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| Why would a guy keep asking if you're ok during sex?
Posted: 6/25/2008 4:13:24 PM | Maybe it was as simple as you saying "oooooh, oooooh, oooooh," and he heard, "owwwww, owwwww, owwwww." Do you have an accent that you don't hear?
Instead of asking at the time (as at least his mind is focused on less abstract concepts) you should just ask him afterwards. | |
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| Why would a guy keep asking if you're ok during sex?
Posted: 6/25/2008 4:17:02 PM | | Let me get this straight. You get 4 pages of responses to your question, then at the end you mention that he knew you had had neck surgery. As one who had such surgery 1 1/2 weekes ago, I hope my next lover is that concerned about whether I am OK or not. | |
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| Why would a guy keep asking if you're ok during sex?
Posted: 6/25/2008 5:50:43 PM | As I said, my surgery was quite awhile ago so at this point, it's kind of a non issue to me for most physical things so not something I really gave much thought to before. I had started having sex again initially about 2-3 days post surgery so it's not like I consider it an obstacle.
Hope your healing goes well plstomeetu. | |
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| Why would a guy keep asking if you're ok during sex?
Posted: 6/25/2008 10:02:10 PM |
Then there are the scrunchy faced women whose facial expressions get odd during sex, and you can't tell if they are having a stroke or an orgasm. Does that feel good or does it hurt? I can't tell by your noises and the way your face is distorted. Try moaning with pleasure instead of chirping like a chipmunk. Purr instead of grunt. Smile instead of grimace.
Okay, just Had to respond to this... off topic I know, but whadaya gonna do?
What is wrong with "scrunchy-faced" women? Though I've never actually taken a mirror to myself during sex, I am fairly certain I fall into this category. Sometimes sex is so primal that our reactions are just that. We don't have time to adjust our reactions, or even care to, to please you. We just wanna "feel" it... and sometimes its just that the intensity of what we're feeling overwhelms us and while it is highly pleasurable, its also--intense and rather than display a happy, pleasured expression--like when one is devouring a gooey, chocolatey anything--we wear a concentrated and yes, distorted expression. But just ask her if it feels good and she will quickly, most assuredly reply with an "Oh yea"!!
And who the hell "purrs"? Seriously? Maybe in the soaps... 
I honestly cannot fathom the idea that there are "silent" women out there... but I guess if there are men who can't make noise to save their life, then it only makes sense that there are women like that too... I don't understand it since I think noise makes the experience soooo much better, but *shrug* that's just me. | |
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| Why would a guy keep asking if you're ok during sex?
Posted: 6/27/2008 10:55:49 AM |
I fully intend to ask him also, I just keep forgetting to. =)
Well it would really make more sense to just ask the guy instead of asking the rest of the world who really would have no clue.
Go back to your doctor, now, so he can make an adjustment to your neck and put your head back on straighter.  | |
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| Why would a guy keep asking if you're ok during sex?
Posted: 6/27/2008 5:11:01 PM | Simple answer: he's a weenie.
A man will not ask such questions. He will have enough confidence in what he's doing not to worry about whether or not he's doing it right. Asking, "Are you okay?" translated from wussbag means, "Am I doing this right? You're not acting like a porn star. I have to get this right! The fate of the world depends on whether or not I can get you off!" | |
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| Why would a guy keep asking if you're ok during sex?
Posted: 6/27/2008 6:19:54 PM | I would say that one guy has a very inflated opinion of his penis SIZE! He thinks he's got a log in his crotch he just has not found out it is just a twig !  So he is asking to see if he is hurting you with the Q-Tip he's got! | |
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| Why would a guy keep asking if you're ok during sex?
Posted: 6/27/2008 7:18:13 PM | Sorry guys but what I've really found most interesting here is how many of you actually seem to have some security issues and feel the need to question another man's to apparently make yourselves seem more secure.
While I greatly appreciated the sincere and non callous posts in this thread, the rest of them seriously made me regret even posting this.
I asked a sincere question because I care about the guy enough to want to know if there's something that maybe he needs done differently then any other guy I've been with and instead of trying to help out another guy and the girl that cares about him, you guys attack his self confidence.
To set the record straight here, I did finally ask him and his concern had been over whether I was really emotionally ready to be there and also if I was physically ok, despite my verbal and physical responses because he had dated a woman before who had back problems and he was concerned about my neck.
