| Profile Photo Does NOT Look Like the Person You've Just Met
Posted: 6/24/2008 11:42:26 AM | I think it just comes down to the fact that everyone wants to put their best foot forward, so they choose photos of themselves that hide their obvious imperfections. We are all human after all?
Though I agree about being honest, for some people get self deluded and carry this principle way too far, and we have all been on the short end of that stick way too often in many ways and shapes.
How many times have you been handed a load of BS at a job interview for instance and the actual job was nothing like what you expected?
Tis life, is just our jobs to ask the tough questions ahead of time and not be afraid of the answers that lie therein. I think with wisdom, you know the answers without even asking anymore... | |
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| Profile Photo Does NOT Look Like the Person You've Just Met
Posted: 6/24/2008 11:59:49 AM | My god so true
ok heres one, on another site I must admit but the guy only had one eye which is not a dram in tiself but he did not tell me he just sent pictures that disguised it. We had been chatting for weeks and he had sent me delightful undies which I thought was brave :)
He had also made out he was cultured and interesting but I can honestly say he was revolting. He walked like a monkey and was racist of the most gross kind and quite frankly it taught me so much I had to thank him in the end. I am now much more honest myself and don't waste time chatting for ages I just sort out a meet and then decide quietly and painlessly lol.
I am still single so many boys have been thrown back because they where just tiddlers or not quite what they made themselves out to be but I feel good because I am just who I say i am and will wait patiently for him to come to me.
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| Profile Photo Does NOT Look Like the Person You've Just Met
Posted: 6/24/2008 12:02:22 PM |
but its even worse when a girl you meet looks totally different once they take the make up off lol.
Sure why not some guys love no make up ;).
You saying we should show up with our natural hair color and no push-up bra also?
You guys may be forgiving about make up and MAYBE hair color.... but I doubt you'd enjoy meeting us if we went natural in other areas... | |
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| Profile Photo Does NOT Look Like the Person You've Just Met
Posted: 6/24/2008 12:41:31 PM | | sometimes you can see the person aging in their profile photos...they lead off with a great shot, full head of hair and progress to looking where they are today...why do they do this plez! I really don't care about the stud you use to be. And yes I have guys who were suppose to be 5'8 and they show up shorter than me I'm 5'6, the height does not bother me but the dishonesty does. Another man that said he was in his 50's but he shuffled as he walked across the room and he had a very poor rug upon his head. I think that men in my age range need to take a good look at themselves and invest in a make over...we women are taking better care of ourselves. Loose the outdated facial hair, trim the long mustache, work out...don't show pictures of your belly! Do smile!Do post pictures within the last 6 months! I see so many guys here that if they just took it up a notch would most likely get lucky here!I don't mean to appear shallow but if you expect us to want to jump your bones you gotta learn to work it better. | |
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| Profile Photo Does NOT Look Like the Person You've Just Met
Posted: 6/24/2008 2:33:17 PM | ~OP~ This topic makes me crazy.  Here is a question:
*If someone lies, are they hurting the recipient of said lie(s) or their own self?*
Personally ~ by the responses here and my own evaluation after years of pondering that question, I would have to say that a high percentage of people believe the liar to be hurting his/her own self. That is certainly evident in this discussion. If/when I find out someone is lying about age, height, weight, marital status, etc., it's done. Period. Likewise in the world around me that isn't online, I don't waste my time asking "why" the lie was told ~ I completey disengage from that person. So in the end, am I wounded? Not likely ~ but I have wounded others with my hasty retreat. Too bad ~ lie to me once, his/her problem ~ lie to be twice.....my problem. JMO  | |
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| Profile Photo Does NOT Look Like the Person You've Just Met
Posted: 6/24/2008 2:44:45 PM | Of the ones I've met online (from PoF and other sites), all have generally looked better than their pictures, particularly the most recent meeting.
I would not even guess what I'd do if a woman I was meeting didn't look like her pictures. I might stick around, but would depend on how attractive her new/real look was. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2008 2:48:37 PM | Well OP, "Sounds like youve been jipped by a couple of fakes"...Too bad, and such a pretty girl...
I met a woman claiming to be 40...Her profile pics were nice....I meet her at a nice club..Obviously she got their earlier than me (table was full of shot glasses)..Great, another drunkoid...I about screamed, "She looked like Joan Rivers"...She had a permanent smile on her face (obvious face lift) ...Her hands had more liver spots than my grandmothers....talk about freaked...She must of weighed 90 lbs (wet)...I felt like I was dealin with someone from "Night of the Living Dead"...I was kind, hoping none of my pals saw me with this person..
40 my butt, more like 60...The pics on site were from a distance...
