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Posted: 7/1/2008 4:24:27 AM | I like a gal that asks for what she wants , it shows she is confident which is a quality I look for in a woman !!
Absolutely agree Mac, on bendeds begging with that... oh hang on give me 5 minutes (yes 5 fingers too, 10 if ya got very lil hands).
Right back, that's better. Where was I, oh yeah, if you don't ask you don't get, us Gentlemen (that leaves a fair few outta the equation) are not mind readers and may have never seen your profile, very few members of this site actually come on this forum and appreciate what a cracking personality you may have.
I do remember a lass commenting she'd looked at my profile a number of times but I hadn't taken the hint. Oh come on, many of us don't look at who viewed us too often if at all. I think most of us appreciate some lasses may like our profile but don't make first contact for varying reasons already listed here. So yes if I did spot a lass I was interested in had looked I would write. It is unlikely that is true of most men, they will presume you haven't made contact because you didn't fancy them.
Just say hello, mention you don't usually make first contact but thought you'd at least say 'hello, how are you? I like your profile because of........'
Make some chaps day. You never know he might just make yours, or your week, month year, or the rest of your life. Surely a quick message is worth that, because you are. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 4:35:29 AM |
Make some chaps day. You never know he might just make yours, or your week, month year, or the rest of your life. Surely a quick message is worth that, because you are.
Aw, gutty that's beautiful, just for that I'm gonna keep trying..*mops tear from eye* | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 4:52:03 AM | Women often seem to make the first contact on these sites, it happens to me quite a lot. Just the other day on here I was contacted out-of-the blue by an absolutely gorgeous young thing, she was slim, pretty, looking very sexy in her pictures with a lovely smile. She had obviously fallen for me big time, and just on the basis of my pictures and profile. She was professing her love and wanted to marry me, have my children and look after me – what more could a man want! The only slight down side is distance, China is a little bit of a drive from here. Her English seemed a little bit faltering on the profile and the email as well, but if I flew her over and paid for language lessons I’m sure that could easily be sorted out.
Do you think I should write back to her? Because that’s the only type of initial contact emails that I get from the ladies
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Posted: 7/1/2008 4:56:04 AM | | I have sent out lots of first contact messages only to find read deleted, with no other response, so now I don't bother anymore its not the rejection as some put it I don't see it as that, I just can't be bothered writing out messages to be deleted. Maybe its me I dunno but no more first contact messages will emit from my fingers and keyboard. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 5:18:56 AM | I have sent out lots of first contact messages only to find read deleted, with no other response
Welcome to the club, Sharon. Wait until you find most of them are unread deleted - that's a real confidence killer.
I just can't be bothered writing out messages to be deleted
See above.
I notice I haven't had one from you though 
(yes, I know it's a long way - you should have hit me up when I lived in your neck of the woods lol) | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 8:35:04 AM | OK, i started to read it until arguements started to break outon the first page so i decided that i wont bother reading the rest.
So back on subject. I have always known that i am pants at the "ice-breaker" first message and ( but i dont know why) find it more difficult to write out a decent first message, than the actual chatting.
So being approached first would be a nice turn-around since i'm not very good at the ice-breaker and would save me on typing out message after message which include parts of the said females profiles, only to find that they have either read it and left it as that, or read it and then deleted it. Which sometimes brings the question into my head of "why say that we should read your profiles and then message you, but then you wont reply at all anyway even if the guy does read it and take the time to send a message that shows he has read it?"
But yeah, i personally would like to be sent a message a bit more often, rather than having to begin thinking that i'm wasting my time trying to show that i read profiles and it's for nothing. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 10:00:15 AM | Personally I think it makes a nice surprise, guys outnumber girls by a significant margin. Half the girls barely even read messages let alone reply, I pretty much gave up sending messages a long time ago except in special cases.
So I think its great if ladies see something they like in your profile, they should feel free to message and mention it every bit as much as a guy. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 10:22:35 AM |
yeah rite - only to be called a bunny boiler few days/weeks/months down the line...
Swings both ways ;)
I don't think sending a message first because you like a simple detail means you're automatically an obsessive. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2008 10:38:23 PM | The majority of first contact messages are just read/deleted with no response...... well, mine are at least. I've given up now, just come on the forums, have a squiz at what's on offer in my area and don't bother messaging anyone even if we have a lot of shared interests. One person I liked the look of and chatted to through messages deleted her profile and came back as looking for intimate encounter with her partner watching! Another just got downright rude.
To me it seems like women want the men they find physically attractive to make first contact as they just won't, and if anyone else tries it's seen as an insult and they are read/deleted or unread/deleted which is pretty much the virtual equivalent of "F*** off ya munter" | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 2:50:16 AM | | girls shud make a move as well as blokes ,ffs no-ones a mind reader and if you think your too" HOT" to reply back to someone whos taken the time too mail you then i think your a sad fooker i reply too everyone tht mails me even if i dont think i,d like too date them, it costs nawt too be polite dont ya think??????? | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 3:07:04 AM | Well I have taken the jolly old bull by the horns and sent out a few messages to those fellas out there, since I started this thread. Sadly no replies! However, onward and upward, faint heart and all that (plus a few other cliches I can't think of right now).
Its all about positivity and confidence. I'm a new woman!! | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 3:55:55 AM | | I love to get a message from a woman and the few women I have met on here so far all contacted me first. About 95% of the time when I make first contact I don't get a reply so to me it seems to be far better if the lady decides who she likes and gets in touch with them. Would save POF a lot of wasted bandwidth as well! | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 4:01:38 AM |
To me it seems like women want the men they find physically attractive to make first contact as they just won't, and if anyone else tries it's seen as an insult and they are read/deleted or unread/deleted which is pretty much the virtual equivalent of "F*** off ya munter"
And men don't..want hot women to contact em, i suppose. The point you made isn't only exclusive to women. Not getting a response to the ice-breaker email is the way of the internet dating site. Yeah its annoying, i wouldn't necessarily say rude, as i don't think the same rules apply here, as in real life. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 10:44:00 AM | I'm not saying it's rude to not reply Twinkly one, I'm saying that someone i chatted to briefly in a few messages got downright rude.
Yes there are men who only message women they find physically attractive, but I like to think I am not one of them. I think I have proven that fact by chatting to a couple of people with no pics | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 11:29:58 AM | Ahhhhh lets all just cut the crap eh....
None of this men sould make first contact......
Ladies should be chased.....
Rejection this.....
Ugly that....
If i like a profile i message the person simple as......
It should be equal if you like someoen mail them you have nothing to lsoe but possible a night out to gain......
~*binty wonders off to get mailing *~ | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 12:25:50 PM | if i see someone i like the look of , or i like what they have written because it made sense , or made me laugh .. then i just send a message ... no message back .. no worries..
i am fabulous and i will cope 
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Posted: 7/2/2008 12:42:25 PM | cooo. girls initiating contact. yes please.
I'm all for courting a lady, but the number that look at my profile and don't message. or the other classic. add me to their favourites and then do nothing else. Am I psychically supposed to divine that they want to hear from me from that action?
Once contact is made I have no problem wooing to win said fair maiden if I like them, but in this world of equality etc why should blokes have to still make most of the running and expect to be crushed / ignored etc when messaging. come one girls, share the burden a bit.
I mean, putting yourself online, implies you want to take control of your life a bit, meet someone and not leave it to chance, so why sit back and wait for the offers to come rolling in? | |
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