Naamah
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Joined: 11/22/2007
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Posted: 7/9/2008 2:05:40 AM | My Dad is enjoying his money, and good on him. But knowing him, he will want to leave us something.
I'm leaving my farm to Hilly, cos she's the only one nutty enough to take on my ragtag bunch of animals and maintain them in the style to which they've become accustomed. 
I have to say I have a friend whose partner died, they recieved a large payout life insurance etc , they now live fairly well off lifestyle. It saddens me at times as they often use the tragedy of thier partners battle with cancer to get sympathy, to prove they know hard times etc, and look down on others who have less than them. Its kind of ironic the price that was paid for thier comfortable life, the condolences they still solicit and how easy it is for her to use her husbands sad horrible death to find victory in sympathy votes within our circle of friends.
Wow, that struck me as quite a scathing thought to harbour about a friend. Obviously I don't know this person you call your friend, but would anyone really prefer being an "object of sympathy" to having their partner alive and well and the normal existence lead before? The suggestion that she solicits condolences as a form of victory seems to imply an unnatural degree of competitiveness in this circle of friends. A close friend of mine who lost her husband to cancer at the end of last year can have all the sympathy and support she needs as far as I am concerned...whatever gives her comfort, for as long as she needs it...I begrudge her nothing after what she's been through.
Perhaps I have a different perspective because I've been there, but I doubt the money would make the loss feel better...but what it would do is allow your friend to grieve without the added financial pressure (cos the bills don't stop just because your partner had died, and the income is halved). I would think your friend was very lucky to have financial assistance to enable her to manage her grief without the added burden of money worries when her life has been so shattered. I sure wish we'd had insurance. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 4:12:54 AM | Talking about inheritance and life insurance
I red this in an old legal book I have...haven't checked to see if it's still possible but good to know:
Q:Can a woman buy life insurance on her former husband's life to protect the amount of maintenance awarded her?
A: Yes she can. One person can insure the life of another in whom she/he has what is called an "insurable interest". The law specifically says that you have an insurable interest in someone's life if you are wholly or partly dependant on that person for maintenance or support. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 6:37:45 AM | | It is interesting how some people respond to the circumstance changes that occur after the passing of a loved one, some people just shut up shop and live in a world of denial, others use it as a pawn etc, much like in other circumstances like illness. People sometimes use illness as a pawn too for sympathy votes, i think vege is on to something there. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 6:39:17 AM |
I'm leaving my farm to Hilly
Yay, lucky, lucky me!!!
Could you possibly clean a bit before you hand over my inheritance?
Also we need to discuss the BF......I draw the line at having to take care of him too.
Now which chicken goes on which perch again?? | |
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Naamah
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Joined: 11/22/2007
Msg: 55 | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 8:03:57 AM |
Could you possibly clean a bit before you hand over my inheritance? Inheritance comes as is baby! You will also inherit my housework. The will is being drafted as we speak.
Mafato you are a wise woman.
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Posted: 7/9/2008 2:14:49 PM | so then, talking with me sister the other day it turns out a couple of my brothers are executors (dad disclosed this little gem on her recent visit) well that was it for us. we walk away now coz we know the outcome. it will be like a myers sale and i truly couldnt be bothered.
the loss of a loved one sometimes is overlooked by the stench of greed in regards to those who think they are "owed". in some ways it is easy for me - i have 2 children and and everything will be divided evenly and they should be happy, i mean half of nothing is a pretty good deal it think.
oh not to mention that pesky credit card - do i give them each half of that debt too.....mmmm perhaps i better not tell them about that one just yet.
told you so - the tits and tatts thread is over there >>>>>>>>> | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 3:22:05 PM | Now wouldn't it be wonderful if people could inherit kindness???
Not sure how anyone could enjoy intentionally plan and hurt someone else and then rub the hurt for a second, third and fourth time.................sometimes unknowingly I hurt and when I realise...I tell you ...I despise myself and live a regret.......
I wonder do people who hurt, feel the hurt? or just enjoy
Oh what a wonderful world......
