krayon
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Joined: 5/12/2005
Msg: 51 | |
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| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/7/2005 8:40:00 PM | | why are there always so many post about bbw's and big women and all that...they dont lie about liking big women...they do...but maybe not to a certain degree....i am a big girl, and i accept that people dont like me....there is someone out there for everyone...changes or not...the only person that can change you..is YOU...nobody should let someone else influence them in the wrong way....if you want to lose weight you will....if you dont then stop complaining about it..... | |
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| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/7/2005 8:53:41 PM | I am pretty new to these forums(new to POF).Didn't know how these things really go..Starting to figure it out.
My veiw on this topic... I don't think men lie about liking big women. If after being with a big woman they start wanting you to lose weight it may be that they might have genuine concern for your health(with excess weight comes excess health risk).Or it could be that they(the men that like big women) just want a piece of tail and don't really care what you look like. I prefer to think it's genuine concern. I'm sorry. I'm done. | |
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nikkiw
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Joined: 2/23/2005
Msg: 54 | |
| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/7/2005 9:03:45 PM | There are a lot of guys on here that could easily turn this thread around to the "women say they want nice guys but they don't" angle. The thing is, there are people out there that truly DO enjoy BBW's, just as there are people that enjoy the nice guys. You just have to wait...be patient and you'll find them! No amount of "where are the guys that like me" posts are going to bring them out. Whether it be for the platonic companionship or a romantic relationship, there are those out there that love the "CURVES".
I was TRULY disappointed to see SarGasm's post. The terminology is correct. A curve is a curve is a curve. The size of the curve may differ but it is still a curve. You're right, it is fat...but that same fat is what makes other "less curvy" women still considered curvy.
And no, I will NOT lower my expectations simply because I'm a CURVY woman, nor should ANY person in this would ever think that they should have to. There are a lot of women out there that don't like that truly hard-bodied guy with all the bulging veins and stuff sticking out. So does that mean those men should lower their expectations? Absolutely not. I'm a great person with a lot to offer, both in and out of the bedroom. Regardless of my curves, I am still in pretty good shape and very flexible so that aspect is out. It is possible to be in shape, regardless of how much weight you have on. And yes, you're correct in saying that it was a personal choice to get to that point. I ate too much and exercised too little, plain and simple. That does not, however, make me a woman unworthy of an intellectual, down-to-earth, respectful, successful, attractive man. I AM worth that, based on who I am, not what I look like. I would rather stay single for the rest of my life than settle. I think it's ridiculous and de-humanizing that you would even suggest lowering my expectations. | |
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| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/7/2005 9:05:07 PM | oh biz. it goes both ways ya know. your skinny. i could call you an anorexic waste of life. but i would nt do that. and just because you are big, does not mean you are unhealthy. so your crystal ball again. i did a cancer walk a year back. walked 26 miles. made it without a problem, while i passed skinny lil people who were droppin like flies. so if i wasnt healthy, could i have done it?
and, there are so many threads about this topic, my dear, is because it is an ongoing debate that has yet to be settled. | |
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| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/7/2005 10:13:56 PM | smiling cali i dont even think it should be a debate...why are bbws so wrapped up in wondering why people dont want them, and bla bla bla....there is going to be someone out there for everyone....not to sound rude, and not directing at anyone, but get over it...you are who you are...no matter what size....
people will either like you or they wont | |
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| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/7/2005 10:38:11 PM | in my experience big sexy curvy women make better lovers than skinny ladies, theyre more loving on an emotional level to, maybe its a genetic thing i dunno.
I think there is a reason for this.....its because being a larger person often times means you eat more....which means more nutrients...alll them skinny girls are depriving themselves of HEALTH......eat a frikkin sandwich | |
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boddah
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Joined: 4/28/2005
Msg: 59 | |
| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/7/2005 10:57:27 PM | | Because they don't want to be thought of as shallow, maybe? I like skinny women. (Not waif thin, though.) I admit it. However, it is not required. I need to keep fit. Anyway, if you have what people call here as 'extra pounds', it's not a big deal because many people can lose weight. I need to go to the gym for several reasons so it would be nice to find a gf who would join me. | |
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krayon
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Joined: 5/12/2005
Msg: 60 | |
| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/7/2005 11:03:31 PM | @ angellips,
As for sargasm,.. he's voicing his opinion. Some of his views are out in left field...i.e. lower standards, etc. etc. but, just realize that he might be using terminology to draw attention to himself. Sometimes people say things which will get a rise out ppl, simply for that cause,.. or, it may be a simple case of he really believes what he writes. His choice. Just a theory, like opinions, as to why he would feel someone, anyone, would have to lower standards or give more in a relationship due to weight or any characteristic for that matter.. | |
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| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/7/2005 11:38:42 PM | No Offense but I think these threads are getting tired!!! Okay, why all the "big women" threads like they are some sort of alien... geeze!!!!
