| asian girl who has never dated or had a asian bf before
Posted: 7/1/2008 8:30:50 PM | not sure what kind of asian they are ,but in my chinese traditonal family we prefer chinese/asians.
jokes are always made around the table with us chinese folks about white ppl and how they are lazy bum. thsoe gwai lows
sounds to me your asian friends parents lack asian pride, and have self hate. with my friends who are asian and most of them are , its nothing like this. some of them even say racial stuff about white ppl. "its always the white ppl who ask the dumbest quesiotns"-my asian friend in comp sci | |
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| asian girl who has never dated or had a asian bf before
Posted: 7/1/2008 10:08:29 PM |
not sure what kind of asian they are ,but in my chinese traditonal family we prefer chinese/asians.
jokes are always made around the table with us chinese folks about white ppl and how they are lazy bum. thsoe gwai lows
sounds to me your asian friends parents lack asian pride, and have self hate. with my friends who are asian and most of them are , its nothing like this. some of them even say racial stuff about white ppl. "its always the white ppl who ask the dumbest quesiotns"-my asian friend in comp sci
I would love to prove you wrong, but when idiots post crap like...
listen pal....if you have money, that's all that will matter.
One phrase, "Me so horny, me love you long time."
maybe i should move to vancouver! i usually only date asian girls
I'm done before I can begin.
Nothing I say could wholly convince anyone of my opinion. Not every white guy who dates outside their race is some ignorant white-trash with an Asian complex, but there are lot of guys who are.
I wish I could tell you that white men aren't lazy, ignorant pigs, not to stick up for my own race but just so that you won't sunject yourself to friends of only one culture. But you are free to think what you will, I've experienced enough ignorance from my own race to know that you're not entirely wrong. However, just because some Asian women prefer men from other cultures does not mean they've given up on their own. It could be a phase of rebellion, but it's also their own individual choice, dating and marrying outside one's race doesn't make one lack pride in themselves and they most certainly do not hate themselves. One of my ex's (African-American) took several courses in Pan-African studies and writes/has written for an African-American journal, and she's married to a Caucasian. She is most certainly does not lack pride in her heritage.
Especially at our age where physical attraction is at the top of the list and, lets face it, a lot of media perpetuates white men and women as the symbol of perfection, and from this white guy's own experience, we are most certainly NOT perfect (I tend to hold favor towards my black brothers and sisters, but personal choice :D), it's easy to think that a lot of women not of the Caucasian race are "white-washed", and on some levels it's true. A lot of young people of both sexes and all races don't bother to study their own culture and instead goes simply on what the media and Hollywood perceives of them and they judge their opinions accordingly.
I'm sorry to hear you have a negative opinion about white people, I still wish you the very best in the future, and if you're chasing after a girl, good luck my friend. ~.^ (Although I wouldn't recommend "acting white". There's nothing more unappealing then somebody trying to be something they're not, but I have the feeling I shouldn't be worried about that with you) | |
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| asian girl who has never dated or had a asian bf before
Posted: 7/1/2008 11:43:39 PM | | amberrain its sad that your asian girlfriend can tell you that she would be disowned if she dates a brother who could be your brother and that is ok with you. I think you are ashamed to be who you are. She aint no friend to black people. I am a friend to people who know who they are and don't pretend to be what they are not. | |
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| asian girl who has never dated or had a asian bf before
Posted: 7/2/2008 6:49:06 AM |
amberrain its sad that your asian girlfriend can tell you that she would be disowned if she dates a brother who could be your brother and that is ok with you. I think you are ashamed to be who you are. She aint no friend to black people. I am a friend to people who know who they are and don't pretend to be what they are not.
canadian-boii– ok, so I'm ashamed of my culture because my best friend is vietnamese and her family has prejudices against blacks. Ha! That makes sense.
Yeah, I think it stupid that all of the asians I know have racist parents who claim not to be racist, and I think it's stupid that most of them never challenge their parents' racist views thereby perpetuating the prejudices. But as a black woman in America I've learned that I can't change people's minds, nor do I want to. I just don't deal with people who think like that.
Having a vietnamese friend doesn't mean I don't know who I am, because I am well aware of it and proud of my heritage. And I love my friend for who she is and don't condemn her based on her mother's views. I have white friends who I love but would never step foot in some of their families houses because I think they are racist dummies.
