| Inability to ejaculate
Posted: 6/21/2008 3:17:18 AM | If it's not a new problem it might just be that he doesn't respond well to penile stimulation. Some men respond better to stimulation of the prostate or scrotum. It's not unheard of for this to be the case. There's also the more basic issue of less... let's call it fine motor control during intercourse. During oral or manual stimulation there is a much greater potential for higher motor control skills simply based on the musculature.
Additionally, it's also possible that it's a prostate issue or retrograde-ejaculation. Seeing a doctor is probably a good idea since things like cancer or inflamation tend to be bad. Alternatively, most antidepressants mess with it (except for one I remember reading about that actually may have the opposite effect) come with a risk of lowering ejaculate produced and making arousal more difficult (or just making climax more difficult).
Again, I'd suggest seeing a doctor, they tend to know more about this sort of thing than people on dating sites as 5 AM. | |
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| Inability to ejaculate
Posted: 6/21/2008 12:28:31 PM |
Maybe very low sperm production? The man needs to have sperm to come.
I don't know where you got your information from... but boy is *that* wrong! | |
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| Inability to ejaculate
Posted: 6/21/2008 1:39:25 PM | Re post 29
From me! To ejaculate, one needs to have available sperm to do so. If eg he has just JOffed, it takes some time for the "factory" to produce new "product" so that it can be trasported/pumped and thus ejaculated! | |
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| Inability to ejaculate
Posted: 6/21/2008 3:38:08 PM | Umm, sperm only makes up for less than 5% of the ejaculate. The rest of it is there to help the sperm survive in their preferred hostile environment (including protection, aiding in motion, and nutrition). People with vasectomies can still ejaculate they're just "shooting blanks."
Also, the refractory period has nothing to do with sperm. It's because of increased oxytocin in the blood stream causes desires to be protective and nonsexual (after climax, before it makes you want to mate) and prolactin which counters the dopamine neccesary for arousal. | |
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| Inability to ejaculate
Posted: 6/21/2008 4:45:58 PM | Was he on the pain killers back when there was no problem?
If not, the pain killers may well be the culprit.
All meds have side effects. I had a coworker with the exact same problem. He was on pain killers and could get it up and go all nite, but not being able to orgasm it got...well...boring real quick. His wife was a kinky little open-minded gal who would do anything, but nothing could get him off. A few months after he stopped needing the pain meds, everything started firing again. | |
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| Inability to ejaculate
Posted: 6/21/2008 4:47:20 PM |
It wasn not an issue orignally - and it seems the closest response is he waits and holds back
Well, there's the problem right there. Tell studboy you want him to just let go when the time comes. There's always round 2 ;) | |
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| Inability to ejaculate
Posted: 6/21/2008 5:19:12 PM | As I understand it, there are separate neural pathways regulating erection and ejaculation. Normally these work together, but a man can have an erection without ejaculation or ejaculate without an erection. There are many possible causes including medication and diabetic neuropathy. A previous poster is correct that the bulk of a man's ejaculate is fluid produced in the prostate gland. A man who has had a vasectomy ejaculates normally but the fluid contains no sperm cells.
It is true that a man ejaculates a lesser volume of fluid each time after the first. A man can still have all of the orgasmic involuntary muscle movements even when the fluid is exhausted but his desire to continue will be much reduced by that point.
If a man has concerns or problems in this area, for goodness sake see a doctor! | |
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| Inability to ejaculate
Posted: 6/21/2008 8:01:44 PM | | Actually the seminal vessel produces around 50% of the ejaculate and the prostate 25% or so (thank you wiki), but wayward is absolutely right. See a urologist. Or a general practicioner. Or somebody. Doctors tend to be pretty good at the whole "medical" thing. It can be embarrasing, but think of it this way: over half of all ED cases aren't reported, most fatal complications in prostate or testicular cancer happen because thy were too embarrased to go to the doctor until too late, and many guys are scared of problems with their penis because they feel it underminds their masculinity. Do yourself a favor, be different: see a doctor. | |
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| Inability to ejaculate
Posted: 6/22/2008 9:00:42 AM |
If he is not having orgasms at all, it could be something that he needs to see a doctor about. Can he ejaculate through masturbation?
