| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 6/26/2008 8:13:04 PM | I think I am not too picky here BTC, post 51. Anything wrong in being careful about what a person wants?and also isn't it the inside that counts right? Anyway, I was told by someone that I have to kiss 1,000 frogs before I meet my prince. I have kissed a few frogs already now I want to meet my prince. No, I didn't get any warts. | |
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 6/27/2008 2:28:14 PM | This or any internet site is pretty much the same as in real life I find.
You get the guys bombarding the women with EM's which they usually
ignore because they are too nervous to respond.
You might get the odd connection here and there but they are few and far between.
So I say just have fun on the forums and forget about the rest of the site. | |
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 6/27/2008 4:25:19 PM | ditto what Steed said
I'm just on here to have some fun in the forums and at the get-togethers
I enjoy meeting people, and if I have a connection with anyone off of here, then that's a bonus. But I'm not holding my breath to find the perfect mate for me.
At least I've made a bunch of new friends out of this | |
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 6/29/2008 3:20:44 AM | | I thought I was being too picky, and was starting to think that maybe I was passing up really great guys that I should give a little more time to get to know...but then I dated a guy I was really attracted to, both mentally and physically, (almost forgot what it was like, it's been so long) and it feels so much better than meeting the other guys. There is really no comparison. And there's no controlling it either. You just either have chemistry with someone or you don't. Neither of you can force it. So while that didn't work out in the end, at least I'm reminded that it can still happen for me, and that I was right to pass up the others. So I don't think people are too picky in general. When it's right, it is obvious. And it's worth waiting for. | |
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 8/25/2008 8:35:01 PM | i think many are too picky.. the "candy store " approach to dating doesn't work...
i used to host n go to all the event's.. but it's sooooooooooo not the same..u couldn't pay me to attend now...
time for a reunion of us pof sista's n brotha's sooooooooon...from 2005... | |
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 8/25/2008 8:52:23 PM | Considering that I would like to meet someone for a long term relationship as my profile states and given the fact that I have children, I'm damn picky.......
Have absolutely no intention of going out with or spending time with someone that I don't feel comfortable with or would in some way not be suitable to be near my children. Besides, this is not the whole world in here. It is possible to meet someone not on POF!!! Wow , what a concept... Options where I might meet someone are varied, who I would like is not so varied.
Seems to me some people are thinking that this is the only place to find a partner. Hello , try real life at some point and keep your options open. | |
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 8/25/2008 8:57:10 PM | Picky vs selective. After all we're not all from the same walk of life. And when you put everyone into the same basket and there just happens to be some bad ones in that basket you are going to see people go in one of two directions. Either you're going to blend an assimilate or you are going to leave, or sit way in the back.
What was it I put in the heading of my profile??? "Just looking for ONE good apple."
Yes I am selective. Still. Y? Because I know what's in the bars. | |
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 8/25/2008 9:01:50 PM | Some people just don't know what they want yet and they may come across as picky.
There are some pretty smart, funny and decent people on this site. Hey, I'M here, y'know?! | |
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 8/25/2008 9:47:01 PM | When I type in my search area, I get a choice of about 600 options...that, in of itself,is a little over whelming! If we are picky ,thats the reason why,sometimes! If we had only 300,would it be easier? no!.......there have been many studies on attraction and brain chemistry done but no conclusions yet.......When you meet someone and are immediately attracted....thats only the first step!...Personally,I only feel that once or twice a year!( narrows it down,ha)..after that , its ethics,morals,faith,hope,trust....yikes!.....Making friends and realising that this is a LONG process is the only way through.......unless ,you are the froggy in the pond..lilypad to lilypad! Blech......I read somewhere that it would be nice if everyone could wear status t-shirts..."single and looking",married and looking" divorced and scared",etcetcetc.........but then,the mystery?and people wearing the wrong shirt?oh well, it was a nice little fantasy...for a second!.....be picky,but be weary of guarded and jaded!......... | |
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 8/26/2008 12:05:54 AM | I think there is a difference.
There is picky type A:
They know what they want in a possible mate and best friend, what they are not willing to put up with and what they are attracted to. Simple enough really if you look at the entire picture and the ones in type A do that.
Type B:
They believe they know what they want and a lot of it is based on an ideal person that does not exist. They look on here for the ideal man or woman and base it on the miniscule information they see and read. If it's not what they want to see they "read delete" or "unread delete" after just looking at your profile .
These are not people you want to be with anyways OP as the have no time for real individuals.
