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Posted: 6/25/2008 11:44:50 PM | | Fine. I'll take the low road Amy. If I ever ever EVER visit Norman Park, Georgia in my lifetime I will randomly kick douche-bags like that in the gonads. I will then point my finger at them and say, "THAT'S FOR AMY!" and walk away. I may get a couple guys wrong at first but hopefully there aren't that many D.B.'s there. One lovely day, when you're eating dinner with your new totally awesome honey, you'll get an urge to pump your fist in victory and you'll know that somewhere a knee has been smashed into that D.B.'s testicles. Just call me the Karma Police. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2008 11:57:44 PM | oh honey!!!
No class at all..it has happened to me..men arent men anymore...cowards, losers..all they want is a trophy sex,,notches on their belts...so many pig men on this site..no wonder women turn to women for lov...times are a changing...keep ur chin up...mayb god will send us a good man!!!! | |
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Posted: 6/25/2008 11:59:46 PM | Well, something similar just happened to me. Not worst, not better.
Just think of it this way:
He is obviously a pathetic excuse for a man, both insecure and cowardly.
He will probably end up with either a weaker example of himself who will accept his childish, repetitive self loathing, or with his version of a motherly figure who will try to correct the crap he excuses himself for, but who will eventually give up and leave him.
Now every time you think of your time with him, weither good or bad, think of all the qualities this guy has, most described above. Then, reflect on all that you’re actually going to be living without thanks to his lack of consciousness. You’ll soon notice that your memory will be followed by a sigh of relief and a smile. You just escaped a real dozy.
Thank God for some things.
You and your heart will be perfectly fine; more fulfilled and happier.
Please don’t be afraid to jump in again. Sure, you could end up finding another looser; but I hope you more readily see the possibility of finding another soul mate.   | |
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Posted: 6/26/2008 12:42:41 AM | Hello and I am so sorry for you. I agree with msg #4, I too am a widow, and it takes a long time to trust and love someone again. You must have been on cloud nine, just for the meer sake of FEELING again. I also have been through that, and they are cowards. Just take comfort in the fact he was a Learning Curve, and you will never forget it. Your right, losing and burying a husband is the worse pain, and we wouldn't wish it on our worst enemy. This too is pain, but it's also included that now you miss your husband even more, because he would never have treated you this way. I know that's where my thoughts went at the time, which made the loss even worse. Time will heal, sweetie, it always does. Let yourself cry and mourn this relationship, you have a right to be angry and also sad. But, there is always a positive to every negative, In this case better sooner than later. It would have been far worse had he moved in with his boys.
He is a coward, and doesn't deserve you. The one you are meant to be with will come soon. This one was meant to show you that you have the capacity to love someone as much as you loved your husband. Now you know it's possible and that you can and will love again.
Take comfort in that, and when you are ready, you will find the right one will be along before you know it. Just don't tarnish all men with the one brush. You have too much to offer a good man, to deny yourself that right. Okay kiddo?
Hang in there, if you can overcome the loss of your mate, this is a cakewalk compared to that! Keep remembering that, when it really gets to you.
And you'll come out wiser and the better for it.
All of our thoughts and heartfelt wishes are with you, here and also in spirit!
Take care,
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Posted: 6/26/2008 12:43:47 AM | It hurts because he made love to you in the woods....then dumped you a few hours later....Ya know what sweety hes not worth a ounce of your time....And how can he be in love with her if he just made love to you ?????? He sounds like a grade A slut...Have a good cry and move on | |
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Posted: 6/26/2008 1:07:17 AM |
My boss told me something today when I went in her office with tears in my eyes asking if I could go home. She said that sometimes God will remove an obstacle out of your path for you so you can go on to better things. I guess he was my obstacle.
Sounds like a great boss, one who displayed the loyalty that was denied you by the other mongrel.
It's never easy to come back from betrayal and I hope you do. At least you found out his true colours before you invested anything more into the relationship. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2008 1:15:58 AM | | hi i read your message and could feel the pain and the anger you are feeling towards this man. you were treated like a nothing no wonder you are hurting so much you sound like a strong woman who has lots of pride, dignity and character the best way to get over this guy is to be strong and not give him the pleasure of letting him know you are hurting so bad give time time and one day you will wake up and the pain will be gone he was the one that was in the wrong not you, i know its hard you will get over him and the sun will shine for you again. Take care x | |
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Posted: 6/26/2008 5:40:21 AM | People can be awfull, so sorry to hear your pain.
