| What to think if no response to pic request
Posted: 6/28/2008 2:43:28 PM | ^^^^^^^ Dont you know that everything is better with a Big Johnson? 
Sorry couldnt resist that one lol but I do have a question as to why you would have them on web cam to begin with knowing what goes on on sites like this one? Isnt that just asking for trouble especially at 4am in the morning? Hey just askin | |
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| What to think if no response to pic request
Posted: 7/1/2008 12:57:52 AM | Internet dating sites are graphic entities - by necessity. If the fellow had a genuine reason for not posting a pic, I'd still expect him to send one in an early email. I do understand the need for privacy.
But at the same time you should never hide the fact that you’re dating or looking to date. You should never worry whether someone at work will see you on match.com. If someone mentions that they would be ashamed if their friends found out they were on a dating site, I don't think we'd be a good match. The excuse that you aren't savvy with computers doesn't really fly either in most cases. If they guy is in that unfamiliar a territory around a computer, I wouldn't be able to maintain interest in him.
You need to be really happy with who you are, and you need to post your pictures. Unless you are a famous politician or a famous actor, or someone who for legal reasons can’t – like your picture is on a milk carton and you’re lost, or you’re on the post office walls – put your picture up on the internet so people can see who you are!
Everyone who puts themselves out on the internet is vulnerable and they don’t want their pictures passed around either. I’ve never met anyone who said, “you know, I saw Heather up there today and I just posted her internet dating profile all over the place, just for sh!ts and giggles!”
But in answer to your question OP, I would just lose interest.
Be well everyone........ | |
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| What to think if no response to pic request
Posted: 7/1/2008 5:10:28 AM | If I'm talking to someone with no photo, it depends on the type of communication I'm having with them. If it's discussing a forum topic or something else not relating to meeting up are establishing a connection in real life, I don't much care what they look like. If it's someone who is interested in eventually meeting me, of course I would ask for a photo. I even mention that in my profile. If I asked for one and was greeted with silence, I would just move on to the next person. No big deal.
I really like what Cheshirecatalyst just said on the subject:
But at the same time you should never hide the fact that you’re dating or looking to date. You should never worry whether someone at work will see you on match.com
She brings up a really good point. If someone is ashamed to be on a dating site, there's often a reason for that. To me, there's just no reason a person could give for not having a picture up that would make me want to date them. High profile job? No thanks. Don't know how to use the computer? Meh... that's one's negotiable. Honestly, when I see someone without a photo (even a private one to share), I automatically think at first that they're married or otherwise attached. I know that's not always the case, but it is something that crosses my mind and makes me move on to another profile.
Had to put the disclaimer part in to prevent the amount of bashing I'm about to get for being truthful about what crosses my mind. | |
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| What to think if no response to pic request
Posted: 7/1/2008 5:26:19 PM | This isn't an unreasonable request at all ... . we simply want to see who we are talking with and to attach a face to our communication is always a step in the right direction IF it's expected to progress? There is nothing wrong with asking, but there is something a bit too mysterious happening with the person who doesn't want to send one. I have had one person who I had previously dated for several months attempting to trick me twice into responses without seeing that it was actually him; I don't get off on the mysterious men, stranger or no stranger and good intent or not .... they can save their antics for the game players who like drama and mystery. Yes, an exchange of photos is good; after all, they are responding to your profile that may have one attached. 
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| What to think if no response to pic request
Posted: 7/1/2008 10:01:11 PM | | I think it's a sign of an intimacy issue, that the person won't put themselves out there as you have. FOr this reason, I don't want anything to do with a person who refuses to send me a picture. Why should he know what I look like and I not have the same privilege? | |
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| What to think if no response to pic request
Posted: 7/1/2008 11:19:32 PM | | Here's another reason a man might not post a picture. Maybe he's someone who, for whatever reason, has posted multiple profiles. This is quite possible with POF since membership is free. All you would need is different email accounts and there are plenty of those available for free on the Web. This isn't something I made up— I just had this experience. This man mistakenly replied to my email with another username as that is how he'd logged in at the time and he forgot that wasn't the name he was using when I met him. After I figured it out and started looking around, I discovered that he had at least four different profiles under various names. I emailed most of them to let him know I was onto him. The man denied it to the end. Now I've changed my mail settings so only people with photos can contact me. | |
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| What to think if no response to pic request
Posted: 7/2/2008 7:04:27 AM | Why is the picture important ? For all I care her's can be googled...
This happens a lot with both men and women on these sites. Why they do that, I'll never know. | |
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