| Attracting the wrong type of guy...is it my fault?
Posted: 7/1/2008 7:34:13 AM | | putting your breasts out there to see in this dating world will attract alot of the wrong people, if you desire to show them off , be prepared for some rude comments from the bottom feeders out there..we are not in europe were all are ok with partial nudity, here in the states it is viewed as being overtly sexual..sad but true | |
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| Attracting the wrong type of guy...is it my fault?
Posted: 7/1/2008 9:05:16 PM | re: Msg: 51
Someone already pointed out the quality aspect that won't be found at drunken frat parties, so I'll skip that.
There is something else you're missing and that may be the male to female ratio where she is. Where I went, a good year was 8 guys to every girl. A good year... a bad year was 10 or more to 1. | |
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| Attracting the wrong type of guy...is it my fault?
Posted: 7/1/2008 9:28:05 PM | Melting... Coming from a Canadian.. Totally your fault.....
Think of this site as a trip to a packed bar or club... You are going to have the guys who lok at you(your pics) and think DAMN! and attempts in whatever way comes to their head to try to get in your pants...
Then you will have the sly ones who will do their best to get in your good graces.. then get in your pants...
Then IF YOU ARE LUCKY you might meet someone that catches your attention and you might have to do some chasing...
Either way, thats the best way of looking at this site...
I suggest carrying a Tazer.... Nothing says piss off like a good shock to the body...  | |
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| Attracting the wrong type of guy...is it my fault?
Posted: 7/2/2008 11:28:36 AM | I think women on this site get a lot of random emails. It is easy to see that you would be a potential catch. I think the fact that you are 23, expect to get some pretty bad emails. I am sure you will get some great messages from some great men.
Keep on believing.
Scott | |
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| Attracting the wrong type of guy...is it my fault?
Posted: 7/2/2008 12:00:39 PM | "putting your breasts out there to see in this dating world will attract alot of the wrong people, if you desire to show them off , be prepared for some rude comments from the bottom feeders out there..we are not in europe were all are ok with partial nudity, here in the states it is viewed as being overtly sexual..sad but true "
You must not have seen my photos.
one is me wearing a shirt with a round collar that is all they way up to my throat, and medium length baggy sleeves. The other is a (not even deep) v-neck black long top with full shoulders...no spaghetti straps, no skirts, no dresses, no cleavage, no midfiff showing, no bikini photos etc.
thanks all for the advice :)
please don't make assumptions. | |
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| Attracting the wrong type of guy...is it my fault?
Posted: 7/2/2008 8:09:57 PM | | It is not you...it is just online crap....people just like to take the verbal shots because they can get away with it. You get alot because you are attractive. They hit your profile more than others then just take their shots because they are cowards. Being straight forward is a cool trait, I wouldn't change that. Online dating should only be one avenue. Try many sources. | |
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| Attracting the wrong type of guy...is it my fault?
Posted: 7/2/2008 8:21:18 PM | | Lawman In Black is right. On the internet there are a lot of people who just love to mess with others because they won't get in trouble. I bet many of the lewd messages you get seriously don't expect a reply. And if you did reply to them, I bet they would crank it up 20 notches just for kicks. | |
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| Attracting the wrong type of guy...is it my fault?
Posted: 7/3/2008 10:08:44 AM | First thing you can do is don't dress like a slut. Don't wear tight/revealing clothing that shows your body. It excites the perverts. You don't wanna do that, right? Well only thing you can do is cover yourself that way you can be evaluated by your personality and not your body.
Ain't nothing wrong with horse riding.
Would you give someone a try if they sent you a message that was non-sexual and sounded like they were interested in "YOU" and not your body only? | |
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| Attracting the wrong type of guy...is it my fault?
Posted: 7/3/2008 10:16:31 AM | | Well if you wear a shirt that shows heavy cleavage, expect people to stare. Expect men to want sex from you. And expect to get hit on 100 times a day. Just think that this is what you have to deal with. | |
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| Attracting the wrong type of guy...is it my fault?
Posted: 7/3/2008 3:25:39 PM | i dont get it .
I dont see big boobs in that pix. just a very attrative lady.!!!
Do you really know what big uns ARE??
My abusive X cut mine off. They really WERE huge. So just be happy you still have them!!! Seriously, DARLING! If you have them, flaunt them. God gave them to you! :) | |
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| Attracting the wrong type of guy...is it my fault?
Posted: 7/3/2008 4:14:31 PM | I am not sure how you guys aren't getting this. Please read what I am writing.
I had two full-body photos. one was very far away with a v-neck black shirt, and one was a little closer with a fully-covered-up-to-my-throat baggy sleeved brown/purple one.
aka NOT cleavage bearing, boob-obvious half-naked pics like so many others on this site. hopefully these links work.
read for comprehension!
http://pics.plentyofsite.com/dating/40/scottsdale_dating_13515384.jpg
http://pics.plentyofsite.com/dating/49/scottsdale_dating_25603173.jpg | |
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| Attracting the wrong type of guy...is it my fault?
Posted: 7/3/2008 4:17:44 PM | No it's not your fault. Some guys are just after one thing. I don't see anything wrong with your pictures personally.
You'll find a nice guy, not every guy is going to try to talk you into bed the second they talk to you. | |
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| Attracting the wrong type of guy...is it my fault?
Posted: 7/3/2008 4:49:52 PM | Melting Canuck
Not your fault.
The pictures you describe sound appropriate.
I cannot see anything wrong with your profile.
You make quite clear that you are a serious person, and if there are people who cannot read then it is not your fault.
You see, there are always people whose brain is remote controlled by whatever there is in their trousers. (irony) | |
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| Attracting the wrong type of guy...is it my fault?
