smokes it and thinks its cool, she said she was going to quit but she can't. Guess who taught her? Dear old mommy and daddy. Yeah great parenting.
I personally think there is a time when we need to grow up and put the drugs behind us weather we have kids or not.
I wonder what happens when you need to score some pot and your kid is in the car. Sit out here honey while I go in and see this guy. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 3:12:32 PM |
because I smoke marijuana.
funny how all of a sudden your a bad mother now because you won't meet him.
He had no problems with you smoking the ganja up until the point you didn't want to meet him.
as far as you being a bad mother for smoking weed , you may or not be .
any parent would be a bad parent not discussing the availability of drugs of any kind accessible to children these days.
so all of the perfect non users step back and take a check on your own parenting skills
what have you done about keeping your children safe.
those of you with no children don't have any real right to preach until you have done some parenting your self . | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 3:13:00 PM | What if I wanted to legalize another illegal drug because I liked it; I partook in it and I had kids; is that cool? No.
You are breaking the law. Do good mothers teach their children to break the law and do whatever you want? No. You are using illegal drugs. You are a pot head; that is your thing. But what cracks me up is that you are some wannabe hippy not into antibiotics (some parents have killed their kids by not allowing them to take them) anti pasteurized foods (which kills bacteria to make food safe) but pot that has so many drugs in it and sometimes chemicals from its harvesting is o.k. Whatever.
What adults; especially young adults with kids; dont realize is that kids hear half of what you say. But they watch everything that
you do. Smoking in general is unhealthy and so is pot smoking which is unhealthy and illegal. And dont give me the crap that it isnt bad for your lungs.
Lets put it this way; there is no way in hell I would allow someone that smokes pot to be around my neice and nephew or kids if I had them.
What you are teaching your child that if you like to get off on something or if you like to be impaired or get high, even if its against the law, just do it. Well if thats a good mother then I have a big orange bridge that runs from San Francisco to Oakland to sell you.
And on a side note; I know a whole lot of parents who are raising brats as kids. I would love once for a parent to say, I'm bringing up a high maintenance, spoiled kid that doesnt have to do what they are told. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 3:17:57 PM |
So if anything, you can't blame pot for the way you grow up. All these guys are also very good parents, with kids in sports and very active.
This is the most ridiculous thing ever. there are also alcoholics and drug addicts that run major corporations and even are in the senate and house; and yes; even the presidency; that use substances; some illegal. Some are even addicted to sex and pretty insane behavior. In your mind their success justifies their illegal drug use. Wow. I've really heard it all.
I know 2 pot head friends and when they toke they are absolutely worthless. To say it doesn't affect you is ridiculous.
Your friends succeed in spite of their habits. You yourself admit it affects your lungs and some studies now show its more damaging than cigarettes which at first was not thought of.
It is what it is. It's illegal drug use. There is no justification. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 3:20:42 PM |
what the hell planet did you fall off of???
I'm in amsterdam visiting friends last time I checked it was planet earth.
Like many users who smoke weed parents or not legal smoking laws do not apply to them they are using anyways in their eyes they are not breaking the law until they are caugh with the substance first. so drop the snary attitude maybe it's you who needs a joint. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 3:25:07 PM | well now , that is a big bucket of worms you have opened. Yes you can be a good parent , male or female if you use weed or booze in moderation. I am pro legalization however I do not smoke and quit many years back when My career choice was based on my daughters health care. I decided to stay in the military to provide the necessary care my daughter required. Unfortunately , now that she is grown and on her own Weed is still illegal!! have you given any thought to what will happen if you were to get busted for possesion? Not sure what state you are in but some states will take your daughter from you , even on first offense.
I applaude you for being a caring mother and single parent and doing all those things with your daughter , it is wonderful that you are able to do this without the state assistance and I can tell that you truly love your daughter but it does not change the fact that it is still illegal to use or possess marijuana.
