| Time to come clean: What keeps you from meeting someone?
Posted: 8/13/2008 3:48:50 PM | I dont meet them because they are not good for me...They want things that would be good for them but not for me...Self centered isnt my pleasure to be around...
Not to mention flags...Those that have one thing on their mind...sex...geeze people...get a grip....no self control in that area also means you have none in other areas of your life...Big flag...
Follow your 6th sense...9 outta 10 times its correct !!!
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| Time to come clean: What keeps you from meeting someone?
Posted: 8/13/2008 7:43:29 PM | I don't make excuses per se. I weed out the obvious like axe murderers, married, and Jehovahs. Once I've established a comfort level and rapport, I go for it... schedule permitting.
Okay, now that you mentioned it (okay I mentioned it) my excuses are usually a case of scheduling. Guys think I'm blowing smoke when I say "yes, I'm available for 2 hours, 2 weeks from Tuesday". Who the hell wants to wait that long? Especially if they're single and fancy free.
As a custodial parent and new biz owner, my time is limited. And yeah, they do make babysitters, but I'm also involved in community and charitable work as well as business and professional organizations, etc... I'm thinking of adopting my babysitter - it would be cheaper.
Once someone is on my radar, I do make time and effort. Its just sometimes impossible with guys who are single dads with a conflicting visitation or work schedule. Sadly sometimes we truly are just ships that pass in the night never to meet. | |
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| Time to come clean: What keeps you from meeting someone?
Posted: 8/13/2008 8:27:45 PM | Nothing, unless I just don't have any interest period. i.e if our conversations are not interesting or he is inappropriate............
I don't come here to "kill time", I am here to eventually meet someone with potential for more. If it happens fine, if not I entertain myself on the message boards. | |
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| Time to come clean: What keeps you from meeting someone?
Posted: 8/13/2008 8:33:53 PM |
I don't come here to "kill time", I am here to eventually meet someone with potential for more.
I'm right here. 
Seriously, yeah me too. The forums are just a bonus.
It's hard IRL to meet anyone especially with work and so on. The one's I do think are interesting are already taken. I'm kinda hoping this works out but so far I've been coming up empty. | |
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| Time to come clean: What keeps you from meeting someone?
Posted: 8/14/2008 3:30:00 AM | Nutting. Unless i dont want to. Some guys are just PUSHY!!!
This one guy IMd me and IMMEDIATLEY he wanted my phone number. I mean like SNAP.
wtf!???
I do not even talk on the phone until I am good and ready to !!! I have small kids and my X does enuff of that crap of honing the women in and out of HIS home. Im sure not doin it too and settin that example that its ok! Can you imagine what our kids will turn out to be!
THEN this jerk turns around and tells my best friend who unhides her profile. LOL . That i wont give him my number. BOOHOO. So she jumps him.
oh well. Why are men like that!?? I can always tell from the get go when a man is going to be that way. no durn way will i give my # away the first 15 minutes. do you!??????? | |
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| Time to come clean: What keeps you from meeting someone?
Posted: 8/14/2008 1:28:49 PM | | I have been on too many dates that didn't go anywere, and been single for way too long. Everyone I meet someone new and there is no spark or connection it feel that much further away from finding anything real. That has made dating a somewhat depression ordial that I have been begining to avoid over the last year or so. | |
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| Time to come clean: What keeps you from meeting someone?
Posted: 8/14/2008 2:32:09 PM | WannaCStars I agree with you. WTF??? IM with me 5 minutes and ask for my phone number....not only no, but he*l no. They say I don't like to email or IM, I'm better on the phone....blah blah blah.
For all the men I talk to online, I bet I only make it to the phone with a small portion of them, and even meet less than that.
If someone rushes me to meet or talk, red flag. There is a reason he is doing this and I close the window or delete the emails. Time to move on. | |
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| Time to come clean: What keeps you from meeting someone?
Posted: 8/14/2008 2:35:56 PM | | Step back and really look at what you are doing. Go get a new outfit or just new earings.... go get a facial or a pedicure. Possibly get a new fresh hair cut. Get a friend and go out looking.... Troll a little bit, laugh and have fun. Window shopping for girls or boys, men or women. Make it fun. You could accidentially meet someone. Try it. | |
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| Time to come clean: What keeps you from meeting someone?
Posted: 8/18/2008 7:43:24 PM | | What keeps me from meeting very many at all is total lack of interest in being bothered on the part of mostly everyone. I think my pictures are pretty and I'm lots of fun, with tons of interests. I think everyone is so obsessed wtih their ideal perfect, they won't be troubled with ordinary people at all. This line is beyond hopeless. | |
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| Time to come clean: What keeps you from meeting someone?
