| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 6/22/2008 12:18:10 PM |
Really... who knows? Thanks for the response. It was a frustrating night and it's usually the same scenario. It's almost like we want to post it on our shirts. Here to dance. No hook ups wanted.
Did it ever occur to you that some guys just want to dance and dancing with someone makes it twice as fun. Most guys that are on the dance floor are not looking for a "hookup". Some guys like to dance and honestly guys dancing alone is not pretty. Yes some guys will ruin it and actually think you are there to "hookup". You win some and you lose some. I guess that is why girls dance in the "circle" of trust. I stay away from those because usually they are not wanting to dance with a guy. | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 6/22/2008 12:31:47 PM | Take for instance.....Lou Ky has 4th St Live which is considered the 5th best club in the nation and Hurrican O'Malleys which is 12th.
4th st has 5 bars but since it was opened in 2003, 3 of them couldn't afford their leases and debts so evicted for 3 others to come in. At O'Malley's, everytime we come from a downtown concert and stop at the Shell gas station light, we see plenty of women who look like daisy duke or with fancy clothes smoking weed or doing cocaine before they enter it. | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 6/22/2008 1:00:32 PM | its just a dance (unless they are making obscent gestures/moves etc). i didn't know you needed to make commitments and/or take oaths for a simple dance. -and are there parting regulations as well?).
similar situations occur when some "not so my type" gal asks me to dance. (or just grabs my hand and pulls me onto the dance floor) i may not want to, however, seems much a better thing just to go along with it, enjoy the dance and not look like a jerk -(which will resonate through the club) -if your prone to making big scenes, it will backfire on you... | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 6/22/2008 1:15:10 PM | There is no committments or oaths but a woman can have a simple clean dance with a man just like a man having a good casual dance with her. It's when she wants to do more than that that I don't care for since I don't know her....no matter how many beers I've had either.  | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 6/22/2008 1:19:48 PM | My "goodman"...
They're attention whores or they're horny and out to squeeze the best from the rest then talk about it lol. | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 6/22/2008 2:20:21 PM | Apparently I should have made it clear. There are a couple dancing approaches I have noticed, the one that is way cool is: staying at a respectable distance, making eye contact, dancing and possibly initiating a verbal exchange. Then, there are the: let me get freaky on your leg while I breathe my alcohol saturated breath down your neck and then get pissed off b/c she backs off. This type of approach gives most girls the impression that a man is trying to "hook up".
I'm objecting to the later.
Yes and thank you for reminding me that many men are there to dance also. I too love dancing with a man and enjoy the first.
Thanks for all the feedback.
Rock on! | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 6/22/2008 2:42:47 PM | Like a few other people have stated, how is a man suppose to tell that a woman isn't interested in him before he approaches her. Also if I'm dancing with a woman, I'm not expecting to hook up with her. I'm just reying to have fun. If I do hook up with her, then that is a bonus.
I should have wrote "trying to have fun".
Then, there are the: let me get freaky on your leg while I breathe my alcohol saturated breath down your neck and then get pissed off b/c she backs off. This type of approach gives most girls the impression that a man is trying to "hook up".
I'm objecting to the later.
I can understand why some women would be offended if a man is being too aggressive. However some men will do what you are describing and the woman will still dance with him because she thinks he is attractive. That approach does work sometimes. | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 6/22/2008 3:03:19 PM |
I don't get this. If women are so annoyed and upset about having men approach them and trying to dance with them while they are out with their girlfriends, why don't women just stay at home invite their girlfriends over, have a party and dance the night away there where you don't have to worry about ANY man?
Well, not all women are annoyed about men approaching them. If the guy is polite, it's typically not an annoying circumstance for most women. The women that do get annoyed about men approaching are probably getting annoyed that the men they don't want are the ones doing the approaching. It's seen as an insult and waste of their time.
Some women are only happy with the men they find physically attractive and interesting approaching them while all other men should admire from afar. Girls hanging out at home with no men does happen and is very enjoyable, but admiration from men feels good. It's just that the approaching doesn't feel good for some women if the man doing it isn't one they'd like to get to know better.
