| | Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts.Page 8 of 11 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11) | Dancing well does not impress me; if you want to really leave an impression, do volunteer work or find a cure for some illness.
Really? Seriously? Do you think twirling and twinkling about on a small wooden area is going to leave a mark in this world? Karma is calling....calling...calling.....
I dance well but I also do volunteer work and support worthy charitable causes. Dancing is no different than any other activity done as exercise....you just wear nicer clothes. Just because you dance does not mean you are not putting in your time and talent to make this a better world.
Dancing has been shown to improve memory and improve blood pressure readings as it is exercise. If you are dancing to a fast song, the cardio is as good as on a treadmill. It also tones muscles in the arms and legs and is good for posture as you have to find your core to correctly execute some moves, especially in Argentine Tango. Country western dances require lots of spins as does East Coast Swing, just because you may not dance--don't rule it out and maligne others who choose it.
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Posted: 10/25/2009 7:53:00 AM | LOL! Pretty funny! Yes, I think you're being stuffy!
Several friends and I are currently taking "ball room dance" lessons. It's a blast!
Last night, a bunch of us went to a place where people go just (primarily) to dance. 20 yrs ago, I was quite good at the 2 step; but it seems that after getting divorced (12 yrs ago) and having made new friends...who aren't into country music, I just don't go to the places anymore where people go "to dance". While people do "dance"....the dancing isn't their primary focus; they're there to socialize, and dancing is just a secondary part of that.
So, last night we had the opportunity to hang out with some "old friends" of mine; who ARE into "country"....and dancing! I quickly picked out the guy who seemed to be ok with dancing with those of us who have no clue what we're doing....or are very rusty....and I asked if he would dance with me. LOL! I then asked if he would dance with my girlfriend!!!
As she and I were talking on the way home, she was surprised to learn that there ARE places where people go...just to dance; and that.....everyone dances with everyone!
I think that it is essentially rude to accept a dance with someone who is obviously "a dancer" and not tell them upfront that you don't want "to dance".....you're just there to socialize. I have no qualms about telling a man who asks me to dance that he'll have to "teach" me....or go slow. It's actually very much a "compliment" when these folks ask a "non dancer" to dance, they're simply trying to share their passion with you, and let you join the fun. They're not trying to impress you at all....if they were; they'd be dancing with a regular partner. | |
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Posted: 10/25/2009 8:36:19 AM | One of the places I go to dance has the perfect setup: tables and the snack bar are divided from the dance area which also has tables. If you don't want to dance--you go to the snack bar area to socialize. There is a large glassed wall between so the socializers can see the dancers and hear the music.
Life would be less complicated if people just used simple manners and learned not everyone marches to the same drummer. I dance to mine................ | |
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Posted: 10/25/2009 9:20:45 AM | I haven't run into anyone like the OP was describing. In fact I didn't run into anyone around where I am who can dance. My profile -when it was not hidden as it is now- stated that I was looking for a tango partner. There was only one gentleman within 50 miles who had this in his profile and he had too many restrictions on his profile for me (or almost anyone) to contact him. I did get lots of men asking to do the "horizontal mambo" so I've hidden my profile. I will look elsewhere for a tango partner. | |
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Posted: 10/25/2009 12:05:44 PM | If their children have a problem, it becasue they think their mother is not allow to be fun, only to give it to them
...And if their frinds object, then they were never friends in the firstplace
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Posted: 10/25/2009 12:17:20 PM |
Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts.
The first thought that popped into my head was Steve Martin's "I'm A Wild & Crazy Guy" character on Saturday Night Live. 
