| Plutonic living
Posted: 6/28/2008 2:18:09 PM | | It's called having a roommate. Get a grip. | |
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| Plutonic living
Posted: 6/28/2008 2:50:56 PM | | I've lived with a male roomate for 2.5 years. Nothing has ever happened, and my boyfriend has never had a problem. Youre either being insecure, or your gut is telling you something. Time will reveal the truth. | |
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| Plutonic living
Posted: 6/28/2008 3:25:45 PM | I think you can trust her, I don't see why not. They're just roommates, plenty of people are in this situation.
(Yes, it's platonic, as everyone pointed out. Today, it means non-sexual love, but in Plato's day, a chaste relationship was considered to be very passionate.) | |
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| Plutonic living
Posted: 6/28/2008 8:52:58 PM | i have a platonic relationship with the man i share my home with. we were lovers many years ago, but today we are not and date other people. i am completely trustworthy as a mate and will be glad for my friends/lovers to meet and get to know my roomie. he's cool.
i need a mate who is capable of trust. i didn't used to be but that can be fixed in psychotherapy after a couple of years of hard work, he he. | |
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| Plutonic living
Posted: 6/28/2008 9:08:34 PM |
What do y'all think about this? Is it ok?
I know you want advice, but really, it doesn't matter what we think, it just depends on what you are comfortable with. Some guys could handle it, and some can't. Personally, I can't.
I also noticed that the majority of the posts saying "of course its fine" is from women, while most of the guys are saying that they've dealt with these situations and is WASN'T fine. Interesting how different the reactions are depending on your gender-based point of view. | |
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| Plutonic living
Posted: 6/28/2008 9:20:20 PM | ~OP~ The best roommates I've ever had were men. And there was never any sex.  | |
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| Plutonic living
Posted: 6/28/2008 9:22:26 PM | | From your posts it sounds like this woman your dating simply has a male roommate. Id say the fact you felt the need to start a thread about it shows your a little concerned. I cant see any reason why you should be, so many people are in the same position. I have shared a house with 2 girls myself before and nothing ever happened between either of us. | |
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| Plutonic living
Posted: 6/28/2008 9:31:17 PM | if my man was living with another woman,I don't honestly think I would like it either unless she was a total 2 bagger.
but some of us are different. | |
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| Plutonic living
Posted: 6/28/2008 9:40:27 PM | | does that mean they live on Pluto? LOL | |
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| Plutonic living
Posted: 6/29/2008 1:14:03 AM | Everyone assumes the OP meant Platonic. Perhaps they are correct, but
the OP might have been asking about a totally different type of Relationship.
For example:
Strictly Teutonic: Must dress in Leiderhosen at all times.
Strictly Tectonic : Unless the relationship is earthshaking, it is not worth exploring
Strictly Masonic : involves secret handshakes, passwords, and funny hats
Strictly Planktonic: Involving small plant and animal organisms that live in water.
Strictly Pneumonic: A relationship that involves much screaming
Strictly Panasonic : usage of electronic toys made in Japan
Strictly Pharaonic: a Pyramid Scheme
or even
Strictly Napoleonic: They came, they saw, and after a few months on Elba, they came again. | |
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| Plutonic living
Posted: 6/29/2008 2:05:14 AM | I don't know what the situation is that you're talking about. I can only speak from my own experience.
And that is........
NEVER AGAIN, will I live with a woman I'm not going to have sex with.
This is the only practical point of view a reasonable intelligent person can have. | |
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| Plutonic living
Posted: 6/29/2008 7:00:14 AM | | Are you absolutely sure they are not in what is called an "open marriage" or as the military coins the phrase "marriage of convenience"????????? | |
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| Plutonic living
Posted: 6/29/2008 7:18:56 AM | As others have pointed out, the word is PLATONIC. From the Greek philosopher Plato. Platonic love is a relationship that is not sexual in nature. A pluton is an igneous intrusion in geology, so plutonic refers to those rocks.
Personally I have several relationships (with members of the opposite sex) which are platonic, and I value them very much. Any GF who cannot handle that will not likely be a GF for long.
In the same way that it takes a village to raise a child, it takes many people [co-workers, acquaintances, family, neighbors, professionals, and even ex's] to make each of us whole. No lover should have the right to limit who I can associate with in a platonic relationship. | |
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| Plutonic living
Posted: 6/29/2008 7:41:41 AM | No one's mentioned the celestial body (since Pluto is no longer a planet) a couple rocks closer? We could have loads of fun with that one.
"My Very Educated Mother Just Served Us Nine Pumpkins"; between Saturn and Neptune. | |
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| Plutonic living
Posted: 6/29/2008 5:08:11 PM |
Strictly Teutonic: Must dress in Leiderhosen at all times.
