| Lonely and married
Posted: 6/28/2008 7:23:18 PM | I see more marriages like this.Being the dog i am,i try to make contact with the lonely woman in the marriage.If he has cheated or stopped showing her attention,i usually can get her to cheat.There are more bad marriages than good ones and i find it easier to be with a married woman than with a single one.Sometimes it will back fire on me and the first thing you know they are in love.This is going to piss alot of people off but its the dirty truth.I believe any man or woman no matter how much they love someone,will take the chance to cheat if the conditions are right and its the right person.I dont want the hassle of a relationship so most of the time i get what i want and get out.I know how to push buttons and i enjoy getting a womans feathers ruffled. | |
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| Lonely and married
Posted: 6/28/2008 9:59:58 PM | ~OP~ I was in a lonely/loveless marriage for far too long. The answer isn't having someone to talk to, the answer is divorce. Sorry ~ another person can't will away or fix what is wrong between you and your spouse. When it gets to the point that you join an online site to seek out companionship, cheating is a short step away. Never a good option. JMO  | |
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| Lonely and married
Posted: 6/28/2008 10:06:51 PM |
and absolute hell to lay beside one so close, yet never near.
AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN!!!!! | |
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| Lonely and married
Posted: 6/28/2008 10:08:26 PM |
"getting a damn divorce first!" is a little immature as the host of problems that entails might be premature if all one needs is a little sanity or "breathing room" before the inevitable
If a person is to the point that they are not only looking to cheat, but looking to cheat with someone else who is married, thus possibly destroying TWO homes in the process, they are past the point of fixing things in the marriage.
In my opinion, you are past the point of fixing things. Get the divorce, and THEN go out looking for some @ss. | |
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| Lonely and married
Posted: 6/28/2008 10:36:37 PM | | What the hell is with people wanting to cheat....especially if your married...Have a talk with your wife man!!!! I swear, it just doesnt make any sence why people use idiotic excuses to cheat and YES, you feeling lonely even though your married is an idiotic excuse. I have about as much respect for someone that cheats as I do for someone that robs a bank..Its just stupid | |
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| Lonely and married
Posted: 6/28/2008 10:46:29 PM | | Interesting - he seems to only be interested in talking with "women" who are lonely in their marriages. Why would talking with someone who's apparently also in such a lonely, miserable place be of any help? How is that going to get anyone back on the road to improving their marriage or if nothing else, having some integrity and ending it through divorce? Amazing that someone who's married would turn to a dating site for "help." Seems pretty transparent to me. His poor wife. | |
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| Lonely and married
Posted: 6/29/2008 2:10:28 AM | Rockchick, is that "rock" a reference to your heart? Your profile says "not single/not looking" and "Just here for the forums" yet here you are taking the piss out of the guy who posted just before you because he says he's married but lonely and looking for someone who might be in the same situation.
Alyosha...Please do not compare me with the OP! We are on here for completely different reasons none of which are comparable. Mine DO NOT include cheating on my spouse or even talking to strange men. I am not on here without my SO's knowledge (I actually met him on another dating site!). I am not on here looking for a "special friend" because I am in a lonely marriage! I am not here looking to cheat in any way, shape or form!
Shame on YOU for condoning cheating on a spouse!
As for where by sympathies lie...that'll be firmly with his wife who he is looking to cheat on with another "woman who is lonely in her marriage". | |
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| Lonely and married
Posted: 6/29/2008 5:35:40 AM | I see more marriages like this.Being the dog i am,i try to make contact with the lonely woman in the marriage.If he has cheated or stopped showing her attention,i usually can get her to cheat.There are more bad marriages than good ones and i find it easier to be with a married woman than with a single one.Sometimes it will back fire on me and the first thing you know they are in love.This is going to piss alot of people off but its the dirty truth.I believe any man or woman no matter how much they love someone,will take the chance to cheat if the conditions are right and its the right person.I dont want the hassle of a relationship so most of the time i get what i want and get out.I know how to push buttons and i enjoy getting a womans feathers ruffled.
Mike, I personally had many opportunities to cheat but NEVER did. - Hell my own parents had a "commuter" marriage for many years and tons of opportunities to step out of each other but they NEVER did.
