| How to convince a mature woman
Posted: 6/23/2008 10:59:39 AM |
I don't think you can. If a woman isn't interested in you because of your age, then she would probably reject you right away
^^^Thats pretty much it.
Guess Im an older woman to the 20ish guys.
Im just not interested in them. Full stop. Even at 30 Im not interested in them.
There's absolutely no way to convince me otherwise. | |
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| How to convince a mature woman
Posted: 6/23/2008 11:01:48 AM |
How to convince a mature woman that you are serious and not a gamer?
Don't post a picture of yourself in your Master Cheif outfit!
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| How to convince a mature woman
Posted: 6/23/2008 1:20:45 PM | You look great Loz Hunter so I dunno what your talking about. 
OP how old are you talking? I guess you could always grow yourself a beard and dye it grey then walk with a caine. Take a picture and send her a message with it saying, "how about now?"  | |
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| How to convince a mature woman
Posted: 6/23/2008 1:41:34 PM | | I'm not sure what you are asking, if you are hitting on a woman who isn't taking you seriously, then move on to those who do. I don't date younger men myself so no I don't respond to them, not to be rude, but because I'm not interested, so maybe that's what you are running up against? Lots of older women date younger men so you shouldn't have too much trouble. Is this post about one person in particular or just older women in general? | |
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| How to convince a mature woman
Posted: 6/23/2008 1:51:49 PM | You're 32 from your profile so you are not that young. Now if the woman is much older, I can see where there might be a few problems. If the woman is question is under 45, I don't see where there would be conflict. Older than 45, she might think you will want kids and all you want is sex for the moment. I would be cautious with you too if that is the case.
I have seen a few May-December romances go belly up due to inability to have children. The younger guy says it does not matter and later his biological clock ticks (men have them too) and the marriages go bust. | |
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| How to convince a mature woman
Posted: 6/23/2008 2:14:51 PM | big girls want big boys...
they have already raised their children -now she feels its time for her needs to be taken care of... | |
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| How to convince a mature woman
Posted: 6/23/2008 4:31:23 PM | OP I do not know why you are asking this question and I could give you some advice as to a few changes in your profile to appeal to the older woman, but I am not.
Thing is relationships I have seen that have worked between people of different generations have done so for a reason, that reason being that particular couple are in tune with one another.
They move through life at the same pace, they have had so many hurts along the way that what they are looking for in a partner is a match.
Also they have known one another long enough before getting together to know the other is not a player, that is friends first.
I have had some girl friends where an age difference did not matter, and it is because we were friends first then dated, with no thought of age. As in our heads we were the same age.
And do not think about lying on your profile about your age, because as soon as you meet you will be blown out, and peeps will wonder what else you are lying about.
Plus and this is just a thought, you say on your profile
Yes, I have a pic :) But it's difficult to imagine building serious relationship with a woman for whom "your pic" is the most important question
Well fellow Poffer it is hard for most people to imagine starting a relationship with someone they have never seen, unless said person is blind, we are all shallow in the sense we need to have some attraction to the person who will be sharing our pillow in the mornings. | |
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| How to convince a mature woman
Posted: 6/23/2008 4:34:54 PM |
How to convince a mature woman that you are serious and not a gamer?
I see some women look at man's age and say "No, you can't be serious. You are too young."
Sometimes I feel as if I were hitting the wall with my head.
Spank her playfully on the @$$ and call her "schnookums". | |
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| How to convince a mature woman
Posted: 6/23/2008 5:12:36 PM | | Here's an idea....let her decide....relax and be yourself, if there is a problem, she'll let you know. | |
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| How to convince a mature woman
Posted: 6/23/2008 5:13:36 PM | | Women used to have a lot more influences telling them they are not supposed to be attractive after a certain age (approx 40) as when they are younger (whereas men are told they get better with age - not so sure about that) but anyway, some women are deeply programmed to believe you couldn't possibly seriously want them because of course you MUST prefer younger over older. I've met several men 10 - 15 yrs younger than me that say they are honestly attracted to more mature than youthful women and I believe them and - no they were not boyfriends, so they had no agenda with me. Maybe it's time she realised youth isn't all it's cracked up to be and women are attractive at ALL ages just as men can be. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2008 5:19:12 PM | | I do think its odd to so strictly limit yourself to older women, but theres def nothing wrong with it. Ok, so if im the older lady what would it take.....Ok, I think GTOmustang hit something- most people can tell, you can see what someone is about and sense intentions usually if your sensible. So, there is most likely something about you that is making them feel like you are not serious. But outside of that, If I was the older lady I think it would take you just being confortable and confident in what you want enough to talk about it. I can listen to you words and hear you and see you and tell if your full of shit of not. So if you can talk openly about whats important to you that would go a long way. Now, If a woman says, what you cant be serious and your response is as vague as what you gave DOT: "its what I prefer," i think youre running into a big problem there. It sounds as if you dont even know why you want it, so youve probably got to define that first. Good Luck. | |
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| How to convince a mature woman
Posted: 6/23/2008 5:55:02 PM | | Don't make false promises. Keep your word. If you make a date, show. If you say you're going to call - call her. Just be honest and keep making the effort. If later on down the road she still has trust issues, then you'll have to decide whether you want to keep persuing a relationship that may not go anywhere. | |
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| How to convince a mature woman
Posted: 6/23/2008 6:20:55 PM | I have been attracting younger men lately.. I dated a man a little while who was 8 years younger than me.. he was a hotty and he let me know that he thought I was hot too!!! He was a mature man.. who was a good worker.. knew how to take a lady out on a date (he didn't control but knew when to take charge and when to let me be in charge).. he was also a good dad.. providing for his children and involved in their lives. Didn't gripe about ex wife..was steady.. and dependable.
