jedi4
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Joined: 4/3/2008
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| Is it getting to expensive to continue to live single?
Posted: 7/4/2008 4:41:04 AM |
How can you even think of economic reasons when deciding whether to be single or in a relationship.
Ever wonder why there are so many divorces? The number one reason for divorces is Economic reasons.. love don't pay the bills. | |
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| Is it getting to expensive to continue to live single?
Posted: 7/4/2008 5:46:12 AM | Ever wonder why there are so many divorces? The number one reason for divorces is Economic reasons.. love don't pay the bills.
Exactly.
I don't want to be in a relationship for money. Either because we both have it or don't.
It's not a solid foundation to build anything on. | |
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| Is it getting to expensive to continue to live single?
Posted: 7/4/2008 7:51:28 AM | I've seen several of my buddies go through failed move-in relationships, and I don't see how it's worth it. When you move in with your S.O. for primarily economic reasons, you're pretty much going "all-in" on the fact your relationship will last. If the relationship goes bust, then you're in the same situation you were before, but with all the hassle and expense of moving to a new place, no S.O., and a mountain of credit card debt (since the driving factor for my friends was not having any savings to speak of). And if you're moving in together for financial reasons, there's a very good chance things will turn sour.
In the U.S. at least, it's getting expensive to live, period. It doesn't matter if you're single or married, and if you've got children then you've got a double whammy. Food and health insurance prices (required in Mass. and in a growing number of other states) are going up dramatically, and these increases are dwarfed by the increases for education (property taxes for schools and college costs). It's been 25 years since we've seen inflation this high, and it's been driven by factors beyond the price of oil. I don't see a repeat of the Great Depression coming, but it's looking a lot like 1975 in this country: rising prices initially set off by an oil price shock and not a lot of growth. This country's will get through the pain, but it will be around for at least several more years.
If you can't afford to live alone, I would look to family and close friends to share housing before considering moving in with an S.O. I stress close friends, since economic issues involving roommates can potentially get as ugly as those between a couple (note the phrase "joint and several" in a lease agreement, which can mean getting sued when a deadbeat roommate doesn't pay his/her part of the rent). If your relationship's meant to last, you'll get to the moving in stage when you're emotionally ready, which is much more promising to the result of "happily ever after." | |
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| Is it getting to expensive to continue to live single?
Posted: 7/6/2008 8:27:11 PM | I've been single my whole life. I can afford everything I have on my income and manage to have a little left over. Six years ago when I was home-hunting, I could have easily purchased a condo or townhouse or a smaller house a bit further away (had money for a down payment, qualified for all the first-time assistance). But I also knew for my income, I would be at the limits of my revenue and just one small issue would have put me in tough sledding, let alone a major situation. I could have easily been one of the many people in foreclosure right now.
Instead, I opted for a fairly large apartment, in a nice location, with rent I could easily afford. Landscaping, heat, hot water, garbage pickup, cooking gas, and physical repairs (like plumbing) are all included. That kind of sensible decision allows me to drive a nice vehicle and keep it fueled, I can buy things for the place when I need them instead of having to worry about budgeting and missing the mortgage, and I don't have to answer to anyone but myself.
Regardless of the economy, living single requires the sensibility and focus to live within your means. Don't need a roommate and would be very suspicious if a new SigOther wanted to move in rather quickly. | |
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| Is it getting to expensive to continue to live single?
Posted: 7/6/2008 8:33:58 PM | | thats like "marrying for money or stability" when there's no real attraction..looks great and makes sense on paper...but the reality is thats all there is in common and so the relationship crumbles leaving you in the same situation you started financially or in some cases alot worse off!! | |
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| Is it getting to expensive to continue to live single?
Posted: 7/27/2008 11:47:32 AM |
I think the media is trying to scare us, and get us overly paranoid about insignificant things.
Now, I do belive there is an economic crisis going on, and this is pretty significant as it effects us totally, but I don't belive in working ourselves up over it.
No matter how afriad we might get, that changes nothing. If we could learn to take things in stride, do what you have to do to survive, and don't worry about all the paranoia floating around out there. Everyones going to die one day, you don't need to worry too much about it IMO.
I disagree Borneo; You don't live in the U.S. where our economy is the worst it's been in 40 years. Our stock market has dropped to its lowest point in decades, and some foreign countries barely take our currency on trips. We've had thousands of lay offs while our Prez smiles and tells the people things are fine, just don't worry. yea right.
Of course it's more expensive living single but that also doesn't mean that you be with someone just for financial gain.
I don't believe in the whatever, don't worry about it mentality. Of course you stress about it and then react to it by solving the problem the best way you can to relieve the stress. Walking around saying,"oh well" i wont stress about it, just isn't whats needed. To be overly stressed about it is bad but to just not care about anything is not living in reality. | |
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