If you don't like your body do something about it........ and if you know someone who doesn't like your big body but you like it, then tell them to leave..... *sigh*
I think if you have to lie about liking something, you have a big confidence problem!!!! Unless its illegal and discusting like little children or having sex with animals.   | |
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| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/7/2005 11:47:52 PM | @cristine
finally someone said it... really now i know i am not perfect physically.. but really who is.. and i have my preferences in my shallow way just as the next person. you cannot force someone to like or love you, you are responsible for your own happiness whether it is work, life, family, your body, your mind.. If someone wants to get to know you, eventually it will happen, just be patient and positive about this whole crazy process or game it seems... | |
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| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/7/2005 11:56:15 PM |
just realize that he might be using terminology to draw attention to himself. Sometimes people say things which will get a rise out ppl, simply for that cause,..
to be perfectly honest...and this is probably the only time i'll post this...it's not to draw attention to myself, but rather to keep threads going...keep people posting.
there's truth in what i say though. certainly there are people with genuine medical problems (ie: thyroid, diabetes...etc) who truly cannot lose the weight, but in my experience, most people who are overweight are that way simply because they can't pass up an Extra Value Meal from McD's and don't excercise enough. | |
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| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/7/2005 11:56:28 PM | Sargasm does it because he is self conscious about his own weight, and its easier to put down the women than putting down himself. Just my opinion, i have seen him voice his opinion on a couple of different threads about heavier women. There is definitely some issues with him, what ever they may be.
oops sorry sargasm, dont want to offend you. | |
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zgirl
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Joined: 5/30/2005
Msg: 65 | |
| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/8/2005 3:21:51 AM | | you know, maybe we should just "stop feeding the trolls" as someone once said on one of these forums. I am who I am. I look, act, breathe, live not like a bbw...but like ME. I'm unique. I'm fat. Get over it. I work as a housekeeper...and I blow by the skinny girls who work with me. Try cleaning 5 houses a day...and then tell me I'm "unhealthy" cause I have some extra blubber. Never had someone complain yet about the way I do my job. You don't like me cause I'm heavy, then pass on by me. I don't live my life for you or your opinion. | |
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| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/8/2005 3:44:22 AM | SarGasm....
Most people are overweight for much more meaningful reasons than liking mickey dee's.... obese people often are eating away their feelings..... just like many people starve themselves or drink too much. | |
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zgirl
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Joined: 5/30/2005
Msg: 68 | |
| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/8/2005 3:55:05 AM | | Exactly...we all wonder why young women have eating disorders....rather be fat than kill myself not eating because of some people's opinions! We glorify thin in our society. Everywhere you turn there's something in our face about being "slim and beautiful". What about fat and beautiful? I think we are our weight because that's how we are supposed to be. | |
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| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/8/2005 7:27:04 AM |
oh biz. it goes both ways ya know. your skinny. i could call you an anorexic waste of life. but i would nt do that.
Call me what ever you want, it wouldn't bother me. I am one with myself and I love me for who I am. I am proud of who I am on the inside as well as on the outside and it shows.
When an overweight person comes on here and whines and has every excuse in the book it makes me shake my head! Like why not do something about your appearance if you feel that bad about it?
It doesn't take much to put down the fork and take a few walks around the block every night. With in the first week you will drop weight, most of this will be water. After that your burning the fat off. | |
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zgirl
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Joined: 5/30/2005
Msg: 71 | |
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| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/8/2005 8:54:16 AM | It's not all about what they eat.. Some people really don't understand how some women’s body works.. Like me I only eat 1 time a day, it's not that I want to it's I am not hungry so I don’t eat. I also don't eat if I am upset.
I can’t lose the weight, after having kids my body got even bigger. For my 32 years of life I have never been a big eater, I cannot even finish most of my food on my plate. I do work out and do many things most women will not do. I was even stood up by a member of Plenty Of Fish thinking I was a real big girl. So it’s the guy’s loss and the one that picks me will be a lucky one. Keep your head up high girlfriend and keep looking for the one that sees you for who you are and what you can give him as a lover and a friend.
