| Bullying at Work
Posted: 6/28/2008 4:49:33 PM | | ^^^^agree totally with this post... | |
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| Bullying at Work
Posted: 6/28/2008 5:00:30 PM | | Wow, these stories make me sick to my stomach! Bullying should not be tolerated anywhere! Be it outside, at work, at school, at home, etc. God, some humans sicken me. And people wonder why I love animals so damn much. These stories are so disheartening. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2008 5:25:19 PM | Yeah guys4theforums, defined the worst of them.
The passive aggressive sycophant. They are silent, deadly and truly aggravating. 
I have only worked with one and they were not liked by many. Eventually the management started to see the behaviour and stopped showing any favouritism towards that person, and that person ended up leaving in disgust.
The passive aggressive sycophant can be beaten by ignoring their behaviour and subtly aggravating their agenda through means that adhere to the proper practices of the environment. They will usually begin to get desperate and unintentionally advertise to all what they truly are. Then they begin self-destruct. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2008 8:54:23 PM | | Oh, I remember all too well the pain and suffering a few silent bullies caused me a few years ago when I worked in a different industry. The memories are still very traumatic for me. They lied about my work skills behind my back while smiling to my face. Bullies of any kind are despicable and should be strung alive for what they do! | |
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Posted: 6/29/2008 3:08:37 AM | I'm not saying bullying doesn't happen, but I think far too often the people doing the complaining are more responsible for their plight than they want to believe. It's always *someone else's* fault...
I know this dude... My 1st ghetto zone, commentor, he enjoys a good litter..
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Posted: 6/29/2008 4:02:43 AM | Then you get people that just want to rile you up watch you snap so they could get their little rocks off you'ld like that fella wouldn't you? Your not worth it.
Truer words never spoken...
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Posted: 6/29/2008 7:01:54 AM | This is VERY easy.
He needs to go to his imediate manager and tell them he is stressed. He should make sure the manager notes it down(important) and the reasonw hy he is stressed is due to bullying.
He has by the sound of it several witnesses.
Next he should see his GP and explain everything, after he's done that he can take time off and put in a complaint.
I would expect him to get 6 months off with stress, and or compensation.
its the managers have a DUTY OF CARE towards their employess, and most people do not know how much the law protects them. Employers like to keep this information hidden for obvious reasons.
http://www.google.co.uk/search?hl=en&cr=countryUK|countryGB&safe=off&sa=X&oi=spell&resnum=0&ct=result&cd=1&q=duty+of+care+employers&spell=1 | |
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Posted: 6/30/2008 1:53:59 AM | the 2 imediate managers, (assistant nite) was the pplz involved in the bullying...the nite mangager, whas the one that commented "he can be my 3itch now untill he leaves",
but he got a promotion now, and went to another store. shocking huh?
thats why we have to wait till the general manager is back...
wich i believe is today.
[he was on hols] | |
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Posted: 6/30/2008 11:24:41 AM | | Honey, where do you work? A place where they raise fighting dogs for dogfights? Or a hard-knuckle factory? Or a POW training camp? (For those of our soldiers who are destined to be captured.) I cannot imagine this could happen anywhere in the free world. This would not happen anywhere in the free world. Your writing is uncharacteristically jumbled. It gives evidence of your hightened emotional state, but conceivably could be giving evidence (and this is just my opinion of a hypothetical situation), of a hallucinatory or delusional state. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2008 11:45:14 AM | lmao...you are funny...
i write like that, cs im german, so english is a second language.....
and thank you for the analyses of my psyche...
i feel so much better and enlightend now...
i work in retail...and yeah, there is alot of animals in that place.... | |
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Posted: 6/30/2008 11:50:54 AM | | Ach... so the incident happened in Germany. That explains everything. Thanks. I take my words back. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 1:20:10 AM | Workplace harassment goes on without regard to geography or industry type. One of the most hateful acts of bullying I've witnessed occurred about 15 years ago in a plush "corporate America" setting . The target of the attack eventually broke down and quit. Mission accomplished. I quit shortly thereafter, but before doing so, I wrote a declaration on this employee's behalf in anticipation of them denying her unemployment, which they did. She had to endure an appellate hearing but was eventually awarded unemployment.
In this situation, the bullies were the owners and the victim was a right-hand management person who refused to engage in acts she considered to be unethical and illegal. If, however, IMO, the person doing the bullying is a senior employee and the victim is a fellow co-worker, that could be a different problem. Sometimes people act the way they do because they can get away with it and they know it. In cases where the employer knows the source of the problem but ignores it, the person bringing the complaint is going to be viewed as the troublemaker and can no longer look at the employer as an ally.
In short, from what I've observed as the co-worker, the management staffer, and the friend of someone whose been bullied on the job in the private sector, even if you win, you lose. If you're going to go down, however, you can decide the manner in which you do so. Someone has taken a dislike to you, and more than likely it's because you're taking away someone else's spotlight. It seems to boil down to a schoolyard-type jealousy.
Many times, these attacks are unprovoked and vicious rumors prompt other co-workers to pile on. Ignoring it may not always work and reporting these things to management without journaling it for later recall could prove hurtful to your case.
