| Time to come clean: What keeps you from meeting someone?
Posted: 6/28/2008 3:29:45 PM | Well I would tell you what keeps me from meeting someone, heres the thing....
You would tell me I was wrong...
You would tell me I was lying...
You would tell me I am not in touch with my true feelings...
You would tell me what the real reason is...
In other words...
You wouldn't listen. | |
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| Time to come clean: What keeps you from meeting someone?
Posted: 6/28/2008 3:41:57 PM | zerospazz: I wouldn't have asked if I didn't want to know.
I hope the best for all of you-personally I have learned to wear non revealing items that make me feel better about what I look like so I have met (this time around) more people that the previous few times I tried on this site-even one I can't wait to see again! Just letting it flow.
Good luck every one Blessed be
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| Time to come clean: What keeps you from meeting someone?
Posted: 6/28/2008 3:49:22 PM |
I have learned to wear non revealing items that make me feel better about what I look like.
Mmmmmm, non revealing items. :drooling:
Oh, where was I? Oh yeah, umm. LOL, anyways, it does make sense for a woman to wear non revealing items if they are serious about getting to know a man, and most especially vise versa. I don’t think that some women realize how difficult it is, at times, for a man to concentrate where there is cleavage to look at. I mean it can be really very very difficult. A lot. I am one that wants to get to know a woman, really, it’s true, but damb if the head don’t go dumb with sexual desire. At times, you know, when I actually want to be thinking and concentrating on the conversation, but cant. Down boy. | |
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| Time to come clean: What keeps you from meeting someone?
Posted: 6/28/2008 3:57:58 PM | " I have a minor self image issue that can easily be overlooked by others but to me it is bothersome"
Me three. I recently tripped and broke my right hand and turned my whole jaw major purple bruise. I didn't even want my great friends to see me that first week much less anyone who didn't already know me. Part of me is still shallow enough to lose 20 lbs first. sigh. | |
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| Time to come clean: What keeps you from meeting someone?
Posted: 6/28/2008 4:05:09 PM | What keeps me from meeting someone is there are a LOT of players out here in the dating pond. - Online and off.
I can usually tell pretty quickly who is a player and who is not.
After having dealt with some of these characters, I have taken a break from dating at this point for now. | |
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| Time to come clean: What keeps you from meeting someone?
Posted: 6/28/2008 4:10:02 PM | | For the most part, I'm just not interested. I'm a homebody, I like my stuff and I don't like to go out much, other than a movie or lunch/dinner, or to shop some. I don't get around well, my cane gets in my way, and most people I really don't want to meet in person. Nothing against them, I'm sure they are great people but I don't want to. Every once in a while someone interests me enough to go on a date, but for those looking for their one & only, I'm a waste of their time and I have other things I'd rather be doing. I use to date a lot, I think I had my fill, but I never say never. | |
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| Time to come clean: What keeps you from meeting someone?
Posted: 6/28/2008 4:15:32 PM | I have learned to wear non revealing items that make me feel better about what I look like.
Mmmmmm, non revealing items. :drooling:
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REREAD Translation: She said she learned to wear NONrevealing items!!!
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| Time to come clean: What keeps you from meeting someone?
Posted: 6/28/2008 4:25:24 PM | I would like to put my 5 senses in on this one.........
I know,most people will not appreciate what I have to say and I WIIIIIIIIILLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL get ripped for that,from most of them....
But this is just the way I receive things.......
If you make arrangements to meet someone..stick to it,NO MATTER WHAT....otherwise you will be received as playing mindgames !!!!I think,it's all crap and cheap excuses about "having the stomach flu" and not being able "to handle the pressure".......nobody says and expexts ,that we have to have sex or get married right away........it's just a plain meeting and nothing to worry about!!!
I have had a few "first"meetings cancelled and I DO NOT appreciate that..especially,when you don't call before hand.By now,most people will say,its my attitude....No,its not !!!! I.......ALWAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAYS treat people (women) very polite and respectful (the way I like to be treated) once we talk on MSN or on the phone and I would NEVER be rude or cancel a meeting....NEVER,because once we arrange a meeting it is MY FIRST PRIORIETY........ABOVE ANYTHING ELSE......to show up.Why can I not get the same efford from others.........People should take it far more serious to keep the appointment for a meeting...........WHYYYYYYYYYYYY be a member of "singles dating site",if you cancel "first meetings" or you won't show........
Okay,I had a few meetings,where she did show up and we had a great time...going for a coffee...possibly for a walk and talked,but more times than not..it was cancelled !!!!
People,if you want results.........you have to put the time and efford into this,like everything else in life !!!
Sorry,if I offended anyone,but thats just my opinion !!!!  | |
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| Time to come clean: What keeps you from meeting someone?
