| Why still looking at profile?
Posted: 6/21/2008 10:14:03 PM | | BEAUTIFULDREAMER is totally correct and they say young people don’t have wisdom. Listen to her, he has issues. | |
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| Why still looking at profile?
Posted: 6/21/2008 10:15:20 PM | | I think the OP is just mis-interpreting the "who viewed me" list. Maybe he IS viewing your page repeatedly, but not necessarily. | |
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| Why still looking at profile?
Posted: 6/21/2008 10:23:39 PM | | I think just curiosity. If I saw an ex on a dating site, I probably couldn't resist the urge to look, too. However, the fact that you are wondering and have even started a thread about it is putting energy toward him that he doesn't deserve. He walked away from you. Why should you care what he's doing and what games he's playing? | |
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| Why still looking at profile?
Posted: 6/22/2008 5:01:51 PM | Yes, he *is* viewing my profile repeatedly. It is on a different dating site and you can tell when someone viewed it and how many times.
As for putting energy towards him which he doesn't deserve. Yes, it's true he doesn't deserve it and I was trying to forget him, but he keeps viewing my profile and therefore reminds me he's there. As far as I can tell, there is no way to stop him doing this. Blocking him would only prevent him from sending me messages. I removed him from my favourites list and removed myself from his favourites list so that he'd have to work harder to find me and view me. I thought that was the end of the matter. However, he's put me back on his favourites list! | |
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| Why still looking at profile?
Posted: 6/22/2008 5:10:15 PM | I agree he's checking up on you. In the first place he was a complete COWARD by breaking up with you via text. Anyone that does that via email, text, or by phone or doesn't end it in person is an a***ole.
You're better off without this jerk.
Another thing to watch out for, most people can't pick up the phone anymore to communicate or come by in person, everything has to be done electronically, get real. We're all still humans with hearts, be civil.
The dating world still never ceases to amaze me thse days. People live behind fascades, they two time you, they're on rebounds, or they're nuts. Not everyone, but quite a few as I have heard.
Hang in there. Someone wonderful will find you. | |
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| Why still looking at profile?
Posted: 6/22/2008 6:45:26 PM | | Totally agree that he is a coward. U nfortunately a lot of people are doing this email text break up stuff. I was very hurt when it happened to me because its an insult. He came across that he was mature ya ok. Where are all the good guys?? Checking your profile is weird whats the point?? Im glad my A.......hole is not checking mine. | |
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| Why still looking at profile?
Posted: 6/22/2008 8:20:55 PM | There are plenty of clichéd answers, 'marianina1'.
But you know this.
Is it likely a reflection on him, not you? An irritating inability on the part of the person you refer to? Is he juvenile - incapable of a gratifying resolution like a 'spoiled' child who lusts for a shiny gift at Christmas, gets it, then wants something new?
I've had a marriage and a relationship fracture, conclude, because a "shinier" model happened by to attract, distract, her. It took many months before my 'phones ceased sounding two or three rings then silence night after night through into the early morning. Longer still for a familiar car to finally stop cruising by.
At least on a dating site such as this you might more easily prevent yourself from allowing him to do this – you might exclude his harassment? Can you not ban him?
Ignore his behaviour. Soon it will have no power over you.
- W.
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| Why still looking at profile?
Posted: 6/25/2008 5:06:29 PM | At least he viewed you profile after you broke up and not while you two were seeing each other. I was seeing a guy who told me I was his "soulmate". We met on another website. So, I decided "hey, I love him, let's make this work," and I wnet to delete my profile. I hadn't been on the website in months. But, I noticed that he had been on the website just a day prior. So, I thought to myself, "why is he still viewing others, possibly contacting other women when he was so in love with me?" We had plans on getting married for heavens sake. Well. I brought it to his attention and he made up this wonderful story about having an "ex" that he gave his password to once upon a time so 'she' could delete his profile, but she apparently never did, she just kept checking to see who was viewing him! Needless to say, i smelled a rat a broke things off abruptly! Some soulmate he was!! You'll find love when it's ready to find you, it hurts sometimes, but as my mother tells me, "Girl, you're gonna have to kiss many a frog before the right one turns into your prince!" | |
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| Why still looking at profile?
Posted: 6/25/2008 5:30:34 PM | Lots of people here have given you excellent opinions and support.
Only the guy knows why he's acting as he has been. (Maybe he realizes he made a mistake? -- not that it's an excuse...)
The guy is bad news; just like the guy I met on another site. We dated 6 months, he wanted to marry me, wanted me to move in with him, on and on and on....
Then he bolted without a word. Lest you think I'm talking about a younger, possibly less mature man?
Nope......this man was 61!!!!!!!!!
Age means nothing. | |
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| Why still looking at profile?
Posted: 6/25/2008 7:49:46 PM | | LOL...funny...I had this happen to me. Irish30eyes (now deleted) AKA GarnetGirl01 (also deleted) was also on Match.com (Garnet30Girl) as well as here... The wack job (no kidding here...she even told me so!) breaks up with me by email after 2 months. Whatever. So I put my profile back up here and Match. What happens? She looks at my profile! Then, my ex-wife and her sister also look at my profile! First, to me, I wouldn't put any slams in my profile because then YOU come as being mean or nasty. If they think I'd ever go running back to any of them or even look at their profile, I hope they can hold their breath for a lonnnnnnnnng time. Ain't happening. I think previous posters are correct...they are playing mind games or are snooping to see if you are slamming them (which like I said is a dumb move for a guy or a girl). Do yourself a favor and DO NOT pay attention to them. Clean breaks are the easiest. Just move on. You'll be happier. Trust me!!! | |
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| Why still looking at profile?
Posted: 6/28/2008 9:13:33 AM | Marianna,
You probably don't want to hear this, but get off that dating site! There are many other dating sites. As long as you are paying attention to what he is doing any why, you are not moving on. You are still entertaining the thought that he wants to be with you. You are still focused on his behaviors and this will delay your healing process. It's a very painful place to be, and we've all been there. You have to quit him cold turkey. | |
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