The guy that went off on you was out of place . Everyone has a right to do what they want behind closed doors. Best thing he could have done was to say that he chose not to associate himself with anyone that smokes weed and said hope you have a smokin good day | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 3:27:10 PM |
shes only breaking the law if she gets caught???!!! what the hell planet did you fall off of???
Misgiv; you take the cake. So as a parent you teach your kids that you can break the law, and its cool as long as you dont get caught? OMG; LOL Does that go for cheating, lieing and stealing too? Unreal.
Are you six years old and haven't a clue as to what character and right and wrong is? Good God.
So if I'm married and I cheat on my wife with several women, in your eyes I'm really not cheating unless I get caught? Wow; good to know. Please tell me what low life planet you are from. I dont want to end up there.
These posts never cease to amaze me. We wonder why people are so messed up; some are adults and dont know right from wrong. If this is what pot does to your brain cells, then everyone stop using it.
If you want to use it thats your thing; but as a parent you are breaking the law; just you trying to justify its use by saying all the good things you do shows me even you think its wrong. You just like it and can't stop.
Other than for medicinal purposes like cancer and aids (no a young person who is healthy and says he hurts all over isn't a good excuse), its illegal, and shouldn't be used. End of story. The message you are sending your child is scary. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 3:28:54 PM | This was probably mentioned already but one downside is how it might affect you in an emergency. If you aren't thinking clearly you could react in a way that could affect your daughter and the guilt would weigh on you for a long time. Food for thought.
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 3:31:38 PM | I think there are a lot of good things about your mothering, no doubt.
There are some odd things u wrote however. Of course your daughter is conscious...I would be terribly worried if she wasn't conscious and you'd have to get her to a hospital. 
You don't believe in processed food but you do believe in processed grass? You are against antibiotics yet you belong to a group that claims the medicinal use of grass is a good thing? (grass of course being a chemically processed drug). And the most baffling of all: your child is not allergic to poison ivy and you have never tried to keep her out of it? I guess the only way u figured out she isn't allergic is by letting her play in it.....I can't imagine doing that on purpose to your little one?
When u say a time and place for anything, does that mean u wouldn't smoke marijuana at home when you have custody of your daughter, even after she is asleep? Do you smoke it inside your house when she is at home, asleep or awake? Those are serious issues and if that's the case you should stop when she is there. Why? You are most likely not in a position to offer her proper care when you are stoned, whether you are completely wasted or not. If she was asleep and you got stoned then she got sick you would be in no shape to drive her to the hospital. And let's say for arguments sake u called a cab or the ambulance. When you reached the hospital then police would be called and the Children's Aid would open a file on you.
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 3:32:28 PM | I think there are a lot of good things about your mothering, no doubt.
There are some odd things u wrote however. Of course your daughter is conscious...I would be terribly worried if she wasn't conscious and you'd have to get her to a hospital.
You don't believe in processed food but you do believe in processed grass? You are against antibiotics yet you belong to a group that claims the medicinal use of grass is a good thing? (grass of course being a chemically processed drug). And the most baffling of all: your child is not allergic to poison ivy and you have never tried to keep her out of it? I guess the only way u figured out she isn't allergic is by letting her play in it.....I can't imagine doing that on purpose to your little one?
When u say a time and place for anything, does that mean u wouldn't smoke marijuana at home when you have custody of your daughter, even after she is asleep? Do you smoke it inside your house when she is at home, asleep or awake? Those are serious issues and if that's the case you should stop when she is there. Why? You are most likely not in a position to offer her proper care when you are stoned, whether you are completely wasted or not. If she was asleep and you got stoned then she got sick you would be in no shape to drive her to the hospital. And let's say for arguments sake u called a cab or the ambulance. When you reached the hospital then police would be called and the Children's Aid would open a file on you.
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 3:32:46 PM | I think there are a lot of good things about your mothering, no doubt.
There are some odd things u wrote however. Of course your daughter is conscious...I would be terribly worried if she wasn't conscious and you'd have to get her to a hospital.
