| Profile Photo Does NOT Look Like the Person You've Just Met
Posted: 6/27/2008 7:31:08 AM | The same thing happened to me the other day, funny... I like you tryed to give him a chance and was polite. When I got home I looked again at his profile and for sure it was not even the same guy! He clamed to be 40 in person he was 39 on the profile I finaly got him to addmit he was 46...more like 56 if you ask me.
I sent him an email to let him know most women would not be as kind as I was and that if he really wants to meet someone he better get honest.
He removed the picture from his profile...
I let him know that honesty is important to me so move on... | |
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| Profile Photo Does NOT Look Like the Person You've Just Met
Posted: 6/27/2008 2:50:14 PM | "These are the things that are deceiving in female profiles:
Face pictures only=fat
Great cleavage pictures, but no complete body pictures= overweight
Not smiling in any picture= very bad teeth or missing teeth
Men profiles:
Never have full body picture: short, chubby
Muscles, chest pictures: might be small or less than average sized in critical areas
Non smiling pictures: might be hidding something"
I just had to respond to this one because all my pics are face or face and cleavage shots. All my pics are recent. I never smile in my photos since I have beautiful teeth with braces on. I tell everyone that I have braces. My son broke my Digital cam, and these shots are all from a built in web cam in my laptop, So I can't get a longer shot for full body pic. However I do go on Cam and show people exactly what I look like, and I've never had a complaint, I'm slim, and actually in the best shape of my life with nothing to hide. | |
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| Profile Photo Does NOT Look Like the Person You've Just Met
Posted: 6/27/2008 3:10:23 PM |
Sure its bad when you meet someone online that doesnt look like their photos, but its even worse when a girl you meet looks totally different once they take the make up off lol.
lol, women shouldn't be afraid to show themselves with no makeup! Some are just as pretty, if not prettier, without all the goop.
I have a picture up with no make up, my hair in its natural state (curly) and my glasses on, and also a picture of me at 7am on a Saturday morning before a tee ball game, wearing a baseball cap and no make up because if need be, I can dress down and be comfortable. In addition to that I always keep my other pictures (three full body shots and closeups) very very current. So if there's any disappointment on a first meet it can't possibly be my fault because I've laid myself out there as honest and real as I can get.
Thankfully, I've only had two really bad "different pic/perfect angle" picture experiences, and they weren't on PoF. On PoF I've actually been pleasantly surprised each time. | |
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| Profile Photo Does NOT Look Like the Person You've Just Met
Posted: 6/27/2008 6:47:59 PM | I just came home with a doggy bag. I don't understand how you can tell a man that you aren't going to lie to him and that you don't like liars.
This man said he was 50, I am sure he had to be at least 60, I think 63. Told me he lifted weights every day. He had to be about 9 months pregnant. Bags under each eye. Told me he had a thick head of hair, yes he had a hat on in his photo. Hair thined so I could see his scalp, serves me right for not asking him to get another photo before I went out with him. But the thing is, he looked like he was the guy in the photo's father. I can't believe that it happened to me again... | |
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| Profile Photo Does NOT Look Like the Person You've Just Met
Posted: 6/27/2008 7:02:12 PM | i have heard of extreme cases like this from my other e-buddies. i cannot figure what goes on in someone's mind to think that lying or misrepresentation would sit well with someone. some other threads have said that desperate people would do anything to "say" they had a date. not sure what it accomplishes. if you felt someone would like you for who you were, did it never dawn inside the noggle that being a liar is the first thing that comes to mind?