Posted: 6/28/2008 4:44:26 PM |
REREAD Translation: She said she learned to wear NONrevealing items!!!
Mmmmm, NONrevealing items,,,,,,OH, huh, were you saying something? The last thing that I remember was,,,,cleavage!!!
Does anyone have a towel? | |
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| Time to come clean: What keeps you from meeting someone?
Posted: 6/28/2008 4:56:56 PM |
Maybe some people aren't looking. Maybe their lives are already complete.
I hope everyones life is complete before they want to bring someone into their life.
I have no probelm just sitting and talking to someone for a few hours and I will never run out of things to talk about.I feel like there is too many expectations from one meeting.I am just sick of wasting my time. | |
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| Time to come clean: What keeps you from meeting someone?
Posted: 6/28/2008 4:57:10 PM | FEAR! That's it....that's all it really boils down to. What if he doesn't fit this "fantasy image" I've created in my mind? What if I can't meet his expectations? The risk is huge and it's scary.
I finally managed to overcome it and take the risk anyway. I decided its best to meet in person at some point instead of continuing to invest time into something that will go nowhere. If it bombs, it bombs. Although sometimes I feel like if I meet one more "toad," I'm going to give up dating once and for all!!! LOL | |
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| Time to come clean: What keeps you from meeting someone?
Posted: 6/28/2008 5:22:03 PM | | Seaga, that's true... I have chatted with ppl online until the cows come home, but it's totally different when you meet them.... It is very easy for ppl to lose their inhibitions on a computer - but in reality, the true self emerges during the actual meeting.... | |
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| Time to come clean: What keeps you from meeting someone?
Posted: 6/28/2008 5:23:57 PM | Itsjustme said it FEAR!!!! It is that rejection. I am not going to go into the main reasons here, but it is fear. I saw this young lady in line getting my car tabs yesterday, checked me out multiple times, gave me a big ol smile when I left. I walked away saying she is too young. Just an excuse, not that I had to marry her or anything. But too young was my excuse, when the real reasons were FEAR, and not knowing what to say. I have always been pretty shy unless it is with a woman I know I don't stand a chance for. The main reason for that is she is married. I can strike that conversation no problem, but no ring and all signals are that she is single, it is like I freeze up.
I will credit myself, I have been doing some reading and am getting the tenders to at least start speaking to them. Maybe it is just progression. Any advice ladies? LOL | |
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| Time to come clean: What keeps you from meeting someone?
Posted: 6/28/2008 5:54:54 PM |
The number one reason for me is I like to do the whole "get to know you" by chatting here for a while, with some emails.
How long do you consider email and chat before moving on to the phone date and eventually the physical meeting?
I understand all people are different in there preferences, but how long do you hang on the computer site before saying ok lets meet? | |
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| Time to come clean: What keeps you from meeting someone?
Posted: 6/28/2008 6:02:49 PM | | I have been meeting people off line for about 10 years, off and on. If I say Im going to meet someone I do , no matter how nervous or anxious I am. I actually love that feeling that something good MIGHT happen, maybe he is the one, maybe I will have a good time, maybe he is a good kisser, maybe.......I look forward to what ever adventure or not may happen!! I'v been told I look just like my pictures, and then Iv had a few that I never heard from after a short date, I dont beat myself up over it, they have that right to feel the way they do , I think its easier to just let it go than to seek answers... if it didnt work out, it didnt work out, why seek answers we dont want to hear. We shouldnt care. Love yourself and someone someday will love you !! Chalk it up to a good try and keep trying. And I am hoping thats how they are taking it when I dont want to continue a dateing relationship with them, The Gods all Know , I really dont want to hurt anyones feelings but its a tough world out there in the dating cycle, just got to be strong enough to get over it !! | |
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| Time to come clean: What keeps you from meeting someone?
Posted: 6/28/2008 6:11:02 PM | | Location. Yeah, I have seen a couple of women that I would like to get to know, but location makes it a bit pointless to even start with emails. I am moving within the next year and I have no clue where I will be going. | |
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| Time to come clean: What keeps you from meeting someone?
Posted: 6/28/2008 6:11:02 PM |
if I met a nice chilled , funny man, I,m in there.Personality is everything, looks, height don't matter a nice moderately attentive guy who has a kind disposition is fine. No offense.....but I've heard that a million times before. Every time I hear or read a woman say that, I send them an e-mail & I NEVER hear anything from them. Everyone is just full of sh!t anymore!!! | |
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| Time to come clean: What keeps you from meeting someone?
Posted: 6/28/2008 6:46:58 PM | Because English is not my first language, I can be selfconsious of the language problems. Weird because I am very friendly and talk when I meet people everyday. But when a guy I meet online wants to chat on the phone, I am nervous. It is more expectations to hear my voice and speach for the first time.
It makes no sense, but that is my problem. lol  | |
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