This is a just a guestimate, but I would say that probably 75% or more of non-blacks in america either feel this way themselves, or have parents who wouldn't want them marrying a black person. That's just something you come to terms with if you're in the minority here. And you being a white male would probably have no clue of what I'm talking about because no matter how many ethnic friends you may have, you just cannot relate. | |
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| asian girl who has never dated or had a asian bf before
Posted: 7/2/2008 7:00:08 AM |
well i personally got to say i don't like the wm/af couples, its just so many of them. why dont htey just date white girls . i dont thik it would last anyways too differ culture and stuff, i be they get stared at a lot. well i do that to them
Dude, WTF is your problem?..you sound bitter as hell..get over it..people can date whoever they want.. | |
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| asian girl who has never dated or had a asian bf before
Posted: 7/2/2008 10:48:49 PM |
[ She wasn't joking either. She and her sister both got their citizenship and marriage after dating for a year. That's something many American women can't get in a lifetime.
Many American women don't have to get a citizen ship because they're already Amercian citizens ' DUHH . | |
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| asian girl who has never dated or had a asian bf before
Posted: 7/2/2008 10:52:25 PM |
And you being a white male would probably have no clue of what I'm talking about because no matter how many ethnic friends you may have, you just cannot relate. [/qoute] My kids are Malato , if you cant ** RELATE ** what that means is black/white , mixed. Yes I did feel discrimination with my children , don't hate appreciate  | |
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| asian girl who has never dated or had a asian bf before
Posted: 7/2/2008 11:13:54 PM |
AmberRain , is the one who can't relate. She needs to really experience her own race.
We all date in our "race" the human race.
Race is an artifical label that was created for the purpose of excusing mistreatment
of groups because of another groups "superiority". There are superficial differences
between many groups of peoples, but most of the differences are due to culture,
not biology.
I have met people from many, many groups.
When I have met enough of them, I find there are still those that are taller/shorter,
thinner/fatter, smarter/less so, etc.
Once you actually know someone, these cease to be anything other than themselves. | |
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| asian girl who has never dated or had a asian bf before
Posted: 7/3/2008 7:12:45 AM |
Many American women don't have to get a citizen ship because they're already Amercian citizens ' DUHH .
I mentioned citizenship AND marriage and the only thing you can extrapolate from that is the citizen part? Duh?
My kids are Malato , if you cant ** RELATE ** what that means is black/white , mixed.
Yes I did feel discrimination with my children , don't hate appreciate
I need to ask you if you know what malato means, because I certainly don't. I always thought black & white mixed up was called MULATTO. Having another 'duh' moment there, canadian boi?
And having mixed kids doesn't give you a pass to be able to relate to the black experience, sorry. You can only perceive what they may be going through, never actually be in their shoes. And why would I hate? I'm not a hater, I leave that job to people who do it better, like you. After all, you started this.
AmberRain , is the one who can't relate. She needs to really experience her own race.
sporty, stay out of grown-folks' conversations. You don't know me nor know what I've experienced. You didn't tell that to the boi in canada, and he's the one with mulatto kids. And why are you two on an asian thread if your so into staying true to one's race and all? Little troll boys, maybe? | |
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| asian girl who has never dated or had a asian bf before
Posted: 7/3/2008 12:18:50 PM |
Asian males do NOT find me attractive, so I have only dated an Italian doctor for 12 years, and an Irish/Italian cop for 2 years... that's about it....
I find that a bit hard to believe.
I mean, I can understand someone not wanting a relationship with you if they
happened to want kids since you don't, but I can't think there would be too many
straight guys that would not find you attractive. Then again, maybe 14 years ago
you were going through an awkward stage? You met the doctor at 19? 18?
*shrug*
You ought to take a picture with you holding a sign saying, yes, I am UCBerkMaiden
or something. That would shut them up if they don't believe you are you. | |
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| asian girl who has never dated or had a asian bf before
Posted: 7/3/2008 3:49:58 PM |
MOLATO !
http://tn.wikipedia.org/wiki/Molato
Maybe you should have read the definition before you told me to read it. I thought your baby-daddy said the kids were mixed with white & black, not latin.
From the link you posted: "Molatos or more commonly known as afro-latinos/black latinos usually reside in Mexico,brazil,argentina (although only a minority),spain and portugal."
But, "A mulatto is a person with one white parent and one black parent, or, more generally, a person of mixed black and white ancestry."
