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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/26/2008 7:22:17 PM | | I tease them about having such a brief or blank profile. Bust their balls for it and be humourous. If she has pictures try to find something interesting in them to bring up as an opener. It's only generic if you make it generic and if they don't respond you've lost nothing. Move on to the next girl if that's the case. | |
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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/27/2008 8:55:12 AM | Yes it's a little more complicated to think of something to type about when first emailing someone that has no info in their profile. The only thing you can type about on the first emailing is their appearence or the location they live in.I don't email many anymore.More into the forums these days. The the majority of the more worthwhile women on the site is in the forums anyways.
Seems to me that most people that won't/don't put much info in their profiles won't put much effort into getting to know someone as far as emailing back and forth.
But then there's also the one's that have a profile info thats a triple scroller that always responds back with the one line responces. I think because they are sooooooooo busy answering 20 other emails they don't have time to put a lot back into the responces. | |
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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/27/2008 9:02:34 AM |
I wish we could make our profiles looooonnnnnggggggeeeeeeerrrrrrrrr.
I think a profile can be too short OR too long. Too short, and you don't really know anything but generic stuff (I'm shy, I like to travel, I like to laugh). Too long, and personally I start losing interest before I'm done. And I'm not criticizing you for that - I've shortened my OWN profile because I went back to read it and thought "nobody's going to want to sift through all this". | |
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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/27/2008 9:09:52 AM | When I was looking, I had a detailed profile, now that I'm mainly here for the forums, I deleted everything on my profile.
What's hilarious is I get mail saying " I really like your profile ...". It's like, dude, I don't have a profile, lmao   | |
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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/27/2008 9:29:49 AM | You can say "Hi"
When you meet someone outside of the internet, you don't know their life's story before you say something.
I can learn a lot more about somebody by talking or chatting with them than I can by some profile that they have taken the time to think about, what might get the most responses | |
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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/27/2008 9:37:14 AM | | namats, that is not true. You have to see if she says "not single/not looking" if anything else she may be taking a break from dating or just not happy with what she's "hooked" lately. It never hurts to ask, especially since many forum posters are so very interesting and expressive. Bob | |
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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/27/2008 9:40:31 AM | My very long profile has always attracted me the types of men that I am interested in. They find me through the forums then they read my profile. They have to because my profile is hidden and I dont want to date "Billy Bob" Never once have they said I think your profile was too long and it really bored me. The guys that I am friends with or even have a romantic interest in have contacted me through email and then we have exchanged phone numbers. I bet they will even read this post so let me say hi or better yet let me just text them because our relationships go far beyond POF!
One very special man I am driving across country to meet very soon. He thought my profile was funny. His sux. | |
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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/27/2008 9:41:27 AM |
I think Spongebob 75 said it perfectly. That's why I think putting a photo up is just stupid, and dangerous. I want a man to read my profile and reply to my ad because we have things in common.
The only problem with this idea is that, like a lot of guys, and gals for that matter, I won't even open a profile if I can see that it doesn't have a pic. In my mind, a person who doesn't have a photo is someone that is trying to hide something. | |
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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/27/2008 10:17:25 PM | | im a woman who doesnt have a lot in my profile but that doesnt mean im boring or there isnt a lot to me. any one who says this online stuff is easy is either vain or a liar ask your self one thing: did you find it easy to talk about yourself? | |
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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/28/2008 4:05:10 AM | Re the Opost
I can totally relate to the Opost because most women in my local POF-bowl have very short profiles, not to mention that although there are 4 million in the city, there are very few at POF and most do not even have a photo!
What to say? Usually, I say nothing, ie usually I do not bother to send a mail and prefer to look inter-nationally on POF and offline locally. | |
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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/28/2008 9:47:39 AM | I dont put enough info.im my profile because I want people to contact and ask about me.If i would put all info about me--what else they would have to ask?
People has each own way to attract the opposite sex by what they are putting in thier profiles--we sell ourselves to attract but some of them are not true,so i rather say what i like and dislikes by contacting me, from there we can talk ,exchange ideas and see if we have common interest.
just ask me--that's all.
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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/28/2008 10:05:11 AM | Most on here just need a confidience boost. Need a lessen in how to write. Might be hopeless. Even if they do write things many turn this into a pen pal thing or a phone buddy. That at times is because they are lonley and you just might not be a match but a nice person. They feel listened too. I am confidient but I do find myself .... typing away as I am now out of boardum. I am sure others do this also. I do find when I ask questions they say it is like in interview. Well, it is one. How else do we get to know each other over the net.
