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| Simon Says... Paula needs to try requesting a review [CLOSED]
Posted: 7/1/2008 5:54:08 PM | ..."Just a thought, if I were dating someone my status would be "not single/not looking."...
You are right. I considered this. I guess I am too honest to lie, even on a small field on a screen. I guess I have my toe in the water, so to speak, in case this doesn't work out. I haven't contacted anyone (heck I never did before, either), but it is sort of that I am trying to stay a little independent, kind of like smiling at guys in high school even when you are going steady so you don't fall too hard, too soon. It is just fun, but if the guy was jealous I would switch over. (Or choose another guy.)
It's amazing how much hiding the profile works to stop contact with people, because effectively only about 3 people contacted me through the Forums in 5 months. I have the chat feature blocked from the day I signed up and a guy asked me if my fingernails were long and painted. (Yup, that was my first contact on good 'ole POF!) But you are right. To be honorable, I am not looking. If the guy I am seeing was the jealous type I would have gotten off of here completely.
We are older adults. We have seen all the games, we don't seem to have the same priorities as when we were younger. I think we both are kind of holding our breath to make sure no one says "I love you" too soon, or ever.
However, his profile is still up, and I am not the jealous type either. Never was. Of course that's easy for me to say because I've never been cheated on.
Yeah!?! Where is the section for "Forum Junkie Who is Dating Someone Too Early In The Relationship To Change Status To Not Single/Not Looking Because Technically I Am Still Single Until He Decides To Have The Committment Talk With Me"???????
I am going to write a suggestion to the POF staff right away about this. | |
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| Simon Says... Paula needs to try requesting a review
Posted: 7/1/2008 5:57:54 PM | This profile got a decent amount of attention,
So just for clarification, you posted another profile that got more attention, when you're already dating someone. Just asking because it begs the question...why?
If you're dating someone, then you should be getting attention from him. (insert DUH).
What attention is it that you're seeking...with a boyfriend that you've already mentioned. It's men you want talk-email from. Don't you think they may wonder?
I'll just give a comment, there's plenty of men here, looking for whatever. For talk/email from a female who has a BF? If they even scan or read...I know I've said it before, but I'll repeat myself...it's a ball of confusion. The song is spinning in my head. It is a song....wish I could name the artist.
I will ask the proverbial and rhetorial question, after two (3 now) pages. What is it that you want? No answer needed it's something you need to ask and answer for yourself.
All I would dare to ask and I will, please do, and don't be someone who causes another one ot those dreadful threads about the gender.
What I see and how I see it is that you are potentially contributing to that. The mods have much better things to do. | |
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| Simon Says... Paula needs to try requesting a review
Posted: 7/1/2008 6:14:12 PM |
"So just for clarification, you posted another profile that got more attention, when you're already dating someone. Just asking because it begs the question...why?
If you're dating someone, then you should be getting attention from him. ..What attention is it that you're seeking...with a boyfriend that you've already mentioned. It's men you want talk-email from. Don't you think they may wonder?"...
I think I covered some of this a minute ago. I agree with you about changing it, but as you posted this comment I was referring to I was changing my entire profile to continue the review process in another direction.
As for the attention from my guy. He's 90 minutes away. I work at home. He works 2 jobs to put 2 children through college. We see each other once a week, and sometimes twice. Not enough for me, but he knows this. I prefer minimum of twice a week to 3 times per week for a real relationship. OK, now you know WAY TOO MUCH. :)
I am going to shut up here. (Putting hand on mouth.......OK, now I can't type.......)
I have no restrictions so women can e-mail me from the forums (and they have.)
I am saving my old profiles in a Word file. I stated last week I am not doing this for attention, just making observations. I got attention more than I was expecting.....
It was implied by someone who reviews that to really understand what they do you have to try reviewing, and I felt it would be kinda hypocritical to review others without having been reivewed.
But I see now that the review process is different for Friends, vs Dating, vs LTR, etc..... | |
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| Simon Says... Paula needs to try requesting a review
Posted: 7/1/2008 6:36:45 PM | As for the attention from my guy. He's 90 minutes away.
If someone would even read this in your forum posts. Your "guy" being 90 minutes away. Fifteen hours "away" have to hop a plane.
It's trivia, it's only important to you. You have a guy..that's MY point. You're not clear that you have one or what it is.
Forget getting attention, why would you even mention the time or distance. If it's not the man for you, or yes...I'll DARE...the man that you crave...the man you think about, the man you WANT. And can fully tell him, leave no doubt, then what the heck are you doing? Maybe it's just me, but I'm all or nothing, if I'm not totallly into it or hi, then I'll rent a moive and get takeout. I can't do that, be kinda interest, or maybe.
Been there done that, it didn't work out so after 2 1/2 years of being here, making a ton of frriends. I'm still here, and clear about where I am and what I want, which is friends. From my experience, most people (men) appreciate being upfront, and not leading them on. It's been great for me...but I don't want to take this off topic.
It's about your profile, you need to make it more clear, and many have given great input. You don't seem to be cluing in at all.
IE The profile...fractured, disjointed as it is it's all about YOU. Shadow was bang on.
Yes still have edit...poor guy.
Thread Closed - Life Blog isn't the objective here - Trappedonbayst 
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