I personally am ambivalent about men approaching me in a club since that's not why I'm there. I actually am there for the music and don't dance with men because they often get the wrong idea. Even if there are men that do just want to dance and nothing more, I'd rather not find out the hard way. I'd rather just dance with the people I know.
I think some men approach to dance and some approach because they figure it provides them an opening for more. If you don't want to dance with either, I'd just walk away and dance elsewhere. | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 6/22/2008 3:06:31 PM | That's just plain stupid. Where's your respect?
Regardless of the esteem in which you hold yourself, the reality is, the Lady doesn't want you there. If you don't like it, you can always stay home.
"I don't get this. If women are so annoyed and upset about having men approach them and trying to dance with them while they are out with their girlfriends, why don't women just stay at home invite their girlfriends over, have a party and dance the night away there where you don't have to worry about ANY man?"
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 6/22/2008 3:16:52 PM | having an excess of respect for women is generally an obstacle to being successful with them. they aren't really into the bootlickers or the guys who don't have the marbles to approach out of "respect."
I say **** um if they don't like a reasonable attempt to flirt with them or dance with them. for every couple that throws a hissy fit, one enjoys it for most of us. guys tend to approach women in their own "league" so to speak, most often this is the case.
if all or most of the guys that hit on your are ugly or annoying in your eyes, I have a newsflash. That's who views you as good enough to approach but within their reach. Lots of women walking around believing they are way more attractive than they are whining about why they cant' find any good men. "Good men" by their definition, aren't into them. | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 6/22/2008 3:17:06 PM | Ok... I realize this is ask a guy question but I feel compelled to add my two cents worth...
I absolutely LOVE dancing and I excell at latino dances and belly dancing right now...
I love the art of dance...
Yes, I do go out to clubs to dance and have fun... I will go with girlfriends to dance and I have absolutely no problems to dance with a man who knows how to dance the salsa or sumba or whatever combination... Even if he does not know the steps, I have NO PROBLEM teaching him simple steps... I always make sure to make them look good when they are dancing with me... Boost their confidence and makes them smile. I mean, aren't we all supposed to have some fun ...
See, in dancing, the man is the frame and the woman is the picture. Notice when you see couples ballroom dancing, you "seem" to notice the woman more, but it is the man that orchestrates all the moves... Anyway...
I often find women sooooo up tight...
Oh... a man is appoaching me... He must want to have sex with me...Quick, run away...
Oh please!!!! 
All the men that I dance with have been complete gentlemen and often they will say to me after the music is over...
"Do you mind if I come and get you to dance? You dance well and you understand the way..." I always say that I do not mind at all.
Men have feelings too... It takes guts to go up to a woman... I admire that. I simply refuse to believe that all men that approach me to dance want to have sex with me... I am soooo NOT FULL of myself... I love the fact that men will simply dance alone rather than stay at the bar WANTING to dance but too shy to venture to ask a woman JUST to dance... It is about time...
I will sometimes go up to the man dancing by himself and I will dance with him... They are soooo receptive and it is fun to do... I always have the fear of rejection but I have never been refused so far anyway...
You see, I have travelled a little and in the latino countries, dancing is not seen as a prelude to sex. All love to dance, young, old, men women children... It is just how can I say, it is in their system... I find that most folks in my neck of the woods are sooooo uptight about jiggling the forbidden bits... Let go... Let your body express itself without thinking what others will think... It is soooo liberating!!!
It is now fun to go at the clubs I frequent, I have my "dance" partners and I practically dance all night long...
Without sounding coy. My girlfriends love to come with me now and it is almost guaranteed that we will all dance all night long and have some good clean fun...
Hoping off my soap box now.
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 6/22/2008 3:18:42 PM | That's just plain stupid. Where's your respect?
Regardless of the esteem in which you hold yourself, the reality is, the Lady doesn't want you there. If you don't like it, you can always stay home.
You are missing the point. He didn't say that he was mad because a woman rejected him. He is talking about women who get mad just because some men wanted to dance with them.
It's their bodies and if they don't want you in their space, quit crying about it and find a girl who does.
Once again, I don't think any man on this thread was complaining because a woman didn't want to dance with him. However there is no need for a woman to get angry because a man wanted to dance with her unless he was being a jerk or overaggressive. | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 6/22/2008 3:26:59 PM | | It's their bodies and if they don't want you in their space, quit crying about it and find a girl who does. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2008 3:38:59 PM | ^^^thanks.