(wow...I just really aged myself didn't I?) | |
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Posted: 10/25/2009 12:38:47 PM | i love dancing, but ballroom's supposed to be a joint affair with Two people dancing, not one dancing and the other trailing behind (or being pushed in front...)
any activity where one person is uncomfortable would probably not be the best for a date... and doesn't speak much of respect toward that other person, to insist on continuing it, once the discomfort is known, imo | |
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Posted: 10/26/2009 1:45:54 PM | | hmmmmm.....I would never have thought dancing with someone would be disrespectful...but yes when they just want to twirl ya...and jerk your arms out of socket...yes that hurts and is disrespectful. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2009 7:49:15 PM |
Two people dancing, not one dancing and the other trailing behind (or being pushed in front...) The " Push / Pull" is called.....LEADING, and it's actually quite "polite", and necessary....when dancing. LOL! Standard dance studio joke....."gentlemen, this is the ONLY place where you re EXPECTED to "push and pull" your lady around.
The polite thing to do when asked by someone who is quite obviously a good dancer, is to let them know BEFORE accepting the dance that you cannot "dance", and do not wish a lesson. Years ago, women would have given their right arm for a man who could/would dance with them. These days, there are more men taking lessons than there are women. I believe that it speaks directly to the "general" desire of men...to please women. 30-40 years ago, men would have been ridiculed for taking dance lessons. WOW! what a sweet and considerate thing to do....to actually take an interest in and engage women in something that has traditionally been..... a "feminine interest".
I have a really bad back, complete with clamps, screws and bailing wire. I always inform a partner that I have physical limitations that limit my backward balance. I go to places that have dancing on a weekly basis, and have NEVER experienced one of the "silver haired dancing machines" who was anything.....ANYTHING less that absolutely respectful and considerate of my physical limitations. | |
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Posted: 10/27/2009 4:22:47 PM | Some women need to know body frame and resistance. A man can lead them so much easier. It's not a pull and tug, or a shove and push kinda thing. Women need to know the proper way to follow as well.
I will tell the show off "twirl-a-girl:", sling ya around dancin' idiot ONE TIME ! not to do that for I am not a rag doll, nor the latest drill bit for pay dirt. After that I have no problem, walkin' off the floor.
It's the men who believe they are too macho to take dance lessons, that attempt to do such and I won't stand for it. I've seen some men seriously hurt a woman's neck, and it's not dancing....it's abuse. | |
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Posted: 10/28/2009 4:34:25 AM | I'm baffled - a bit. There are so many Sunday morning complaints from women who claim no one asks them to dance at the POF parties; that they're bored with them; that it's like junior high school (NOT my opinions, but I read/hear them frequently) - yet, here's some guys who love to dance and some people are offended? Or, perhaps I've read this entire thread wrong.
A good dancer can be intimidating to some people - be it male or female. However, if I think the person is too "serious" about dancing and I fear I can't keep up, I just politely tell him, no thanks, I'd prefer a slow song, etc. Never had that problem, but I'd never put anyone down for their love of the dance ... However, when I see the Whirling Dervish coming my way, I usually head to the bar! | |
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Posted: 10/28/2009 4:38:25 AM | | In the area I live it...it is very common for women to dance together and men to watch. This is something that makes me uncomfrontable unless its line dancing. I grew up in the day whenever men danced with women.....and the women that are dancing with other women are quite provocative with each other....guess I will wait my turn for one of those silver hair dancing machines.......... | |
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Posted: 11/10/2009 10:59:17 PM |
In the area I live it...it is very common for women to dance together and men to watch. This is something that makes me uncomfrontable unless its line dancing. I grew up in the day whenever men danced with women.....and the women that are dancing with other women are quite provocative with each other....guess I will wait my turn for one of those silver hair dancing machines..........
Blueeyes, Im with you...I hate that when women dance together and the men just galk..I want to dance with a man, and you are equally right about the women rubbing all over you...ewww | |
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Posted: 11/11/2009 5:04:21 AM | Regarding the push/pull:
In West Coast Swing, it is called the sugar push or pull and a whip turn and it is a hard turn BUT the leader gives a firm lead, he does not strong arm you.
In the Schotische, there is a push pull and if you don't use/give resistance, the move is not properly executed and you will lose your core/balance.