Posted: 7/3/2008 5:01:58 PM | Melting Canuck
In fact, in a hypothetical situation if you were situated on my side of the planet Earth I would have contacted you long ago, seriously wanting to get to know you. Not asking a word about your bra in the first few years simply because I do not care 
There must be some good guy over there too.
Good luck in finding him. | |
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| Attracting the wrong type of guy...is it my fault?
Posted: 7/4/2008 12:03:25 AM | I'd suggest patience... if you're just accepting messages and comments. Wait until someone has something worthwhile to say.
Otherwise, I suggest just sending a message to someone who seems to share some of the same interests as you do.
Then again, I'm a new person around these parts.... so what do I know XD! But for serious, just like anything else, there's people who won't interest you and a few who might. And, the same is true for other people... you either interest them or you don't. Some people's interests can't be held for very lo--oh look! A butterfly! | |
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| Attracting the wrong type of guy...is it my fault?
Posted: 7/4/2008 2:33:23 AM |
Either I get messages from guys who just want to know my bra size (seriously, it's been more than 3 guys), or comments on riding horses (very immature)
I work hard, and I don't have much time to go out to socialize, so I figured I would have a good shot at finding someone who's good for me here...
is there something I am missing? everyone says they like my profile, but no one ever seems interested enough to keep a convo going.
I think men are intimidated by my very blunt personality, but maybe I am wrong..
thoughts?
I don't think that's the problem at all love...
I think your independence at such a young age, coupled with your beauty puts men off.
Most men are insecure...Especially at 23...I am sure you attract men older, and I can see why. Your beauty is alluring, but your overall demeanor and light is way out of range of your age group.
You are doing yourself a justice by being blunt and forward; you are saving yourself from so much trouble and heartache....Don't feel left out doll, feel unique and special...Feel a special protection from above...Be alone for this for now......Don't stray, and don't fret.....You are a special soul, and you are being guided and protected by many not of this world.
There is nothing wrong with you....You are in self preservation mode, and you will realize this soon. Let no one take you for any less than you would take yourself.
Stay the way you are, stay safe, and let no one close whom you don't feel close with.
You have a gift, keep it, cherish it, love it, and love you.
Please angel, hang on, and don't lose it....
Your angel; will come....I promise....
God Bless,
Scott. | |
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| Attracting the wrong type of guy...is it my fault?
Posted: 7/4/2008 2:44:27 AM |
Most men are insecure...Especially at 23
It's true. I'm 23 and very insecure. "Wait! What!?"
Oh and by the by, seriously take the advice a few of us have thrown out there. Start approaching men (in any way readily available) that appeals to you. That puts the ball in your court, that gives you the power and it gives you the ability to ignore some of the ballsy punks that approach you and maybe go after some of the ones that didn't, there's no law that says men have to make first contact. | |
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| Attracting the wrong type of guy...is it my fault?
Posted: 7/4/2008 8:16:34 AM | Well, i like to have loads of nice conversations, though i have very unique interests, such as video games, movies and stuff like that....i ain't a music or sport type of guy, not into pubs or clubs.
But, when i try to get a nice chat started, all i get told is this:
'no pic, no chat'
or
'why not pic? you got something to hide? i showed my pic, so its only fair to show yours'
All i think is:
'did i ask to see it? no i didn't, so back off!' but i always get blocked after she calls me a freak, ugly or something like that.
But in the end, it probably isn't your fault, but sometimes, you could think about what you are gonna say before you say it. | |
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| Attracting the wrong type of guy...is it my fault?
Posted: 7/4/2008 10:00:12 AM | I checked out your profile. You're bright...you're pretty. Simply put you have it going on. This site is full of all types of men and women. Simply put, don't judge our gender because of the emails of a few.
You may not find Mr. Right here, but you will find a man of quality of that I'm sure. | |
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| Attracting the wrong type of guy...is it my fault?
Posted: 7/4/2008 12:43:11 PM | Canuck, I understand where you're coming from, as I often get the same messages, and reactions from some men on here. I am "generously endowed" up top as well (haha), and short of cutting them off or binding your breasts, there is nothing you can do to stop the remarks, and even then I am sure women would still get suggestive comments.
Some people also don't realize that it's hard to disguise large breasts in pictures or in real life, no matter what kind of clothes you wear, and you can't help the way you're shaped. So it's not your fault if the outline of your breasts is visible in your pictures!
You just have to weed out the good ones or take body pictures down, whether they are revealing or not. But even with just face pictures you will still get lewd messages and propositions thought its definitely less in volume. And don't give up, there are some great people on here! | |
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| Attracting the wrong type of guy...is it my fault?
Posted: 7/4/2008 2:25:45 PM | My best friend in HS was pretty well endowed and the nicest person. She had the worst (unearned) reputation soley based on her breast sized. I never envied her size because I saw how she was treated and it sucked.
IF you are attracting guys soley based on their attraction to your chest then it's not your fault. On the other hand (only if this applies otherwise discard) if your using them for attention then it is your fault - only you can answer that. I think you have good input here, and of course some not so good.
Unfortunately no matter what you will have some of those boobboys drooling just because your boobobvious (lol). Who cares, be you. And the men who are more mature will know the difference. Obviously, some go through puberty at later points in life (some MUCH later - guys and gals). | |
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| Attracting the wrong type of guy...is it my fault?
Posted: 7/4/2008 9:30:22 PM | aka NOT cleavage bearing, boob-obvious half-naked pics like so many others on this site.hopefully these links work.
Those pics are nothing... merely a little hint that there is boobage (for the lack of a better word). Basically enough to create some curiosity but not more than that.
I guess some guys are just crude. But then again, someone must respond to that or they wouldn't do it. | |
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