| Is it getting to expensive to continue to live single?
Posted: 6/28/2008 2:21:37 PM | I think if anything you're at an advantage if you live alone. As far as I can see you are in charge of your lifestyle so you do exactly what is needed to be done in order to maximize how far your dollar goes. So if you move in with someone else, all of the sudden I can foresee arguments, and people doing things their own way, which in turn does not maximize the dollar..
When I think about it my money will not go as far, if I lived with someone else. | |
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| Is it getting to expensive to continue to live single?
Posted: 6/28/2008 2:25:12 PM | i know a guy i work with he does that all the time.the first girl he can find to put up with him he shacks up with her so then he gets to have a car,skidoos,motorbikes and the works..
when he cant find a girl he lives with is mom from what i heard and his mom makes it easy for him.so he still gets to live well.
ya theses days with the cost of living and all i can see how tempting it is for people to just put up with anyone just to have a better quality of life.
but i couldnt do that.living with someone u dont get along is not what i call good quality of life. | |
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| Is it getting to expensive to continue to live single?
Posted: 6/28/2008 2:43:35 PM | I don't have even one skinny reason to get involved with someone romantically if my true intention is to have someone help me cope with the difficult economy or perhaps, some poor decisions I've made that have led me to being financially concerned. That's just deceptive and disrespectful in my books!
With all due respect OP.. If being an "actor" hasn't given you enough to live on, perhaps honourable things like finding an extra job or even getting into a "shared accommodation" arrangement would at least leave you with the integrity that only comes with telling the truth.
I also know a few guys who spent their entire lives partying in the musician or acting fields who got up to their 40's and suddenly realized that everybody else kept their shoulders to the stone for a darn good reason... If you choose the limelight, the audience and being clapped for over a sensible job where the paycheque would be thanks enough, you don't have a right to foist the consequences of your decision on some unsuspecting woman who doesn't realize, you wouldn't be with her otherwise.
I hope you re-think where you're headed with this line of thinking... BEFORE you start using someone... | |
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| Is it getting to expensive to continue to live single?
Posted: 6/28/2008 3:06:25 PM | | As the previous poster so accurately put it getting a girlfriend and especially a move in will cost you more money, a girlfriend will not save you money. However for a women it can be a new source of income, especially in harder economic times. As the recession gets worse women will get proportionally more willing to hook any guy they can, especially if he has any money. This recession is just getting started and as in the Great Depression we have an acute liquidity crises developing. Prior to the Great Depression people and businesses borrowed heaver and heaver to play the stock market, they called this going on margin. Most of these people were clueless as to how the market actually worked. A similar thing has happened now but on a larger scale. Very heavy borrowing on mortgages, credit cards and other loans. The people who did this figured they could just walk away from the mountain of debt they created. Who knows what will happen in the future but it is a fair bet the economy will slow very significantly before it gets going again. So if your a guy with no debt and plenty of cash, you wont need Plenty of Fish to get a date. The girls will find you :) | |
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| Is it getting to expensive to continue to live single?
Posted: 6/28/2008 3:22:41 PM | As a concerned person and a business person, I have held the view that the greatest single disease in Toronto is lonliness and its effects on health such as substance abuse and suicide. That many condo owners are working excessive hours and stesses and have little disposable income to socialize and meet a life partner. But when the economy falls then a significant number of these single person condos owners will not be able to afford to carry their condo and will lose it. They will then find accomodations in condos where the owner needs that person's rent to afford to carry their condo ownership, etc. costs. In moving together with no mortgage payments then they will have more disposable income and less stress and socialize more resulting in more singles getting married including the person that they moved in and are renting from. Sometimes, bad can be converted or turns out to be a blessing.
People are not conscious that money can become near worthless in a hyperinflation scenario and that no matter how much they saved they cannot make it on their own.
This happened in the Wermar German Republic period where it took a wheelbarrow
of money to buy a loaf of bread. God help us not to experience this. Jim | |
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| Is it getting to expensive to continue to live single?
Posted: 6/28/2008 3:57:12 PM | You people need to catch up with the times.
Back in the 80's women flooded the work market. Most Marriages at that time lasted for life. Women started getting treated properly and given good jobs. This doubled the income of most Families almost over night.
The Rich people with their Goals of forever draining the poor people of all the money they'll ever see saw a chance to get even richer.
You might take notice that Gas from 1980's to present has gone from like 70 cents a gallon to over 4 dollars in most cities. Price of bread and milk shot up. Prices doubled to say the least. Why? Because families had 2 people, one man and one woman working in the market and they could afford it.
Now in last several years a new trend has taken hold. The one where men and women can't get along together. Thus a rise in divorces that out does the years of our past. Also mankind didn't take into consideration the Individuals that never got married.
So face it, Your now living alone in an Economy that insists you must have the income of not 1 but 2 people. So YEP its getting harder every year to stay alive. Thank your Congressmen, High Society Businessmen, Gas Pumps and local City Leaders for the situation you are slowly realizing is getting worse and worse. | |
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| Is it getting to expensive to continue to live single?