They look at a small part of the picture and make a judgement.
There seems to be fewer and fewer people who really know what they want and are willing to take the time to see the whole picture but then again this is the internet where anyone can be anythng they are not. | |
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 8/26/2008 9:04:08 AM |
time for a reunion of us pof sista's n brotha's sooooooooon...from 2005..
yep ^^^^^ get some of the oldies but goodies together again its been a way to long...lets do it!!!! | |
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 8/26/2008 9:11:50 AM |
We spend too much time trying to find the perfect lover
instead of making the perfect love.......
It's not what you show on the outside that makes you beautiful
it is what shines from within that makes you appealing....
^^^^^^^ Splendid, very well said..so true! | |
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 9/3/2008 10:37:53 PM | Cancerian women on POF are too picky
I'm a Scorpio and in theory everything I've read about Cancer women sounds like they are the right type for me, however... cracking that shell is a pain! So far, most won't come out unless the perfect man comes along.... I guess I have to work on being perfect then but that could take awhile 
In all seriousness , so far the astrology stuff has been completely wrong for me but it's fun to put it to the test :) | |
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 9/4/2008 10:29:58 PM | | Maybe the person who thought they were way too picky was going out of their league for dates and being rejected. If you look beyond your scope your going to be unaccepted thus seeming the people are being too picky which in reality if you were in their league they might have been attracted to you. I don't seem to be having any problems but I know my limitations and expectations thats a fact of life. | |
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 9/5/2008 3:39:00 PM | | No, I don't think people are too picky on POF. I think attraction is a requirement for a romantic relationship. I haven't really heard of any couple where there was great chemistry and attraction between the two of them, and someone bailed because the other person didn't match their ideal checklist. More often, what happens, is a woman is very attracted, gets attached, and makes all sorts of compromises on what she needs, or how she is treated. I think often the "too picky" accusation comes when someone they like rejects them because they weren't attracted. And I'm sorry that happened, but that doesn't mean the person is picky. Attraction is not really optional. | |
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 9/10/2008 1:17:16 AM | | I want to tell a story about what happened to me. I was the ultimate in picky. I would meet someone and if he was not perfect in my "oh so humble opinion" I would say that we were not a match. Then I met Max. Max sent me pictures of himself , him on his bike his airplane , we talked and E-mailed for a month. I was captivated by him. He lived in another city and we decided I would go visit. We were both excited to meet. I booked into a hotel and because we were no longer strangers I agreed to meet him in my room. When he arrived I did not recognize him from his pictures, he was someone who I would have rejected in my "pickyness". His photos were at least 10 years old. It turned out that we really enjoyed each others company and had a great time together. I came home and decided that I would no longer make these snap decisions and not judge every book by its cover. I have not had a chance to try out my new found wisdom, but I am sure I will be a better person than before. Thank-you Max for that lesson and your great company. This was not a security issue as that part was covered. | |
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 9/10/2008 7:59:00 PM |
We spend too much time trying to find the perfect lover
instead of making the perfect love.......
I like this...makes perfect sense to me....
I think finding great love...is finding your very best friend.
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 9/11/2008 9:02:39 PM | Who cares what people think about others profiles and what they are looking for on POF... this is not like a cell where you can't get out and smell the roses or see the sun..
there is a world out there and those that think they need to find someone on here or else need a wake up call... There is a world out there, this is just a one in a million chance that things click!!
Can't believe there is so much discussion regarding profiles...to some it seems like an obsession...
P.S. of course I'm picky, I like to pick on ML | |
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 9/13/2008 1:42:18 AM | | I've met two people from POF so far...definately not here to NOT meet people. I've tried conventional ways of meeting guys, and it just isn't happening for me....so I decided to try something new. | |
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 9/15/2008 11:03:07 AM | | Just as picky here as I am in life. It's about knowing what you want and not wasting yours and others people's time if you're not really into them. I wouldn't want anyone to waste my time. | |
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| Do you think people are too picky on pof
Posted: 9/15/2008 3:35:32 PM | Not sure if it can be counted as picky but just describing the content of their lives and what is important for them. Think a combination of being settled in routines, friends and family obligations makes it more difficult for two people to connect...
It's the profiles that say that they are very busy and list of all the activities their work and at the bottom they insert" but I might or could make time for you " that make me wonder if they have time for anyone at all. I wouldn't wanted to feel like a 2 hour activity slotted into someones very busy life....mind you I am good at giving presentations... he he he | |
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