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| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/8/2005 9:08:18 AM | i think why women lie about being big becouse they are shamd of it and dont no how to tell the truth 1 and they want men to think they look good .and when the men go meet who ever say thats so and so the said they were skinny and the men walks away becouse they lied to them .i had a friend that did that. | |
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| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/8/2005 9:29:54 AM |
well i always hear guys say yea they like curves. so where are they really. i can never find one. i dated a few, who said yup i like it. then a few months down the line, they got on my case, trying to get me to lose weight.
some guys like thin build women, but yet are not sexually attracted to anorexic bodies.
some guys like athletic build women, but are not sexually attracted to steroid muscular bodies.
some guys like curvy women, but are not sexually attracted to obese overweight bodies.
in this case i think there is big difference to some people between curvy and overweight.
how do you tell someone that's made a transition from a healthy attractive body to an unhealthy unattractive body that your not finding them so sexually attractive as you once did?
you might lie so as not to hurt their feelings and not to make yourself look like a shallow prick.
This might be a good question for another thread?
Why do guy's lie about NOT being sexually attracted to "big" women?
i was talking to a corner store owner and he told me that the type of porno magazines he sells the most of were the ones featuring overweight women, or "plumper mags" as he put it.
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sddude
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Joined: 11/4/2004
Msg: 75 | |
| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/8/2005 9:56:49 AM | I once went out with a women with no picture on her profile , she said her size was athletic, this was a year ago on another site .
This girl was big really big , I asked her about it , she said yes she was athletic because she did excersize , okay , I really never saw a person that is considered obess to the world of health as athletic.
I went to a kareoke bar with her , she was fun , on another day I invited her to the beach , she refused because she was embarrassed to show her fat body in a bathing suit , she kind of fessed up that she did not beleive she was all that heathy because of her size . She said she was surprized that I went out with her on the second date ....cuz no one would and she had very few dates , having low self esteem , she wanted me to have sex with her to take her virginity .... so desperate ... low self esteem issues I am sure .
I told her she had a very beautiful face and that if she worked on her body to be in a shape that she would not be embarrassed about (I suspect , what you call thin or really athletic is her ideal like most men and women ) she would have many guys falling all over themselves for her , she has a great personality but has self esteem issues because of her size .
People have issues with their size and try to convince themselves or others that they are really good with it and that to everyone else they should see it the same way as great , positive and acceptable .
If you have no issues about it , are happy with what you are and have , why question why other people do not see it the same way , it is the inside .
I myself feel self concious that I am shorter than most guys , I get passed up for promotions , people see my leadership at work less important than some less important, less intelligent taller guys . Women see me the same way short equals , less important to them , less of a man , less sexually enticing , less qualified for dating , less attractive , sometimes a butt of jokes , I say this because it happens in this forum and in real life , I cannot change that , I have some issues with that but try to be the best I can and not shove it down anyone's throat .
If I have to accept that I am short and not shove it down people's throat that being short is the greatest thing in the world and they should choose me , why do you have to make people understand that you are healthy and look healthy , attractive etc.. to all men and women .
I cannot change the way I am , even you "heavy" chicks see a short guy as unacceptable but want every single guy to accept you .
I cannot change the way I am , I wish I was 6 foot 3 or something , then I know I would be extremely atractive to women , at my present state I am not, really , i have to work it 200 percent more than my maximum effort to get women to consider me for dating in north america because of attitudes about this . I got really fat when my wife died , i emotionally tied myself down with food . I worked my way out of that , I felt embarrassed of my blubber and descusted on how I was making myself unhealthy , being fat is not healthy , you may try to convince yourself that you are healthy because all medical incations show no health problems , it is a health risk no matter what . I am proud to be back in shape and still working on it , I am athletic but wanna get the muscle thing going abs and everything , self love has gone up as well as self worth ... still short.
I wish I was tall and fat , then I could do something about it and feel good all the way around .
If you feel that you are not feeling good about yourself and something can be done, then do something about it , not for everyone else but for you , yes sometimes self esteem on the inside is determined on what people say and do ... comments about you .
If you feel good warm and fuzzy about yourself and do not care what everyone says , then why complain here , be yourselves, some of you are very attractive but I feel you have issues even though you say you do not care what they say . Tooo bad that is the way of the world .
I am still going to be short no matter what I do and cannot make people prefer me or like me . you can do something about it if you want .
By the way guys lie about liking a bigger woman is either to have an easy target for sex with a low self esteem woman (sailors that I work with do this , "they call it hoggin" , yes that is horrible ) or just not to hurt their feelings because they know it is a sensitive subject for most . | |
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