Posted: 8/18/2008 8:10:26 PM | | I don't have a problem meeting people once we've established some kind rapport online and there's initial attraction on both sides... I prefer to meet someone sooner rather than later to know if there's chemistry offline as well. Who has time to waste? | |
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| Time to come clean: What keeps you from meeting someone?
Posted: 8/18/2008 8:27:08 PM | This question drives me nuts. Why are people on this site? Why hide behind a screen ( because its safe?) Not meeting a person from this site after you make a connection is just simply idiotic. People need to grow up and really make a decision about why they are here. IF you are not being honest about your motivation, then why are you expecting honesty from the person you do not want to meet.
Crazy..........too crazyjavascript:smilie(' ') | |
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| Time to come clean: What keeps you from meeting someone?
Posted: 8/18/2008 8:33:41 PM | I really am fine with having some just for pen pals. When they rush to meet, immediately after saying hi or they have a hard time carrying an intelligent conversation, red flag! 
But the few times I was willing to meet and backed out were when they demanded something like leave POF or not talk to other guys. Red Flag! Territorialism is among my pet peeves, most esp since I have not even met them or we have not even determined anything. I have asked why and I said, we are just meeting for the first time. Why the demands? Sounds more like we are going steady. Then the answer I get is, "That's what I want." Holy Moses! I want to run to the hills...
Some guys I know right away I just want to meet only once, as a friend, but they seem interested in more, so I back out. I depend on my gut feelings most of the time.
But of course, the $64 question, "What keeps me from meeting someone?" In general: Lack of rapport. No interest from the outset. | |
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| Time to come clean: What keeps you from meeting someone?
Posted: 8/18/2008 8:35:10 PM | I have no reason not to meet someone unless they come off as a slut ect. But I find it interesting when a gal says they would like to meet you but then completely ignore you...
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balsafer - maybe they read your posts??? I am no slut but your comment alone would tell me nope.
For me it would be red flags, something that they said that just doesn't sit well. I would respect someone who didn't meet me for the same reason. I won't and wouldn't want anyone else to change how they speak and who they are just to meet. And those little things are indicators that it's not a good match.
I had a conversation with one guy awhile ago and he asked if I like jokes. Of course I do and said so, well the joke was the most lowest thing ever referring to little girls, fish and big girls. Up to this point I was interested in meeting this fella, this slammed the door closed.
I had never met this moron and sure as hell wasn't going to meet him after that. Blocked him completely. I mean seriously, it was NOT funny, even my guy friends thought it disgusting and not something they'd joke about.
I will meet if I feel safe and comfortable, and I have met before and felt very glad in doing so. I don't put expectations on meeting someone, feel that things will flow and go from there. | |
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| Time to come clean: NEW!!!
Posted: 8/18/2008 8:41:40 PM | I've posted this before - In corona there is a Driving Range right by Toms Farms - The owners encourage anyone & everyone in Corona Ca & the surrounding areas to come on down meet & greet etc...
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There is a web site for this place but I do NOT want to violate any "DOMAIN" plugs that would get me booted off of this site...
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This place serves beverages but no food & is open LATE!!! There is plenty of space for kids to run around & hit balls & putt etc...
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If anyone is interested please email me for DETAILS....
Thanks Gang...!
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| Time to come clean: What keeps you from meeting someone?
Posted: 8/19/2008 4:02:51 AM | Well I have a few thousand reasons haha, I'll just give you a few.
No honestly, I have a self esteem issue ..
It's ok to be all brave online and the like, but in person I am shocking. I simply cannot see what others see in me, and not without the want to try. I just can't. My mother says this has been me since I was a little girl ... I have 3 sisters, all blonde, blue eyed beauties like our nordic mother, and then there is me. Dark haired and green eyed, olive skinned and short. I have felt like an outcast my whole life, my sisters teased me and said I was adopted. Mum used to say I was unique, I thought I was adopted for the longest time though.
I realise now that was not true.
I would rather not be with someone because I fear rejection, I know this is part of life, but when one has been rejected so many times it becomes second nature to think, why bother, it'll only end in another rejection and to be honest, I am not sure I want to feel that way again. But here I am ....
Stupid I know
And that ladies and germs is why I say I only want to make friends here, the thought of someone liking me for me is not a reality to me anymore. It's more a fairytale. And I am ok with that at the end of the day.
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| Time to come clean: What keeps you from meeting someone?
Posted: 8/19/2008 4:11:27 AM | Hey, if you've got uniqueness flaunt it.
My eccentricities intruige and interest as many people as they irritate and mystify.
WHat keeps me from meeting someone?
I am told people find me intimidating because I pretty much have one level of conversation, which is with all my mental faculties going like the clappers.
Which is great, except when you're expected to make polite small talk and all you can do is see a comment about the weather as a segue into talking about "climate change". | |
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