| My future stopped overnight!
Posted: 6/29/2008 7:48:06 PM | Maybe she cheated on him.
then we had a fight, actually, he had the fight.
If she got caught cheating, what can she say? Hence "he had the fight."
how could someone who loved you, adored you, wanted to spend the rest of their life with you, just disappear?
I would pull the same disappearing act if someone cheated on me.
I'm not saying this is what happened but it's the only reason that makes sense of this situation. | |
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| My future stopped overnight!
Posted: 6/29/2008 8:34:05 PM | | We are not getting the whole story. What was the fight about? It had to be pretty big for him to break-up that way. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2008 9:14:54 PM | Hi
I think your man was just looking for a way out. He started the fight just to have a resason. He might have found someone else. It could be anything. You may never know why this happen. I have had my heart broken many times in my life. And it always hurts so much. You will get over this. It just takes time. Trust me,you will. You may not beleive this,but he might have done you a favor. This might sound cruel,but you might have been spared a life of hell. As hard as it might be to do,move on. You will find someone that does really loves you. Your a nice looking women. You will find someone just right for you!
Take care and hang in there. I hope I have been some help to you.
Sawman 15 | |
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Posted: 6/29/2008 9:24:24 PM | Well pettyjocar,
Based on all the information you provided in your post, I can think of only one reason he would have did the fight thing for no reason and then left you like that...
His prescription to viagra ran out and his American doctor wouldn't prescribe him another batch due to high blood pressure caused by lack of sex.
Yup... That would explain everything...
There is hope however, if it's not too late! It's called Canada. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2008 9:38:58 PM | | Well, if you let a man have a fight all by himself, he will get bored and leave. You should have helped him along, fight your part, and then have a make up party. Maybe he didn't love you as much as you thought, otherwise he would have the fight WITH you, instead of a solo performance. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2008 9:48:57 PM | | Op while I dont know what its like to have your future turned upside down in less than 24 hours, I do know what its like to have someone who you like alot or love and after so many good times and when you finally found someone, boom, it all goes to dust. I had the same thing happen but it was before we committed to a relationship, she calls me up after making so many plans with me and says she doesnt want to see me again, I asked for a reason and she couldnt think up one. Its maturity, I think the man was fighting his nature, he liked you but he wanted to party or date more people and I think he didnt know what he was getting himself into. Its not your fault at all and better it happened now than later. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2008 9:49:58 PM | | Oh and dont let this Eric dude bother you, he was on my thread once talking but my date I had just mentioned and he comes out of no where and calls me a loser. I shoot back saying that was uncalled for and he deletes my post, he can dish it but he can never take it. | |
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| My future stopped overnight!
Posted: 6/29/2008 9:56:53 PM | Your future didn't stop--that avenue of your future stopped.
You are still alive and you still have many other options--choose another one.
You cannot control the actions of others, nor should you, but you can ALWAYS decide how you will ultimately react to disappointment.
Get up, wash your face, take a deep breath, and keep going. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2008 10:07:02 PM | First of all, I have to agree with the posters who said it was better this happened now then after the wedding. If for no other reason, by him doing it before the wedding you still keep your home, your possessions, your bank accounts, etc. After the wedding he would have been entitled to half of everything.
Secondly, although we obviously do not have the whole story, as we all know there are 2 sides to every story, the only person who can accurately say why he left is your ex fiance. So is there really any need to speculate what his reasons were?
Lastly, you may feel like your future has ended but we all know those are just your emotions talking. So once you can add some logic to those emotions you will be in a much better place.
Good luck to you. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2008 12:17:09 AM | from the Opening post:
he had the fight, I just listened Seems to be a pattern for you.. you're doing the same thing with your own thread. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2008 11:03:04 AM | A lot of people disappear on one another these days. One fight, one problem, one little thing.. and POOF.. up in smoke overnight.
I think it's lack of commitment issues, not being as emotionally available as they might first appear. And then there are those who love to laugh and have a good time.. when their up, their up. When life is fun, it's real fun. But the moment life presents a challenge.. they seem to have a blow out and then vanish..It's like they have no ability whatsoever to deal with anything that's not fun, fun, fun and ha, ha, ha.. I think they have very weak consitutions, don't live in reality and are very immature.
