| Is there such a thing as love at first sight?
Posted: 6/24/2008 9:13:00 PM | | You've been back-burnered--how great does that feel? Are you willing to accept that? Remember no matter how great she seems some other guy is already tired of her chit. You need somebody who adores and reveres you. | |
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| Is there such a thing as love at first sight?
Posted: 6/24/2008 10:16:48 PM | If she had problems with this guy she will continue to have problems with him. We women have a hard time letting go; we seem to think a gradual departure will ease the pain. That is why she said don't give up on her. Her head is telling her that you are a good thing. Women are complicated and we don't make sense.
If you are fun and cheer her up she will forget that guy. We want to forget those old guys and we want you to make us forget. It took me about a year and a half to forget the old guy. The new guy was just so charming and confident in himself. But beware of being pushy or saying negative things about the old guy.
But if she says they fought all the time it will probably end. Just listen for clues.
Good luck - I hope she comes back ready for you. | |
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| Is there such a thing as love at first sight?
Posted: 6/24/2008 10:44:37 PM | Yes there is such thing as love at first sight. It happened to me when i met my now ex husband.
I'd be cautious if I were you though. She went back to her ex after she met you. So obviously she doesn't have as strong of feelings for you as you do for her.
She told you not to give up on her. Translation, "when I get sick of being with my ex I'll come back to you. " | |
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| Is there such a thing as love at first sight?
Posted: 6/24/2008 10:45:15 PM | I cna;t stand women who ar on dating sites or lead me onw hen they are not over their previous relationship. its called moving on. And many women would rather stay in a stable but abusive relaitonship and take a chance on someone new. Soemtimes people work things out. You can't do anything about thsi situation. But you can either try to convince her to stay with you or you can find someone else who won't ditch you like that. You cna even get angry with her and say its not fair to be tossed aside like this and That you won't give her the antidote now... For the poison she just drank!  | |
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| Is there such a thing as love at first sight?
Posted: 6/25/2008 6:50:16 AM | If you were a match or had chemistry with these women, they would get over their previous relationship.
I moved on and gave a new guy a lot of my time. He was very nice but he just didn't do it for me. Our personalities really didn't mesh. So I said, "I gave this a try and I'm not being fair to the both of us.
This doesn't feel right. I'm very sorry." | |
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| Is there such a thing as love at first sight?
Posted: 6/30/2008 5:28:08 PM | | she wants to keep her options open. if you want to be the side dish..."the alternative"...go ahead...stay! if she was really much into you, she'd leave the "former bf" and stick with you. what do you think? | |
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| Is there such a thing as love at first sight?
Posted: 6/30/2008 7:12:57 PM | eh...love at first sight??
no. do not believe in it. I kind of a fantasy and it is a view seen in Hollywood Movies, but that is just me. Oh well, I guess just keep hope...
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| Is there such a thing as love at first sight?
Posted: 7/1/2008 9:13:39 AM | Okay my friend you have been thrown out of the saddle. it happens to all of us.
Now your conduct at this point is VERY IMPORTANT especially if you want her sometime in the future.
First: Go put on the biggest set of balls you have.
Second: Tell her she is on her own. DO NOT be her friend, not her sounding board at this point Unless you want to be thrown in the "friend pile" forever.
Third: Let her know that you do not accept second class treatment, and you deserve better. She will come back with some very compelling arguments as to WHY she needs to be friends with you. STICK TO YOUR GUNS NO MATTER HOW PAINFUL IT WILL BE.
Fourth: Break all contact ......yes I said ALL... make it clear that she can't have both.
Fifth......Go get a GF, and make sure she sees her around you place. This will drive her nuts! But how can she say anything? she's with him!
Sixth: Go on with your life and forget about it. If you see her, dont even speak. just look her in the eye with your best poker face as you walk by.
If she is really into you, she WILL come back. but then it will be on YOUR terms. It could be years later. resist the urge to jump in. make her earn it. Most women love a challenge, and want what they think they can't have.
DO NOT act like a sentimental fool. DO NOT let her know you are hurt. The ONLY emotion you should show to her at this point is indignation.
Good Luck Bro!
Tom | |
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| Is there such a thing as love at first sight?
Posted: 7/1/2008 9:23:50 AM | *Ab-So-Tively*!!!
I Fell-In-Love . . in an Elevator...!!!
Unfortunately, the Honeymoon only lasted 5 Years...!!!
[It was Planned for _20_..!!]
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I only Hope that I get ~ Just~One~More~Chance~...!!!! | |
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| Is there such a thing as love at first sight?
Posted: 7/1/2008 2:15:54 PM | Sounds like a very mixed message..she's hedging her bets! Not likely to work out with her boyfriend, but do you want to be hanging about waiting and seen as 2nd best? Up to you!
It's most likely she's still in love with him..and not being honest about that. | |
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| Is there such a thing as love at first sight?
Posted: 7/1/2008 2:19:47 PM | definately mixed messages, and besides that why would you want to be second to her ex - boyfriend who is suddenly back in the picture??
Everyone deserves better the seconed best ! | |
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| Is there such a thing as love at first sight?
Posted: 7/1/2008 2:31:25 PM | There is no love at first site. Its lust...period. Love is an emotion of falling in love with who someone is. If you think your in love with someone you just met, Its based on looks then because its impossible to fall in love with someone you dont know. That is just flat out lust. And I know people are going to argue with me on this, but if it were true, why you on here? Ill tell you why, because you didnt know who that person really was and now you dont have that love. Love is a word a lot of people like throwing around and they dont really mean it because half the time if not more they dont really know what it is. If I love someone, I love them because the person I love is an amazing woman. If I love someone automaticly I dont know, what exactly do I love about that person then?...One answer..Their looks...Which, again, leads to the word...lust. | |
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| Is there such a thing as love at first sight?
Posted: 7/1/2008 2:47:16 PM | Right first off, she was probably using you to get her ex-boyfriend jealous....which worked and he came back to her. Then she has the brass neck to text you asking for you not to give up on her, I will translate her text into a language you will understand:
"Please dont stop flirting with me and please do stay in the picture so my boyfriend knows you are still crazy about me, so as to keep him jealous and therefore not dump me again"
Ha! I bet her boyfriend would be delighted if he knew this woman was texting another man to tell him to not stop trying it on with her!! Not a very loyal person is she?
I predict that he will finish with her again in the not too near future due to him remembering what shes really like, and she will come running to you, at which point you should be saying you dont like sloppy seconds and definately dont want to be rebound man which is what you will be , and as we all know, rebound relationships never work!
Sorry but she sounds like she is a little head fckuer. | |
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| Is there such a thing as love at first sight?
Posted: 7/1/2008 2:50:44 PM | | OP There is a saying "Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option." You deserve better than to be someone's backup plan. | |
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