| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 7/3/2008 8:55:44 PM | ROFL, I swear, you're going to get me banned with your kilt talk but I just can't resist....
I'm still surprised you actually had to lift the kilt for the other girls. There's quicker ways to find out if there's anything under.  | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 7/3/2008 8:57:51 PM | | LMAO you can dance uninvited with a guy!! But they usually dont complain.. they just smile and try NOT to spill their drink.. | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 7/3/2008 9:05:05 PM | I may be remembering the skit wrong and it's actually the one with Jim Carrey, Will Ferrel and Chris Kattan dancing around ladies. But I remember it differently.
I could have sworn it was older with Sandler, Farley, Nealon and Schnieder.
I just remember how predatory it made dancing look.
Like vultures slowly looking for an opening and then circling the lady and confusing her. | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 7/3/2008 9:46:31 PM | Your just not attracted to the guys that are moving in on you, or they cant dance or they are too drunk but something is wrong with them. Who said you have to hook up? You cant just dance with a guy without going home with him?
Before you answer this next question answer it as though a lie would kill the person you love the most...........Would you turn down David Beckham or Matthew McConaughey if they came and danced uninvited? | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 7/9/2008 1:55:56 AM | well honestly you shouldnt assume that the guy is trying to get into your pants. maybe he is and maybe hes not trying to score.
i usually just dance with friends of mine, why? because some girls can actually really be snobby towards the guy. A simple no thank you would be fine.
but girls can sometimes just give a dirty look, or turn their backs. body language does say alot.
when i do have a chance to dance with girls, im not looking to "freak" them. Or "grind". My dancing style is different and i keep a distance and dance in front of them with a friendly distance (i hate my personal space being invaded, especially if i dont know the person no matter how hot or cute they are).
Just keep an open mind that when seek a dance partner. Some want sex and some just actually want to have fun, sex isnt always involved.
and some guys actually ask the girls to dance with them instead of randomly dancing with them from behind (LOL ive seen this alot haha).
a simple smile with a nod saying no, would be awesome just in case this happens n the future for those future guy dancers. | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 7/9/2008 3:06:04 AM | I think there's a lession to be learned from all this. Some things you say with a smile, some things you say with a hallmark card and some things you say with a taser. None of which are going to make any sense to me because from what I can tell of dancing in clubs these days it's basically like dry humping anything and everything in sight. If you're in a club dancing, they probably don't know any better. That's why I just stay out.
That and there's always the chance you'll see some guy's junk from under his kilt. | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 7/9/2008 11:37:20 AM | | Some guys are sleazy and can't help themselves, but then again how do they know in advance if you want them too or not? Whenever a women has danced up to me, which is rare btw. I've completely lost all sense of footing and have to dance out the way. Not because I don't like her, but because I find it embarrassing! | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 7/9/2008 12:02:39 PM | OP, methinks you are being disingenuous - I believe the real question you are asking is
"Why do guys I don't find attractive try to dance with me uninvited?"
And also possibly "Why don't guys I DO find attractive NOT try to dance with me uninvited?" - like you'd be offended if they did.
Come on, try and be honest with yourself, and also put yourself in a guys shoes - since when do women generally invite guys (attractive or otherwise) to dance with them in a club? Answer - hardly ever. They (most) want a guy they think is hot with the balls to make a move on them. Some may even get a momentary thrill from the validation (real or othewise) of interest from guys they don't find attractive - unless they think they're all that an a bag of chips, in which case they'd probably be insulted - "like, as IF!!!"
I tell you what, when you are next out just dancing with your girls to have fun and are ready to shoot down Brad Pitt (or whoever's the latest hot Hollywood hunk) when he tries to invade your personal space, why don't you wear a sign saying so?
Sighs - geeze, why did I bother saying that?! | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 7/9/2008 12:29:11 PM |
Come on, try and be honest with yourself, and also put yourself in a guys shoes - since when do women generally invite guys (attractive or otherwise) to dance with them in a club? Answer - hardly ever. They (most) want a guy they think is hot with the balls to make a move on them.
