| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 6/22/2008 10:22:54 PM | | I usually try to ask the girl to dance instead of simply trying to jump right in. Of course I usually going swing dancing or ballroom dancing where it's a little harder to dance by yourself, and if someone stands around for long enough they'll be asked to dance. | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 6/22/2008 10:28:44 PM | Wow... what a can of worms.
Didn't realize so many sensitive fish out there.
Yes, I am single because I am 35 with two kids and an ugly smart ass that likes to dance at a club a couple times a month with some friends. I continue to be single because I don't like to dance with drunk guys that only know how to freak you although I should since those are all I will ever attract.
Honestly, you all are good.
I didn't realize some people got their CSI degree from POF?? The judgements are unreal. | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 6/23/2008 3:07:01 AM | Op, I have a question...
What kind of clubs do you go to?
Some places are not high end enough to meet decent people... Men and woman.
There has been an evolution with clubs. It is now more of a socializing place where grown ups can have fun. The clubs I frequent, specializes in latino dances and caribean dances, (socca, etc.) believe me it is awsome to see all kinds of people from all walks of life seriously dance and move in ways where it is mesmerizing.
Yes, there are still places where men go to get drunk and get some sexual gratification.
Those places are not the places to just dance. Honestly, if I met someone where all my hormones would light up like a Christmas tree, I surely would like to get to know him... What is sooooo terrible about that? Some of us need to step down the pedestal entitled, I am better than anyone else in this place and how dare you approach me kind of attitude. All the while, showing cleavage up to your ying yang and whatever women do to get attention...
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 6/23/2008 2:35:47 PM | | women get mad at guys having the gall to try to dance with them because they're not attractive enough. See if a woman gets pissed when somebody who looks like a male model tries to dance with them, and see what happens when George Costanza tries. | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 6/23/2008 5:24:16 PM | tracy....
your coming off as a "man hater". You dont want to be bothered when you go to a dance club?...really?...Im not saying its right for a man to come and hump your leg, but you are in a BAR, with ALCOHOL, and MEN.....and these men are in a bar with other attractive females dancing......
and just to let you know...yes about 80% of the men that go to dance clubs go to get some "action" whatever that may be....
here is something that might suprise you....about 30% of the women go there to get "action"...whatever that may be...here is the difference...another 30% of women go there but to just have fun and get "talked" into some action....
so its not just guys who go there to get some action....
I was a bouncer at a night club for about 3 years...trust me on those numbers | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 6/24/2008 9:18:45 AM | ^^^ I'm not a "man hater" . Thank you though.
Not that I don't want to be bothered, men are not bothersome, when they are respectful. ( I love men!) It's the obnoxious drunk ones, although the drunk part usually explains the obnoxious part.
I understand. Thanks. | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 6/24/2008 9:23:29 AM |
Why do some guys move in uninvited to try and dance with a girl then act like the girl is the jerk for not wanting to dance with them? Do guys think girls go out dancing only to meet and hook up with men? Just wondering what you men are thinking about the whole dancing situation.
this is your original post....nowhere did you say obnoxious drunks....NO GIRL like drunk obnoxious guys...that is obvouis...and you also implied that all guys think that women who go out dancing are there to hook up.....
you have to word it correctly if you expect an honest answer | |
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Posted: 6/24/2008 9:42:53 AM | | As an ex dancer, I won't do it,, I'm a one to one dancer,, javk and jill if you will,, I like the whole floor,, nowadays anyway it seems like the dance floor is just elbows to a*ses without any room to move,, so whats the point of dancing any way,, so men and woman can just jump up on your feet and spill their drinks all over everyone,, yes i live in the country,, so no,, the clubs have their limits, | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 6/27/2008 9:44:38 AM | trayc91007 asked:
Why do some guys move in uninvited to try and dance with a girl then act like the girl is the jerk for not wanting to dance with them? Do guys think girls go out dancing only to meet and hook up with men? Just wondering what you men are thinking about the whole dancing situation.
There used to be this fantastic TV show on the SPIKE Channell which had a group of guys sitting together judging a couple young "pick-up" artists who they send out to a night club on their skills at meeting women.
OMG it was hillarious because you get to see the different pick up techniques at their best (and most often worst).
I was quite impressed to see a young man actually meet attractive, smiling, happy women who were pleased to share company with the man and gave them their phone numbers.
It was revealing.
In answer to your question - I think it's something primal in men that makes them feel like their are out on the hunt for a mate, so we do our little mating dance with it's own ritual to say it's us out there.
http://youtube.com/watch?v=_n2IVF9a2IA | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 6/27/2008 11:56:22 AM | See here's the difference between men and women once again rearing its ugly head.
Women, as a whole, can go out and just 'dance'
I have never, once, ever (without consideration of a homosexual side of this conversation) seen a guy walk up to his friends and say something of the like :
"Dude, tonight... Screw women! Screw trying to pick them up. I just gotta DANCE!"
Men go out to clubs for two reasons. To get drunk/have a good time, to pick up chicks. The first one is a guarantee, the second one is something of a... how can I put this lightly... a challenge?
Mind you just because a guy wants to dance with you doesn't mean he's trying to get you to go home with him. They are, as it is, there to have a good time. Clubs are supposed to be a place everyone comes to relax, dance and party. However, after a guy (or even in some cases a few women I've seen) has a good 5-6 drinks and you decide that the reason you came to the club (dancing) cannot be completed with said drinker - pride gets in the way. Nobody will admit that they're not good enough, it's the world we live in - so yes, blame gets put on the person who says no.
