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| a sandwich short of a picnic - how to say no?
Posted: 7/1/2008 3:57:31 AM | How about putting a sentence on your profile that states something to the extent of looking for intellectual conversations, educated person, or someone who can hold a conversation.
I've recently went out on a few dates and they are not educated but it was their street smart and ability to hold a conversation on the phone that made me interested. | |
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| a sandwich short of a picnic - how to say no?
Posted: 7/1/2008 4:25:56 AM | | I'd suggest anyone "a sandwich short of a picnic” may have been fed the wrong bread! When married I lived in West Wales and used the wood-fuelled Rayburn for baking. Now having moved north easterly to Durham I go to local spiritualist meetings where I regularly provide a nice granary for the raffle. But the thing with a good loaf is in the rising, so using a special gift, I give each loaf a start with my “hands on” approach! My answer therefore is don't just say no, change the recipe, oh - and the baker! | |
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| a sandwich short of a picnic - how to say no?
Posted: 7/1/2008 4:22:03 PM | Speak quickly and say lots of long words - this will confuse him and he will back away.
******joke******** (for those of you with a 'challenged' sense of humour) | |
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| a sandwich short of a picnic - how to say no?
Posted: 7/1/2008 4:32:33 PM | Sorry, but you do sound harsh and elitist.....
^^^disagree. people are attracted to people similar to themselves. nothing wrong with that. i don't view that as being elitist unless one flagrantly waves it under other people's noses (in which case, i see it as insecurity rather than elitism). | |
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| a sandwich short of a picnic - how to say no?
Posted: 7/1/2008 4:36:12 PM |
have tried dating people who are not academic (and no, I don't rule out people without Ph.D.s even though I do have one) but on the whole it gets to the point where there is nothing to say
Perhaps they are men of action, not words?
Talk is cheap.
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| a sandwich short of a picnic - how to say no?
Posted: 7/1/2008 4:41:58 PM | | You can just give a simple response and in many cases, when they perceive that you are not interested they disappear. In others, you might find someone that is nice to chat with and other than that is not vying for a larger role in your life. If the person persists, then you say you have enjoyed chatting but don't feel a connection, not really a big deal and you leave yourself open to find out if there is more than there appears on the surface. | |
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| a sandwich short of a picnic - how to say no?
Posted: 7/1/2008 4:45:31 PM | How about putting a sentence on your profile that states something to the extent of looking for intellectual conversations, educated person, or someone who can hold a conversation.
This is one of the best replies I've seen on this thread. 
By the way, OP, I work at a university and not everyone can hold a conversation...trust me. In some circles, being a "sandwich short of a picnic" means incredibly stupid or crazy. Short and simple is the best way to express lack of interest. To judge someone who you don't know as such is elitist. Good luck to you. | |
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| a sandwich short of a picnic - how to say no?
Posted: 7/1/2008 6:33:06 PM | OP; Pick 10 of your best friends, wait! let's not make this too hard!, pick 5. Now you and a cow are standing in a field. Your half of the field is full of flowers, and the cows half is covered in poison Ivy, would your friends gravitate towards you or the cow? I'm sure you can figure this one out for yourself. Maybe I will come back in a few days and give you the correct answer as to why an intellectual or an elitist doesn't mean anything to your friends or that cow.
Like some have said "write exactly what you are looking for in your profile, and make sure you dumb it down so we can all understand your intent.
This is all in jest so don't take it to heart  | |
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| a sandwich short of a picnic - how to say no?
Posted: 7/1/2008 11:55:53 PM |
In some circles, being a "sandwich short of a picnic" means incredibly stupid or crazy
Well. maybe I didn't make myself clear but actually this was what I meant - I have been castigated on this thread for not being open to people with less education but I did in fact mean messages from people who actually appear to have a mild learning disability. (Hmmm and before the disability rights brigade plough in, my son has special ed needs so no I'm not being discriminatory). | |
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| a sandwich short of a picnic - how to say no?