A friend of mine told me recently, "if you have to ask a woman if you can _____, you can't."
More I think about it, more I realize he's right. It's a catch-22, but he's right. You ask, you lack balls, so they say no. You don't ask, you're either suave if they like you or scum if you don't. Either way, that's a 2 out of 3 chance you lose and the one solution involves not doing what they say they want you to do.  | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 7/9/2008 12:56:22 PM | @Coruja... You make a good point...
Come on, try and be honest with yourself, and also put yourself in a guys shoes - since when do women generally invite guys (attractive or otherwise) to dance with them in a club? Answer - hardly ever.
The rest I am not sure I agree with.
I soooo love to dance that I sometimes cannot stand still and I just start dancing at the table I am at... You stand up at the round tables. Chairs are high also, bar chairs... Anyway, all this to say that it does "look" so bad to dance by myself at the tables.
Anyway... You are right... I still have a very very difficult time to ask a man to dance. No, I do not pick the hottest one... I pick the one that "I" like... I always have this weird awkward feeling wondering if he is doing his "good deed" for the evening. I cannot remember if ever I was refused... I think not... Still, I will admit I also rarely refuse but I admit to having done ma "bonne action" also. Know what I mean???
It is all in good fun anyway... I do not see what is the big deal... It is just a dance to a song that lasts maybe 4 minutes or so... It is not a marriage proposal... Geez....
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 7/22/2008 11:33:10 AM | | just relax and have a good time if want to dance alone do it at hme you will not be offended and neither will anybody else be happy someone wants to dance with you. | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 7/22/2008 1:49:02 PM | Something happened to me a couple of weeks ago that I think is relevant, here.
I was out at a club with a bunch of people I knew, as well as a bunch of people they knew that I didn't. One woman arrived late - a rather lovely person who I wanted to introduce myself to. Thing is, she never made herself 'available' to talk to - she made the rounds greeting and hugging everyone she knew, then made a beeline for the dance floor where she bounced between two or three guys that she obviously was friends with. Finally I walked up to a mutual friend while she was talking to him and said to him "Hey man, no one's introduced me to this lovely lady yet, so you get to do it."
He did, I talked to her for about five minutes, then realized she was just simply nodding and smiling until I went away. So, I went away.
The point I'm dancing around is, I think that some guys dance uninvited with girls because some girls just don't take a breather to let themselves be approached. And sure, the ones that do probably don't want to be approached, which is why they do it... but still - you don't really know until you try, do ya. I could've spent the entire night wishing I'd talked to her, or I could have gotten it over with. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2008 5:51:47 PM | | I agree with wonka, but also I think thatguys are just out there to have fun too. Just because a guy wants to dance with you doesn't mean he's trying to hook up. We're all just having a good time, whats the problem with dancing with someone other than your friends for a change. for all that you could have stayed home, turn up the volume on the radio and dance the night away at HOME. Wow, I don't get why some girls just turn away guys at the club and prefer to stay on the wall and not dance at all let alone with just their friends. | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 7/22/2008 5:59:54 PM | If she's polite about it, then it's the guy's problem. If she isn't polite about saying no, then she's been rude. How would you like it if you asked a guy to dance and he just ignored you?
Other people are just as important as you. Some may be ambulance drivers. Others may be counsellors in their spare time, who save people from suicide. Treat others with respect, and that is what you will receive. | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 7/25/2008 11:51:25 AM | This just happens to be one of my specialities. It's best when you have a wingman and you're best to approach a group of 3 or more ladies (because both guys have to be in there for it to work) and then THEY have options regarding who to dance with. I suspect it plays out better for us 20 somethings, but it isn't written in stone. It's pretty obvious if a woman does/doesn't want to dance with you. And as someone else mentioned, it is usually very loud in the bar which typically makes for a difficult pick-up but when your dancing up behind a woman you're in perfect ear speaking position.