In Lindy or Charleston, it may feel like a little stronger lead but the music is so fast as are the moves that you just finish one move and you have to go to another. The jive is the same way. Definitely not like the waltz. A lot of men who have danced their whole lives did the lindy and jive in their youth and try to execute the same moves now. East Coast swing is the same if the music is really fast, pushing, pulling and good hand connection is what keeps you from spinning out of control.
I have guys who love to dance with me because I can do multiple spins BUT I advise any lady that I teach to tell the gentleman BEFORE the dance begins if she is anti-spin or can only spin once. I have also advised the men to inquire before doing a multiple turn/spin to inquire of the lady if she has issue. I have not met a GENTLEMAN who refused to oblige the lady's wish to not spin.
If a man asks you to dance, he assumes you are open to any move on the floor. He may be the leader but he is offering you an INVIATION to dance, it is not a command. Ladies be in charge of the dance. In Argentine Tango, he may invite me to do a certain move, but I can break up that move with all kinds of 'decoration' and he as the gentleman is obliged to allow me to do that and to read the moves that I add to the dance. When I complete my decorations, I move back to the pattern and he will complete the move. It is not a dictorship, it is a partnership and BOTH parties must interact and be aware of the other.
I once danced with a gentleman who lead a double turn but had too strong of a pull down(the signal to stop turning). The next turn he lead, I stopped after one and he remarked that he lead a multiple. I smiled sweetly and said I know but that sudden stop after the last one was a bit much and laughed. The next time he lead the turn, I completed the double and his pull down was much softer. Sometimes the men don't realize the strength they use. After the dance, he apologized and thanked me for being so sweet about it and that he did not realize he was being rough. He became a regular dance partner until he found a girlfriend...she loved the way he did the gentle leads!
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Posted: 11/11/2009 6:08:52 AM | Hmmm...been white haired since my 20's...and been taking salsa and bachata lessons for 6 yrs. I LOVE TO DANCE. I figure as long as you're breathing and have passion in your heart and soul...get out there and dance! There's no points for sitting on your hands. Get out there and try.
If you've had any formal training or even been to a club...you'll quickly learn what dance etiquette is...and bouncing off of other dancers will just get you glares and no one to dance with you. The whole point of dancing is to make your partner look beautiful and protect her. As in any relationship...dance mirrors life. If you toss her around and smack into other people...could be a reflection of how the relationship will evolve?
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Posted: 11/11/2009 8:05:24 AM | Just don't give me spaghetti arms!
...Hey, I remember that line. What a loss.
Sounds like you know your way around the dance floor. I'm taking Latin dance and my first lesson is on Saturday night...we're starting with the Cha Cha. Wish me luck.
...maeflowers
Not crazy about the pickle...wish they had little dancing emoticons. | |
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Posted: 11/11/2009 8:13:22 AM | Not sure I remember how to dance with a partner. However I love to free dance.. and do it many times at night before going to sleep.
I happen to have a four poster bed so I use the 4 posts on my bed as partners.. I used to use my cats but found they got somewhat dizzy..
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Posted: 11/11/2009 2:32:57 PM | My experience dancing is that the people who are rude and/or painful are the beginners. The more advanced they are, the more likely that they are polite and comfortable to dance with.
When I meet rude/painful dancers, I ask them where they take lessons. If they respond that they don’t, I recommend a dance teacher. It’s their teacher’s job to teach them dance etiquette and the skills necessary to make them comfortable as a dance partner. If they respond that they are taking lessons, I encourage them to keep taking lessons and practicing.
When I was a beginner, I’m sure many women merely tolerated me, clinging to the faint hope that some day I would get better. Years later, I try to pass along that tolerance to others. We all started as beginners. If beginners are not welcomed and nurtured, someday there will be no place to dance. | |
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Posted: 11/12/2009 2:46:28 AM |
Since you are already in a bed, try to dance with a man. It's much more fun, and you can drop to down to all kinds of interesting positions.
Actually just got invited through the mail on POF to a Dancing Party..Looking forward to it at the end of this month. Will let everyone know if I break a leg..
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