Strictly Tectonic : Unless the relationship is earthshaking, it is not worth exploring
Strictly Masonic : involves secret handshakes, passwords, and funny hats
Strictly Planktonic: Involving small plant and animal organisms that live in water.
Strictly Pneumonic: A relationship that involves much screaming
Strictly Panasonic : usage of electronic toys made in Japan
Strictly Pharaonic: a Pyramid Scheme
or even
Strictly Napoleonic: They came, they saw, and after a few months on Elba, they came again.
 Bravo!
You did miss a couple, though:
- Pneumatic - large, inflated, full of nothing but air.
- Phlegmatic - kinda slow and boring.
- Instamatic - digital photos that will be on the Internet in minutes and will be there for decades. | |
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| Plutonic living
Posted: 6/29/2008 6:12:00 PM | | everyone has a past. what did that have to do with you? if she says it was plutonic why don't you believe her? has she lied to you before? if you can't trust her, dump her. she lived with someone she wasn't sleeping with, sounds like a financial arrangement to me. he was probably hoping it would evolved into something more. | |
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| Plutonic living
Posted: 6/29/2008 6:25:30 PM | I have a 3 bedroom house, one for a male friend, one for my daughter and one for me. I am single and if I ever find the right person, I will leave this arrangement, but for now, it works for us. I'm sure he would much rather be on his own than living with me and my daughter, but until either of us finds a SO, we are going to stay with this.
Besides, your trust issue probably has more to do with you than with her. I know that its difficult for men to believe this, but men and women can have platonic relationships. I see my housemate as a brother and he views me like a sister -- we just wouldn't cross that line. And if nothing has happened in our 17 years of friendship, nothing is likely to happen for the next 17 years. OP, does this bother you because you don't trust her? Or that you don't trust him? If its him, perhaps get to know him and you'll see that there's nothing there. | |
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| Plutonic living
Posted: 6/29/2008 6:36:18 PM | It is not a relationship... it is a financially inspired living situation......aka roommates. I have had a female roomate in the past and it was 100% platonic. But I do remember her boyfriend was a little uneasy about it although he never came out and said it...... they wound up getting married and I gave her away at their wedding so in the end it was all good.
If one lets their imagination roam and one starts to assume stuff you just may throw a good woman or man away.......
Peace | |
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| Plutonic living
Posted: 6/30/2008 9:28:59 AM | I have a similar situation... I have a farm/Ranch, and with most farms and ranches, one can not take care of them on their own, so I have a guy who I pay to feed the animals. Part of the compensation is room & board. He lives in my farmhouse, fixes things that break, feeds animals, checks the mail box and stacks my mail, and rarely cleans up after himself. I do his laundry, dishes, and all of the house cleaning on days when I'm home.
There has never been anything between us, except maybe some moral support if I'm having a difficult time with a guy or something in regards to farming or my job. We each have our own lives and our own love-interests.
We go to cattle auctions together, go to the bar on occasion (where I hang out with his girlfriend), he picks me up from town when I don't bring my truck home, and calls everyday to give me an update on my livestock, and what I did or didn't get in the mail.
To me, this guy is like my brother. Thats how I see him, and he sees me as his sister. If I get interested in a guy, then I'm open and up front about having a guy (with his own bedroom) at my farm. If I bring my interest home, then of course, they meet the farmhand. I keep my communication open, and don't try to make things sound like they are more than they really are, and don't use the farmhand to make my interest jealous.
So I would say that it depends on your partner, and your situation. In mine, as a OTR truck driver, I'm on the road more than I'm home, so this works out great. OP, in your situation, perhaps of your lady says 'let me check with my roommate to see if its ok first", then invites you to the house for supper and a movie, don't be surprised if the roommate grabs the recliner and watches it as well. Just give it time, and don't let that little voice steer you in the wrong direction...
CowTrucker
Chapman, Kansas | |
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| Platonic living
Posted: 6/30/2008 9:32:13 AM | It is possible for opposite genders to be room-mates ONLY. I'm not sure if the "little voice" is because you can't phathom the idea of men and women being roomies OR she has given you some reason(s) to doubt her.
Does she know you are on POF still looking? lol Or you just don't want to put all your "eggs in one basket"?
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| Plutonic living
Posted: 6/30/2008 9:32:22 AM | | Can she show you a rental agreement form, with all the items initialed in the agreement. Can she show you bank statements that she turns into an accountant? These statements should reflect monthly rent deposists. She is a landlord? Is this a business transaction? You should only consider these questions. | |
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