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| how would you react if your son /daughter told you they where gay
Posted: 6/20/2008 2:22:37 PM | Ahhh but the bible was written by a man too.
They are coming across all kinds of things that were left out and translated wrong to suit the man or men that did all the writing.
Awful lot of hate to have faith in if you ask me.
Contradictions too for that matter. | |
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| how would you react if your son /daughter told you they where gay
Posted: 6/20/2008 2:28:57 PM | My oldest son actually asked me this, as a hypothetical question once (back when he was still in high school).
We were walking up to the hospital (he had a fasting blood test to get done & I was carrying his breakfast,
to avoid temptation & keep him from being late for school). I wasn't sure how to take this question, if he really
was just being hypothetical or was trying to tell me something. So I just told him, that I would be a little dis-
appointed for him, is all. He asked me what I meant by that, & I told him that gays still couldn't marry & many
of them missed out on the opportunity to have children. And since having children was the most wonderful
thing in the world (in my opinion), I would be sorry if he missed out on that. And I also pointed out to him, that
gays still face a lot of discrimination & hatred & I wouldn't wish that on anybody.
This is the same kid who got a 3 day suspension from school in the 4th grade, for hitting a kid who called him a
faggot, because he got a pierced ear, as a birthday present. When he told me why he hit the other boy, he asked
me what the word "faggot" means. OMG! He's 9 years old, I have no idea how to answer this question, which
I wasn't expecting for years yet! I try to explain, as delicately as I can, for about 10 minutes. He says "It sounds
like you're describing the word gay." And I told him, "Yes, that's the ignorant, biggoted way of saying gay." And he
says to me, "Well, in that case, I'm glad I hit him." ROFL!
And apparently the question was hypothetical, since he is now 24 & married with 3 kids.
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she said mum im not a proud gay i said well im proud your my DAUGHTER - joolsy1205
Hopefully, with your love & support, she will learn to be. She's a very lucky young woman. And also very fortunate
to be living now, when it is much more tolerated & accepted. Elton John got married 2 years ago, on my birthday!
And George Takei is getting married, I've read.
I haven't watched all of it (scary movies freak me out), but I just loved this quote from the movie "Jesus Christ,
vampire hunter", when Jesus asks the head vampire why he is choosing lesbians as victims. His answer "They're
deviants. No-one will miss them." Jesus's answer "There's nothing deviant about love."
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i would not go to the home of my gay child if i had one, i dont approve and that is the bottom line. i cant approve, my religion has taught me that this is wrong and nothing can change my mind other wise.
So they would be welcome in your home as long as they didn't bring their S/O with them, but what about grand-kids?
Lots of gay couples have children nowadays. But then again, if your religion makes you this rigid & intolerant,
they wouldn't be missing out on much I guess. | |
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| how would you react if your son /daughter told you they where gay
Posted: 6/20/2008 3:41:05 PM | | I'd feel sorry for him/her, gays live a hard life. Most people don't understand that gays didn't choose to be gay, that the choice was made for them. Biologists now believe in the epigenetic theory where some behaviors are genetically predetermined with some environmental influence. | |
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| how would you react if your son /daughter told you they where gay
Posted: 6/20/2008 4:08:56 PM | NO environmental influence could ever make me attracted to another man....NONE....
ugh..yikes...
I am 100% sure, they born that way.
I can't believe a full blown straight man one day decide to sleep with other men, just because he saw it on tv....
Its religious people's BS.... its a choice, choice my azz.... | |
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| how would you react if your son /daughter told you they where gay
Posted: 6/20/2008 4:14:05 PM | "I am 100% sure, they born that way. "
I agree and did any one think that the purpose of it might be to cut down the population a bit? (That sounds kinda bad I think and I didn't mean it that way)
And if its a choice how come some animals have gay sexual urges?
Just live and let live people. | |
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| how would you react if your son /daughter told you they where gay
Posted: 6/25/2008 4:17:30 AM | | I AM 100%SURE ,THEY BORN THAT WAY ......what way ...my daughter said mum i tried so hard to be normal ....thats what soceity has done made it abnormal ....2 people loving each other is a beautiful thing ....dosent mater what sex they are ....theres far to much hate in this world .....every one has opinions i no ....but hey we are all human beings ....regardless of sex colour or religion | |
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| how would you react if your son /daughter told you they where gay
Posted: 6/25/2008 5:15:19 AM | [quote"]i'll probally get ripped to shreads for putting this, but here it goes anyway. I do not approve of homosexuality and thats the bottom line. i have a 3 year old daughter right now and hope to have son in the future. if my son or daughter came home and told me he/she is gay, i would tell he/she i do not approve and tell them its wrong if you believe in the bible. I would also tell he/she i will always love him/her but the significant other would not be welcome in my home and thats it. I could not disown my daughter or son but if they were gay i would have a real problem with it and wouldnt be comfortable being around there significant other. now its my house so its my rules. im sure it would put a strain on my relationship with my kids but i wouldnt tolerate it no matter what.