That's life! Now get out there and DANCE! | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 6/27/2008 12:57:04 PM | | In my experience with going out with a group of friends, I may not be looking for a hook up, but I can almost guarantee that someone in the group is. Everyone is there to have a good time and if someone wants to join in on the dance floor, so what. It isn't a marriage proposal and I think it is a little egotistical to think they are out there just for the chance to take you home. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2008 1:28:42 PM | Why do some guys move in uninvited to try and dance with a girl then act like the girl is the jerk for not wanting to dance with them? Do guys think girls go out dancing only to meet and hook up with men? Just wondering what you men are thinking about the whole dancing situation.
If a guy did not move in uninvited, would you notice?
This is one of those things that only a small percentage of guys do, and they do it to every girl.
I am too old to dance. I just kick back with my friends, watch and wait for the girl who is dancing for me. That's how I like it. You got to go to the right club.
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Posted: 6/27/2008 4:45:26 PM | I don't see the big deal.
If a guy comes out and starts to dance with me and my friends or even just grabs my hand and directs me to the floor I go with it. It is just dancing. If I do not want to chat with him after I just thank him for the dance and head to where my friends are or to the bathroom. Only once or twice have I not had the guy understand that I wasn't interested and had to be a bit more direct. Most the time I find that the guys are just out to have fun and dancing is part of it. | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 6/27/2008 4:52:42 PM | Nighclubs are full of tossers & slappers all pretending to be something cooler than what they actually are. Losers.
Will people ever learn?
Lol...
Next,.... | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 6/27/2008 5:27:22 PM |
Nighclubs are full of tossers & slappers all pretending to be something cooler than what they actually are. Losers.
This is a pretty egotistical remark, honestly. Generalizations aren't needed. I've met quite a few good people in clubs, some of which are friends to this day - mind you I've met a few unreal people as well, but you can see those kinds of people out on the street too. :)
Seriously, unless the guy is trying to feel you up what's the harm in a dance? The clubs are for dancing, a guy wants to dance. We're not in a ball room where he has to hold his hand out and ask "Would you care to go around the floor, m'lady?" Heck no! Some bump music comes on, people do their thing and try to mingle! If you're not interested in getting out and meeting other people stay with a group of friends, find a 'Safe Guy' , or just stay out of a place where it's obvious that people are trying to meet, dance and have a good time. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2008 5:32:57 PM | Egotistical? Yes!
True? Absolutely. Nighclubs attract these type of people. period.
Maybe it's a British thing....? | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 7/2/2008 2:23:26 PM | A very wise man said that a gentleman who is worthwhile always waits for the signs - and I have seen it at it's best and it's worst.
Usually we dance a little closer, and then closer and then we catch eye contact, and of course we allow ourselves to believe that she is way more into our dance moves, clothing and cologne whatever so then we strike - we make our move and manuver closer until finally, face to face (or whatever dance move you're pulling off) and if she keeps dancing with us this usually leads into offering of the drink, asking for the number and invitation to meet again...
That's before the 5th gin and tonic of course, while we are still able and willing to look for "the signs".
The type of guy you are referencing who just busts the probverbial unwanted move and launches the full scale attack without proper invitation is either;
1. Inebriated to the degree that he misintepreted the sign;
2. Imagined the sign,
3. Is of the school of thought that he can make the sign happen with his suave and deboner manuvers.
When in doubt, refer to Mackey - see as follows:
http://youtube.com/watch?v=NRcuDz1ZZhw&feature=related | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 2:29:54 PM | | Not that this is the best solution however but it may be a temporary fix...If you wear a ring on your marriage finger then receptive guys will not mistake you for being on the dating scene looking. Some people still view the bar scene as solely for single people to hang out at. Hopefully though eventually guys are able to be less intrusive on a girls night out just to group socialize.... | |
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Posted: 7/3/2008 2:00:18 PM |
Not that this is the best solution however but it may be a temporary fix...If you wear a ring on your marriage finger then receptive guys will not mistake you for being on the dating scene looking. Some people still view the bar scene as solely for single people to hang out at. Hopefully though eventually guys are able to be less intrusive on a girls night out just to group socialize....
Common sense would seem to dictate that if you want to meet a nice guy - go to church. If you want to meet a lot of hot sweaty guys who want to dance in your space and rub on you - go to a night club.
It kind of depends on the club though because cultures differ. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2008 7:33:13 PM | Perhaps the OP was referring more to the men who move in from behind, the side, etc, drunk off their asses and begin humping your leg, grinding into you when you've not even looked at them let alone given them any "signals".
The drunken humper/grinder guys are par for the course in any club tho and usually easy enough to get rid of.
To those who've stated that if it was an attractive guy, the woman would consider it ok, I can tell you, I personally don't. I could care less what he looks like, he doesn't belong invading my space like that and it's really not the norm at the club I go to. At the same time, I accept that it's part of dancing in a club and just let them know it's not ok and then laugh them off to continue enjoying my night.
There's a huge difference tho between the drunken humpers and a guy who respects your space while trying to get in closer to dance with you. When I'm single, if he's respectful and not a humper/grinder, I'll dance with him for a minute or two regardless of what he looks like. I'm not there to meet anyone tho so I'll usually through body language just make it clear that I'm happy dancing alone after that.
I find nothing wrong with a guy doing it as long as he's respectful. Like anything else, if you want to go and do it, you need to accept the good with the bad and just find your way of dealing with it. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2008 7:48:42 PM | This topic is making me giggle because it reminds me of an SNL sketch. 
It's about a lady in a club and men are constantly starting to dance with her, until she is completely surrounded by them and can't escape. | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 7/3/2008 8:37:31 PM | I just bust a move in, lift my kilt and start busting down..
lol
Just watch out for reds elbows and hair...  | |
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