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sddude
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Joined: 11/4/2004
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| A question of height ...
Posted: 6/8/2005 4:37:18 PM | Yeah cool dude you are fortunate to be the height you are , you say if you were short , you would have no chance , that right dude , I have no chance with women for the most part unless I put on my player badboy mask , women of all sizes , even the ones way shorter than me like a guy to be at least 5 ft 8 in , I have been told that to my face , even the ones that claim that it does not matter , "size does not matter " hahahaha , such a crock they say that so they will not sound shallow to them selves , it is a preference , yes it is , so not many , very very few prefer me so I have to be looking overseas to bring me in a chick froma a far off country , one of those mail order brides as they call it , kind of like a dating site but for far away woman , or some chick that is in jail .
To the women:
Personally I am tired of looking for women in this part of the world , they are not as nice , simple and genuinely deep as I thought.
It has been many years , I had a long time friend of a friend go to jail when she was 18 , she is 24 now and getting out , I have been helping and visiting her for over a a year now , I have found that when women have had it so bad and crappy they actually become more nicer deeper and more apreciative without being "shallow, superficial " about preferences .
Woman say they look rediculous with a guy the same size or shorter than they and they laugh about it embarrassing the guy, it shows the quality of person you are , no one says anything but only you ...
This women in jail I know is so smart yet so humble , she values people and life , she values me for being the nice guy that stood with her , no one really has valued me , not my friends , the women I have dated and still know , they all claim to be of quality but the reality is that so few people are like that , they do not stand with a friend or a partner to make them feel better , they are there to use them and make themselves feel better ,
Most of you are egotistic , that is why so many have divorced and will divorce because of your superficial expectations , the knight on their horse to take you away is what you are waiting , more like a divorce for alot of you and problems in a relationship is awaitng you .
You do not know how many good guys are there , you find one and you mock them for something , this is a sensitive subject for me and others , some do not say anything because they are embarrased , you sit there on the computer and call us rediculous and and stupid looking next to you like as if we were less of a man that cannot protect you , I am short and I kicked 3 big guys in a rows ass for trying to make it/assulting my wife at a mall ...
Yeah I am a little pissed off with some of you , good luck in being the way you are , one day you will be alone divorced with some children fending alone in difficulty and the woman with me will still not beleive the great guy she married is greater than she thought .
I will persue the chick who is in jail because she has no one , no family and friends, she is beautiful , an ex hooker , dancer , drug addict , drug dealer , theif , gunslinger etc...
I am building her self esteem I know she will appreciarte it plus she has no one .
You make it a life rule to break each other's self esteem , makeus guys feel less and stupid , every chick that has known me in the past and had it bad , want me now that I am widowed thay all failed becaus eof their selfishness , I know I will not fail ,I am a soldier in life , my job in life is to help people that I have learned to love like a faithful dog , no matter how many times they kick me I will still be there for them .
This girl in jail I do not love or even like , I will learn to love her , she says she loves me because she knows me and wants to be with me .
She does not care if I am tall , handsome or muscular , she knows me well now and values me on the inside plus she thinks I am adorably handsome, she would not be embarrassed if She or I tower one or the other ... she knows me .
On day when you are older , beat up by life you will understand what I am talking about , you women seem so childish about some things , guys too but I am talking about you, women .
I will be happy once again because I give it all to the one that does not laugh at me cuz I am short , once again I will learn to cherish and have a near perfect relationship once again like I had with my departed wife , you will still be crying about your choices .
Give it all to the one that is willing to give it all , no taking just to make themselves feel better.
It feels damn good to vent.... | |
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| A question of height ...
