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Posted: 6/29/2008 5:16:43 PM | well i have had a few experiences like that but i myself they havent always been good.. but i meet alot of nice people on here.. and i get the occasional ***hole lol.. but isnt life supposed to be like that .. you have to learn to fall before you walk.. kiss some toads before your prince.. i think ive found my prince.. but thats for time to tell :).. and i deff dont wanna miss a seccond of it <3 | |
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Posted: 6/29/2008 6:17:13 PM | Thanks for the nice remarks Harley and no I don't mind if you use me as an example.
Right now I look like the tux pic, even though I had the scruffy look in between. It changes frequently....perhaps I have multiple personality disorder....J/K And actually I own that tux, so I can play dress up whenever I want..L0L
Appearances will only get a person so far in a relationship, but after saying that, I am as shallow as the next person to a certain degree. There are things that attract me and there are things that just tell me to turn the other way. I have always found the greatest relationships hit you when you don't expect it, so perhaps we are all doomed for failure..L0L. Looks may open a few doors or few blankets, but a person's personality is what makes the relationship last longer than a few weeks. | |
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| Profile Photo Does NOT Look Like the Person You've Just Met
Posted: 6/29/2008 10:34:04 PM |
lol, women shouldn't be afraid to show themselves with no makeup! Some are just as pretty, if not prettier, without all the goop.
I have a picture up with no make up, my hair in its natural state (curly) and my glasses on, and also a picture of me at 7am on a Saturday morning before a tee ball game, wearing a baseball cap and no make up because if need be, I can dress down and be comfortable. In addition to that I always keep my other pictures (three full body shots and closeups) very very current. So if there's any disappointment on a first meet it can't possibly be my fault because I've laid myself out there as honest and real as I can get.
For my taste, and ideas about behaviour in projecting appearances, the above is my stunning example choice of simply beautiful; full and natural gifted expose' with bonus variations included expressing her expansive repertoire of creativity...a fun , free and straight forward array making this pictorial encounter truly pleasant with the only shock factor from the jolt of desire. This is the way to do it! A BBW that lives up to the acronym, not hiding behind a euphemism intended for defiance against what some really long to be.
Should she be my tour guide in an interesting city, the experience of " interesting" would be accentuated and far more memorable. | |
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| Profile Photo Does NOT Look Like the Person You've Just Met
Posted: 7/1/2008 7:47:08 PM | | yep they will get you every time....happens um everytime....seriously it's best to meet someone not on a dating site.........all my meetings, the guys put pics up from 10 yrs past or lie about there race. Try web cam,,,,, | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 7:56:18 PM | lol, women shouldn't be afraid to show themselves with no makeup! Some are just as pretty, if not prettier, without all the goop.
Selena....Just wait till you're pushing 50 like me.  Geeze, to be 30 again Its a totally different ball game then.  But personally, I don't wear a lot of makeup-just enough to highlight the eyes and the lipstick to keep my lips soft. Kudos to you for posting an all natural photo. Maybe one day I'll get up the nerve to do it-or not. 
I look different in each of mine, but that is because I can look like any of them on any day, depend on mood. Never know what you get on first date with me.
Alexy...I completely understand that. I look much different with my hair curly versus straight...or even up in braids. Its nice to have different looks to choose from. But it is important that each of the photos look like the same person, or people will wonder.
It would be such a different place here if only everyone was honest with their pics, age, etc.
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| Profile Photo Does NOT Look Like the Person You've Just Met
Posted: 7/1/2008 8:55:43 PM | | Guess I should have said that its important that the viewer can tell that all the pictures are of the same person- no matter if they look somewhat different. It should still be clear that they are all one and the same person (for those of us that have different looks). | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 10:12:50 PM | Okie. Thank you for explaning.
Is good point, but for me I always talk on webcam with person before first date anyways. He knows I am at least one of my pic, I know he is the person on his profile.
I only do not want my date to chat with me thinking I am a curlie blonde and be disappointed with brunette if it is not his preference. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 7:49:55 AM | Obsidian...I think you're missing part of the main point...it's not about whether the person IS attractive, or not. It's about them misrepresenting themselves in the first place. How else will they misrepresent themselves to you?
Online, you can be anything and everyone you wish...the anonymity of the computer allows for such. On a dating site, there are so many posers, trolls, and people here just for sh1ts and giggles...we have to expect honesty upfront when meeting in person.
Yes...Beauty is more than skin deep...but lies cut deep. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 8:09:22 AM | | Yes I understand what you mean but I often wonder if someone downplayed their attractiveness would it elicit the same feelings of deceit. If not then it seems a portion of the disappointment could stem from some shallow behavior. Though I agree with the consensus…being as accurate as possible is important for online dating. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 8:36:22 AM | Well, I think most people who "downplay" their attractiveness, would be doing it unintentionally...they just don't photograph well (me in a nutshell..I take horrid pics!) or maybe they are tired of being propositioned for their looks only?
I can see how you are thinking...and I guess for those who have said something along the lines of, "I take plain pics so that they will be more pleased in person" could fall into this category but I think it would be far less common than the topic at hand.
Interesting thought, however! ;O)
Regarding the post about all women should take a natural shot, make up free...LOL...I just laughed my booty off on that one! I am not a heavy make up wearer, either...but I present myself in the manner in which I will be seen the majority of the time....which includes my war paint. LOL If I click with a fellow and it leads to a relationship...he will eventually see me w/o such...in the mornings or lounging around...but it still is not a representation of how I typically look. I guess if you are the sort who stops wearing make up or stops trying...after the relationship...then post away...but me, I will pass! LOL | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 5:10:22 PM | Some months back, i was very disalussioned as i went on three "meet" dates, and each and everyone i went on, i did not recognise the person when they walked in, lol.
