| A question of height ...
Posted: 5/16/2006 8:30:59 AM | Aren't there any mods here to put stupid topics that don't deserve to
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| A question of height ...
Posted: 5/16/2006 12:04:41 PM | | I am barley 5'8"....for me it's a self concious thing....I don't want to be towering over a guy that I'm dating. I'd constantly be hunched over and trying to make shorter....My sister on the other hand is 6'3" and realized that she's not going to find many guys taller than her....she doesn't care... I think it's all depending on the chick and what she's comfortable with! :) | |
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Posted: 5/16/2006 12:12:22 PM | I think us guys have to stop bothering women on height issues. Most of them wont compromise on height. We men may compromise on boob or butt size, but most women i know and hear in the forums wont give you the time of day if you are not a certain height.....
Stop beating a dead tree guys expecting a reaction.... | |
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| A question of height ...
Posted: 5/16/2006 7:50:34 PM | [I think us guys have to stop bothering women on height issues. Most of them wont compromise on height. We men may compromise on boob or butt size, but most women i know and hear in the forums wont give you the time of day if you are not a certain height.....]
Good point. This speaks volumes on the depth of men compared to a lot of women with regards to the physical as opposed to what's actually important in a relationship. | |
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Posted: 5/31/2006 7:08:59 PM | What's the big deal? I don't understand why *some* women put such an emphasis on height.
Who cares how tall you are? If there's an attraction.... go for it! I myself am 5'11", and I normally date my height or taller. Would I date a shorter girl?? YES if there is an attraction!
In the past, I've been associated with girls who were 5'11", 6'1", 6'6" and my current love interest is 6'7". That's right.... 6 foot 7. She is gorgeous and has the personality I'm looking for. I think if the woman is confident in who she is, and is comfortable with her self image that there really is no problem. My 6'7" friend also likes to wear heels and I'm perfectly allright with that! So I barely come up to her armpit, BIG DEAL. When I look up and see those great big beautiful blue eyes and she looks down and smiles.... it's absolutely electric! 
I think it just takes a confident guy to date someone taller than him and c'mon people.... it's 2006! Do we really have to stick to some hundred year-old philosophy where the woman is the "fairer" sex?? Bah! I say. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2006 8:28:14 PM | | i am 5'4" and its hard to find some one shorter i came close a few times but she might have been the same height or a little bigger i could care less if height is a problem then its not going to work if you look at a person and say your too tall you too short then there not for you if you like the person then you wont even think of the height | |
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Posted: 5/28/2007 9:51:38 AM | Why is it such a problem to some people to hear about people discussing their preferences? We all have a right to choose who we date, and what we find attractive!!!
As this subject is very specifically related to the world of dating, why should it not be discussed on the forum.
Aren't there any mods here to put stupid topics that don't deserve to
be here, like this one, out of their misery?
I am 5ft 2" so most guys are taller than me anyway, but I do like tall men, yes its an aesthetic issue, but at the end of the day we all have things which we do and don't find attractive, and have a right to do so. What would be the point in dating someone we find unattractive for whatever reason! | |
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Posted: 5/28/2007 10:03:43 AM | Height is part of the “package” (overall look) - when it comes to a female my personal “hot spot” is around 5’6”.
Weight is part of the “package” (overall look) - when it comes to a female my personal “hot spot” is around 125 pounds.
So is everything else about the person / about you. | |
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Posted: 5/28/2007 10:17:07 AM | I'm 5'5" and I've been out with everyone from 4'9" to 5'6" to 6'.
Interestingly enough, the 6-footers were all very, very physically confident blondes.
One was a kickboxer, and one beat up a guy who was trying to drag her drunk friend back to his place, by force.
It doesn't bother me because until I was 26, I had to look up to everyone, men and women. I just never recalled meeting adults smaller than me.
But having seen all these comments by women, its beginning to. I don't want to be with someone who is embarrassed of being with me. It's humiliating. When guys and girls meet you, they just ask "why are you with her? You can do so much better." You end up having to justify the relationship.
So much better to be with a woman who is confident. Everyone is happy to see the two of you together.
So if you are not confident enough to date a guy, don't contact me. I can do so much better.
Also, I noticed a previous post on another thread about this, and its made me think:
If most women will date much taller, but not shorter, then the tall men are going to have all the power, so they'll get a superiority complex, so they'll abuse all the women. Remember, "absolute power corrupts absolutely".