OP, if you had seen this man's real pics, and he wrote and communicated with a connection, would you have not gone out with him due to his real looks or would you have given him a chance? i wonder if he would have given a woman a chance, who maybe was not all that much of a "10" either....
i do have to say that one of the most "attractive" men i have ever met, by societal standards was very NOT all that "good looking", but he had the eyes, the body and the moves and lots of pheremones sending me radar. on the other hand, there have been some "pretty" or "handsome" guys who were really quite vacuous. this is not to say that all non lookers are sexy or all pretty guys are stupid. but to me, that is why i would give a number of people a chance--within reason.
of course there are days i look way better and some days "do not disturb anymore than necessary or the medusa snakes coming out of my head may bite you dearly!" of course i am kidding---???? BUT, even on a bad day, someone would surely recognize me. which is why i always wear a trenchcoat and sunglasses and a wide brimmed hat when i go shopping. hmmm. hope that does not give out too many clues!!! 
ps never let your expectations get ahead of meeting someone in real life. i remember those days well and they are not fond memories. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2008 7:06:57 PM | | The ones that get me are the guys that post a face pic but are wearing sunglasses so you can't really see what they look like. I am suspicious of someone who won't show you their whole face. What are they trying to hide? | |
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| Profile Photo Does NOT Look Like the Person You've Just Met
Posted: 6/27/2008 7:13:51 PM | | I corresponded with a woman for several weeks , she also stated that the picture of her was recent ....However , when we finally met , her hair color was not what she said that it was , not even close in the picture either , she looked many years older in person , and her weight was not even close to what she claimed it was , and the picture was not her either ......needless to say , on the drive back home , I decided that if she hid herself from me , just what else could she be hiding ? That was the last time that I saw her / or rather the last time that she saw me ! | |
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Posted: 6/27/2008 8:21:01 PM | people do alot of strange things in fear of rejection. some people are in denial about how their appearance has changed over the years and think something even as far back as 10 years is acceptable as pic on a dating site. the proof is always in the tasting of the pudding.
and yes..if you feel like the person purposely mislead you in any way just to get to the meet, then the gloves are off and have at in terms of telling them off!! if it was just bad judgement on the other person's fault you might could get passed it... | |
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Posted: 6/27/2008 10:24:41 PM | you missed the point sparky---- it is not about taking a chance it is about not wanting any contact with anyone without a pic --- read it again geesh
I do not know who you are reponding to, so I am sorry if I am wrong. May be use quotes?
Anyways, my picture is up for all to see. People can compliment or critisize. I want my new friend or partner to not be insecure or scared to do that. I always hear "I do not want my friends or family or coworker to see me on a dateing site." Why does that person feel ashamed and am I suppose to feel the same?
Small answer: Be proud of who you are and where you are. If you can not, fix that, then talk to me. Again, sorry if you were not replying to me. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2008 10:30:51 PM | | I've found that alot of the time women lie about their age and weight and men about their age and height. Why? I don't have a clue if they are planning on meeting this person. And come on ladies! How about those Glamor Shots??????Do you wake up looking like that? Let's be real! | |
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Posted: 6/27/2008 10:46:29 PM | | i think vosch hid it on the head. many people are in denial. i guess because they see no hope for themselves. i have seen so many people change after bad relationships. i looked ten years older when i was married. look ten years younger now. it's kind of sad. so if anyone watching, it takes time to transform oneself, but it is doable and much better than lying and proving rejection all over to yourself after someone calls your shots in person and sees that you have lied big time! | |
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Posted: 6/27/2008 11:42:34 PM | boricua papi, you went on to say that:
*These are the things that are deceiving in female profiles:
Face pictures only=fat
Great cleavage pictures, but no complete body pictures= overweight
Not smiling in any picture= very bad teeth or missing teeth*
Are you sure about that, boricua papi? I think there were a couple of responses to that post from people who disagreed, and I disagree as well. I'm not basing my response on an opinion, either.
Did you ever stop to think that maybe someone just doesn't want to put up varied photos of themselves for reasons of their own? Personally, the few friends who know me personally on here can attest to the fact that my physique has been at a competitive level in fitness/bodybuilding for many years, and I choose not to post certain photos because I'm not looking for the type of attention from men who can't read, simply look at the photos and send you an email for the simple fact that they think your body is smokin', or they want to tell you about how they 'used to work out'.
I personally know a couple of people on here, male and female, who are absolutely killer athletic, and you wouldn't know it because they simply choose not to throw a photo up of themselves that fits your analysis ..... some men are confident enough where they don't need to display anything BUT their face, trust me.