You don't believe in processed food but you do believe in processed grass? You are against antibiotics yet you belong to a group that claims the medicinal use of grass is a good thing? (grass of course being a chemically processed drug). And the most baffling of all: your child is not allergic to poison ivy and you have never tried to keep her out of it? I guess the only way u figured out she isn't allergic is by letting her play in it.....I can't imagine doing that on purpose to your little one?
When u say a time and place for anything, does that mean u wouldn't smoke marijuana at home when you have custody of your daughter, even after she is asleep? Do you smoke it inside your house when she is at home, asleep or awake? Those are serious issues and if that's the case you should stop when she is there. Why? You are most likely not in a position to offer her proper care when you are stoned, whether you are completely wasted or not. If she was asleep and you got stoned then she got sick you would be in no shape to drive her to the hospital. And let's say for arguments sake u called a cab or the ambulance. When you reached the hospital then police would be called and the Children's Aid would open a file on you.
Careful. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 3:32:53 PM |
and as far as my attitude I'll drop it when I'm damn good and ready...
we'll try to solve the problem and reason your single later!
but for now
you misinterpeted my post people who use or smoke don't really care about laws now do they? so how does it apply ? other than to shun the user. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 3:32:54 PM |
shes only breaking the law if she gets caught???!!! what the hell planet did you fall off of???
Misgiv; you take the cake. So as a parent you teach your kids that you can break the law, and its cool as long as you dont get caught? OMG; LOL Does that go for cheating, lieing and stealing too? Unreal.
I think tons of laws are bad; but I'm not going to break them because I think they are wrong. I'm going to follow the law. I dont want my reputations or my family affected. If I get caught via drug tests my career is pretty much over; I will lose my license and I'm done. I'm not going to break the law screw up my career and reputations to get high. No stupid leaf is worth that.
Are you six years old and haven't a clue as to what character and right and wrong is? Good God.
So if I'm married and I cheat on my wife with several women, in your eyes I'm really not cheating unless I get caught? Wow; good to know. Please tell me what low life planet you are from. I dont want to end up there.
These posts never cease to amaze me. We wonder why people are so messed up; some are adults and dont know right from wrong. If this is what pot does to your brain cells, then everyone stop using it.
If you want to use it thats your thing; but as a parent you are breaking the law; just you trying to justify its use by saying all the good things you do shows me even you think its wrong. You just like it and can't stop.
Other than for medicinal purposes like cancer and aids (no a young person who is healthy and says he hurts all over isn't a good excuse), its illegal, and shouldn't be used. End of story. The message you are sending your child is scary. | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 3:34:37 PM | | hon ignore the ignorant ppl who say its wrong....they don't know what there talkin bout and should think outside of the box instead of being narrow minded bout the issue...no matter what there reason is...its not always the case...f**k what the ones judging have to say or think....all that matters is ur daughter is happy n is not exposed to it at home...after all she is at the age when she could be out with someone else n smell it or see some stranger using it | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 3:36:57 PM | | I guess I have never understood the reason people smoke pot, do drugs of any kind including drinking alcohol or smoking cigarettes. Ok, maybe some people might see it as fun to do? I personally don't see the purpose of putting something in your body that alters your actions. I just don't see the point of why you would want to smoke dope OP. No, I would not say it makes you a "bad" mother, but I would question why you would choose to do that period. What is the purpose of it? | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 3:39:25 PM |
in their eyes they are not breaking the law until they are caugh with the substance first
What a completely idiotic statement! So by that argument, speeding isn't illegal if you're not caught? Murdering someone isn't illegal if you're not caught? Ridiculous! Please tell me you're not REALLY that stupid??  | |
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| I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 3:46:16 PM | she is only breaking the law if she gets caught.
What the heck are you thinking. She is breaking the law weather she gets caught or not. But you still have to moral ramifications of the fact that she is doing drugs and hopefully is teaching her daughter that drugs are bad. One day her daughter will be confused of why mommy is doing bad drugs, or mommy is going to teach daughter that drugs are good and should be legal but the man is keeping her down. Then she surely would be a bad mother.
I guess she plays in the poison ivy while you toke on your joint and laugh at her? | |
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