Posted: 6/29/2008 4:23:56 AM | Even though the cost of living continues to rise year after year, most people still prefer it to the alternative (which incidentally is also rising in cost).
Regardless of it being financially cheaper to live together than seperately, emotionally it costs far too much to stay in a bad relationship. If the two of you can not make it better for you both, get out and start again. Just ensure that you learn why that relationship failed.
Rick. | |
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| Is it getting to expensive to continue to live single?
Posted: 6/29/2008 5:30:19 AM | Living together with someone you are just dating for the sake of combining resources is risking big trouble down the line. I would not move in with someone whom I had a romantic relationship unless I knew it was going to get more serious.
But that said I have had a roommate (just a roommate) for the past 2 1/2 years and it has worked out great. The first one was a guy and we worked completely different hours and almost never saw each other. The current one is a female and we get along great. We just extended our lease and plan to give it atleast another 6 months. Finding a decent roommate can be tricky because you never really know someone until you live with them, but the financial benefits are great if you find the right person. The two most important things are responsibility and respect! | |
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| Is it getting to expensive to continue to live single?
Posted: 6/29/2008 7:07:19 AM | I would hate to think that a guy I met was considering me because of financial gain.
Although, I am certain that this happens.
I don't know about other women on this site, but I do take the guys financial situation into consideration but not from the standpoint of wanting someone to "take care of me" but from the standpoint that" I don't want to take care of anyone else".
I agree with the other posters that we have become a society with very poor " delay of gratification" skills. There was a time when people would save and save to get what it is they wanted, but with instant credit available to anyone who asked we are a product of our own poor decisions and now people are considering teaming up not from a romantic standpoint but to make it better for themselves financially. | |
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| Is it getting to expensive to continue to live single?
Posted: 6/29/2008 10:11:42 AM |
How about this? We all have had people show an interest in us. Romantic interest. Want to be in a relationship interest. Suppose you really believe they do care? They do mean what they say? But we have chosen to pass on them in the past and we aren't connecting with anyone for awhile. Another if they really love us? Do you take a chance? You miss not being in a relationship? Are you tired of living a sexless life?You are not getting any younger? Health concerns? Family passing on? Or bad relationship with them. Have you noticed that their are people here that you might be interested in if they lived closer? Maybe you don't marry but you come to a agreement. Maybe each puts up some kind of money security? Like rent security?
I've never dated or even met anyone irl I've talked to online, but I don't think any of those I've talked with had any sincere romantic interest in me. Even if one of them had, however, the real question is whether I return those feelings. If I don't and can't, in my book it would be morally wrong (not to mention totally depressing) to live together as a couple solely to fulfill any/all of the above needs.
Although this is an interesting thread, I'm kind of confused about why you bring the issue up strictly as romantic/couples thing - if it's a matter of economic need, why not just have a regular roommate? And the other benefits you mention missing out on don't necessarily require a live-in relationship to be fulfilled.
Have you noticed that their are people here that you might be interested in if they lived closer?
Yeah, this is definitely one of my biggest obstacles to even finding people it's practical to talk to or meet. My dating pool ...isn't even a pool - it's a puddle.... a really shallow one with few other singles, most of them people who do crazy, annoying crap like listen to country music and vote for the Dubya. TWICE. I have my standards. And I'm sorry, I still don't see what this has to do with living with someone I don't love for economic gain.... except that it would increase my chance of finding someone who *is* right for me, but I can't afford the time or the gas involved in dating people who live an hour or more away from me.
One of the things I check out here is the section "who viewed me". I have found that there are a number of women checking out my profile who live a distance away. Why are they doing that? Are they open to a long distance relationship? Just curious because of a posting I made have placed?
Mostly the latter in my case when I view other profiles, and I look at both men's and women's. To me, it's just like when I'm at any real life gathering of people and someone starts to say something; I naturally turn my head to see who that voice/thought/idea belongs to. I also enjoy people-watching in general, so I find profiles really interesting to view. Sometimes, too, I think someone looks familiar, and check to see if it's someone I know irl or from another site.
Some areas are hit harder economically than others. What about just being roommates?
Now you're talking.  But it wouldn't be with someone I just recently met on an Internet social/dating site; I would only consider someone I already know, and who I can be as certain as possible is responsible and reliable. In the meantime, I'm one of the lucky ones - I do have job security at least, I live a frugal lifestyle by choice, and I have family and friends who love me and wouldn't let me go hungry or become homeless if it came to that. And I like to think that the silver lining and lesson for all of us in this is going to be that we get at least a little bit out of this "me me me" mode we've been in for so long, and start to look out for each other more, even if we don't live together. | |
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| Is it getting to expensive to continue to live single?
Posted: 6/29/2008 4:43:35 PM | It's my understanding that marrying for love, and not for economic or other security, is a relatively recent phenomenon. I suppose we should be happy that so many people, even those without much, can still afford to live on their own, that they have the option of doing so, even it it isn't easy.
