| How to approach a nurse after discharge
Posted: 6/21/2008 12:44:33 AM | ^^^ The old flower delivery man ruse always gets you in the door with the flowers covering your face to evade the cameras. Sure...slip into a linen closet and come out with a doctor's smock and a stethescope, a clipboard, and someone will faint or go into cardiac arrest the moment you pass the nurse's station. "Doctor, please!"
Why do I have images of "Nurse Betty" in my head? | |
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| How to approach a nurse after discharge
Posted: 6/21/2008 1:08:06 AM | being an ex hospital exec, i can only tell you that nurses get this a lot! do you think she really connected with you? did you spend time conversing or is this just a physical attraction? if you really think you connected, then call and ask to speak to her or leave a message. nurses are often on long shifts. try to leave the impression that it is a professional call related to the stay, as hospitals do not encourage socializing while on the job. if you have her last name, you might try sending a note.
however, be prepared that this might be just your fantasy. next time, work quicker! that way, at least you will know right away if she is interested.
afterthought: ask your physician to send the note for you or ascertain if she was interested! | |
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| How to approach a nurse after discharge
Posted: 6/21/2008 3:49:15 AM | | Shift change is a circus for nurses. You are either giving report or receiving it and it's very hectic. It is not a good time to have someone want to speak with you. What shift did she usually work when your family member was hospitalized? Most nurses work the same shift all the time unless they are part-time and then they can float. Do you remember a specific day of the week that you always saw her? Days off usually remain the same also. If you saw her every Wednesday, then take a chance and go on Wednesday. If she happens to be off, put your card in an envelope with her name on it, and ask the unit secretary (ward clerk) to give her the next time she is on duty. Also include a note specifying who your are exactly so she isn't wondering who this guy is. | |
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| How to approach a nurse after discharge
Posted: 6/21/2008 5:54:10 AM | the whole shift change thing is a baaaaaaaaaaad baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaad idea
no matter how cute and sweet and charming she may find you she won't even have time to look at you during that time much less make a date etc.
as for calling the hospital asking when she's around = pointless. We don't give out that kinda info. If you know her name try calling the unit at some poin to see *if* shes there, that might get her on the phone, if she's not there that shift, try another shift just to see.
I think the best idea is to leave your contact info ,as the poster and fellow nurse above me mentioned , for her, leaving the ball in her court, this way she can call you at a good time for her, and all her gossipy nurse friends won't be talking about the whole thing!
good luck! | |
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| How to approach a nurse after discharge
Posted: 6/21/2008 6:18:42 AM | Im a nurse and im so flattered when ex patients or there family ask me out.
Did u notice a wedding ring? She might not even be availbale is the only thing I would be concerned with. | |
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| How to approach a nurse after discharge
Posted: 6/21/2008 8:34:14 AM | As far as the "connection"...Although the initial attraction seemed to be physical (as most are), we did spend time talking and laughing about non-hospital stuff. She also seemed to go out of her way to say hello to me even on shifts when she wasn't caring for my relative. Oh and there was no ring on her finger.
I think the best idea is to leave your contact info ,as the poster and fellow nurse above me mentioned , for her, leaving the ball in her court, this way she can call you at a good time for her, and all her gossipy nurse friends won't be talking about the whole thing!
I like this idea and certainly don't want to put her a position where all her gossipy nurse friends will talking about the whole thing so the the flowers may be too much. I know which unit she works on but I only got her first name...so what's the best way to get a note to her without alerting the entire unit? | |
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| How to approach a nurse after discharge
Posted: 6/21/2008 9:12:49 AM | Well I'm not a nurse, but I work in health care, and I think you actually did the right thing by not asking while you/your family member was still under her care...that can get ethically weird for some.
But now that you are no longer in a patient/care taker relationship.....I would just head over to her floor some day on your convience..if she's not there, have a thank you card with you and leave your number/email address saying that you really enjoyed getting to know her, and if she's interested in coffee for her to call you....something like that. If she is interested she'll contact you probably. Leave the card with one of the nurses at the desk it will get to her.
Good luck | |
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| How to approach a nurse after discharge
Posted: 6/21/2008 2:56:02 PM | | if she's not there, have your info/the card/whatever in a *sealed* envelope with her name on it, approach the nurses station/desk area and ask the unit secretary or the charge nurse to pass the envelope along , we get info like this all the time (not requests for dates sadly haha but stuff dropped off etc) and it's never been a problem so far... | |
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| How to approach a nurse after discharge
Posted: 6/21/2008 4:13:50 PM | if she's not there, have your info/the card/whatever in a *sealed* envelope with her name on it, approach the nurses station/desk area and ask the unit secretary or the charge nurse to pass the envelope along... Most of the staff on her unit know me because my relative was there for so long and I visited everyday. Again, in effort to not put her a position where all her gossipy nurse friends will talking about the whole thing, wouldn't it be best to mail it or see if the main receptionist of the hospital have it delivered? | |
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| How to approach a nurse after discharge
Posted: 6/22/2008 7:24:49 AM | okay I just figured you would be giving it to one staff member/secretary
and they would figure it was a thank you card or something from your relative.....
but if you're concerned, plop it at the information desk and have intrahospital mail bring it up to the unit, just put the unit address on it with her name .... | |
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| How to approach a nurse after discharge
Posted: 6/22/2008 10:48:34 AM | | Not so much concerned for me but for her privacy. Is it possible to mail something to a specific nursing station? If so, maybe it would be better to mail it with no name but my return address on the sealed envelope and my note/card inside with name and number...this way her privacy is protected and if it's returned to sender at least I know she did not get it. | |
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| How to approach a nurse after discharge
Posted: 6/22/2008 5:17:20 PM | ok, you want to be creative? Tell the hospital where she works that you are developing Parkinson's disease and that you'd like to contact the same woman who was providing care for a family member being you felt you could trust her. once you get on the phone with her, tell her you really don't have Parkinson's but suspect you'll get it if she doesn't go out with you.
otherwise just drop it. as i said earlier, if there was a connection why didn't she make a move? | |
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