Online dating is a pleasure...Isnt it  
These stories are funnier than heck.. | |
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| Profile Photo Does NOT Look Like the Person You've Just Met
Posted: 6/24/2008 2:50:55 PM | | verygreeneyez - I'm not saying anyone's wounded. I'm just curious about what other people's experiences have been and why people do this kind of thing in the first place. Ultimately, however, it usually means you've both wasted each other's time. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2008 2:59:55 PM | This is not unusual at all. Most guys ask me if my picture is current and if my age is correct. I guess they have been burned a few times. One guy gave me a dirty look when he met me in person and flat out told me my picture was misleading. My picture was/is current and I don't scare children so hell what am I suppose to do? You just can't please em!
I had a guy lie to me about his race, age, language, and height. He said he spoke fluent Italian, was 40, 5'9, and had lived in Tuscany. He was Filipino, did not speak Italian, was 52, 5'4, and lived in Tuscany, TX.
So meet at your own risk. | |
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| Profile Photo Does NOT Look Like the Person You've Just Met
Posted: 6/24/2008 3:11:39 PM | This is precisely why I purposely put up pictures of my full body AND myself looking very much average, as well as the occasional one of me looking dolled up. That way, it's a pleasant surprise if I'm done up. I am pleased to say that the most common thing people tell me is, "You look EXACTLY like your pictures."
There are two guys that come to mind. One hid his weight very well in his pictures using deceptive angles, and no full body shots. I was a little shocked...
The worst offender was a guy who purposely took pictures from below, to hide his VERY receding hairline. He appeared as his age in the pictures, but this 25 year old man looked no younger than 30 in person. In fact, my friends actually thought he was in his 40's. VERY misleading, and I don't stand for deception, I don't care how insecure you are. If you're not secure enough to be honest with your appearance, you shouldn't be dating. | |
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| Profile Photo Does NOT Look Like the Person You've Just Met
Posted: 6/24/2008 3:18:54 PM | Re the Opost
It has happened to me too. Once or twice, the "surprise" was at the airport!!!!!!
And while I tried to be open minded about it and a good host, it did bother me and when compiled with other factors, led to no hook up or to break up.
I put up very fresh photos and renew them very often, very revealing not only of face but also of body type/style (within POF rules of course).
And I am very sceptical of profiles that do not include (dressed) full body photos. More than one, because that decreases the chances of using old photos. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2008 3:27:17 PM | | Look just come right out with it. You aren't shallow because you thought you were meeting a hottie and he was an ugly. False advertising is what it is - bullshit. I met with a guy like that and I blew him off right away - why waste my time when there is no chemistry at all? And since I don't misrepresent myself, why should I allow him to do that to me? Loser. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2008 3:34:46 PM | | HI cant say it has really happen to me but I myself have 7 pics of myself here and I had met a man once and he told me that I look differant in all 7 pics. So I guess we all change in looks from one pic to the next and tehn to even when we meet in person... | |
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Posted: 6/24/2008 3:37:55 PM | | While this has never happened to me, it begs the question from my mind, the total profile then is a sham correct? I mean birthdate whatever, most of it has to be phony to be that far off right? If you say you are 45 and put up a ten year old photo, your 55. So I would guess if your lying, why not go whole hog. Job, weight, interests I mean everything and anything. Why? They will know it when they see you. What could be the motivation? Bob | |
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Posted: 6/24/2008 3:38:26 PM | Yepper! they do that ~ men and women ~ 41 ~ 91 whatever!
I remember ~ in the beginning ~ I had "no" digital pic! ~ Oh! No! and had to learn how ~ to get , have and make them! ~ Scary Stuff!
there is an excuse for it ~ but it's very, very tiny!
I had a lady tell me straight out ~ I get better results!
Well I guess so Shamoo!
Life is ~ what you make it! ~ I've been told ~
and you want me to ~~ what?
Hey! ~ I'm only sixty ~ and even I know better ~~ Dance | |
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Posted: 6/24/2008 3:39:51 PM | | I think people who don't post a pic of themselves do so because they are either insecure about their looks or they know that they are unattractive. Either way, its a turn off. I don't judge men by their looks. I'm into character. The best men in my life have been not the greatest looking. So if you're not proud enough of yourself to show a picture, then you're not confident enough to attract me. On the other hand, I need some kind of connection to what you look like. Are you obese, tall, short , thin? I need to see you. And most definately, if you posted a fake pic, you're OUT as soon as I find out. No explanations will be accepted. Life is too short for phony mugs! Liars Suck!! | |
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Posted: 6/24/2008 4:00:21 PM | I have a few stories and have posted them on different threads, but something that I have noticed lately are hats. I know that younger guys are into wearing them indoors now days, but seems like the guys that are maturing put them on for photos. It is almost like, oh I'm not lying about being bald or totally gray because I have on a hat, it isn't my fault you can't see that in the photo. Or my hat is pulled down a bit over my face so you can't tell I am really 10 years older than I say I am because you can't see all my wrinkles. I have asked a couple men if they have photos of themselves without hats on and never hear from them again. One more check box I have added is that I want to see a photograph without a hat on, I can wait for it.