It is posts like this that make me very glad I don't believe in the bible! I believe in God, not some book! I honestly feel sorry for any children you bring into this world.
I am not gay, and do not have a gay child. But if I did, I'd be like the OP.
God bless you OP!
My God and Goddess, would love all and accept something that someone was born with...like homosexuality. (And this is scientifically proven in many cases. It is not a choice!)
He would not condone attitudes like yours and idiotic theories of those that twist the meaning of the Bible to suit their prejudice and agenda. It is people like you that turned me and thousands like me away from Christianity. I believe in an all loving God. Most bible thumpers do not. They speak of of love, but don't live it .
Sorry Op and others. But religious righteousness proving ignorance like this makes me angry.
I'd much rather have a gay child then someone brainwashed by organized religion.
Gays are not dangerous. Religious intolerant people are. | |
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| how would you react if your son /daughter told you they where gay
Posted: 6/25/2008 5:43:46 AM | I have a few years to worry about this since my daughter is only 6, but if she opens up one day and tells me she's gay my reaction would be minimal. I want her to be happy, and if thats what does it for her than so be it. Im not going to get into the whole "God made me this way VS I choose this" argument because, as a parent, its absolutely irrelavant.
I love my child. And if she can find happiness, be it with another man or another woman one day, then Im happy for her. | |
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| how would you react if your son /daughter told you they where gay
Posted: 6/25/2008 5:50:17 AM |
i would have to learn to accept my child was gay but i wouldn't have to like it or allow myself to be around it, i was in a strict catholic religion and I'm sorry about my beliefs but my beliefs tell me it is wrong for people to be gay.
Glad you confessed to being a Catholic. In my opinion your own religion proves how wrong suppressed sexuality is! Priests can't marry, Nuns can't marry. Sex without the benefit of marriage is wrong. Now we know why many priests molest children, have affairs with their flock and pay hookers!
We now know why all to many nuns have children and have to send them off to a Catholic home for orphans. Celibacy is against the laws of nature period!
My own mother attended a Catholic church as a child. She was made to go by a step mother for the purpose of studying to become a nun. That ended when priest tried to rape her.
I made the mistake of marrying a catholic in 1968, and because I was not catholic, I had to attend classes with my fiancée supposedly just to understand her religion. Truth is they hoped I'd convert through their brainwashing. I also had to have 3 people that knew me for 7 years attest to the fact that I'm a good guy. Then they wanted me to go to confession! I also had to sign a document that I would let my wife raise our children catholic! I balked at that and told the priest that I confess only directly to God, not some man in a robe.
Sounds like I am picking on Catholics. No I'm not. Sorry if it comes off that way. Forgive me. I'm picking on a suppressive religion that makes me wonder how any intelligent person can still be part of it with the known facts. I'm sure many Catholics pick and chose what laws, rules and rituals of that religion they chose to follow and don't condone the horrible things some leaders of your religion do. I for one can not and will not be a member of any organization if I have to bend, ignore or twist the rules to suit myself. Therefore I choose not to be a part of any organized religion. I am true to myself and my God and Goddess. I can't be brainwashed. I respect anyone's religious beliefs and believe we all have a right to worship who and how we want. Just don't try to justify an injustice with your beliefs. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2008 6:36:43 AM | well if my girl told me she was gay "NO GIRLS ALLOWED IN YOUR ROOM"
and if my boy did "WE'RE MAKING YOU QUIT FIGURESKATING AND PUTTING YOU IN HOCKEY!"
nah jk hey what ever if he plays for the opposite team as long as he/she is happy good for them
obviously id prefer them to be traditional but thats not my choice. | |
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| how would you react if your son /daughter told you they where gay
Posted: 6/25/2008 6:55:18 AM | | Wow, thank goodness you love her unconditionally like that. I have a cousin who's gay and has been in a 13 yr relationship. Can't judge all by just one, but I have wondered bc of her if their relationships could me more stable/long lasting. I would love my kid just the same if they were gay. Like you I would just be concerned for my kid's happiness | |
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Posted: 6/25/2008 7:20:56 AM | Applause. Good job mom!