I can't for the life of me understand how it would be easier to be with a married person versus a single person. I would think that being with a married person would bring all sorts of complications. - The waiting around, the constant and chronic lying. - Forget it. it's just a road to no-where but intense pain for all parties involved.
I hate to say it, but it's players like you who give us all a bad name and make it so hard out here in the dating realm. - And that's why the large majority of us state that we don't want to be involved with a player on our profiles. | |
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| Lonely and married
Posted: 6/29/2008 8:06:26 AM | | Im not really a player.I just have a nose for bad marriages and get what i can get.Yes its risky and sometimes there are problems.The last woman i had a affair with was married for 21yrs and when she threatened to leave him,i told her that it was over.By then it was too late and she left him anyways.She tells me that the marriage was over but they were staying together for the kids.She tells me that im the only person that ever made her feel love.I never meant to break up that marriage but it happened and there was nothing i could do about it.He made great money as a truck driver and she was spoiled.Now she is living in low income apartments struggling everday to make it.I do feel very bad about this and i wish i could make it alright but i cant.Im not in a position to help her.I have actually fixed marriages in the past by having a affair.Most of the time the affair ends before the husband even knows i exist but sometimes when they find out they start to appreciate the woman more and stop there cheating ways.I think sometimes that i was put on this earth to fix marriages that are in trouble.The only way i know how to do this is by showing the lady that her husband isnt all that bad and the husband appreciates his wife more.I know this sounds crazy but it seems like im better with affairs than i am with real relationships.Its also a very risky thing to do and i think maybe i am getting to old for affairs.Maybe i do need to settle down with one woman.I just cant seem to find that woman and the ones that are single and live near me wont give me a chance.Im not the one that gives men a bad name.They are the ones.The ones that are abusive and the ones that cheat or just dont show there wives attention.I also have to pay for the way men treat woman. | |
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| Lonely and married
Posted: 6/29/2008 8:20:16 AM | I just have a nose for bad marriages and get what i can get..........I have actually fixed marriages in the past by having a affair
yes, that is being a player. and there is no justifying it.
Affairs do not "fix" marriages. - The only way to make it "right" is not get involved with a married person in the first place. There is no excuse for cheating. | |
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| Lonely and married
Posted: 6/29/2008 8:26:32 AM | "We are assuming he meant of the opposite sex, than again maybe not, just wondering"
Well fire fighter his profile does say women to hang out with. Maybe you couldn't see that cuz men are blocked... | |
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| Lonely and married
Posted: 6/29/2008 8:28:51 AM |
Interesting - he seems to only be interested in talking with "women" who are lonely in their marriages. Why would talking with someone who's apparently also in such a lonely, miserable place be of any help?
Because he's assuming that a woman who is lonely in their marriage would be starved for affection, and presumably sex. He's figuring they are the easiest ones he could talk into screwing by playing on their situation. | |
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| Lonely and saving married lonely women
Posted: 6/29/2008 8:29:07 AM |
Im not really a player. I... get what i can get
lol mike, what does webster say about your re-definition?
I do feel very bad about this and i wish i could make it alright but i cant. Im not in a position to help her
begs the question....where do you hide this shred of conscience....when in "the position", helping these women "feel loved"?
I have actually fixed marriages....put on this earth to fix marriages
ok, i'll play...., whats the score against the ones you helped dissolve? Any bets?
better with affairs than i am with real relationships....cant seem to find that woman....near me wont give me a chance
naah, this ones too easy lol...
I also have to pay for the way men treat woman.
glad you are doing your share of rectifying those remiss faithful husbands... "wink'
Believe it or not, there are websites devoted to teaching what you do, namely how to identify and pick up, use, (and toss) just these lonely, hurting women....men, if you value your ladies, pay attention to those words. There is no action...without reciprocal reaction...
And mike, whether or not you develop the skills to enjoy meaningful relationship,
beware your karma doesnt run over yer dog!! | |
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| Lonely and married
Posted: 6/29/2008 8:47:07 AM | Msg2,
You've got his number. I can't believe someone would be so blatant as to use this ruse to get women!