So a lot of these women will only get treated well by men shorter than them, so they'll end up in a happy marriage/relationship with a short man instead.
Looks like I'll get less dates, and more marriage proposals, as usual. Lol. | |
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Posted: 5/28/2007 6:09:28 PM | | Happi: There's lot's of rude topics we could start with regards to dating "preferences". How about a topic like "Why do women with small breasts think men should be interested in them" or "Fat women should lose weight so more men will date them". Get the point yet? The forums are to talk about legitimate topics and issues, not to isolate a group of people and make light of their situation or pick on their physical attributes. If you want to be blind to a person's worth, just because of a physical trait that's your business, I just don't think it needs to be broadcast and harped about for no real reason. Threads like this don't have a resolution they just pick on people. The only positive thing about threads like this is that I get to find out who's really ugly on the inside. It's strange how so many seeking such "perfection" usually aren't all that great themselves. | |
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Posted: 5/30/2007 5:09:41 AM | | This whole height issue is a real deal breaker for me! I have a good friend that calls me superficial because if the guy is not at least 5'10" at the very least I am not interested.It doesn't matter how nice of a guy he is, that is just one of the things that really bugs me if I am wearing heals and I am taller than him. I think it has something to do with the man being the man,should be bigger and stronger! My Ideal guy would be about 6'2" and weigh around 225. | |
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Posted: 5/30/2007 6:39:23 AM | | I prefer taller women just because I am tall, but it's not a deal breaker. Just some people are not realistic with some things. I sometimes see comments from certain people on here or in general, when they should be looking in their own mirrors before laying out the long outline of what they would prefer themselves. But nothing wrong with going for it all, happy hunting! | |
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Posted: 5/30/2007 6:42:26 AM | I might get in trouble for saying this..naaaaw..lol
My guy is exactly my height and I am average or an inch or so above for a woman. However, I come from a family of giants (EVERY child born to my parents is now 5'11 and above, with me being only 5'6)
I think he was guilty of the same thing a lot of guys are guilty of when we first spoke...a couple inches height embellishment. I prefer to think it may have been wishful thinking instead (his answer was exactly two inches taller than I KNOW I am and he's my height exactly as previously stated). It all goes back to that female instinct to choose a mate who gives the impression of being able to protect them. As long as a guy comes across as strong and capable of doing that, I don't think its a problem.
Was it a big deal? No. Not at all.
Am I some type of saint who doesn't care about the whole height perception with couples? Not really...it just didn't matter when I began talking to him.
Do I tend to wear flats when we go out? Depends on what mood I'm in. He's still bigger than me, so its not as if I feel like I'm The Giant and he's Jack. | |
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Posted: 5/30/2007 6:46:03 AM | Height could be a deal breaker for many.
I am petite and therefore PREFER my man taller. I'm not attracted to short men. I like a man with height and great shoulders to hold/hug me..................... | |
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Posted: 6/1/2007 2:16:08 PM | | I am told that i am something of a rarity. I actually prefer shorter men. 5'7" to 5'8" is totally perfect!! | |
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Posted: 6/1/2007 2:22:05 PM | i'm 6'1 barefoot, depending, sometimes a little taller... never shorter though...
i will not date anyone shorter than 5'10
why? because i dont like to have to ALWAYS look down on someone... and 2. because i wear heels...
so yes. height is insainly important to me. its just how stupid would that look, meh walking hand in hand with some 5'5 dude *ctfu* | |
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Posted: 6/1/2007 5:15:12 PM | I am 5'6.5" inches tall and prefer my men at least 5'8". I just happen to really like men taller than me. Not by a whole lot but I have dated guys 6'3" tall. I like tall men. I like to be able to wear spike heels and still be shorter or at least THE SAME height as the man I am with - I would hate to be taller. I like looking up at my man when I am kissing him. I will not apologize for that preference and I don't think there is anything wrong with it. It is what it is. I love taller man.  | |
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Posted: 6/1/2007 5:32:06 PM |
I am told that i am something of a rarity. I actually prefer shorter men. 5'7" to 5'8" is totally perfect!!
Your profile says you are 5'4"...so how is 5'8" a shorter man?