Posted: 7/2/2008 12:14:23 AM | | It seems a bit difficult to figure a persons intellectual level on a dating site...Ive communicated with folks that appear to be a few cards short of a full deck (intellectually) and found out later they were very intelligent people...Im not sure how one can really tell...Internet dating, "Leaves so much, open to interpretation"... | |
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| a sandwich short of a picnic - how to say no?
Posted: 7/2/2008 12:23:57 AM | (Hmmm and before the disability rights brigade plough in, my son has special ed needs so no I'm not being discriminatory).
hmm id suggest you treat those ... as youd want your son treated.....
how would you like a woman to treat your son.. if he contacted her through the written medium?( i mean dont you have empathy?)
so in the future .. you would like your son judged by his learning disability?
i think not...
extend that same empathy/compassion you would like to see for your son.... to others otherwise your son might see it.... and maybe internalise it as... mum wont like me if i cant spell... articulate well.... etc.....
if others dont come up to standards?.... then maybe he might feel he wont?
just a thought.... my mum was and is a histologist....
she corrected alot of people on their grammer/spelling etc... i turned out the opposite.... now ive got my mum using text speak...... with love..... cause she learnt... communication no matter what medium...its about being understood....... not judgement...
i mean love comes from the heart...... everyone communicates differently..
ive met deaf people....learnt sign language... to communicate with them
ive met blind people.... they use brail....
ive met people who have what we determine intelligence from ... in australia.. now
so my gp tells me// called emotional iq...not intellecutual so much....(ie problem solving or understand empathy/anthropology/etc = intelligence..)
damn u can teach birds to imitate... knoweledge..)
emotional iq is understanding the knowledge... education .. dosent = intelligence....
being a balanced whole being.. on the myriad of levels humans are.... = emotional iq...
im sure your son isnt dumb b/c he has learning disabilities...... everyone has a differ level of awareness/skills...
maybe ask your son how he would feel ... in this situation... how hed liked to be responded too..... im sure the boy has wisdom of heart....
monkeys can learn from rote..... so can anybody......animals learn.... look up pavlovs dog...humans are mammals...
humans who speak from the soul/heart..
is where love comes from.....
now on the other hand a lifestyle?..... choosing...... that..
takes no heart.. that takes money.../ takes judgement etc.... look for love.. and its lingo...or look for society/lifestyle..
i purposely have spelling errors in my profile... b/c it filters out.... pedantic ..obsessive/complusive/control freaks...
heres the thing about intuition/intent = spirit.. the core motivation/intent shines through to people who see spirit/core of...... judgement is not attractive...
underneath words is the true character of the person...
underneath societys bullchit............ will you find love
smiles/peace | |
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| a sandwich short of a picnic - how to say no?
Posted: 7/2/2008 12:38:30 AM | Well OP, you are making me feel kinda guilty, since you are kind enough to respond to the, uh, "duller" dudes who contact you.
I pretty much ignore them. But then again I reply to maybe one in 15 emails because I am quite lazy. One thing that is slightly cruel but funny as hell is sending him an email with copious misspellings, typos, and grammatical errors. This activity is best shared with friends, who can laugh with you. Usually he won't get the joke and reply anyway, which is even more hysterical.
For those who think the OP is being "elitist"- well, yes, she owes it to herself to not settle. As you all do too! If you know what you want, don't squander time on someone who doesn't have it (you are wasting his time as well). | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 2:47:35 AM |
Well. maybe I didn't make myself clear but actually this was what I meant - I have been castigated on this thread for not being open to people with less education but I did in fact mean messages from people who actually appear to have a mild learning disability. (Hmmm and before the disability rights brigade plough in, my son has special ed needs so no I'm not being discriminatory).
So, if I'm to understand this correctly, your comments about being "a sandwich short of a picnic" were geared towards learning disabilities??? Even though, your son has special needs, himself???? Well..it makes even less sense why you would start a thread like this.
I don't know how old your son is..mine is 17, and has also had to deal with a learning disability (that he has thankfully overcome with hard work, and perserverance) . I'm going to assume that you haven't yet witnessed the incredible phenomenon that happens as they grow...
There comes a day when you'll finally see in your son, that any disabilities he has, are balanced out by the fact that they are total geniuses in other areas...
Which was one of my points when I initially posted.