A good friend of mine, and mind you this woman is a ten, her daughter is gay, came out of the closet after high school. She is doing fine. My own sister, who has one daughter and two boys, well, one of the boys, since he was young, some people in the family said that he was more than likely gay. I even indicated so. He came out of the closet a couple of years back. His own dad, hated his guts, but my sister is all support. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2008 7:25:30 AM | Well first off, if and when I ever have kids sex will NEVER EVER be a taboo topic. It was in my household and it took me a very long time to get over it.
I would make sure that sex was a very open subject. Then, I would make sure that my child(ren) understood that they are free to make whatever decisions they want in life, so long as it is an educated one. My parents always told me I was allowed to drink or smoke or do drugs, so long as I told them I was doing it and as a result I've never done any. I just don't see the point. But regardless, I would make sure my kids knew what they were getting into when it comes to sex and that no matter what they decide to do I'm totally ok with it.
If I could give any advice this would be it. Act normal. Don't treat her like a special little fragile child because that's not what she needs right now. She needs normalcy and your support. Treat any of her "girlfriends" the same way you would have treated any of her "boyfriends" if she were straight. And don't feel like you have to tiptoe around the subject. I have more than a couple gay and lesbian friends and for them it's just the way they are so don't make a big deal of it. Hell, make some jokes about it later on even and she'll appreciate the fact that you're still treating her like she's your daughter and not some freak who needs special care. | |
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| how would you react if your son /daughter told you they where gay
Posted: 6/25/2008 8:00:58 AM | ^^^^^And apprently ~ he also created small minds, closed minds, ignorance, injustice, intolerance, stupidity and hate. Must love that being. 
~OT~ I'd react just like I've reacted when he tells me anything that is his within his belief system, his personal choices, etc. I love him and if he needs me, I'm right here. I'd tell a close friend the exact same thing ~ why would my son be any different?
~OP~ Just love her. That's what it's about. Our children are "who" they are. Not always what we "hoped" they might be. What a gift they are, no matter what their sexual orientation. That doesn't take away from their character or all the other qualities we love/like about them.  | |
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Posted: 6/25/2008 8:14:05 AM | I would hug my son, and support him.
It must be one of the hardest things to tell your family!
No one can say to me that this is a choice. No one in thier right mind would choose to be picked on, discriminated against, made fun of....possibly lose job opportunities.
My only concern would be for the obstacles that narrow minded people will toss his way thru life after coming out. It cant be easy.
OP, you did the best thing possible, you showed unconditional love. Kudos! | |
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Posted: 6/25/2008 8:32:49 AM | | Oh calm yourself verysensitiveeyes, it was a joke. I've had gay friends and I didnt really treat them any different then anyone else. Just a few more gay jokes then normal....;-) lol (They had a good sense of humor, unlike you apparently) | |
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Posted: 6/25/2008 9:05:10 AM |
Oh calm yourself verysensitiveeyes, it was a joke. I've had gay friends and I didnt really treat them any different then anyone else. Just a few more gay jokes then normal....;-) lol (They had a good sense of humor, unlike you apparently)
There are threads and topics where jokes are appropriate and even wanted. This is not a thread where anyone should be joking. But I am glad you at least owned up to the fact that it was not out of being homophobic.
You just used poor judgment in where or when to joke in my opinion. I don't think verysensitiveeyes needs to calm herself at all. Your timing for jokes is what needs calming.
This happens all to often in the forums. Poor manners pal. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2008 9:37:08 AM | I am just curious because you "appear" to be someone who would NEVER sin or do anything against the beliefs of Catholicism.
hense the reason why jesus tells us to love all of gods children.its not or place to judge.he who hath cast the first stone....iregardless of whether you believe it is a sin,right or wrong,however you wish to put it.the fact remains that ignorance and hate will only breed the same. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2008 9:46:49 AM | CELLY CEL42 you quoted
"well look on the bright side at least you dont have a son that is gay
the world can handle women together but 2 men thats just nasty"......
GOD is going to bless you with a gay son! LOL...... WTF does it matter if your son or daughter like the same sex...doesnt make them a lesser person and as long as they are not in your business leave them alone.... and all parents should support their childrens choices....except unless they turn into serial murderers..... | |
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