I had an argument/chat with my then girlfriend, I had moved in with her and she was always hinting at getting married, we were together 6 months and I loved this girl , but was financially in a mess.
What little income I had left was going on commuting from her rented place to my place of work, I had a property which I was going to sell in the new year( this had a lot of equity and I was going to use these funds to put down a hefty deposit, to but her dream house, ( i must admit it wasn't my dream house).
So getting back to texts, we had an argument the night before, she wanted to know where she stood with me , I said, I have now just landed this new job, good money, we sell my place in the new year and get things sorted, then, she said I want baby now and want to get married, I said I am not stringing you along, We have been together only six months, my finances will now enable us to do things. Her reply was go on and do your iroing.
She had been with another partner fo 8 years and she never wanted to discuss it, they had never lived together or were engaged.
The next day when I was at work , she sent me a text saying I am hurt and upset about what you said last night I want to het married, what do you think.
I replied baby, we need to talk about this I will call you.
Her reply was , I want a simple yes or no, no talking, My reply was we need to talk about this , sit down and chat, I said I loved her , wnated to start a family with her but my finances were a mess and now gettin better, let get married next year.
She reposnded with dates and when she wanted a baby by , but would not talk to me about it.
She did eventually ask me to call her and when I did, screamed at me that we were getting engaged right now, to which I replied, we will get engaged in two months , when I can afford to get a ring. She screamed that we didnt do anything and she had had enough and slammed the phone down on me.
I later got a text saying, come and get your stuff, it will be outside the back door.
You can probably tell, I hate texting.
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Posted: 6/26/2008 5:46:04 AM | First off Im sorry about your husband. Second, it hurst so bad because you allowed yourself to open up and made yourself vulnerable to another man, which you havent done in a long time, and he broke you. He was in it for the sex and probably never meant anything he said as far as feelings or being in love with you.
Take the high road. Don't stoop to his level. Iim sorry he did this to you. Its guys like that that give the rest of us a bad name. Good luck and keep your head up.
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Posted: 6/26/2008 6:16:09 AM | i don't know why but men and women want it one last time before they say goodbye.
i'll bet if you just think about it he had an unusual amount of passion didn't he?
like mabe the first time you ever made love. i have been told i don't want to see you any more, now lets have sex. people are strange at times.
i know how it feels to loose a spouse. i thought nothing in this world could hurt more than that, until i lost my only child. you can replace a husband or wife, you can't replace a child.
i have learned over the past 60 years to take the lumps and keep on going.
and always remember "ONE MONKEY DON'T STOP NO SHOW"
find another monkey and you might enjoy swinging from another grapevine a lot more.  | |
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Posted: 6/26/2008 8:54:06 AM | I was dumped via txt msg almost two months ago by my ex and it was the best thing he ever did for me. Just look at it this way, it could've been worse. Be happy he is out of your life.
MMORPGRTSFPS <--- cute name, are those your favorite type of games? | |
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Posted: 6/26/2008 9:52:43 AM | | What an ass...... Who does this? dumps you by text? Not man enough to tell you to your face. I know you are hurting, but you will realize one day that someone that thoughtless is not good enough for you. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2008 10:01:50 AM |
I'm a widow. I buried a husband that I loved with all my heart. That was probably the hardest thing I've ever had to do. This is really nothing in comparison....so why does it hurt so bad?
I've never lost a mate, but I think this hurts so bad because your husband didn't chose to leave you, but this guy made a conscious choice not to be with you anymore. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2008 10:07:14 AM | Do you watch Sex in the City?
You COULD have been dumped with a sticky-note, lol!
Sorry... Couldn't help it. I agree- it sux.
-Nomad- | |
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Posted: 6/26/2008 12:01:14 PM | | i got dumped by and e-mail after spending 5 days together, ans she shared my bed the whole time she was here | |
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Posted: 6/26/2008 6:39:18 PM | what a gutless p rick , if he couldnt tell you to your face its over....
also what a user, he could have told you before going to the woods and having sex with you. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2008 7:09:15 PM | I'm so very sorry you are going through this. I'm sure there are better experiences just around the corner in your life. I disagree with the person who said it is not possible to get closure with this. Even if you do not want to give him the satisfaction of saying anything to him, you should write a long letter telling him everything you want to tell him. Pour all your rage and hurt into that letter. Then burn it or if on computer delete it, since you do not wish to confront him. I feel sorry for this mans children and for the other unsuspecting woman he claims to love. She probably never knew you existed and he will soon be sleeping with yet another woman while she thinks he is working etc... Someone like him will never be faithful to one woman
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Posted: 6/26/2008 7:28:43 PM | I am so sorry to hear that you're hurting because of this total a-hole! I can understand how betrayed you feel and how foolish you feel that you didn't see the warning signs. I, too, was betrayed by my ex-husband who completely blindsighted me with his affair. I'm a smart girl, too. Some men are just very, very good at covering things up.