Posted: 6/8/2005 4:39:43 PM | | been married twice and both men were shorter than i.....i am 5ft 10" tall.....and height never came into the conversation even once...i was with them cuz i loved them.....not because of their stature.... | |
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Posted: 6/8/2005 5:00:12 PM | sddude i feel sorry for you, youve been hurt, but to learn to love this woman ? that would be a serious injustice to you both she deserves someone who loves loves her not oh well ill learn to love her, you learn to love a bad hair cut . theres someone out there for every one theres girls who love short guys or tall guys and theres guy out there who love short girls or tall girls. its a matter of preference if we all liked the same thing we d be pretty boring- individuality interesting concept isnt it. you need to look around at maybe different women then youve been looking at. i didnt say that i d want a super model man with perfect features on top of being tall. i feel more comfortable with a man who is taller or as tall as me and is confident. sounds to me that when you say you ll build her confidence, are you settin her up so that she needs you forever, and that youll be tied to her confidence, a person has to build there own confidence, so they can be independent not dependent you came off as if you are trying to make it so you are the center of her world cause she has no one and she ll appreciate it ? that to me sounds a hell of a lot more egotistical then saying well i feel uncomfortable with a man who is shorter me. and i hate to say it but every one has a moment in life were they are shallow its life experiences that changes a person and fills them out. being a tough guy and a play bad boy i can kick 3 big guys asses is a lil adolescent isnt it ? maybe be your self around a woman, and dont go into anything with short man syndrome you ll find mrs right who loves you and you dont have to learn to love. love you have to like someone in order to love and have to remember that no relationship is perfect it takes work, and as every one gets older, humble comes with age, you know with age comes wisdom ? just remember that out there are females of all sorts, most would probably kick your ass for implying that we arent humble or smart and that all of us western women arent worth dating any more. "I have found that when women have had it so bad and crappy they actually become more nicer deeper and more apreciative without being "shallow, superficial " about preferences " are you looking for someone to love? or someone to control ? maybe us westren women are too independent for you ? i dont see why id have to be apreciative to any man besides my dad for giving me half of his genetic make up. tall or short any man that i am with better love me for me not for me being appreciative cause i can tell ya how far that would go . his ass out the door . i wouldnt be with a man who thought i better feel thankful to him for being with me. id rather be alone til i die then deal with that type of ego. | |
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Posted: 6/8/2005 5:39:34 PM | | i have virtually no choice,99.9% of the women are shorter than i and i would never date a woman who weighs as much as i do | |
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Posted: 6/8/2005 6:08:13 PM | My experience in this area is from being with a woman that is 6'2".
I am 6'1", but broad where she is thin. She is much more conscious of height than I am. I don't care. The fascinating thing, to me, is that I've never in my *life* been asked, "how tall are you?" Though she is asked that constantly, and deals with it ungraciously. I tell her that the women asking it are jealous, as they see height as something to be envious of. She remains convinced that they have evil in their hearts and hate her for being tall. I suppose if I were bothered by excessive height I wouldn't wear shoes that made me 3" taller... Do you think that is the case with a tall woman that hates being pointed out as tall? | |
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Posted: 6/8/2005 6:20:32 PM | i personally love being tall, sure ill add 3 inch heels on top of it( oh hell ive done 4 inch heels). what i dont like is the comments like lurch or jolly green giant. if someone goes wow your tall i just laugh its like yeah i am i love it . call me names well i may go amazon on you , though i hate doin that its like high school all over again. i say if your tall learn to love it, you cant do anything about it stand tall and be proud, and wear short shorts with high heels, your woman could make men drop dead from love with her legs. i got teased for tons of stuff in school, being tall, shy and not being skinny and my lips. one good thing that came from all that , i learned what other ppl think means not a damn thing. my opinion and thoughts about my self are the only things that matter. 
and i alwayyys get asked how tall i am especially after i stand up . lol and well that stuff about not dating a woman who is heavier then you . it all goes into preference of what you like. just like i wouldnt date a guy who has long hair, yuck lol | |
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Posted: 6/8/2005 6:25:54 PM | | sddude Yes, vent away. I have always been attracted to you, and can relate to you on many levels. If you lived closer, well....You have a lot to offer the right woman and I think that you will know when she comes along. I feel for you and am glad to get to know you, if only by computer. I have no problem with tall/short it's not a "thing" with me. I did do a thread about guys lying about their height only because I encountered that consistently over a period of time. It's the deception, heck I dated a couple of them for several months, I just felt bad for them because THEY always made it an issue, I was willing to drop it and forgive them for lying to someone in the first place. It still doesn't matter to me, but in order to be happy, please I'm trying to say this the best way I know how, don't keep bringing up the short guy thing, if you think of yourself that way, don't blame women if they get tired of hearing that and are in my case at least, trying to just be with you and treat you as a man that they're attracted to. If every other conversation with you is a short guy rant, it gets tiring. That was just my experience and I really do think you're great and hope you find the woman who will make you happy. | |
