| Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts.
Posted: 6/24/2008 6:30:20 AM | | The OP needs to stick to places where the place is so packed that what passes for dancing is standing on the dancefloor shuffling your feet and pumping your fists in the air, preferably with the same hand which is holding your bottle of beer. No fancy twirling and/or dipping there. | |
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| Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts.
Posted: 6/24/2008 6:40:02 AM | The way a person dances tells you a lot about what it would be like to be with them. I have danced with two ladies in my life that were so good at it that it really did not matter that I had no idea what I was doing. One taught me the polka in five minutes and I thought it was so easy and fun until I tried it with another partner. The other lady made it even simpler. I told her I am not that much of a dancer and she just told me to forget about dancing and just feel the music. I felt like Lois Lane flying with Superman in the movie, knowing that someone far superior to me was making this happen but it still felt so effortless and natural that I will never forget it.
Funny thing, I married two ladies that could not stand to dance with me because it was so awkward and difficult. Maybe there is a lesson there. | |
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| Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts.
Posted: 6/24/2008 7:03:26 AM | I would just tell him that, although ballroom dancing is probably a lot of fun *for him*, I've never been to dance classes, and would prefer not to be "taught" on a social dance floor. The guy would be better off, and probably happier, if he sought out dance partners who shared his dance style, rather than trying to teach it to random people he meets somewhere along the line.
And I did go out with someone who'd taken swing dance classes, and tried to teach me how to do it on a dance floor. He was a great dancer, and I felt badly that I couldn't just pick it up and join him...but he was out of my league and I just felt awkward and clumsy trying to follow him. I explained that I love to just "move to the music" that I feel, but when I was trying to concentrate so hard on something I didn't know how to do, it just wasn't any fun for me. I wasn't really interested in taking dance classes, so eventually he just met someone who was, they took the classes together (though they were more like a refresher course for him), and they make a marvelous looking couple on the dance floor. They looked like they were having so much fun that it made me have second thoughts about taking dance classes...but that's as far as it went for me, lol. Just second thoughts, no classes  | |
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| Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts.
Posted: 6/25/2008 5:39:39 AM | Have you ever watched old people dance? They know what theyre doing....and look great doing it!
Take it as a compliment...be gracious....he asked you to dance! | |
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| Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts.
Posted: 6/25/2008 9:28:42 AM | "Take it as a compliment...be gracious....he asked you to dance!"
??? Is he going to take it as a compliment if I say yes?
Just because someone asks you to dance, doesn't mean you owe them!
I will never forget the great Latin dancer who was sweating like mad asking me to dance. I had watched he pulling women into him cheek to cheek ans sweating all over them. He knew he was a good dancer. Unfortunately, he didn't get that it was disgusting to sweat over other people too polite to tell him to back off. Yuk! | |
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| Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts.
Posted: 6/25/2008 9:40:15 AM | I`ve seen tons of these dancing kings. I think it is about attention seeking. They love to be the first one on the dance floor when no one else is out there so everyone watches
THEM. They will look around the room and pick out the prettiest, thinnest, hottest babe available to prance around the room. It`s not really a compliment. They are using you to look good. If they were interested in you , they woud attempt to make you feel comfortable. | |
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| Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts.
Posted: 6/25/2008 9:50:18 AM | I don't know about that. One of the primary things that initially attracted me to my husband was that he was a wonderful dancer. We won tons of dance contests, and other women were always happy to dance with him also (I was generous. Their husbands were klutzes).
That guy just loved to dance. He would twirl me around our greatroom when there wasn't a single soul to see. | |
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| Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts.
Posted: 6/25/2008 11:10:13 AM | A vision of the old 8mm movies that my Dad shot, keep flashing before my eyes...
My 2 older sisters spinning me [at age 3] all over the Livingroom...!!
If I get talked into a Jitterbug, these days...
I invariably end-up retrieving my partner from a Punch Bowl ..
~..or some other odd place..!!~
Still....I Do take pride in my dancing...
I'm not one of those 'Clutch-and-sway'-types.....
..nothing Real fancy..but..
If you can follow MY lead . . You _ARE_ Good..!!
I guess I always admired 'Jumpin' Joe Bellgard..!! | |
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| Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts.
Posted: 6/25/2008 7:06:10 PM | | I grew up dancing to rock music. Slow dancing--the girl just put her arms around the guy's neck, and they moved around just a little. I never did ballroom dancing until less than two years ago. A wonderful man asked me if I'd like to learn. He took me to a Ballroom where they gave group lessons. Having THIS man as my dancing partner was the key, though. He is a strong leader, and he would in a light voice tell me the step in my ear as we moved. Today we go dancing together a few times a month. I absolutely love it, and I am grateful to him for whispering the moves in my ear if I forget. It would have been much more difficult to learn if I had not had an experienced dancer as a partner, though, but it still would have been possible to get the basic moves down, and then faked it once I had an experienced partner. Since the man leads, though, the has to know the moves. | |
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| Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts.