I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. I know exactly what you're feeling. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2008 8:02:33 PM | My x broke up with me with an e-mail, we were together for about 11 ½ months.
Some are just afraid of the reaction they will meet and take the easy way out. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2008 8:58:38 PM | Amy, no one ever said that life is fair. It isn't. If it were fair this wouldn't have happened to you. If life were fair, you wouldn't have lost your husband. My heart goes out to you as does so many others from reading this form. I know this is hard but I also know that you must be a strong woman to have gone through everything you have already. You're still young. You will be ok.
Why does it hurt so much? It hurts because he wasn't the man you thought he was. You have been forced to lay to rest a dream that you thought was a reality. He wasn't real. The man that you fell in love with and was planning a wonderful and hopeful future with simply never existed and you are grieving for that dream. If he wasn't real then that love wasn't real either and coming to realize that is terribly painful. That you could feel so very deeply for something that in reality never existed just tears you to the bone. It hurts because sending you a text message made you feel disposable, and more... made it seem like all that love you had was just as disposable that he could toss it aside so casually.
The important thing is to NOT let it color your future. NOT to let what this man did destroy your ability to remain open to the future possibilities. Dumping what he is on ALL men will only hurt you more. Remain open, remain positive, and keep your wounded heart close and let it heal. It will heal.
You want to get back at him, but at the same time you want to take the high road. Stay on the high road. You are so much better than he is. If you really want to get back at him than don't call him, don't cuss him out and let him know how deeply he's hurt you. He doesn't deserve to know.He doesn't deserve your pain anymore than he ever deserved your love. Give to him now what he deserves of you... nothing. He is forgettable. That fact alone will get back at him more than ranting at him ever will. Do not wish ill on him. Do not hate. Do not allow what he did to you drag you down and taint your karma or your well being with negativity. Move on. Be happy. Choose to be happy. That in its self is the very best revenge.
Bottom line, any man who cannot face a woman and tell her to her face that he is moving on isn't a real man. You deserve a real man and as much as I sometimes feel that maybe 'my' man just doesn't exist, I firmly believe that there are still real men out there, good men, loving men, men like your husband.
I'm not saying that you shouldn't acknowledge your pain, let yourself feel it... let yourself grieve, then lift up your head and move forward.
Please feel free to email if you feel the need to talk. I wish you all the very best for the future. Remember always that you are a special human being, a good woman, and you deserve the best. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2008 4:14:11 PM | I am sorry this happened to you.
Look at it this way.
He did not have the courage, the compassion or the respect to tell you in person. I would say you are well out and thank God you found out he was not worthy of you before you married him. Of course it hurts to find out you have been cheated on and disrespected. It is very painful. Also it is one loss piled on top of another ( the loss of your husband.) Not to mention the loss of a fantasy Ie. a new love and committed relationship. You deserve much more than he had or was willing to offer. Give yourself some time and then go fishing again. There are plenty of great men in this pond. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2008 5:34:23 PM | fking coward!! he'll get what he deserves.. dont u worry about that :)
the universe always goes round.. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2008 7:03:24 PM | | It hurts soooo bad because you were decieved by someone that you thought cared alot about you , maybe you were blind from his lies because you believed he was being true to you , you can get over this hurt and move on , but it will make you more cautious when you meet someone next time , just get this " loser " out of your system before you try starting someone with someone else ,or your pain might get in the way !! | |
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Posted: 6/27/2008 10:22:03 PM | | I think in my opinion when I see other people doing this, I think its totally dumb and retarded and especially cowardly because it tells the other party your not being honest and its really not finished. If your going to dump someone whether your a man or woman, do it in person and not run from that person. If someone did that to me, I guess I would half to reply in person that there won't be a friendship remaining since they took the initiative to break my heart and not tell me in person. Thats the problem with our society, its all about me and the hell with other people and their feelings. Look at the leadership in this country and see what I mean. | |
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