I completely agree | |
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Posted: 6/23/2008 9:31:47 PM | Thanks everyone - i have strongly suggested the medical route - but sense the usual male reluctance - but here's hoping.
Zee | |
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| Inability to ejaculate
Posted: 7/8/2008 7:13:24 AM | This is not a good place to get information on this complex and difficult male sexual dysfunction. A body of up to date information on RE has been compiled here:
http://psychforums.com/viewforum.php?f=168 | |
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| Inability to ejaculate
Posted: 7/8/2008 2:53:19 PM | Back in the 1980s, if memory serves, ED was demonstrated to be more than just a psychological problem. Since then, the primary focus for both treatment and research has actually been in Urology. I don't mean to underscore the psychological component (it is in fact almost always the first treatment a urologist recommends) but not looking into physical causes can be a very bad thing. I know it's probably more fun to talk to a doctor about your penis than it is to have one palpate the region, hook up electrodes, do an overnight study, or whatever they do to test for ED. However, this testing can help not only you, but also your therapist.
Also, think of it this way: which is worse an hour in the doc's office and a $15 copay or months of stress? | |
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| Inability to ejaculate
Posted: 7/8/2008 3:05:29 PM | | It can be a variety of different things. Certain medications esp. for depression can delay ejaculation, and possibly take a lot of the sensation out of it. Prostate problems can also do it. A co-worker had prostate surgery and said he wasn't able to ejaculate, it caused him a lot of depression issues and him saying, "I don't feel like a man anymore." | |
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Posted: 9/25/2009 4:07:39 PM | | I dated a guy that had this problem it was fun for awhile but the old saying becareful what you wish for came in to play here.I thought I was gonna have a heart attack so I know where you are coming from.I hope it works out for you but have him get checked out by a good Dr because my friend found out he had high b/p and diabetics and that wasnt helping the issue.Best of luck sweetie. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2009 4:35:43 PM | Well, this may be too much information..but here goes.
I had a boyfriend that couldnt cum unless it was with intercourse. I LOVED it! Because I could perform oral for as long as I wanted. And I do mean...a long time. He just couldnt orgasm unless it was with deep penetration... go figure. I tried everything I could think of..I guess it was just the way he was wired. It wasnt a problem for me.
;)
However, finding Him with another WAS a problem. Thus, the ending of my wonderful hours of oral.... *sighs remembering the good ole days | |
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| Inability to ejaculate
Posted: 9/25/2009 4:45:42 PM | idon't suggest you resort to this but have you tried to relievehim by handor oralor tobe correct on this site ..... between your cups, or other ways not usually tried?
only maybe itcan alleviate andkick start his ejaculation.
I hapened to me before i was all hard foralong time, wet and oozing precum from all kinds of stimulation but would not come all this time until i started losing the erection.
switching to something else brought it back to full erect, and all the build up pressure from the happy handling came to a pretty messy big finish. ihonestly did not expect itto happen that way when it started but it didn't take long for me to know this was the thing to fnsh me off; the "this is it" feeling on my erect tool was a clear signal it was working ina real big way, my partner was amazed even 2 hours later how it ended
so sometimes a switch might work. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2009 4:48:20 PM | | also if you do something for your man try a different technique, where and how you stimulate him. overstimulation kills it. i am ticklish on the head so too fast,too hard, to much and i won't cum. just another idea totry to help if that connects and looks similar to him. | |
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| Inability to ejaculate
Posted: 9/25/2009 8:30:30 PM | | i heard one guy couldnt cum unless the girl said "i love you" to him.. lol. but i dont know i've never had that problem. im currently going through a phase where im having trouble staying hard though but thats a whole diff story. | |
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