Open up people or you never will find the right one.
SMILE AND MAYBE YOU WILL GET A SMILE BACK. | |
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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/28/2008 12:25:15 PM | ~OP~ Hmmmm. I have a lot of stuff in my profile. Most of it crap.  Space filler really ~ oh and funnies for those who I've come to know over a long period of time spent here. I gave up putting the "real" me out there for one simple reason: unless I'm physically attracted to someone, and they are to me, the door to my personal life (as for male/female interactions beyond friendship) isn't open. Friendships can be built on little or even no personal info in the beginning, as I learned while being here. Sadly, and I admit I'm guilty ~ it's the pictures and the instaneous, "Oh, he's (or she's) adorable/handsome/whatever" that attracts via online more often than not. Once that is established, the chatter may commence. So maybe it isn't that the profiles aren't containing enough to go on ~ maybe it's the simple reality: we have stepped away from real-life meeting into a one dimensional venue. Unfortunately, it's a buffet out there and most are picky eaters.  | |
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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/28/2008 12:54:23 PM | Firstly I wouldn't waste time in trying to talk to someone who has nothing but a picture up. As mentioned before, if there's nothing to their profile, chances are there isn't much to that person.
That isn't to say pictures aren't worth anything. I'd rather have a picture up, so the person knows who they are talking with.
I'm sure instances have occured many times in the realm of internet dating where someone talks to another person with no pic and expectations of that person's looks rise, then when they finally meet, he/she isn't satisfied with what is before them. So a picture is valuable in that respect so it's good to have one or two, so that way neither party is wasting time with each other. | |
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Joined: 6/19/2008
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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/28/2008 5:59:55 PM | | I totally agree with mikefb ... I have purposely not put much onto my profile because its so contrived ... when you 'meet' someone in real life half the enjoyment of 'getting to know' each other is by chatting, asking those questions that interest you both and seeing where the conversation goes ... to me it's the same principle online ... I don't walk into pubs, bars or restaurants with a placard announcing my likes, dislikes and what I'm looking for in a relationship for people to view before deciding to talk to me! | |
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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/28/2008 6:06:18 PM | [qoute]Do people just go by looks here so it doesn't even matter what I say in my email?
I just recently found out the one guy I believe I rated his profile photo a 2 was the guy I had the most fun with upon meeting. I read every profile before trying to remember the face that goes with the person that is getting described to me, and then i cross off every third word then i decide if the truth may be in there somewhere I try to always respond when I get emails with questions and IM's are a little more realtime when getting to know people too.
I check out those who look at me and if they have nothing in their profiles it says they are still trying to find out who they really are and I have no interest except to be a friend to them. Chatting will be as far as it goes. So to those of you who can't remember your likes and dislikes or even what you did last weekend to pass the lonely please take deep consideration that nobody else knows you except you. | |
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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/28/2008 6:23:28 PM | | So it's ok to judge people according to what they write (or don't write) in their profile but not according to what they look like ?! And people that don't write much on their profile, lack self-awareness!?! I don't think so! I could write that I'm independent, fun loving and enjoy fell walking but then sometimes I'm none of those things! How reliable is the information anyway! It's only a snapshot of how we feel at any given moment! The only 'real' way to form an opinion of someone is to spend time getting to know them - what they say and what they do! I try to avoid making snap judgements based on photos or profiles ... neither are particularly representative in my opinion! | |
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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/29/2008 4:24:18 AM |
So it's ok to judge people according to what they write (or don't write) in their profile but not according to what they look like ?!
Why not let people know your personality up front in your profile? Thats why it is there. You wouldn't need the photo if you were looking for a guy who could read. | |
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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/29/2008 4:58:40 AM | | ask question about their profile, I did! Their is one gal that i meet from this site, after looking at her pic again I could see that she did drugs before, (bad) so when I asked her a question about it took her a few days to answer, was not a very happy camper, that's why you ask question . Good luck!! | |
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| What to say to women who don't put anything in their profiles?
Posted: 6/29/2008 5:13:42 AM | Say SOMETHING! Ask them what their favorite beverage is, what movie did they see last, etc.
Some people have crappy profile but are great people...some have great profiles but are crappy people
Some people will copy & paste a great profile written by another...so don't go by what the profile says word for word, unless they sound mean or psycho
Be aggressive in contacting women, the early bird gets the worm | |
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