One was 51, but claimed 41, still does. When i asked him why he does this, he stated that he was young at heart and if he asked for a woman to meet him, it wouldn't happen if he gave his age. Admittedly, he fessed immediately upon meet, so i accepted that, but didn't date him... He's still searching, in his web of lies.
The second, had someone write his profile for him and placed a 6 year old photo up, not bad profile, and nice to the eye.
Way not the same person, either way, lol... I have to confess i actually was a bit annoyed by this stage and told him, it's best to just be you, and honest if you really are looking for a relationship... Noted he still has the same profile/picture 7 months later.
And, the last one, goodness. He had a great heading, good photo and turned up having not cut his hair in months, and discussed health issues pertaining to his eyes, and blood coming out, that was his conversation with me ahhhh.
Hense, i actually gave up lol... no more dates.
LOL.
I don't know why they do this other than lack of confidence maybe, but difficult seeing as I am a down to earth person but don't like people lying, who does. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 5:30:18 PM | I have been fortunate, the men I have met do resemble their profile pics. I have received quite a few PMs from guys claiming to be much much younger than they appear. I normally just read, reply that I do not think we are a match and move on. I am near sighted but not blind !  | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 6:09:45 PM | | It happened to my friend. The man said the photo was few years old and bla bla. It deffinitely wasnt him on it. I told her to ask him out again and I will join them and take some photos together. We did and then I handed the photos to the police as a misleading informations as I was very suspicious about liers. I was nearly raped just about two months before she met this guy. He also said he was 36 but he looked 55 in real. Anyway you wouldn't believe the police had the same matching photos of him and guess what he was wanted and suspect of several crimes like stealing money from walets from women while they were having drink at the table. He was using good looking man's photo to alure as many women as possible.. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 6:29:44 PM | | at least half to two thirds of the men i've met on various services don't look as good as their photos. the rest look pretty close to their photos with one guy looking a notch or 2 above his photo a couple of yrs ago. most of those men have said their experiences are pretty similar (lol i'm nosy - i usually ask about their experiences) | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 6:40:30 PM | I get this all the time and the very 1st thing I usually hear from a man is either I look just like my pic or that it didn't do me justice (which I totally appreciate) BUT!!!!!! Isn't the point of posting a pic to give interested parties the opportunity to see you and not "get an idea" of what you" looked" like? I've met men who posted pics that were 15yrs old!!!! We change from year to year, can you imagine 15yrs???!!!!
Don't get me wrong. I'm not hung up on looks but you associate the pic with the emails, with the voice and when it's not the same, you're left feeling a bit deceived in a way. Now, I'm surprised to see some pics b/c frankly I believe you want others to see a nice pic of you. I would never post a pic of me with my hair a mess, looking like hell, (and we all look like crap at one point or another), so, why would I be interested in meeting someone who, for lack of a better reason, figures that "if they still like what they see and make contact then they'll be pleasantly surprised when they see me all cleaned up". Hello???? I hate taking pics myself but if I made a conscious decision to go online in search of "whatever", then, I'm going to try and grin and bear it for the sake of all those out there brave enough to make contact.  | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 6:54:17 PM | One more thing, b4 I get hate mail accusing me of being superficial.....a person can be a hottie w/o the slightest bit of substance behind them. A person can have a great body & yet there was no chemistry sexualy. I am not by any means into pretty boys. I think William Defoe is totally hot & I would never kick him out of bed...why? I don't know...there's just has something about him, lol.
For those out there that say blah, blah, blah about pics....the 1st thing you see is physical NOT their winning personality. It's up to each individual to use the little knowledge they've acquired in life regarding "mating rituals" to see beyond & pay attention to what is being said.
You may continue to throw darts at me........  | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 7:40:52 PM | Well for sure! Someone who posts a picture of themselves from 15 years ago IS trying to deceive you! What other explanation can there be? Gee, I've lived a happy, fulfilling life, have many friends that I've shared good times with, and not once, in all that time, has a decent, recent photograph worthy of posting on a website to attract the opposite sex been taken? There are no professional photographers in my town?
Yes the photo is the first thing you note, and then you move on to other stuff in the profile. A so-so photo and a fabulous profile will elicit genuine responses. Posting the picture of your best friends good looking 38 year old son will get you all the shallow dates you deserve. That's my take. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2008 7:58:28 AM | | I don't advocate using old or fake photos. But some people put too emphasis on photos. A photo will give you a broad idea of what a person looks like, but most people don't look exactly like their photos. Photos are a still 2-D shot of a person. People are 3-D. Also a person could take 5 different photos and look somewhat different in all of them due to a variety of reasons. Different hairstyles, camera angle and focus, background lighting, the quality of the camera being used, some photos don't come out as well when they are downloaded for whatever reason etc. I wouldn't date a man that is completely unattractive to me. However I wouldn't reject a man based on a mediocre photo or because he looks somewhat different than his photo. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2008 8:29:57 AM | I don't advocate using old or fake photos. But some people put too emphasis on photos
I agree. One of my male friends was talking to a woman on another website. She liked the photos on his profile. Then he sent her a few more photos of himself and he never heard back from her. Apparently she didn't like the other photos. I wouldn't turn down a man just because some of his photos weren't that great. As mentioned by some other posters, there are several legit reasons why a person could have some good photos of themselves and some mediocre or below average photos of themselves. Besides I wouldn't really know how attractive he is until I actually met him in person.
I wouldn't date a man that is completely unattractive to me. However I wouldn't reject a man based on a mediocre photo or because he looks somewhat different than his photo.
Exactly. I think less people would be single if they had this viewpoint.
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