And I really do feel sorry for people that don't have a friend or relative that will take a picture for them to make sure they have a recent one, but even strangers will take a picture of you if you ask. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2008 4:02:34 PM |
How many times have you been handed a load of BS at a job interview for instance and the actual job was nothing like what you expected?
EXACTLY.
Whenever you meet a new person, whether online or face-to-face, you are, in a sense, selling yourself, a lot like you would if you were interviewing for a job. I tend to think that most folks who are misrepresenting themselves have fooled themselves so well, they don't even realize that they're being misleading. They'll look at that picture of themselves 10 years and 30 pounds ago and think, "Those pictures are of me, so I *must* still look like that." They honestly feel as though they're putting forward the best version of themselves. This is why I think everyone should have more than one picture (preferably 3 or more); it gives a better overall idea of what the person looks like.
OP, it sounds like your situation was quite different than what most of us have seen -- your date's picture was of another person entirely. I don't see any reason or excuse for that. It's one thing to want to share the pictures that show you in the best possible light, but to post a picture of someone else -- how do they expect to explain that when you meet in person? Another good argument for having several pictures -- one picture of someone else is easy to get ahold of; to get 3 different pictures of another person you're pretending to be would be a little trickier. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2008 4:09:25 PM | Not just hats! What about group shots? I had a guy send me a pic of ten guys and he did not tell me which one he was. Yes, there are tons of pictures of guys too far away.
What about glam shots? There are a lot of photographers who do photos just for the Internet and people look nothing like their photos either! So all you can do is meet the person in person and fight out if there is a connection.
I want to get a pin-up from Les Toil. He is an artist who makes larger women into pin-up calendar girls. The pictures are too cool and campy | |
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Posted: 6/24/2008 4:09:30 PM | | I find that at least they have posted a pic, I can't believe how many men put in no pic at all and expect a date, are they delusional, lol I have had only one experiece with an old pic of the gentleman, I guess they are a little embarrassed if they have lost a lot of hair etc. I still say we should be thankful for at least a decent pic, I will not date any man without a pic!!! not that DESPERATE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 6/24/2008 4:11:13 PM |
You saying we should show up with our natural hair color and no push-up bra also?
You guys may be forgiving about make up and MAYBE hair color.... but I doubt you'd enjoy meeting us if we went natural in other areas...
I cant speak for everyone but i would be perfectly happy with that. No need for push up bra, im fine with there natural state. Natural to me is more sexy then pushed up or smeared with make up could ever be.
I find that women are often more concerned about what other women will think of them in terms of looks. Most of the time for a guy you can have no make up on, messy hair, and still be beautiful to him.
If you enjoy all the fancy stuff thats fine go for it. I however, dont want someone to feel like its a requirement to make me happy, because natural to me can be very beautiful.
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Posted: 6/24/2008 4:33:32 PM | I have a few stories and have posted them on different threads, but something that I have noticed lately are hats. I know that younger guys are into wearing them indoors now days, but seems like the guys that are maturing put them on for photos. It is almost like, oh I'm not lying about being bald or totally gray because I have on a hat, it isn't my fault you can't see that in the photo. Or my hat is pulled down a bit over my face so you can't tell I am really 10 years older than I say I am because you can't see all my wrinkles. I have asked a couple men if they have photos of themselves without hats on and never hear from them again. One more check box I have added is that I want to see a photograph without a hat on, I can wait for it.
I've noticed that some of the ladies smile with their mouth closed ~ I don't know if they don't have teeth ~ or maybe ~ they have bad teeth or maybe even black teeth!???
~ I just don't know ~!!!!
I met this one lady on POF ~ much younger then I ~ 18 years spread ~ S he had perfect teeth ~
much later that evening ~ as she relaxed ~ and the booze took effect ~ S he said ~, "You know these are not my real teeth ~~ I said , ~ "No sh1t!" I thought that you were perfect in everyway!" ( tongue in cheek) ~ and they were! perfect! and soooo white!
She was a great date ~ we had lots of fun ~ she got too loaded to drive ~ so she came home with me ~ ~ as soon when we got home ~ she says ~ "where's the bathroom?" ~
She left the room as I got a little music started ~ the standard stuff ~ after 30 minutes ~ I went to check on her ~ she was asleep, curled up around the towlett. ~ and her full set of choppers laying on the floor beside her! ~ she was pretty sight!
being a small child of 120 pounds ~ I grabbed her up by her belt ~ and carried her to the spare bedroom and straighten her out in the bed, pulled her boots off. ~ Put her pretty teeth in a baggie ~ and placed them by the bed. `
The next morning , she walks in my room and wakes me, "where's my teeth?" ~
"I don't know , ~ where you leave them?"
46 year old women worried about some hair? ~ stay with the boys ! Dance | |
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