If you must go down, go down fighting in a position where you can win. That means don't show your hand, be careful with whom you share information, get expert legal counsel, and psychological counseling. While some would just like to get out and get on, there is something to be said for those brave souls who endure litigation. Some employers don't take these things seriously until someone comes back and shoots up the place or they get sued for a large sum. My questions are these: 1. Why does it take so little to evoke such hatred in some? and 2. Why do some revel in the discomfort and misery of others and wish to justify it as being deserved? | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 6:51:39 AM | My questions are these: 1. Why does it take so little to evoke such hatred in some? and 2. Why do some revel in the discomfort and misery of others and wish to justify it as being deserved?
Good points; Great Thread
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Posted: 7/2/2008 1:57:53 AM | This would not happen anywhere in the free world. Your writing is uncharacteristically jumbled. It gives evidence of your hightened emotional state, but conceivably could be giving evidence (and this is just my opinion of a hypothetical situation), of a hallucinatory or delusional state
With addiction, comes denial...
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Posted: 7/2/2008 2:55:49 PM | | suck it up and be a man and do something about it | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 3:04:20 PM |
Why do some revel in the discomfort and misery of others and wish to justify it as being deserved?
own insecuretys maybe?
it is easyer to pick somone elses faults, then looking at oneself.
or to put it in bully terms...i put u down, to make me feel better...........
thanx jed...good questions asked....
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Posted: 7/2/2008 3:10:39 PM |
but conceivably could be giving evidence (and this is just my opinion of a hypothetical situation), of a hallucinatory or delusional state
as i said...insecuretys...why u question me....or even feel the need to analyse me?
(not directed at u jed)
im me, and whatever u say wont change my way of thinking....im stronger than any influences put in my way. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 5:05:24 PM | | Jed brings up a really good point. I can never understand why some people enjoy making others miserable. Sometimes I wonder why people act this way. I'll never understand it for the life of me because I would feel terrible if I upset someone. I could never purposely upset someone by being mean to them. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2008 1:39:02 AM |
Sometimes people act the way they do because they can get away with it and they know it.
verry true.
if a person is an easy target, for what reason ever, and the bully thinks they have advantage points.it is an easy game.
if you are tough enough, you can as earlier mentiond in this thread, try your best not to play up to the bullie, and watch them selfdistruct in due course.........
but then again, how long is a pice of string.....
and do you really want to be in an ugley inviroment like that.......
sadley sometimes pplz just cant leave, cs of financial pressures.
In cases where the employer knows the source of the problem but ignores it
at the end of the day you are onley a number....
what do they care?
staff are as easylie replaced as a lightbulb.
even if you win, you lose
yeah....lol....nobody wants to feel uncomfertable in their own skin, in a place that "YOU" have caused trouble in....
Someone has taken a dislike to you, and more than likely it's because you're taking away someone else's spotlight. It seems to boil down to a schoolyard-type jealousy.
verry true!
Many times, these attacks are unprovoked and vicious rumors prompt other co-workers to pile on
allso true.
i can never understand why pplz believe erything they hear.
pplz should take off their blinkers....
1. Why does it take so little to evoke such hatred in some? and 2. Why do some revel in the discomfort and misery of others and wish to justify it as being deserved?
sorry i dnt give you the credit for that yesterday.
it was onley a flying visit. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2008 4:09:12 AM | Thanks all for the + contribution(s)... Keep'em coming.
Special thanks 2, basking in the sun, though.
Hey nuttykitten & all who apply;
How does 1 actually "hook" up here?
Like socializing & such....
It's almost like a talking-heads post(s) here..
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Posted: 7/3/2008 7:24:22 AM |
How does 1 actually "hook" up here
with great differculty most of the time i suppose...cs we are all from diffrent countrys.
shame really, cs i have read some intresting and funny pplz on here. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2008 8:24:26 AM | | Sounds to me like you have a bunch of people at work who are acting very unprofessional. If they had a problem with him they should have took him into the office and had a word with him. I think the boss who is on holiday should know about it, so he can investigate and determine whether or not it really happened, and if it did he can deal with it in whatever way he sees fit. He should know because even if this guy never comes back, what happens when another guy just like him shows up? Do you want them to do the same thing? This behavior needs to be corrected immidiately. Good luck with that. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2008 12:12:02 PM | | that was wrong and some wonder why some give up looking for work cause they know they will become a joke for there bosses....report all this to the head person involoved with the company cause that should not be happening at all...what would they do if they had a child who grew up and kept becoming a joke at work to the point where they quit and give up??? i bet they wouldn't be laughing no more | |
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Posted: 7/4/2008 3:44:52 PM | Not all companies have official written policies and an official personnel team trained in resolving issues such as these. Someone who tosses papers or files at you so that you have to pick them up off the floor or someone who repeatedly slams your office door or hangs up in your face mid-sentence may be acting unprofessionally and rude, but in the minds of some, these acts can just be ignored. There are some who would not report anything , including property damage and physical injury, to their supervisors until they could prove that they had exhausted reasonable efforts to resolve matters directly with the bully.
I no longer work in a confined atmosphere with multiple personalities [pun intended], but thinking back, I believe before I would consider making an official report to my supervisors, I would ask myself what I realistically expected my supervisors to do about my complaints. I would ask myself if making an official report would likely make my situation better or worse and if I could deal with being there if essentially nothing was done. I would move on and up and invest my time and energy elsewhere as quickly as possible. | |
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