I wonder if we've lost something though. | |
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| Is it getting to expensive to continue to live single?
Posted: 6/30/2008 4:07:36 PM | | Well I am alot better off single, than I was married. Because, I no longer have to spend my money on stupid stuff. I am a saver, for the most part and just couldn't understand the value of deer piss, out-of-state huntin' licenses, $1200 Shrine dues, or absurd hobbies and spontaneous "gotta haves" just cuz his buddies had 'em. | |
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| Is it getting to expensive to continue to live single?
Posted: 6/30/2008 6:00:34 PM | I hate being single.. though financially I much better off as my ex did not work, that's just me.. if a couple, both work, they for sure are better then a single person. You double your income, yet your expenses like rent/mortgage, utilities will be almost the same.
Couples in a 2 income family are financially better off and will retire faster and more comfortably.. | |
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| Is it getting to expensive to continue to live single?
Posted: 6/30/2008 6:08:32 PM | Hmmm.....I have never thought of changing my status or what I desire in a partner for economic reasons. That is why I made every effort to take advantage of the oppties afforded to me, so I can have choices/provide for myself and not depend on someone.
While I am selective in my potential partner, I am not picky. Living alone is not my ultimate "stop" in life. I do want a partner, but I won't settle for any reason(s). | |
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| Is it getting to expensive to continue to live single?
Posted: 7/1/2008 12:18:07 AM | | I cannot believe that this thread is still going on. I think the idea is completely mad and I hope for the sake of OP that it was asked with tongue in the cheek and for curiosity what the reaction will be. How can you even think of economic reasons when deciding whether to be single or in a relationship. The only thing i would think of is that I will not join my finances with someone who is irresponsible. | |
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| Is it getting to expensive to continue to live single?
Posted: 7/1/2008 4:03:03 PM | | Now it's getting even worse then ever. I live about 100 miles away from anything so just to drive back and forth that's $50.00 in gas. As there are only about 5 single females in my area, it means I drive or stay lonely. Unless, some of you lovely ladies want to come up to the nice cool mountains with crystal clear air and a pristine lake. | |
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| Is it getting to expensive to continue to live single?
Posted: 7/1/2008 4:07:38 PM | Much as I hate to be forced into it, things are getting to the point where I might have to get a stable of hos to pay my bills, again. I hate wearing those platform shoes and big floppy hats.
signed,
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| Is it getting to expensive to continue to live single?
Posted: 7/1/2008 4:08:54 PM | | i'm in the process of apartment hunting right now...and i have to admit this thought has crossed my mind here and there too. things are simply cheaper per person in a two income household. isn't it sad when basic economics can become a factor for consideration when determining whether or not to pursue a relationship? | |
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| Is it getting to expensive to continue to live single?
Posted: 7/1/2008 5:01:54 PM |
How about this? We all have had people show an interest in us. Romantic interest. Want to be in a relationship interest. Suppose you really believe they do care? They do mean what they say? But we have chosen to pass on them in the past and we aren't connecting with anyone for awhile. Another if they really love us? Do you take a chance? You miss not being in a relationship? Are you tired of living a sexless life?You are not getting any younger? Health concerns? Family passing on? Or bad relationship with them. Have you noticed that their are people here that you might be interested in if they lived closer? Maybe you don't marry but you come to a agreement. Maybe each puts up some kind of money security? Like rent security? There are also people out there that do have good character. Plus aren't most of us at least those of us not married or in a relationship losers in this area anyway? That is if we really want one?
One of the things I check out here is the section "who viewed me". I have found that there are a number of women checking out my profile who live a distance away. Why are they doing that? Are they open to a long distance relationship? Just curious because of a posting I made have placed? Some areas are hit harder economically than others. What about just being roommates? The rents are going up alot here. It is also becoming difficult to find reasonible priced apartments
Dude, I am SCARED for you! Your anxiousness to be with someone could lead you into a bad decision.
You miss not being in a relationship?
Since I'm NOT in a relationship, how could I miss it? Or did you mean "miss being in a relationship"?
Plus aren't most of us at least those of us not married or in a relationship losers in this area anyway?
The real losers, to my thinking, are the people who talk themselves into being with someone they DON'T love, for socioeconomic/sex/companionship reasons.
Again, with all due respect, my friend, you are in a dangerous emotional position, attaching so damn much importance to getting unsingle to solve money and self esteem issues. I hope you aren't back here in a few months pissing and moaning about how you got "used" by some woman.
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| Is it getting to expensive to continue to live single?
Posted: 7/1/2008 6:58:57 PM |
IT WOULD BE ****ING PEACHY IF WOMEN WUD ANSWER THEIR IM MESAAGES!?
They say they are available to chat IM yet they don't even bother to reply which i find very annoying and disrespectful!
If one is not able to reply IM then don't put urself as being available IM tis easy isn't it u stoopid ignorant idiots
Bye xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
What on earth does THIS have to do with ANYTHING? | |
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