Posted: 6/25/2008 7:10:53 PM |
Take it as a compliment...be gracious....he asked you to dance!"
??? Is he going to take it as a compliment if I say yes?
Just because someone asks you to dance, doesn't mean you owe them!
You are right, you don't owe them, but it takes a lot of courage to walk across that floor and ask a LADY to dance and I WILL be gracious and accept. | |
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| Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts.
Posted: 6/25/2008 7:56:08 PM | "it takes a lot of courage to walk across that floor and ask a LADY to dance "
I doubt that. These dancing machines generally ask the top 20% of the women present to dance.
If it takes courage to walk across a floor and ask a lady to dance, how do they surive real life. | |
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| Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts.
Posted: 6/25/2008 7:57:46 PM | | I teach dancing and the majority of men, no matter how well they dance, are unsure of themselves when they walk across the floor. No one likes to be shot down. | |
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| Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts.
Posted: 6/25/2008 8:00:49 PM | | Well, these men who consider someone they don't know saying no to a dance to be a big deal sure wouldn't be people I would be interested in chatting with, let alone dancing. People who take things personally when there is nothing personal in the situation sound like they could be looking to be enabled. | |
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| Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts.
Posted: 6/25/2008 8:12:13 PM | ...I have absolutely no qualms about walking across a room and asking a man to dance, especially if I hear Bob Seger's "Shame on the Moon"
...maeflowers | |
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| Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts.
Posted: 6/25/2008 8:27:58 PM | "I have always respected your insight, but we will just have to disagree on this one. Peace!"
Ditto outofthedesert. I just get so tired to going to see entertainers, and then I am expected to dance with people I have no interest in dancing with. I do my best to give off not interested vibes, but those who feel entitled ask anyway. Then you have to listen to their rejection speech. | |
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| Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts.
Posted: 6/25/2008 8:29:47 PM | I guess the difference is that the places I go dancing, there are usually about 75-100 of us and we all know each other and have for years. Occasionally a new person comes in, so it is no big deal since I am used to making the new people welcome--part of my committiee duties there.
I do my best to give off not interested vibes, but those who feel entitled ask anyway Then you will just have to stop looking so darn cute! | |
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| Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts.
Posted: 6/26/2008 6:55:01 AM | Fine.............I will go wear a bag over my head
Seriously, I am remember certain folks who constantly came back time and time again asking for a dance. I would have thought that they would clue in that I was dancing with anyone. Clue in that is wasn't trying to be a challenge, but that I simply wasn't interested in dancing with them or anyone else. | |
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| Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts.
Posted: 6/26/2008 10:41:18 AM | Send em all to me.
First date, just met, only want to be friends......whatever; but then I love to dance, and learn new steps.
I think it's nice that they want to share their knowledge, and their passion for dancing with a new person; and if I didn't want to dance with them, I wouldn't accept a date to go somewhere that people are expected to dance. | |
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| Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts.
Posted: 6/26/2008 11:48:38 AM | I have seen the older gentlemen like this and younger aged women as well. I once went western dancing(admittedly not my forte) with a woman well versed. After hearing repeated "That's not how it's done", I realized we had different goals for the dance. The issue seems to be that they aren't enjoying the dance unless it's "good" as measured against some standard of style, form and proper footwork.
For me, it's "good" if my partner and I can achieve some harmony of movement.
If it turns out to be a swing waltz, salsolka or Tejas 2-trot, it's still good. | |
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| Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts.
Posted: 6/26/2008 11:58:45 AM | "I wouldn't accept a date to go somewhere that people are expected to dance."
Expected to dance? Wow?
I would NEVER go to a function that was nothing but a dance in North America. I don't like pop music, so dancing to it would be painful.
I am talking about places that have entertainment (like people who can really dance and or sing), where some people choose to dance.
I can't believe that some people actually think that have an expectation of dancing with a stranger makes sense. | |
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| Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts.
Posted: 6/26/2008 12:19:18 PM | I have tried country line dancing. They ARE picky about doing the right steps, and the flow of the whole 'line' is what makes it fun for the dancers. Some are irritated if you go to 'dance' and you do not know the exact steps. There is no freeflow dancing in country line dancing.
Most of the time if you are new they stick you in the middle of the group, so when you turn you still have someone in front of you to follow.
Country line dancing: definate guy shortage too! OFallon MO has a lesson dance for $3 every Monday at the civic center (it is a training dance... they teach one dance each week, and then run thru 20 or 30 other dances) It is OK to not know what you are doing at these dance classes. The real dance is on Saturdays once a month. | |
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