Hope all you guys that felt the need to insult his size and self confidence made yourselves feel a bit better at his expense anyway. I'll be sure to look elsewhere for insight in the future.
Oh and I'm sure not one of you who attacked his self confidence ever once in your lives doubted yourselves at all.... | |
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| Why would a guy keep asking if you're ok during sex?
Posted: 6/27/2008 7:25:12 PM | | I had someone that kept asking that and I finally asked him if he was asking for validity for what he was doing. I told him if he needed to hear he was good (sexually) then he needed to let me know that was what he needed to hear. It ended up that he just needed to hear that I was happy with what he was doing sexually. | |
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| Why would a guy keep asking if you're ok during sex?
Posted: 6/28/2008 11:24:06 AM | Red,
It would have been much better to just ask the guy if you were at all able to, and apparently you were...and did. I am sure you have been an avid forum reader like many of us, so should expect all kinds of responses, from sincere to crude. Especially if the subject is sex. Don't get bent out of shape here. My comment about your neck was just a joke, even if it wasn't a very good one, its all in fun.
Glad you found a sensitive man. Next time, just ask. Gotta be easier than weeding through all these posts!
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| Why would a guy keep asking if you're ok during sex?
Posted: 6/28/2008 12:07:40 PM | | Well, I've been thanked after sex ( kinda awkward) and there have been times during the middle of hot and heavy sex the manfriend would ask if I'm OK-but..err that was usually during rough sex. I would think it's because he wanted to truly make sure he wasn't hurting me and pleasing me only. | |
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| Why would a guy keep asking if you're ok during sex?
Posted: 6/28/2008 12:13:35 PM | No offense was taken Writer59, it was clear your post was light hearted.
I rarely get offended or pissed off when comments are directed at me but rather when it's someone I care about who's being judged or attacked yet not here to speak up for themselves.
Lesson learned, I'm probably best off not posting things regarding people I care about even when it's out of concern for them that I'm seeking advice. Maybe I'm just not thick skinned enough for that, not sure.
I would have asked him directly sooner but when a guy is working almost 100 hours per week, it can be a little tough to find the right time to talk sometimes and I know if I were him, I wouldn't want really want to get into a discussion like that after having worked 16 hours. | |
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| Why would a guy keep asking if you're ok during sex?
Posted: 6/28/2008 4:13:55 PM | Sorry OP, you can stuff your comments about the "people calling him insecure". Read my very first post here which you responded to in post #11.
I was the first one trying to back him up!
Seems like you change your comments with the wind...i do agree though, you should think before posting here again! | |
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| Why would a guy keep asking if you're ok during sex?
Posted: 7/16/2008 8:10:07 AM | | Gee I have read a few posts on this site but some of the answers here take the cake.....why does it have to be that he feels insecure....what a load of rubbish.....has anyone thought that maybe this guy actually likes you alot and wants to make sure you are ok.....nothing to do with feeling insecure....just showing in his own way that he cares about how you are feeling....Some women complain on this site that there are no gentlemen left...you found one go be happy...and dont take any notice of the man haters or the small****wonders with penis envy | |
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| Why would a guy keep asking if you're ok during sex?
Posted: 7/16/2008 8:17:51 AM |
maybe he had had a bad experience...i once when ver young and inexperienced was having sex with a girl and she had a seizure i didnt even know she had epilepsy..or had i ever saw anyone have a seizure .... ....I thought I had killed her ..... you can bet i asked the next few girls that i had sex with ....ARE YOU OK ...several times during the act .... | |
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| Why would a guy keep asking if you're ok during sex?
Posted: 7/16/2008 8:43:18 AM | | Did we date the same guy? I had one that did that too, everytime I O'd he'd ask if I was OK... It just didn't seem like the natural thing to say at the time, so it caught me off guard, I got used to it though. | |
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| Why would a guy keep asking if you're ok during sex?
Posted: 7/16/2008 9:13:37 AM | Lol, don't think so but he and I laugh about it now. I guess had he been asking during orgasms I wouldn't have been so confused but it was never during the point, just off and on during foreplay and sex.
Given that my neck surgery was almost 2 yrs ago and that I was sexually active again within about 3 days of it, I'd not even thought of it at the time. He's just an extremely considerate guy and was worried that certain positions might be uncomfortable or even painful which thankfully is not the case. | |
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