| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/25/2005 12:00:15 PM | | what's wrong with larger women?.........absolutely nothing. Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes, especially from within. As for the guys who don't get that, it's their loss. | |
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| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/25/2005 2:05:46 PM | As to the question at hand...
Because they think that's what women need/want to hear.
My question, why the umpteenth thread about this? Search is your friend. | |
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| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/25/2005 5:32:07 PM | ok...a page or so back i was getting ripped on once again. so allow me to explain.
when i said that "some guys are into that kinda thing" it was meant to be taken in the sense of "some guys are into fat girls", just like if we were talking about working on cars. some guys are into that sort of thing.
instead of putting all your energy into getting upset with me and furiously banging on your keyboard...why not furiously walk an extra block or three? i mean really. you can get upset with me for speaking the truth, or you can be proactive and do something about it. | |
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| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/25/2005 6:09:37 PM | WOW! These topic truly is a sensitive one.
What I find a little disturbing is that we have become so defensive about this subject that we attack the people who make negative comments about BBWs. IT looks pretty sad for us
(the BBWs) when we retaliate by insulting people's spelling or grammar skills.
I am a BBW. I know that the people insulting us by saying we are lazy are wrong for the most part. I know how hard it is to lose the weight. I am doing something about my own weight problem but is it really going to help us feel better if we look for the bad points in other people? Is it going to change their opinion about us? I don't think so. In my opinion all it is going to do is make us no better than the ignorant people who say mean things about us.
People have preferences. Nothing wrong with that. That makes us individual. Life would be pretty boring if we all looked the same and wanted the same. I wouldn't blame any man for not being attracted to me because of my size. That's his right. However if he has any class at all he wouldn't be mean or insulting about it.
As for all those people who are tired of the length of this thread or amount of threads on this topic...Don't read them. Plain and simple. I pass by threads that I don't have interest in.
If I don't have an opinion I don't comment. | |
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| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/25/2005 6:43:55 PM | ^^^ see? now there's a smart person!
she's doing something. she's not whining about how she can't find a guy...she's actually devoted herself to making a positive change!
kudos!! | |
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| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/26/2005 5:16:14 AM | | I read something today that sums it all up.....when a bigger woman walks down the street...men will stop and check her out when she has passed by....they watch her body jigglin down the street.....fat jiggles bones don't.....keep your body beautiful like it is until you decide you want to change for you and not for some hurtful soul who will never be the man you deserve anyway...they are out there somewhere, or at least I keep on hoping. | |
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| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/26/2005 5:31:00 AM | | I agree RainyAmber. The only change that really works is change you really have a motivation to make. If you are happy as you are, then just be yourself and you will attract someone who likes you for you, not the person you pretend to be to get their approval. | |
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| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/26/2005 10:13:48 AM | sargasm: I don't whine about being fat. I speak my opinion when people bash on others for being fat. I'm losing weight not for ANYONE ELSE but ME! I never liked the way I looked when I was heavier. I've lost 50lbs since January and damn I feel good, but I'm still not thin...don't wanna be. I wanna be comfortable with myself. Yeah I've been noticed more. But those type of guys I"m not going for...cause they never would of looked at me twice the way I was before. But boy are they missing out on a really great gal!
instead of putting all your energy into getting upset with me and furiously banging on your keyboard...why not furiously walk an extra block or three?
Dude, I walk more than an equivalent of three blocks a day. I use my WHOLE body when I work. And who's furiously banging on their keyboard NOW?!?!
The bottom line is, YES, if you don't like the way you are, CHANGE IT, but don't do it for others! Do it for YOU! Cause people come and go, it's yourself you gotta live with! | |
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| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/26/2005 1:49:37 PM | Everyone has different tastes and are attracted to different people. Some men like big women some men like slim women. Some guys love the Italian dark european look others prefer blondes or red heards. I generally am attracted to white guys...its all a matter of taste, that's what makes the world so beautiful..we're all different and what a lot of choice out there.
I'm happy with who I am, so what if I lose a few glances because I'm bigger than some..I really don't care! | |
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| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/29/2005 7:24:34 AM | | I dont understand it either, but just remember that it's not everyone. Some people like people for who they are, and as long as they are happy, and make the other person happy..that's all that matters. But for the nuts who wont date a girl just because she's bigger, that's messed up. I mean, of course you want to be attracted to the person physically in some way, but there's always getting to know a person for who they are inside too, and that's what makes them beautiful all around. | |
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| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/29/2005 7:28:12 AM | | I do agree though that also most of the time, after a man and a women get into a relationship, a women begins complaining about herself and the man gets fed up with it, and starts telling the woman then to lose weight. Because the man does this, the woman feels like she's no good but that's not what the man is trying to say. He's just saying that she keeps complaining, why doesnt she do something about herself...i'm only saying this because i've been in that position...i've never been big, but i've felt bigger than what i've wanted to be b4, and i was dating a guy who got tired of me complaining about it, so he started saying that i needed to lose weight, and that i needed to stop complaining or do something about myself to make me feel better. | |
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| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/29/2005 2:02:26 PM | Yeah, I'm coming in late...but here's another question:
If we're not skinny, and we're not fat, how would you like us to describe ourselves? If we say "average" and we're over 130, then you'll think we lied. If we say "a few extra pounds" (regardless of what we actually weigh) you'll immediately assume we're heavy.