I wan't implying men want to have sex with a woman because they want to dance with you... but would most men say no??? | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 6/22/2008 4:31:03 PM | | alot of dance clubs have become pick up spots were people just go to try and get lucky it is the new world order i guess, it sure is hard to find a nice place to go and and dance without lots of drama appearing. | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 6/22/2008 4:58:10 PM |
I wan't implying men want to have sex with a woman because they want to dance with you... but would most men say no???
What a moronic question. That is up to the woman to decide. The ball is in the woman's court, not the man's. It is only your choice if you want to open your legs at the end of the night or 2 or 3 days later. Some men just dance, and then walk away. Some dance and talk to you while they dance. The type of dance has alot to do too, like the poster about Latin dance was saying. Salsa is seen as an art form, not just a dance, and many men dance with women that they are not attracted to, just because they see that they're ( the women) good dancers and just want to have a good dance or show off their skills to their friends. | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 6/22/2008 5:28:21 PM | Do guys think girls go out dancing only to meet and hook up with men? Just wondering what you men are thinking about the whole dancing situation
I get it now: When I see a bunch of girls dancing together; they're in the man hating mode.
Thanks for clearing that up for me.
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 6/22/2008 5:40:51 PM | | Sorry everybody, as apparently "Tracy" is 35 and a smartass so no wonder it happend to her. Please excuse myself as I thought that she was probably 21 from her topic and posts til I read her profile. Thanks. | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 6/22/2008 6:27:43 PM | Travc
Good Lord!!!!
Why do some guys move in [bold] uninvited[/bold] to try and dance with a girl
You dear lady are so correct! -- Those beasts should only dance around the potted plants located in the bar!
Q: You go to dance clubs to . . . . . vote? ~ talk? ~ channel the spirit of John Lennon?
No you go to dance!
Could it be that these horrid males also go to enjoy a sociable evening of dancing?
Do guys think girls go out dancing only to meet & hook up with men?
Are you THAT attractive that you read their dance mouvements as an ancient primal ritual depicting their SECRET hidden LUST for your body?
If that is the case then I must take a better look at your profile photo!
Dance clubs are modern day social settings that enable the public to gather & connect via mouvement (dance). Possibly the men you mention were not aware that they should be there to meditate on life as seems to be the case with yourself! | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 6/22/2008 8:05:47 PM |
why don't women just stay at home invite their girlfriends over, have a party and dance the night away there where you don't have to worry about ANY man
Are you serious,man??..........LOL !
Why dont YOU stay home,so you wont be tempted,or whatever.
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 6/22/2008 9:33:22 PM | If I were you I'd accept a dance with any man that asked. If you are out at a dance club you should expect a man to ask you to dance. Of course you are a jerk to refuse to dance.
By the way, if you are over 30, and have kids, you might want to consider hanging out at parents without partners if you want to meet someone.
Few men want to date women with children, or women who have lost their girlish figures from child-birth, or women who are not interested in giving them the number of children they want.
So what exactly are you doing going to a dance club anyway? Do you want to meet someone or not? Do you think you will find a rich single guy? You might find a homely guy, or a much older guy, that would consider becoming serious with you, if you are very, very, nice to him.. | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 6/22/2008 9:41:43 PM | Normally, I'll only try to rub up on a group of hotties, cause I've had way to much to drink and I'm trying not to get booted out of the bar!!
My two cents! | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 6/22/2008 10:22:54 PM | | I usually try to ask the girl to dance instead of simply trying to jump right in. Of course I usually going swing dancing or ballroom dancing where it's a little harder to dance by yourself, and if someone stands around for long enough they'll be asked to dance. | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 6/22/2008 10:28:44 PM | Wow... what a can of worms.
Didn't realize so many sensitive fish out there.
Yes, I am single because I am 35 with two kids and an ugly smart ass that likes to dance at a club a couple times a month with some friends. I continue to be single because I don't like to dance with drunk guys that only know how to freak you although I should since those are all I will ever attract.
Honestly, you all are good.
I didn't realize some people got their CSI degree from POF?? The judgements are unreal. | |
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