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Posted: 7/2/2008 11:07:00 PM | The same thing happened to me , dumped by the good old text message ..
Didnt even see it coming .
We where together 4 months , i thought things where going great we use to laugh , cuddle , kiss and have a really good time when we where together .
I spoke to him on the Saturday night he was fine , then Sunday i get a text message saying its over and he will drop off my stuff ..
His lame excuses where he was too busy with work , and he was his own person and didnt want to live with any one , to be fair to him he did say that when we first met he was his own person , but then tell me why he use to pick me up and i use to stay at his house for weeks at a time and not once while i was there did he ask me too leave .
Maybe thats because i use to do everything for him , make him dinner , washing ironing even feed his dogs .
I think it hurts so much because there is so closure , he was ment to be a man , a big tough security guard and he could even tell me face to face or even pick up and answer my calls gutless .
I think when you are in a relationship there are so many things you cant see, but once you are out of a relationship and you take a good look you can see what was really going on .
Ive come to the conclusion aint worth my time and aint worth my tears .
A saying that i think is a good one
Experience is a wonderful thing. It enables you to recognize a mistake when you make it again..
I know not all men are the same , i have just been unlucky and my prince charming will come along one day soon i hope lol.. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2008 7:37:01 AM | what an incredibly heartbreaking story. OP keep your chin up. Don't pen up your emotions, let them flow in your own privacy and in your own way but whatever you do find a way to move on without revenge and without regrets. Revenge will only destroy a party of your soul in the end and regrets will never bring you the happiness you deserve. Lesson learned but don't ever give up on your dream of finding what you want. Don't let one bad apple (or a few) cause you to turn from your course in your search.
Things like this happen every day. Sometimes I wonder if the technology today has just become a boon to society instead of a blessing. But technology is just a tool which can be good or bad. It kind of sad that it really shows the direction our society is heading these days. Instead of enhancing life, it's given many the power to corrupt, mislead and destroy ~ all in the name of their own greed and selfish purposes.
Whatever you do OP don't look back. There may be a time where this guy will come crawling back to you with a sad story. Remember Karma is a b**tch and you would be better off to show kindness ( unlike what this guy did) but also showing resolve that you are not going to take him back. In the end you will be ok, life does go on and things will come into your life that will make you smile again.
Good luck op ~ seems like you have many supporting you and that's a great thing to have. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2008 8:05:42 AM | Omg!!!!! WHAT A JERK!
You are better off without him and nomatter what? DONT take him back! These types always come crawlin back!
Oh I cant believe this happened to you...I hope you feel better soon and just remember the right guy IS out there for you.
Much love.... | |
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Posted: 7/4/2008 8:06:58 AM | That's a very strange looking dog. Kind of reminds me of a fat cat!
Anyway, you got dumped by a text message. So what? I've know some guys that just disappeared and were never seen again. At least he let you know.
Sure the best way is in person, but it's a very human thing to not want to face another when it involves a very emotional matter. Many of us our cowards at heart. We just want to put the matter behind us with as little conflict as possible.
Another point to make is the person who is most emotionally involved is the one who would want the face-to-face (perhaps to save things?). The one who isn't wants to get rid of his problem in the easiest way possible. That should tell you something.
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Posted: 7/4/2008 8:42:47 AM | | I broke up with a guy by txt. I sent a txt message to him because he refused to see me as he worked 7 days a week and wouldn't make enough time for me. I would travel the two hours to see him and hoped he would make more time for me. All I wanted was to meet him every second weekend. I wanted him to dump me in the end but my only option was to send a txt msge as I wasn't going to be able to see him which was what I wanted to do - I really wanted to find out where the relationship was going - as I thought he really liked me but he wouldn't answer my calls. I still feel really bad and wonder how he is doing. I never heard back from him. I wish I hadn't sent any msge - just ignored him until he wondered why I wasn't sending my regular couple of msges every day. It is so hard - relationships. I am sick of wondering when I'll meet MR Right. I have been insulted by a few men on this site and complimented but the insults cut to the bone. What is it about ppl, eh? One guy told me he loved me after a few txt msges and then when I told him I didn't find him attractive after meeting him he sent me an email saying I was too large for him anyway! | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 9:36:56 AM | Love and trust are scarce commodities even if you haven't had the losses you have had....Good for you for having the courage it takes to put yourself out there again.....shame on him for being so callous.......what goes around comes around....the older I get the more I see it.....keep your head up.....the right guy for you could be right around the corner and what a shame if this schmuck caused you to not run into Mr. Right...he will get his.....you probably won't ever get to see it....but he will.