On a further note, absolutely ... there are some people who do have something to hide and aren't being totally truthful, but to make that generalization about all and assume what you have assumed is outrageous. I think you would be making a safer analysis re the ladies who post nothing but glam shots .... take the makeup off and put your baseball cap on, and put THAT photo up. I applaud women do that on here, because I find them totally confident and refreshing no matter their level of attractiveness may be! Peace.
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Posted: 6/28/2008 12:05:59 AM | C’mon, lighten up ladies! Live and let live…cuz ain’t none o’ y’all so “honest” that you have holes in your hands showing you died on a cross of Truth & Justice.
To paraphrase Michael Corleone, “…we’re all players in the same hypocrisy…”
I challenge each and every one of you “honest & truthful” Girl Scouts to meet me in Hernando’s Hideaway…but without a mile-high layer of makeup on your face…and get rid of your bra and let your tits HONESTLY hang down to your knees. Get rid of your girdle and show those TRUTHFUL bulges on your hips and abdomen. Take off your fish net stockings so we can see your HONEST cellulite and varicose veins. Kick off those ridiculous and unhealthy high heel shoes designed to put a phony and DISHONEST “wiggle” in your walk to attract a man’s attention. Take off your slutty fake nails, eyelashes, hair weaves, and wigs.
Be forewarned, Hernando’s Hideaway DOES NOT have soft, flattering lighting. Which is why I won’t resemble my profile photos showing me sitting studiously at a laptop. Instead, I’ll be the mack daddy, trash talkin,’ foul mouthed “gangsta” sitting in the back booth scribbling ebonics on a chalkboard.  | |
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| Profile Photo Does NOT Look Like the Person You've Just Met
Posted: 6/28/2008 2:27:50 AM | TWEEPZ my sweet,
Me thinks you doth protesteth too much, cuz you AIN’T got no profile pic.
Is your lead based face paint beginning to peel?
Has your weekly botox shipment been hijacked and you’re suffering withdrawl?
Your profile says you’re “Canadian”, so Imma assume that perhaps English ain’t yo’ first language. Which means Imma cut you some slack. Cuz my little passion flower, believe me, THE LAST THANG YOU WANNA DO IS ENGAGE ME IN A WAR OF WORDS AND WIT! Darlin’, I am a founding member of the Trash Talkers Hall Of Fame. My name has been carved in the asphalt of every inner city playground from Harlem to Watts. All past and present writers for Leno and Letterman have me on their speed dial. I have an arsenal of zingers that would make Redd Foxx blush.
Tweepz, vous etes la jardin de mon coeur. Which means count yourself as lucky that I received my Economic Stimulus check last week, and I’m feeling magnanimous.
I don’t wanna harm American-Canadian relations by cutting you off at the knees and conducting a full body cavity search of your illustrious person with my “Yo’ Mama So Fat…” jokes. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2008 3:18:33 AM |
i cannot figure what goes on in someone's mind to think that lying or misrepresentation would sit well with someone
I'm sure they think it won't matter. It's their winning charm that counts dont cha know :-S
That in itself is representative of someone who is self-centred and doesn't consider outside impressions. You tend to find with people who behave in shall we say less than acceptable ways that it's not 1 thing, its a whole lot of things connected together. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2008 6:16:00 AM | | I think something that often bothers me about those that post fake pictures, pictures that are old, pictures that don't look like themself, is that when they ask you what you think and you are honest truthful, they call you rude... | |
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Posted: 6/28/2008 6:44:06 AM | Gr8Poet4You...I honestly adore reading your posts...really! But I think you may have gone to the extreme here regarding the measures men AND women go to in order to enhance their looks. (Key word here...enhance!)