P.S. This is my first Reply, though i've been on fishbook for some time now. lol | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 10:52:42 AM | | Honestly most guys dont go out to a dance club to just dance. When was the last time you heard a straight guy say "I just want to dance" when it was not in a comedy?? Lets face it there aren't many places where you go and see a dance floor with nothing but straight men. Now there are times that guys do go out to dance with the hope of getting something more but who are content to well just dance with a woman. Ive done it many times and well there are times that I have gone out seen the field and just had fun on the dance floor not that I can dance anyways. NOW in true defense of guys who just come up and dance with a girl because honestly I have done it myself a couple of times. Its pretty hard when your in the middle of a club dance floor where the music is litteraly vibrating your bones apart where holding ANY form of a conversation is impossible. Its a meat market take the good times with the bad sorry.. You could always stop assuming that every guy that comes up to dance with you is going to hit you over the head with a beer bottle and drag you home. Dance with him if you want and if he asks if you want to leave with him say I'm sorry no. | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 7/26/2008 11:11:50 AM | I dance when I feel like it. Dance floor, Kareoke, Witness Stand, etc.
Not all guys are dancing because they want to f& *k you. You probably have a real hot friend. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2008 4:08:54 PM |
Why do some guys move in uninvited to try and dance with a girl then act like the girl is the jerk for not wanting to dance with them? Do guys think girls go out dancing only to meet and hook up with men?
Now I know I'm totally old and out of touch.
Either that or money.
So I'm reading what you wrote and I'm thinking, "Did the guy get up on stage with her? Where was the bouncer?"
But I can see you are not that kind of girl.
So this was in an dancercise class?
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 7/26/2008 4:19:29 PM | Or was it a ballet?
I mean, seriously, in my whole life only one female stranger has ever asked me to dance. In my experience, women rarely invite strange men to dance. The man invites the woman, and if she is already dancing, he asks permission to dance with her.
If he touched you without permission, I'd be upset. | |
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Posted: 8/18/2008 2:29:43 PM | Some of us just love the music and have to dance to it.....so we have a couple of options:
1. Stand at our table or bar stool and move with the music - alone
2. Go out on the dance floor and dance with whatever group is there
3. Ask a woman to dance and get turned down again and again and again
So how do I get to dance? How about I ask the guy on the bar stool next to me??? How about we assume all the women who refuse to dance with us but dance with their girlfriends must be lesbians - seems fitting!!!!!  | |
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Posted: 8/18/2008 4:53:40 PM | | You can always bring your guy friends and dance with them. I wouldn't suggest bumping and grinding with them since that would definitely send the wrong message. Still, there's nothing wrong with getting up with some friends and enjoying the music. | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 8/18/2008 8:09:31 PM | "Do guys think girls go out dancing only to meet and hook up with men? "
If it looks like a duck, walks like a duck and quacks like a duck...yeah....it's a duck.
By duck I mean visible cleavage, short skirt, tight clothes...makeup.
Still, no one likes an asshole pushing up on a woman relentlessly...but just trying to dance with a girl?...there's nothing wrong with that. It's up to the girl at that point to be gracious in her denial/acceptance...it's her role in a civlized mating environment.
Your welcome. | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 8/18/2008 9:43:40 PM | From what I can see, most girls, tend to go to clubs to find guys. They may say "I just want to dance" but come on, we all know that is hidden code for, I want to find a guy to dance with.
Some guy is moving into your circle, and you say no or send the signal, no, then, well, what would you expect from him? You are out with your friends, perhaps just to dance, but most guys know or believe that most girls are out to meet people, because, if you weren't out to meet people, you'd be with that person you are with.
I hate clubs, for more reasons than that (the other being I hate waiting in line just to pay a ridiculous cover). If you really just want to dance, then try a lesbian club. Won't have problems with any guys there, lol. Or heck, even the local senior citizens center.. | |
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| Guys dancing uninvited with girls
Posted: 8/19/2008 12:56:50 AM | | If all you wanted to do was dance you would so in your basement. You go to a bar for other reasons. You are lying to yourself if you superficially believe that to be false. | |
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