| My Ex?!?!
Posted: 6/28/2008 11:54:40 AM | | OP, if she says she doesn't love you, I would take that at face value. She's probably just lonely, and enjoys your company, but has no intention of getting back with you because she probably secretly thinks there's something better out there for her. Not that I'm saying there is, but if she genuinely believed you were what she wanted she would want to be in a close relationship with you. Let her go and move on and find someone who is happy with you (and vice versa) You might find that if you do this she will suddenly get all possessive over you but that will just be because she likes having you around to boost her ego. | |
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| My Ex?!?!
Posted: 6/30/2008 4:42:39 AM | well I took some of the advice onboard and decided to to lay a few ground rules down. I was out on saturday night and she kept calling me to go round to her house because she was 'lonely' I told her I was going home and we met up on sunday and talked about the situation over some food rather than in bed!
I am going to move on cos at the end of the day and dont want to get hurt again and thats what will happen if things carry on as they are.
Thank you for the advice Ive had from some people on here its helped me think about things more clearly and given me a positive outlook | |
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| My Ex?!?!
Posted: 6/30/2008 2:04:51 PM | | m8, honestly i don't get this..... stop being a door mat or even more a WUSS!!!! she has lost the spark, attraction that makes her desire you! why? because your doing everything for her, being a WUSS man, doing anything she wants at the drop of a hat.... think about it!!!! the way things are now, well...... you are safe and there when needed for HER needs, not yours... but when that guy who ain't as NICE to her and ain't a WUSS then you can guess your well out of the equasion!!! and if it don't work out with the other guy then not to worry because good old WUSS will be there waiting in limbo, are you getting the picture dude!?!?! honestly i don't think that she will be serious about you again because the damage is done, cut your losses or either be JUST FRIENDS if possible and find a new gal and learn from your mistakes. good luck and use the head, lol not the one in your trousers trust me guy 2 guy | |
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| My Ex?!?!
Posted: 6/30/2008 3:28:53 PM | I went through this after my divorce man. Bottom line: she's using you and will absolutely dump you as soon as she finds someone new. This whole time you're thinking you've got a chance and getting in deeper by the day, while she's just using you as the rebound guy because it's more convenient than finding a new one.
You're giving up a lot of self-respect by playing this game with her. Reclaim it and walk away brother. | |
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| My Ex?!?!
Posted: 7/8/2008 4:30:13 PM | You are so right a person that has no feelings for someone that is obviously head over heels in love is only going to cause that person pain............... It is so hard to walk away from someone you love and very often we can grasp at even the slightest bit of affection in the hope that the other person will change their mind...
The liklihood is that they wont, they too are clinging onto the ego boost that you give them but as soon as something better comes along- the next bigger ego boost there will be no more quickies meals or texts. Yet more pain!!!!!!!!!
The phrase puppet on a string comes to mind, and whilst she may not want you she wants noone else to have you!!!! But believe me the sooner you take those steps toaccepting being single the better you will feel. I should know I been in exactly the same situation, and had a really low self esteem, but meeting a few dates recently has boosted it all. | |
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| My Ex?!?!
Posted: 7/8/2008 4:38:56 PM |
She tells me she doesnt love me anymore
Perhaps she loves you as a friend...nothing wrong with that. | |
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| My Ex?!?!
Posted: 7/8/2008 5:29:45 PM | Dude, I think you have worked your way down to the Friends with Benefits category.
Forget that, she moved on, she is done, and so you should be as well.
Too many mixed signals there. | |
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| My Ex?!?!
Posted: 7/8/2008 5:33:31 PM | OP: It sounds like she enjoys sex with you and spending time every so often with no strings attached. Sounds to me like a FWB.
I would not pursue her and cut all ties, considering she did tell you she doesn't love you. There is no second guessing that!
Cut all ties unless you want to be her FWB.
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| My Ex?!?!
Posted: 7/8/2008 5:34:26 PM | OP: It sounds like she enjoys sex with you and spending time every so often with no strings attached. Sounds to me like a FWB.
I would not pursue her and cut all ties, considering she did tell you she doesn't love you. There is no second guessing that!
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| My Ex?!?!
Posted: 7/8/2008 7:42:30 PM | | Ask yourself why you enjoy having sex with an emotionally unavailable woman. Once you have the answer to that question, you are a grown man, figure it out. As long as you are not lying to yourself well then you go ahead and suffer the consequences gladly. Perhaps you can also ask yourself why being hurt emotionally suits you. Do you know the answer to that question also? I ask only because I have been there. Good luck. | |
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