I'm not here to flame you, I'm just not understanding why you would sound so condescending in your initial post. As I said before, we all have our preferences, NOTHING wrong with that...but why knock down the ones you don't prefer because they're different?? JMO | |
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| a sandwich short of a picnic - how to say no?
Posted: 7/2/2008 3:05:34 AM | "not intellectually adequate" laughing out loud at that statement.
Blimey girl - calm down its an internet dating site, not Oxford University. Everyone has a strength and weaknesses even you lady, ever heard of opposites attracting? Yin & Yang, and all that jazz.
NEVER SAY NEVER 
EDIT went off and came back, some people dont like sandwiches so it dont matter if the picnic is short of sandwiches does it - laughing out loud.
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| a sandwich short of a picnic - how to say no?
Posted: 7/2/2008 4:17:26 AM | | At the risk of talking over the heads of some of you, let me refer to the math concept of "least common denominator". In this case, it is the fact of using POF to find love. Then to switch into lawyer mode, from math professor, which I can do as I am nimble: I rest my case. To keep with the metaphor, nobody brought sandwiches; we have no sandwiches. It is the POF picnic and you can't attend if you are not sporting a healthy lack of sandwich. They have sandwich detectors at the entrance and alarms will go off if you tried to get in with a sandwich in your possession. Not to put too fine a point on the sandwichlessness of our status as fish. What did the pot fish say to the kettle fish? "You're black, and you have no sandwich!". | |
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Posted: 7/2/2008 6:34:42 AM |
I have been castigated on this thread for not being open to people with less education but I did in fact mean messages from people who actually appear to have a mild learning disability.
Is it that or are they just messaging you with internet jargon? I've had people message me with 'how r u' or something similar, but when I don't respond in kind, they usually reply back normally. | |
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| a sandwich short of a picnic - how to say no?
Posted: 7/6/2008 12:27:48 PM |
It is the POF picnic and you can't attend if you are not sporting a healthy lack of sandwich.
Now, I've said from Day 1, " it appears that one does not HAVE to be CRAZY to get involved with internet dating, but I can see where it would be a tremendous help!"
Are you saying that it is now MANDATORY to be half a bubble off plumb, a quart low, a bale short of a load, a frenchfry short of a Happy Meal, lacking both oars in the water, riding with a frayed cinch, elevator don't go to the top floor, lights on but nobody home...to participate in online dating? Oh what a BOON that would be, I'd actually appear quite normal
I think I'm going to go light the charcoal, grill me some ribs, sit out in the shade and read an improving book,or would that be considered a deviant picnic( ribs, NOTsandwiches!)
Cindy O | |
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| a sandwich short of a picnic - how to say no?
Posted: 7/6/2008 3:47:23 PM | I'm guessing you're not attracting the kinds of men you want because, IMO, your profile comes across as quite demanding, with lists of requirements. You also sound like you'd be very high maintenance to a man. Your profile talks of what you want him to do for you, offer you, give to you, and be for you ~ but nothing about what you have to bring to the table (other than your superior intelligence). >ahem<
Maybe soften it up a bit and make yourself more approachable. Just my two cents.
Edit: You might hop over to the Profile Review forum and start a thread; the folks there give great advice. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2008 4:14:10 PM |
You might also want to go through your profile and work on your punctuation and sentence structure. The mistakes make you look like someone trying to appear smarter and more sophisticated than you actually are.
^^ Couldn't agree more, and quite frankly I'm very surprised that no one else commented on it.
I think the OP is full of sh*t, to be completely honest.  | |
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| a sandwich short of a picnic - how to say no?
Posted: 7/6/2008 4:18:06 PM | So exactly what kind of sandwiches are we talking about here?
If we are talking Sardines that's one thing. But if we are talking Baloney that's something else.
There seems to be a lot of Baloney here on Plenty of Fish...
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Posted: 7/6/2008 4:21:14 PM | | Hahahahaha.."you are academically bright and bra bra bra...." Your three year old could have answered that questin....don't you even know that not all those who are academically bright are wise? The guy might not be academicaly bright but a very good and wise person...you might have missed a chance of a life time! Keep for the academically bright! | |
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