Currently I am talking with and considering meeting a man who is 13 years younger than me.. He seems very sweet and what impressed me was that he is a hard worker and a good father.. he provided for his children. He is steady and consistant.
Mature women want to see maturity in a man... and maturity doesn't always come with age.. you can be young and mature... you can be old and be a baby.
So if you want to impress this lady.. be a man.. not a horny dog.. not a party animal who is stuck on himself.. but a man.. who knows how to savor the male /female dynamic.. who is willing to lead by example.. who values the time he spends with her and is grateful that a fine lady would consent to spend time with him.. who quietly looks after the lady.. opens doors.. DOESN'T EYE ALL THE YOUNG SEXY CHICKS when he is with her, focuses his attention on her.
You do that dearie and I promise you she will believe you. | |
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| How to convince a mature woman
Posted: 6/23/2008 7:11:00 PM | OP - if a fella isn't brave enough to post his current picture on this website, why would a woman be "convinced" to meet him? If you're a 32 year old fella and are looking for a 50+ something woman, lots of luck.
The older dames aren't stupid, they won't put up with crap. I suggest you watch "Fried Green Tomatoes", it's the oldie vs. the young thing. They've got a whole lot of lifes experiences under their belt. Remember, actions speak louder than words. If she's really the right woman for you AND you are the right man for her, there is no need to "convince". | |
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| How to convince a mature woman
Posted: 6/23/2008 8:44:29 PM | Did it ever occur to you that maybe they just aren't interested in men that much younger than themselves, and there's nothing you can do to change that?
Stop banging your head and look for someone your own age, or look for older women who are looking for younger men.
If she expresses that she's not interested/attracted to someone younger, then leave her alone and don't try to figure out a way to worm your way around her preferences. It's not about YOU, it's about preferences, and maybe you just don't fit hers. | |
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| How to convince a mature woman
Posted: 6/23/2008 8:46:11 PM | | Kyn, you expressed my feelings exactly. I have a son who will be 19 soon, I have no interest in a guy in his 20's...the thought of that just skeeves me, and there's nothing he can do or say to make me feel differently. | |
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| How to convince a mature woman
Posted: 6/23/2008 9:14:58 PM | | I agree with OBXchick,I've had young guys approach me and i feel like there is no way I could possibly see anyone who is close to my sons age ,what would my kids think of me? I think this is just a temporary thing that will just be something you'll look on later and be glad nothing happened . | |
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| How to convince a mature woman
Posted: 6/23/2008 10:20:13 PM | Thanks for your opinions. I wrote "convince" but maybe "convince" is not exactly a right word. When they see I am 32, the red light turns on to them. Sometimes this red light shines too much - they don't see a little green light. I think maturity is not strictly connected with age. TxSippiGal says right: "you can be young and mature... you can be old and be a baby".
WarmthNpassion, We are talking about 12 years and more.
OBXchick, of course I don't expect all older women want younger men. I think there should be at least 1 :)
daynadaze, I think we are talking rather about older women in general. | |
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| How to convince a mature woman
Posted: 6/23/2008 10:53:42 PM | | I agree w/you Obsidian the observation of her needs and wants and 'takin care' of the little things too does make an impact-right on | |
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| How to convince a mature woman
Posted: 6/24/2008 1:09:15 AM | | Ah this has been a new situation for me also. There have been several younger males in their 30's and 40's who have emailed me. I tend to discourage them very politely but this would be a brand new experience for me. Probably wouldn't mind robbing the cradle but don't to build one. | |
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| How to convince a mature woman
Posted: 6/24/2008 1:40:02 AM | OP on reading the replies since my last post, I would say that the ladies are telling you how to "convince" a woman of any age, that you are serious about that particular woman.
As for the ones that say no thanks off the cuff, they are probably doing it for the same reasons I have turned down women in your age group, in theory they could be friends with my daughters, and it is not something I want.
I do however want some one who has the same maturity as I see in my self, and yet as much of a big kid at the same time. Who shares my sense of humour (such as it is), who wants to go the same places in life as I do.
If you take the time to look around you, you could find some one in your own age group who has seen a lot more of life than most would wish to see by 30 and have the maturity you find desirable in an older woman.
I have had the pleasure of making friends with women who are younger than me, because they have seen a lot more of life. We have also become friends because I treated them with the respect we all want for our selves. | |
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| How to convince a mature woman
Posted: 6/24/2008 3:17:50 AM | I really agree with what your saying....
but most woman are all the same and looking for whos the best match that they can feel most secure and comfortable around...
age is really nothing but a number but it is something that you can look at as a experience and maturity issue.... | |
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| How to convince a mature woman
Posted: 6/24/2008 5:51:30 AM | Well I don't care how young or how old they are when a man ACTS like a man (not a boy) THAT is a turn on.
Like the Tim McGraw song "Baby I'm a real bad boy... but Baby I'm A Real Good Man".
Seeing the boy can be fun .. but it is that man we are looking for every time. I think the boy is what draws us to him.. but it is the man who keeps us. | |
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| How to convince a mature woman
Posted: 6/24/2008 5:54:50 AM | well said AND I know I'm going to get that too short message banner.
Sometimes just a few words are better than a lot. Lots of time I use lots of words but darn it when I want to be brief, I want to be brief. | |
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