This is where I think a lot of short guys get lost. A lot of people think that women are looking for men who are taller than them. This is false. In reality, they tend to look for men who are taller than other men. That's why a short woman can call a man several inches taller than her "short". | |
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Posted: 6/1/2007 11:29:10 PM | | Hello! Well you are making somethig simple very complicated! I prefer shorter men than the average woman prefers. Many women like "tall" men. 6'?? I like shorter than this! Keep it simple. Don't fudge or confuse issues! When I am in heels I am around the same height as a man who is classicly "shorter" than average. I do not need a male towering over me with big brawny shoulders to feel "safe". I feel safe with myself. I like equals! See it' simple really, if you let it be!!! | |
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Posted: 6/1/2007 11:35:21 PM | | Hello you! Loved your group on NPD! Looks like you really are recovering ! (Had two experiences myself and ID perfectly with what you went through. Just writing a book about my life and NPD features in one chapter. (It actually deserves no more than recognition of the condition to inform others of it and then away). Just wanted to say well done for surviving it so gracefully and well done for writing so eloquently. | |
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Posted: 6/2/2007 4:45:50 AM | Hello! Well you are making somethig simple very complicated! I prefer shorter men than the average woman prefers. Many women like "tall" men. 6'?? I like shorter than this! Keep it simple. Don't fudge or confuse issues! When I am in heels I am around the same height as a man who is classicly "shorter" than average.
I think this topic is interesting and complicated. So now it seems like we have 3 types of “short” from the female perspective.
Type one – “shorter than a particular woman” (relatively short)
Type two – “shorter than the average man” (actual short)
Type three – “shorter than the height that the average woman prefers” (shorter than 6’0”)
Notice that types one and three could theoretically refer to a man who is taller than the average male height of 5’9” (if he is shorter than 6’0”). Additionally, type two could refer to a man who is 5’8” or shorter, still much taller than the average female height of 5’4”.
The sad question is; where does this leave a guy who is 5’6” to 5’2”? If a lot of women despise short height and they are classifying tall guys as “short”…what do you do if you really are short? Anyway, I guess that’s a bit of an aside.
I do not need a male towering over me with big brawny shoulders to feel "safe". I feel safe with myself. I like equals! See it' simple really, if you let it be!!!
Good for you! (and I’m not being sarcastic). I suspect that you are a rarity. | |
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Posted: 6/2/2007 5:11:40 AM | | My question to you all would be why is it that MEN want do date shorter women? If two people like each other, there is chemistry, attraction, communication, and honesty, what the heck does it matter if a person is a few inches shorter than you? You can have a person that is taller than you and treat you like crap or have a shorter person treat you like the world. What would you rather have? I would perfer the shorter person that would treat me right! I don't understand why people get so hung up on the heighth issue....Maybe it could be that some people are very insecure with themselves. | |
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Posted: 6/2/2007 6:29:48 AM | My question to you all would be why is it that MEN want do date shorter women?
I've been through much of this thread and others on height, and I don't think I've seen very many men make such a claim. I don't think it plays out in guy's profiles either, but I almost never browse them (my impression was thaty guys almost never specify a height). Personally, I've very attracted to tall women, but it'd be ridiculous for me to specify such a preference. It's just not that big of a deal to me. I've dated women as short as 4'11", though I think most women I've dated are within a few inches of my height.
I grabbed this from much earlier in the thread:
theres someone out there for every one theres girls who love short guys or tall guys and theres guy out there who love short girls or tall girls.
I seem to end up posting this in every thread on height, but about 60% of women want to date guys of a height that makes up less than 20% of them male population (in the US). That there's "someone out there for everyone" just doesn't play out for a lot of women, unless they're planning to wait for their tall guy to get divorced a couple of times. Most references on dating advice (at least the few ones that attempt to use any science) say that height requrements are the #1 place where women can increase their likelyhood of finding a man (by loosening them). | |
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| love a short dude
Posted: 6/2/2007 6:35:36 AM | My whole life I have dated men who were shorter and weighed a hell of a lot less. I love small dark dudes (Asian, Italian, Jewish). They are so cute and sexy.
Now, for the first time in my life I am with a 6'4" blonde athlete who weighs 20 pounds more than me and.... I love it! Who would of thought I would relinquish my role as the dominatrix and love being a little princess (he calls me "little girl). But I love it. | |
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