The Eagle | |
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| Lonely and married
Posted: 6/29/2008 8:49:55 AM |
i think maybe i am getting to old for affairs.Maybe i do need to settle down with one woman.I just cant seem to find that woman and the ones that are single and live near me wont give me a chance.
I personally don't think you could possibly settle down with one woman due to your playing ways. As far as not being able to find someone, well, could it be that maybe the good single women out there can spot a player a mile away????? or could it possibily be that these women know what you are like and avoid you like the bubonic plague???? If I had that knowledge I certainly would.
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| Lonely and married
Posted: 6/29/2008 8:53:49 AM | "You've got his number. I can't believe someone would be so blatant as to use this ruse to get women!"
You'd be surprized what ruse married men use when they want to cheat!!! | |
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| Lonely and married
Posted: 6/29/2008 8:55:17 AM | | OP, if you're feeling lonely, then there's a good chance your wife is too. How about talking about your marriage and feelings of loneliness to her? She's your wife! | |
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| Lonely and married
Posted: 6/29/2008 9:11:45 AM | Connie1234, you are very smart. The older couples I have talked to, who have been married 50 years or more, did not get there problem-free.....they worked through their problems....and I applaud them...and envy them.
~DC~ | |
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| Lonely and married
Posted: 6/29/2008 9:18:33 AM |
Im not really a player.I just have a nose for bad marriages and get what i can get.Yes its risky and sometimes there are problems.
Hey Mikey, you old horn doggy, you have a good nose for things but methink the scent you are smelling for is more down under.
As we all know there are men and women who are in bad relationships looking for someone to blow sweet nothing into the ear and other areas of the body to temporary stop the the pain of being unhappy and taken for grant,etc,etc,etc.
And then there are men and women who only look for these situations [lonely&married types],whether it be getting laid, the excitement and trill of doing it behind the other spouses back, having you ego stroke sexually by someone who is married, and knowing you your involvement is only going to be temporary or to keep the fun going for a little longer that her spouse finds out but for you methink you'll just wave your white flag and say I was just right to help out. Right.
And mike, whether or not you develop the skills to enjoy meaningful relationship,
beware your karma doesn't run over yer dog!
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| Lonely and married
Posted: 6/29/2008 4:18:35 PM | | Huh, a lot of posters are saying how "honest" he is. Honest to us about his being married--but WAY dishonest to his wife. If you loved her, you wouldn't deceive her or hurt her or disrespect her like this. I will never understand people--get a divorce, or solve your marriage problems actively, don't run away and hide from them. | |
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| Lonely and married
Posted: 6/30/2008 12:57:36 PM | Get a divorce and be unlonely! Wake up!
A comment to mike force! I just got to say it, imagine that you are a modern day Millennium Casanova! OMG! Crack me up! Too Funny! I guess, every century or so has one or more... LOL!
I agree, Karma baby is standing at the doorstep!
All of sudden, I feel a chill in the air, 
Cheers!
Chela
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| Lonely and married
Posted: 6/30/2008 1:14:19 PM | Hi OP - if you're that lonely and you're married it means your marriage isn't working.
I've been single for 14 years and I almost never feel lonely. When I was married I was extremely lonely - my soul was open to my wife but she wasn't open to me and it's a killer.
If you need to find someone else to fill that gap you either need to remove the gap or you need to find another partner.
Loneliness follows you around no matter what you do if you don't face up to and deal with it directly. | |
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| Lonely and married
Posted: 6/30/2008 1:24:29 PM | who knows she might be as lonely as you are.
go throw you pity party somewhere else all you are out to do is pick up a lady who feels sorry for you to use for a while and then dump.
you are playing the oldest game in the book and it probably ain't the first time.
get a life!!!! | |
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| Lonely and married
Posted: 6/30/2008 3:09:17 PM | | It's not a good idea to keep secrets in a marriage. Does your husband know you are on this site? Speaking from past experience, chances are, things will not improve. You need to seek a maariage counsler or move on | |
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| Lonely and married
Posted: 6/30/2008 3:15:10 PM | DEGOSTYLE is right on;
Can you spell AFFAIR?
You dont fix a problem with someone, by getting closer to someone else. You are trying to play with fire and if something happens, you just can say,"I never meant for it to happen!". This is danger. Talk to your spouse and make it work or get a divorce or split up. | |
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