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Posted: 7/9/2008 11:15:29 AM | | Doesn't always work out this way, but if you have any important news for your partner it's common decency to phone them...text messaging this kind of news, is rude, cowardly and frankly unacceptable ...breaking up, date cancelling etc should be done over the phone at the very least. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 11:22:08 AM | | When MY ex decided to end it, she simply hung up on me, and then trashed me on her My Space site for the whole world to see. Guess I would have been luckier to just get the text and then ignored | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 1:31:19 PM | | i feel ya hun...that recently happened to me but it was a little different...be glad you found out before he moved in...and keep your eyes opened for red flags even if you think its silly to have your guard up.....i wanted to freak out and insult my ex but won't give him that power so remember...karma....it will come back on him and you'll be laughing...yes i was dumped through texting before and it was a coward way but eh i guess he really wasn't a man then | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 2:22:06 PM | | Ok, I’m someone that broke up with a former boyfriend via email. He lives across the country. I know how mean it was not to call him, but I knew he would try to talk me out of it. Because he’s a great guy, I probably would have let him (I had a few months before), but it would have been a big mistake. He has an ex that kept "getting in the way". | |
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Posted: 7/13/2008 5:08:19 PM | | I never got dumped via text message, but I DID get dumped via IM one time. I think it's just as bad. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2008 5:15:44 PM | | I still say dumped is dumped, no matter how it happens. If my ex had invited me over, cooked me a gourmet meal, had sex with me, then said "Get up and get dressed. Sorry , I don't want you in my life anymore", it wouldn't make it any better. The relationship is still over either regardless. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2008 5:39:24 PM | | i've been rejected by email before , only thing i like about that as it provides some clarity . mean in person things are not always clear or you sure what there thinking . an email really clears up the level of uncertainlty . and then as you read it again it sinks thru your head that its time to move on . | |
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Posted: 7/13/2008 5:49:24 PM | That is very sad.. and he is a jerk for doing it that way.. and i dont mean by text. Just think to yourself that things could have been much worse.
Ro | |
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Posted: 7/13/2008 5:54:19 PM | | I am so sorry and my heart goes out to you. I too am a widow and waited forever to open my heart to someone. I was determined to do it perfect this time. he now lives with his nurse....... | |
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Posted: 7/14/2008 2:16:54 AM | | That's so cold! It never ceases to amaze me how cold people can be here it's dusgusting and sickning. What's with all the people breaking up via texts? That's just so immature. What maes it all worse is that you both had a great day and he acted like nothing was wrong. He obviously isn't as happy as he thinks he is and doesn't like that other girl as much or else he would give some respect. So he cheated on you and her basically. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2008 8:48:59 AM | hey i would rather be dumped by a text, or i.m , than them just not answering the phone when you call.
we are talking two different issues , one he was cheating on you , the other the way he dumped you.
look at it this way you are much better off now , and i hope you have recovered.
people have the guts to at least contact the person you are dumping, dont just not answer the phone or emails, thats even more gutless    | |
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| dumped by a text message....
Posted: 7/14/2008 9:07:27 AM | | I think the reason you didn't notice that he was in love with someone else is because he isn't. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2008 5:17:11 PM | Wow. A similar thing happened to me. My boyfriend at the time joined the Navy a year into our relationship and was stationed out in San Diego. I went out there to visit him throughout the next year and was basically a big old sucker. He told me he wanted to get married and when he came home on Christmas leave we'd look at rings.
When he came home, he never saw me. Gave me no explanation. Told me it wasn't working out....he refused to see me...this was supposed to be our special week together. I thought I was getting a proposal. I was planning a move out to the west coast. Stupid me.
He went back to California after a week being home...Again, I never saw him once while he was here. I was destroyed. A month later we ended up talking again. He apologized over and over...I stupidly accepted his apology. I told him that if he wanted to fix it, he could. He just had to work to get me back...to regain my trust. He said he would. A month later, he send me an email and that says he met someone that he really cares for and that he's marrying her. 2 months later, they're married.
OUCH!
Haha. I'm ok now though. THAT made me a gazillion times stronger. I don't regret ANYTHING about it...not even the debilitating heartache ;-) | |
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Posted: 7/15/2008 5:28:55 PM | | The rejection is a hard thing to take, I'm sure. But,(not to sound cold) if it's not meant to be, it won't be. I think that's why I'm single. I am so afraid of marrying the wrong person. Consider yourself lucky that you found out in 8 short months and not 8 years. Best of luck to you! | |
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Posted: 7/19/2008 2:23:17 AM | A friend of mine said to me just the other day "Any man that would make you cry, isn't worth crying over."
I think I'll put that on a post-it note and stick it on my mirror. :) | |
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