It's very painful to date these kinds of people.. because they seem so great.. But unfortunately it never lasts. And you get stuck holding the bag. Press on, move, push past pain.. make yourself do it.. It will be hard for a while.. But you'll eventually come to a place where you will heal.  | |
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Posted: 6/30/2008 11:12:03 AM | Some people are simply unbalanced. I dated someone from here and at one point slept with her 5 nights out of 8. We never lived together; she doesn't live far from me. So one night she told me I could be the love of her life, and a week later (during those 8 days) she told me I wasn't a full-time enough boyfriend for her, and she broke it off. She blamed it on my having kids.  I wasn't heartbroken, just a bit stunned. Then when I thought how nutty it was, I was glad she was out of my life. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2008 11:18:39 AM | Night Skies said,
"I think it's lack of commitment issues, not being as emotionally available as they might first appear. And then there are those who love to laugh and have a good time.. when their up, their up. When life is fun, it's real fun. But the moment life presents a challenge.. they seem to have a blow out and then vanish..It's like they have no ability whatsoever to deal with anything that's not fun, fun, fun and ha, ha, ha.. I think they have very weak consitutions, don't live in reality and are very immature."
The guy brought a ring and was going to marry her. Yes, there are flaky people, but flakes generally do not go this far. They get flaky before investing in the ring. How many men are rich enough to buy a ring for nothing?
I stand by my first post, we are not getting the full picture. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2008 11:37:28 AM | You made only one mistake: you should have kept the ring. You had a legal and moral right to it, even if to get five bucks from a pawn shop or give it to a sis.
I hope you know, but I will tell you, marriage doesn't stop breakup, it just makes it messier and more hurtful.
Three cures: a midnight walk (not recomended for women), a new lover, or sing the blues. Try the new lover. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2008 12:03:52 PM | i dont want to sound disrespectful as this stuff tends to happen to me. not exact scenario but thats irrelevant.
all of this is irrelevant.
what do you expect anyone here to be able to say to you?
you either dated a jerk and he had you played, or, youre not worth marrying and he wanted out.
JUDGING and i love to judge strangers, especially by one paragraph or less...
i would say youre not even ready for a marriage, and, judging by the same paragraph, you dotn know how to accept regection and have issuses, considering it takes you months to get over a guy it should take you secconds to get over. what a jerk.
so this is a waste of everybodys time.
and if he decides yorue too much to marry, then how do you explain that? you expect him to have magic words to say?
the mesage is clear = its over. and you appear to have isues, no offence. we all do.
but to blame it all on the guy DOEs make you a jerk. tho the dude who said it could have broke it to you in a nicer way... | |
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Posted: 6/30/2008 12:16:26 PM | | i feel for you my seperated husband returned home after 6 months and told me he truley loved me just so he could get in the house .he moved out everything while i was at work so he could start his new life with some chick that emailed me and told me she was inlove with him and loved him she told me 2 find another husband cause they are gettn married ,yet the've never met shes in cali | |
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Posted: 6/30/2008 3:20:02 PM | If you really want to stop suffering. Stop asking yourself:
. . . how could someone who loved you, adored you, wanted to spend the rest of their life with you, just disappear? | |
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Posted: 6/30/2008 3:21:58 PM | | He took the ring back? whatever for? to give to the next lady? How could he? simply did not care as you thought. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2008 3:32:46 PM | So sorry to hear .... I think this person wanted out, for whatever reason.
Mom has a saying - you can't miss something that never existed. Sounds like you are sad for someone that never truly was .... Mourn -- then be glad you found out now!
I hope you get over him and move on with your life, and wish you the best  | |
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Posted: 6/30/2008 3:32:50 PM | Sorry.. I am sure this was already commented on.. 3 months?
Your future is what you make of it.
I recently lost a friend as we tried and it didn't work and he didn't want to say early on that it was not going to and neither did I as we enjoyed each other's company alot.
Because of our not being honest with each other and all we are not even friends now as we were.
3 months is really a short time and proposing marriage in that period is really not the usual.
Albeit, it happens and sometimes works.
I would be and am leary of anyone that wants to jump into anything with me.
I wish you the best of luck in finding what works for you. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2008 5:32:45 PM | atleast he walked out on you before marriage...which could have led to a divorce.
i think there's "another woman". why else would he be so eager to leave after a fight? i'm not engage with my bf and we fight a lot of times. we'd fight and after the next few days, i'd still be thinking about it, while he wouldn't even remember what we fought about. if he did, it obviously isn't a big enough reason to break-up.
if walking out was a better solution for him, then there you go. he finds it easier to let you go than bother trying to make things work.
oh ya...i also met my bf online. not all online guys are psycho... =p | |
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Posted: 6/30/2008 8:15:35 PM | | At your age you should know that one persons action will not define the course of your life. What he did was rotten, especially taking the ring back, but you will survive with the help and love of your family and friends. Your grandkids are beautiful. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2008 10:01:24 PM | | Wow The Eagle your a jerk!! She is in pain and the last thing she needs right now is a jerk like you making stupid comments like that. Ever wonder why you are single? I am assuming it is because your heart is made out of ice!!!!!!!! | |
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