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Posted: 7/4/2008 4:39:48 PM | (quote)It's obvious that she cheated on him. (/quote)
Obvious, are you for real about being an attorney, what happened to innocent until proven Guilty? What happened to imperical proof instead of speculation ?
Specualtion is nice to have, but wouldn't even be allowed in a court room.
In this case there is NO information as to what she did or didn't do, nor is there anything that even suggests she cheated... All you have speculation...Not a good example of how the law works, even if it is in a forum...(shakes head in disbelief) | |
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Posted: 7/4/2008 7:42:52 PM |
What happened to imperical proof instead of speculation ?
Whatever happened to the correct spelling of empirical?
I understand why you, as a legal studies student, feel that I should be and think like a lawyer 24/7 in every single waking circumstance including on some silly personals forum. Most students feel this during school and for a period thereafter. You eventually grow out of it. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2008 8:14:08 PM | ~OP~
Where are you? You are so quiet. Please, ignore unpleasant remarks and unjustified rude remarks coming, this is public forum, and there are people and 'people', but some of us are trying to help you out.
Few posters keep asking "What was the fight about" as if this would determine or justify the disappearance. When you wrote:
then we had a fight, actually, he had the fight, I just listened, he walked out of my house, came and got his things the next day, including my ring, and he was gone.
I don't know the history of your love affair with this man, but by the sound of your story, there was probably similar behaviour coming from this man: when suddenly things shift, and there is attack coming your way, nothing you have done, but things get out of control. I could be wrong, but I suspect there was a cycle of violence appearing in your relationship. I say that, because of those words you chose....things are good - you said 'yes, yes, yes'.... and then we had a fight, or rather he had a fight...you were a silent watcher.
If I am right in my suspicion, you have no idea what favour he has given you by simply disappearing. I believe there are things you have overlooked while in that relationship. One year is long enough to get to know your partner, and if he was sincere all the way throughout the year, the last behaviour was rather inconsistent...you are not telling us something.
I believe you when you said:
I met someone on line and we dated for a year, he was honest, caring, giving, funny, a wonderful partner
... but there is something else between the lines you are not saying, perhaps you are not ready to face it.
Abusers are master manipulators, and can appear super/duper nice .... I only suspect your partner had a mind of abuser by the sound of switching from one emotion to the next | |
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Posted: 7/4/2008 9:52:56 PM | Tattooed, thanks for correcting my spelling... Have a 101 fever today, and my brain is on a very slow operation level... HOWEVER that isn't the point. The point is that these forums aren't productive when people go off topic, and then blame the OP for something there is no proof of.
I doubt I will grow out of the skills I've learned in critical thinking, and will always consider the evidence that is presented needs to be sufficient enough to make a statement that is more than a speculation, and not a factual conclusion.
I also feel as I did when I worked in the medical field, that I represent the field 24/7, and don't consider the people that write these forums as silly; people come here with some serious inquires, and I like to give them due respect.
Thanks once again for correcting my spelling, I hate misspelling words, I'll be so thankful with the antibiotics kick in.... | |
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Posted: 7/4/2008 10:39:33 PM | Eagle the BIG JERK! Yes you are...why did you call OP a jerk? She was not asking to be called names...no wonder you are single and you will remain so, with or without your fortune.
Sorry OP about what happened...hang in there and remember there are many in the sea. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2008 11:22:52 PM | If you can't tell us what the fight is about nobody should be judging the guy. We have no clue what the fight is about. Obviously it's just a woman trying to make someone look bad so she will feel better. There is something that the OP is not telling us. It had to be a serious fight. No man will just walk away like that unless it was very serious. Anyways better to happen recently then after the marriage.
now on to more important things.. i sprained my ankle last week, and i can't really bend it all that well. it kinda sucks. crutches are the worst.
wowsad you don't have to be on crutches if your bones are not broken. Find a sport clinic sometimes they will do somethings for free. What someone needs to do is draw out the fluid from your sprain. An accupucturist might do it if he has the right equipment. I know this because I knew a guy sprained his ankle and he walked into a university sports clinic to get the fluid drawn out. He could walk, run or whatever the next day. I do have to warn you if it's a large enough sprain it will be painful. The large the fluid sack of the sprain the more painful it will be. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2008 6:59:57 AM | You have been on this site since Dec. of 2006. And you say you met a guy and had plans to marry and you broke up 3 months ago?
Did you ever think that maybe the reason he broke up was because you still have an account on a dating site? | |
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Posted: 7/5/2008 7:14:38 AM | Hi Patty:
Life does go on after jerks use us, so pick up yourself dust yourself off, and lift your head up high and forget the jerk, obviously you are lucky this didn't happen after you were married, then you would have the expense of a divorce. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2008 7:22:15 AM | | Sounds like there were more than two of you in that relationship - he couldn't handle lying anymore so he created the one sided argument (they are funny, laughable) and wondered off, but what was he doing taking the ring Grrrrrrrrrr, that was yours he gave it as a gift and legally it belongs to the woman (unless it is a family heirloom). | |
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Posted: 7/5/2008 7:29:58 AM |
I keep asking myself, how could someone who loved you, adored you, wanted to spend the rest of their life with you, just disappear?
Someone who loves you and adores you doesn't. And if someone is that immature emotionally, they don't know what means in the first place.
Don't loose yourself over this....learn and grow...you have just been given an insight you did not have before that will help you discern next time..and there will be a "next time". | |
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Posted: 7/5/2008 9:20:46 PM | Fighting all the time is a sign of a dysfunctional relationship, but I think this fight revealed the truth. The truth was this was magical only in your mind. This was about more than one fight and I think he had someone on the side or something else going on.
The divorce rate is 51% in the U.S. and the break up rate of those that live together is over 90% in a newsweek article last year so again, you have to be careful. I think its insane to move in with someone especially an internet contact.
Move on and to be honest its better to have this happen then to fight all the time which is a terrible sign. again, move on and good luck. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2008 11:19:37 PM | I think its either you really piss him off for some reason you dont want to say, or
he is a very selfish person and doesnt really love you as you thought.
I always tend to give a clear reason why breaking up. but some people are not like that. you can't force them to, and just learn to accept that something you can never figure out why.
break up sucks, but an unclear break up suck 100times more. you have my sympathy. | |
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