The colors of a rainbow.....so pretty ..in the sky
Are there on the faces.....of people ..going by
I see friends shaking hands.....sayin.. how do you do
Theyre really sayin...I ....love....you
I hear babies cry...... I watch them grow
you ..know...their...gonna learn...A ...whole... lot more ...than... Ill never know
And I think to myself .....what a wonderful world
Yes I think to myself .......what a wonderful world. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 3:30:17 PM | I would like to apologise to MissMilly for the post I put up last night has hijacked your thread, and I am sorry for that Milly.
My apology to those that have taken offence to my comments.
As for being wise a wise woman would have not been stupid enough to put her self in the middle of this bullsh1t in the first place. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 4:53:23 PM | So....., a few posts have been pulled.....!
bl##dy h#ll...., who would have thunk it ?   | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 5:11:09 PM | Mafato......I feel your apology shows your true colours personally. Many of us seem to inadvertantly slip (or be prodded) into the bullsh1t every now and again.
Personally I have just bought anti-slip shoes!!!
As for inheritences. My folks have two of the ugliest staffordshire porcelain dogs sitting on their shelves and my brothers and I constantly bicker over why we should not have to inherit them!!
Though they might fit in well on my inherited farm I suppose!!!
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Naamah
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Joined: 11/22/2007
Msg: 61 | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 8:32:35 PM |
As for inheritences. My folks have two of the ugliest staffordshire porcelain dogs sitting on their shelves and my brothers and I constantly bicker over why we should not have to inherit them!!
Then I guess you won't want to inherit the various farm animal ornaments that people tend to give me, and that I keep hidden in a cupboard?
When my Nana was in her 60's and 70's, she used to voluntarily care for one of her neighbours who was in her 80's. She did her shopping and her housework, and brought her along to family Christmases and the like, because this own woman's family couldn't be bothered. When the old woman died, she left Nana her house out of gratitude. Nana was stunned, but because she had no desire to have another house she immediately signed the house over to my aunt...her daughter who was most in need of a helping hand. Some people in this world do place kindness above money. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2008 8:25:32 PM | I inherited all of both of my parents bad points.....lucky, lucky me.
From my Mum I inherited having no waist, a flat chest and a propensity to developing a double chin,
From my Dad I inherited my sarcasm, bandy pidgeon legs, hollow back and strange sticky out little butt.
Whoops...wrong type of inheritance maybe!
I did inherit my Nan's engagement ring and it fell off and now im currently turning my house even more upside down then normal to try and find it!.
Wish me luck! | |
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Posted: 7/12/2008 9:44:40 PM | | Good luck.Hope you find it. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2008 3:36:26 AM | Inheritance..well lets just say they come and go abit like my posts..lol..
Well lets see message 58 . thanks for the pm it was appreciated as well as the one on here. Seems the elusive posts of mine disappeared so did I told you so! Whats with that?
As I said earlier mess 51 . You assume much , misread a simple post and I cant be bothered givin it too much more than that. It seems like a waste of effort to me.
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Does anyone here know what a living will is? or have had any experience with it? | |
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Posted: 7/13/2008 4:24:28 AM | | I think a living will is a statement that you give to medical staff about the type of health care that you want if you find yourself in a situation where you can't make decisions. Like for example if you don't want certain procedures or products used to treat you then you put it in that. The problem is that it is left to the interpretation of staff particularly if the instructions are detailed. Family do not really have much power to get them to enforce it that is why it is better to give someone who knows you very well and you trust a power of attorney who will make decisions on your behalf once you aren't able to do so yourself. This way it is not left to interpretation and judgement of doctors on the statement and your power of attorney will make them as the need arises and they can pay things for you and organise everything. The living will does not have the power to allow anyone to organise everything and make decisions for you and is only a statement so it can be quite frustrating. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2008 9:01:38 AM | This leads for better or worse in my field to succession law, which along with family law and criminal law, can show people at their worst.
People will often dispute as to how an estate should be divided up when a person dies, even if they have spelt out clearly in a valid will how they wanted their assets to be distributed. The courts tend to favour the intention as determined from the meaning of the words in the will (which may not necessarily be one drawn up by a lawyer). If you die intestate, the laws vary but the spouse/partner, children and close relatives will get what you own. | |
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