I'm done sparring with dull people. | |
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| asian girl who has never dated or had a asian bf before
Posted: 7/3/2008 5:26:14 PM | Hey, I did specify. I'm Chinese. I'm proud of my heritage. And this is the kind of crap that the op sent me even though I posted a very encouraging email to tell him to just go ahead and ask that girl out. Instead he sends me this crap. It's an open discussion forum, I don't need people sending me derogatory emails:
"white guys hey.the white guys lol hahah sell out. ewww got make half breeds. the odd couple thats for sure. you must be very very white washed. do you have any asian pride or do you put down on all of us asian people. we are just as good or better than white ppl. white ppl are lazzzyyyyy.
i got it all girl. a good high paying job, 2 high end cars, i own a business. i'm a catch. i just don't associate or talk to asian white washed sell outs.
look in the mirror please"
This shows who you really are, OP. An ass. Who ever said I wasn't proud of my heritage? And the reason I wouldn't date you is because you're a racist insecure jerk, not because you are Asian! | |
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| asian girl who has never dated or had a asian bf before
Posted: 7/3/2008 6:21:52 PM | | i think it's because of the culture we live in. in north american media ex. movies, television, magazines etc... it's always the caucasian or african american that is portrayed as handsome, suave, debonair, outgoing etc... and that's what people are exposed to and are used to. whereas, asians are more portrayed as quiet, nerdy, socially inept so that's what people expect | |
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| asian girl who has never dated or had a asian bf before
Posted: 7/3/2008 7:25:42 PM |
asian guys what would you think of this if a asian girl told you this, would you bother asking her out if you find her hot or cute. i mean all her bfs and the guys she dated have all been white.
I don't see why you wouldn't ask her. What would be the down side exactly? You can't really say for sure that she hasn't dated asian guys because she won't date them. It's possible that she holds asians to a higher standard than white guys. For instance she might be ok with an average white guy while insisting on a great asian guy. But that still shouldn't deter you. You just have to make sure you're the great asian guy.
We are held to a higher standard in basically every aspect of life, be it socially, professionally, politically, whatever. Get used to it. And I don't mean accept a crappier result. I mean you'll have to overcome this hurdle just like the rest of them. | |
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| asian girl who has never dated or had a asian bf before
Posted: 7/3/2008 8:38:49 PM | To all my Asian brothers, don’t get trap in the stereotypes, labels and propagandas. You are so much better than you know. I had many girls in my lifetime, and they all vary in ages and ethnicity, once they have me they can’t get enough, they keep coming back for more and more, but I’m very selective. The following are some excerpt from the emails I’ve been receiving from ladies, mostly Caucasian.
- “Tell me more about yourself, you handsome thing, you.”
- “LOL You have a great sense of humor !!”
- “Damn, if being sexy was a crime, you'd be guilty as charged!
- “Congratulations! I have voted you the hottest guy around! And your prize is ...????????”
-“Love the profile and I think your looking hot, just a little G.U.D. (geographically UN desirable) this is frustrating!”
-“You sound like a really cool and wonderful person”
-“I felt happy, safe and comfortable with you”
Thanks God I'm Asian, I really love myself...therefore I can love others.
P.S. Can someone pass me the mirror please...lol | |
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| asian girl who has never dated or had a asian bf before
Posted: 7/3/2008 8:46:25 PM |
To all my Asian brothers, don’t get trap in the stereotypes, labels and propagandas. You are so much better than you know. I had many girls in my lifetime, and they all vary in ages and ethnicity, once they have me they can’t get enough, they keep coming back for more and more, but I’m very selective. The following are some excerpt from the emails I’ve been receiving from ladies, mostly Caucasian.
- “Tell me more about yourself, you handsome thing, you.”
- “LOL You have a great sense of humor !!”
- “Damn, if being sexy was a crime, you'd be guilty as charged!
- “Congratulations! I have voted you the hottest guy around! And your prize is ...????????”
-“Love the profile and I think your looking hot, just a little G.U.D. (geographically UN desirable) this is frustrating!”
-“You sound like a really cool and wonderful person”
-“I felt happy, safe and comfortable with you”
Thanks God I'm Asian, I really love myself...therefore I can love others.
P.S. Can someone pass me the mirror please...lol
Heh, love that post Paradise, great advice. :) | |
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| asian girl who has never dated or had a asian bf before
Posted: 7/3/2008 11:10:04 PM | OP this song dedicated to you:
Everyday People
Sometimes I'm right and I can be wrong
My own beliefs are in my song
The butcher, the banker, the drummer and then
Makes no difference what group I'm in
I am everyday people, yeah yeah
There is a blue one who can't accept the green one
For living with a fat one trying to be a skinny one
And different strokes for different folks
And so on and so on and scooby dooby doo-bee
Oh sha sha - we got to live together
I am no better and neither are you
We are the same whatever we do
You love me you hate me you know me and then
You can't figure out the bag l'm in
I am everyday people, yeah yeah
There is a long hair that doesn't like the short hair
For bein' such a rich one that will not help the poor one
And different strokes for different folks
And so on and so on and scooby dooby doo-bee
Oh sha sha-we got to live together
There is a yellow one that won't accept the black one
That won't accept the red one that won't accept the white one
And different strokes for different folks | |
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