Granted, I am generalizing, here, about reactions to certain phrases.
I'm not a small woman, and I've never been small--but neither am I gargantuan nor considered extra-large. I'm curvy from head to toe, and it's not an image issue for me--I'm comfortable as I am. I like the way I look. How do we get this across to people without making it a big deal? Voluptuous, curvy, solid, thick---what word do you want to hear??
*again, probably too late in the thread, but oh well....* | |
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| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/29/2005 2:12:06 PM | | I was speaking to someone today of my interest in a BBW as you say. She has it all, looks education smarts class and is a nice person. The only problem is she is about 80lbs overweight. She never wears short sleeves even in this sweltering heat lately. I trying to see if there is anything there for us and if she has a complex about showing her arms. Also she never wears shorts but I understand that | |
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Posted: 6/29/2005 2:41:08 PM | WOW! I can't believe this thread is on it's 8TH page!
Amazing! That being said, have we come to any conclusions yet?
I figure in 8 pages of responses, someone must have come upon a kernal of TRUE KNOWLEDGE, WISDOM, & UNDERSTANDING that they can share with the rest of us!
I am too lazy to read through all EIGHT pages, because there'd be too much crap to filter through to get to the good stuff.
So, someone want to give me an update! 
Signed,
Truly Bored at Work! | |
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| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/29/2005 3:15:41 PM | hey Simp, i don't think anything's been discovered other than this:
- I keep saying "be proactive, do something other than complain about being overweight."
- The overweight girls keep saying "I'm happy the way i am!" which, to me, is very apparently untrue, because if they were, they wouldn't be complaining that guys don't like them.
i suppose the moral of the whole eight pages is this. be who you are. if you're not happy with who you are, change it. if you are truly, and i mean truly happy with who you are, then good for you! you're a step ahead of the game. | |
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| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/29/2005 5:52:55 PM | I don't think there is a right answer for how to describe yourself. If we say average or a few extra pounds, it could mean anything. My solution si to put in a head to toe picture as well as the head shot.
I figure you can take a look and see what I mean by a few extra pounds. | |
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| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/30/2005 1:02:18 PM |
The overweight girls keep saying "I'm happy the way i am!" which, to me, is very apparently untrue, because if they were, they wouldn't be complaining that guys don't like them.
I don't know if this is necessarily true. It seems to me that EVERYBODY has something they want to complain about!
And for the women that are overweight and saying they're happy, I don't see them pointing out that guys don't like them as being all bad. To me it's the same as someone who complains about the person their with, but are still with them. It could simply be to express an opinion or feeling.
Are we at 9 pages yet? | |
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| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 6/30/2005 2:52:07 PM | | It does seem like sometimes the larger than life ladies are upset at men or society for views they have about fatness or being looked over for dating, But then on the other hand some are getting lot's of action. I think we lie about it because we are embarrased to admitt we like fat girls. In my case not too fat. A little goes a long way | |
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| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 7/1/2005 10:43:35 AM | | you state that you like big women because they can work it but then you state that you only usually date skinny ones well what makes you think skinny girls can't work it either????? Lets not be negative anymore people just remember that big girls need lovin too just like skinny gurls!!!!!! | |
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| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 7/1/2005 10:47:34 AM | there's nuffin seriously wrong with likeing big women..i mean i ain't big but i like the way i am..and couldn't give a shit of what ppl think of me..so why sould they be any different?..if u've got it flaunt it!     | |
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| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 7/1/2005 11:10:17 AM | | No ther is nothing wrong with it, it's a choice. I am attracted to some (not too fat, a little goes a long way) but wouldn't feel good about marrying an obese woman. I would be ok with one that was like 10-40 lbs overwieght but more than that is a different type of thing. Some guys like that type though | |
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| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 7/1/2005 11:21:40 AM | | think you spoke on behalf of every big wommen . good for you its not the size its the person some people cant see beyond that which is a shame .. am curvy big whatever they want to call it but i am happy and wouldent change me for the world .. if a man tried to change me or make me lose weight and wouldent except me the way i am ,, then it dont last very long he gets shown the door and i just move on get on and fine somone who does .. we are who we are thats that .. good comment you said tho good on you. | |
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| why do people lie about liking big women?
Posted: 7/2/2005 11:36:35 AM | but it IS the packaging that matters!
when people first notice someone, they notice the outside. if you're dressed poorly, people are going to make the assumption that you're broke. if your hair is messy, if you smell, again...same thing. so why should it be any different if you don't take care of your weight? the first thing i think when i see a obese (and i mean obese...not a few pounds over or chubby...i mean at least 100lbs overweight) is that they're lazy. sure, there's the odd thyroid problem, eating disorder, or other mitigating factor...but for the most part that's exactly why they're fat. sheer laziness.
being moderately active myself, i don't really find laziness to be a winning trait...gross obesity isn't incredibly common in Canada at least...so naturally when a freakishly large person wobbles by, of course people are going to look. same thing if someone with tattoos over their entire body walked by. it's different, unusual, and gets attention...not always in a positive way. | |
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