| Dating more than one person....
Posted: 6/23/2008 9:45:37 PM | I like getting to know a person a bit before I can date them and at that point I want to give them full attention. I need to be mentally attracted otherwise I will no be interested with looks they fade. I am not a good juggler and never had to try.
A radio host Wendy Williams once said hey its dating your suppose to explore your options. Otherwise it would nt be dating and futhermore how do you know whoes best for you if you dont give yourself options 1st.
Had me wondering after hearing that. | |
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| Dating more than one person....
Posted: 6/23/2008 11:16:29 PM | Only in the last few years have I even considered dating more than one person at the same time.......I always thought of it as wrong in some way.....then I realized after talking to many people that this seems to be the way of things today....still even today I feel the need to let someone know if I'm dating anyone else so at least they know where they stand.....I'd hate for anyone to have their feelings hurt because of me. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2008 11:29:47 PM | | Klopper maybe your reading only what you want. My profile does nt say I date multiple people it says I take my time and with the right person I would be wanting to share my time NEVER does it say lots of men. It also clearly reads I am 1 person and only 1 person will be for me. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2008 10:30:36 PM | | Nooooooo....you said once you date a person, you give HIM your full attention. Then you quote Wendy and decide that dating is for exploring options(men) yet your profile is only about dating one man again. | |
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| Dating more than one person....
Posted: 6/25/2008 7:19:15 PM | | Call me a dork but I wouldn't be able to keep things straight if I was trying to juggle two men, my career and my family. How do people do that? | |
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Posted: 6/25/2008 7:54:17 PM | | I "juggle" them the same as my female friends, but then again I don't date on a mission to mate or marry. I date just for the company and someone to do things with. | |
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| Dating more than one person....
Posted: 6/25/2008 8:33:01 PM | Do it. Just be honest with him/her.
Simple as that.
I date more than one person at a time.
All i have to do.. is be Honest about it. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2008 11:33:56 PM | true it may be hard to date just one person, but if the love is truly there, then there shouldn't be talk of dating more than one person..i thought i couldn't do it, my logest relationship was 7 yrs..would have been alot longer than that if she wasn;t the one going off behind my back..if you are dating more than one person your not rrally being honest with yourself..evn if you had two different significant others..how can you start anything and have real emotion in all your choices..in other words it will be quite difficult to look one person in the eyes tell them "i love you" only to mean it to the other person.. or its like talking on the phone with your true "true love" and ****ing the ***hole who makes u feel like shit..your seeing the ***hole and putting that intense love into the wrong person...im sure most of you get what im talking about...these ***hole males really ****s it up for the nice guys trying to have a long term type of relationship..thats what im lookin for...everyone deserves to be happy, they deserve to be loved by that special someone, their soul mate..everyone deserves to have that forever kinda love in their hearts...the feeling is one of the most pieceful feelings i ever had the oppertunity to feel...so is it good to date more than one person.. in my oppinion i say no.. your not giving yourself the chance to grow and to experiance this person you cherish and love, their true hearts their true love..opening up and giving in to chance, you will find that in the end it is the nicest guy to finish last..i have waited in that line b4... i am tired of the drama as well as all of you are..ill know it when i find my one and only....i can feel she's out there, and she's very close...its just what i feel..i could be wrong and she could come to me 5 yrs down the road.. or even 10 yrs.. but i will find her and i will give her that fairy tale life that she dreamed of as a lil grrl..i will give her heart the most gentlest, lightest caress, i would give her a feeling of silk brushed across her naked skin, watch her body shudder in a tickling sensation..holy shit.. i need to write a book.. :)
- The Necromantic Vampirerotica | |
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| Dating more than one person....
Posted: 6/27/2008 5:12:44 PM | | I think both men and women do alot of this because they are looking for this perfect thing (which usually doesn't even exist) and until they find it they must shop all. There was some article somewhere that said that men are lining up their next four women after they get done with the one they are with. So they are doing this all the while they are "with" one. It happens both in person and on the net, but on the net it makes you feel more like you are just getting the "leftovers" because you didn't meet the person first or whatever. I had a fish tell me that he felt like he was "standing in line at the dept of motor vehicles" which is notorious for long lines. I told him that it was true. I've known guys who had to keep looking and looking and looking. I suppose they are still looking. Well, so are most/all of the women they skipped by. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2008 5:17:22 PM | | i've been in "poly" relationships before. But they never ended well and never lasted very long. Now that I'm older I'm only interested in finding that one person to be with. I think in the beginning, it's good to meet several fishes and date casually - but once you find someone you click with, that's it. I'd rather be with my best friend for the long haul, than have a bunch of meaningless affairs with different men at the same time. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2008 5:27:50 PM | I'm glad you posted this. Not sure if it's because I married so young and got used to monogamous relationships so early on or what but I've never really understood dating multiple people if you are interested in one.