I wear a bra, not because my tits hang to my knees...but because I truly hate T.H.O. (aka...hard nips!) showing through my clothing. Should guys forego their undergarments and let their schlongs hang down the side of their jeans?! (OK...only answerable if you have a schlong and not a vienna sausage!) LOL
While I agree that some totally overdo their make-up...I think it is cool that someone can "clean up nicely" or "go that extra mile" to look special for an evening out. I appreciate a man who has taken the time to do a little more than toss a hat on his bedhead, and don a tee and jeans! ;)
But that's not really what this topic is about. This topic is about the people who have photos up or share photos and then look absolutely nothing like them because they shared an old photo, or took a thousand pics in order to find the ONE that was flattering. If you meet someone and they have all the extras you described...that's not exactly misleading if thet still look like their photo. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2008 7:10:06 AM | | Heres something i find funny, some women on here post a few pictures of them say 10 years ago& then a few of what they look like now.Question ladies ? why would you do that, who cares what you looked like 10 years ago or 5, this makes you look worse because now a guy can't get the fresher look picture outta his head. me im not photogentic but this is what people say when they see me in person(more female"s from Italy from a dance crowd im part of, wow you look better in person& younger) i get that here too, but i"ve not met a lot of people from dating web sites, more at dances here when i tell them my age, and yes guys lie & women, really its VERY stupid to meet someone and know ya lied about your pictures men and women, work out, change your diet, get some new clothes etc if you want to look better, but lying ?the poet gonna get ya here ( not me the other dude) cuse he flows with da cut. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2008 7:19:20 AM | So far so good on me looking like my pictures as is stated without prompting the majority of the time, but I do also ask, "Do I look like my pictures?" I have a 100% approval rating going thus far. My hair keeps growing...
I had one tricky gal who certainly had an issue with her belly. She adopted a sexy lean forward hands on knees with loose hanging shirt pose. It was quite sexy really. In meeting though, standing erect for her was unavoidable and the poor thing seemed to be expecting.
Well, here we are at the used car lot.
I wear braces and am enduring dental improvement. I don't appreciate much the way my smile photographs so I go shut mouthed at pic time. I've had pretty girlfriends, but I'm my own worst critic. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2008 11:16:19 AM | I had that happen once. The exact same thing. But, she told me that the picture she posted was 10 years old and that she wanted me to give her a chance for who she was. That sucked because all I could think about was...."what else did you lie about??" And it burned me that I never got the chance to get to know her for her because she lied about who she was!
If a relationship starts with a lie....then it's over before it began....that’s my take anyway :P | |
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Posted: 6/28/2008 11:28:32 AM | Heres something i find funny, some women on here post a few pictures of them say 10 years ago& then a few of what they look like now.Question ladies ? why would you do that, who cares what you looked like 10 years ago or 5, this makes you look worse because now a guy can't get the fresher look picture outta his head.
I don't usually check out the women's profiles unless its regarding a forum post but in my experience, I see a lot of men that post old photos (at least 10 yrs old) along with some more current ones. I too am of the thought - who cares what you looked like 10 yrs ago! I hate it when they post the old photo as their main one - to draw you in, only to find that they look nothing like that now....bummer....
I ended up meeting one guy who only had one photo up - he admitted it was a few years old but that he still looked like that (its sitll up). Upon meeting, I realized that the photo had to be about 20 yrs old.He told me he had a cam...Even said he tried to send me 2 new pics before the meet (they never came)..WTH is up with that? Needless to say, I did not see him again.
I never did understand why someone would lie about thier age, weight, etc because once you meet someone, they're going to know you lied. Why start off with a lie?
Just last night while I was out playing pool, some man came up to me and asked if I was on POF. I told him yes and he said "I thought that was you. You look just like your pics".- I try to get new ones every few months because I sure don't want someone thinking I misled them somehow.
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Posted: 6/28/2008 11:29:52 AM |
Heres something i find funny, some women on here post a few pictures of them say 10 years ago& then a few of what they look like now.Question ladies ? why would you do that
I covered this in another post of mine. I think when you are someone who ages well, this signifies such. This was me 10 years ago...this is me, today. I feel like I actually look BETTER now, than 10 years ago...so it shows that I maintain well, that I take care of myself, that I freakin' age well! LOL | |
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