If I feel enough to kiss him or want to get to know him better, why keep trying out others? Now I'm starting to wonder if people who do date a few people have less of a risk of getting hurt by one tho?
Very curious on other's opinions on it. | |
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| Dating more than one person....
Posted: 6/28/2008 5:33:34 PM |
If I feel enough to kiss him or want to get to know him better, why keep trying out others? Now I'm starting to wonder if people who do date a few people have less of a risk of getting hurt by one tho?
I feel the same way. I'll casually date multiple people and clearly I'm not going to be physical with most of them but once a woman races to the front I'm going to spend as much time with her as I can. I know the deal going in..when I'm dating and the calls and attention fall off I know she's likely found a guy she wants to devote more time to.
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| Dating more than one person....
Posted: 6/28/2008 10:27:03 PM |
im talking about seriously investing yourself into a relationship with more than one person at a time..... how do you do that??
I don't consider just dating as "seriously investing yourself into a relationship." Dating to me is just getting to know one another and seeing if the person is worth a more serious investment. If they are, then I quit looking elsewhere. If we are just dating, then it's not that serious. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2008 12:28:39 AM | have two on the go, I treat than like 7up never have never will
if you need to be dating 2 women at the same time, something is lacking in you or them ?? | |
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Posted: 6/29/2008 7:19:08 AM | I did try dating more then one man at a time... it just does not work for me...
So I guess I will stick to the date see where it goes... then try, try again method...
I it is how I would like to be treated. Knowing that the man I am interested in is possibly kissing another lady makes me uncomfortable.
~Charmed~ | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 6:13:04 PM | I've been in both positions. I've met a couple of guys that I would have committed to if they wanted that and I've met guys that want that from me. Unfortunately, it hasn't worked where we both want that yet.
I'm always honest...if asked. I don't think it's anyone's business until you've been on quite a few dates. How many? I don't know...I just know I know when I'd be ready to commit to someone.
So far, I have not been able to say I'd commit to anyone who hinted about it. Those relationships have faded out but I think it's better than lying.
Now if I could just find that feeling with someone who wants the same thing with me. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 8:15:12 PM | Anyone else think that the internet dating phenomenum has created the multiple dating scenario..?? It seems that dates are easier to get online and people are able to pick new dates and discard old ones quite easily.
When I was a lad, dating was the face to face kind of deal and one date a t a time was so much more the norm. Besides, going to the same places, you would be busted if you had 2 dates going on at the same time..!!
Dave. :) | |
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| Dating more than one person....
Posted: 7/2/2008 8:35:41 AM |
Anyone else think that the internet dating phenomenum has created the multiple dating scenario..??
I don't think it is the only reason. I think it creates a new avenue for people to be able to do this but I think if you're not one to commit then it doesn't really matter.
When I was younger...it was not hard to meet people. Until I decided to commit - I always had many dates.
It was actually easier to meet and date someone because the first meet was already done. Online - it seems like it takes forever to meet someone and then the chances of both people feeling any chemistry and circumstances being good for more dates seem almost impossible. | |
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| Dating more than one person....
Posted: 7/2/2008 8:39:55 AM | After having been married 13 years 2 the WRONG person... i think dating more then one person is IMPORTANT !!!
of course "relationship" and "dating" to me are two different things......
I wouldnt call it "playing the field"... i'd call it being single!
I also think too many people give thier "dates" the same rights as they would a spouse.... heck thats why marriages don't work... you can't tell the difference anymore. | |
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| Dating more than one person....
Posted: 7/2/2008 10:03:21 AM | | I can only date one person at a time... multiple people just isn't for me... I want to get to know a person without the conflict of trying to get to know others at the same time. | |
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