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Posted: 6/8/2005 6:30:01 PM | | bucsgirl that bringing up the how short i am is short man syndrome, a subconcious feeling of inadequatecy it is what happened with my ex boyfriend who was 5 6 every thing was blamed on him being short, it got tiring and old , its like im with you i guess that meant i didnt care if he was short right | |
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Posted: 6/8/2005 6:51:51 PM | | in23 Yes, exactly. Off an internet dating site I dated 2 men who obviously lied about their height. It was obvious when we met in person or as soon as I stood up the deception. It's a blind date, I said my height within a quarter of an inch and never wore spike heels. It was always a big deal because THEY made it so, I'm 5'7" from what I gather a rather average height for a woman, but they made me think that I was the one who was decieving them! NO, I told them my true height, I'm not an amazon, but geez, why make it a big deal? Oh, you're much taller than I thought from your profile..whaaa??? not wow you look nice I always dress very well, that's the first thing they talk about. Great first impression, right? I haven't "measured" myself height wise in years but heck I've been to the doctor for a checkup and I know that I'm in between 5'6" and 5'7" closer to 5'7". That was the reason I posted that thread, and it went to total hell. I don't give a boohoo about height you can be 8' tall I had a good friend who was 7'1", he loved me because I treated him just like anyone else. You can be 5'4" or whatever. That won't keep me from being interested, and I don't take a tape measure on dates. You wanna fudge 2 inches, like I would know or CARE!! But I know if you're off by 4 or 5 inches, just because my eyes work. It's obvious. Bottom line I don't lie about my height my weight my appearance, and it makes me wonder when someone else does....oh, or my AGE!!! Truthfully and I said this on the thread, I AM tending to shy away from the guys who are shorter, not because I CARE about it , because I'm tired of hearing about their hangups with it. I'm 5'7" or 5' 6" and 3/4, there, big whoppedy frigging do. But get over the short guy Napolenic complex and deal with a woman who can date you and accept you, and deal with the fact that it's your problem, not ours. | |
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Posted: 6/8/2005 8:05:18 PM | | its like if i dont have a problem with it why do you , and its strange you dont find a lot of tall men who have that issue its like is there a problem with having an eye level view at my chest ??? drop the attitude and more women will check you out | |
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Posted: 6/8/2005 8:22:27 PM | Well, I'm 5'6" and a lot of guys I've dated are under the prerequisite 6 feet. I wear three inch heels a lot and often am nose to nose with the guy and that is quite alright. Even a little shorter. Pfffft, who cares? I'll be his Amazon, lol.
The guy I am travelling to meet in Long Beach is 5'9" and only weighs 20 pounds or so more than me (I'm cuuuuuurvy, lol.) He's what I call a "Pocket Pretty" and honestly they've been some of the best lovers I've ever had. Little guys can get into all the nooks and crannies if ya know what I mean. Mwa ha ha.
OK, I need to go bed now. I'm so horny.
Rap | |
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| A question of height ...
Posted: 6/8/2005 8:30:26 PM | | well rap try being 6 feet tall with out heels thats it socks those extra 6 inches can mean the world between good relationship and short man syndrome | |
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Posted: 6/8/2005 9:10:56 PM | | I will go with Sargasm's concept of only dating men taller than I am in my highest heels...Those are 6", so means the shortest guy I could date would be 5'11 lol | |
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sddude
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Joined: 11/4/2004
Msg: 64 | |
| A question of height ...
Posted: 6/9/2005 4:29:27 PM | | yeah you are all right , it is my fault , I made this up , sorry ... | |
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| A question of height ...
Posted: 6/9/2005 10:54:28 PM | Well its time to have this short guy pipe up and say my peace 
I hope I am not wrong to say this but insecurity.
But I do understand why this is... Since their has been may times I have felt insecure about myself to ask someone out because they are taller then me
I really can't say why but for me its just understood. And also the people I have gone out
with I gave them full respect to look past my height and giving the date a shot.
The only thing that will infuriate me the most is this excuse: “Oh I cannot because you are too short”
I know that is shallow and I shouldn't think more of it. But it just hurts and gives a big blow to my self esteem.
Well thats my rant and I will climb off my stool HAH! | |
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Posted: 6/9/2005 11:11:02 PM | | as long as you dont act out towards women who are taller then you and who take the time then its all good but in all things a few ass holes ruin it for everyone | |
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Posted: 6/9/2005 11:25:17 PM | | Shortest guy I ever dated was 5'7..and I married him. Tallest was 6'7 and he lasted about a month. | |
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Posted: 6/9/2005 11:35:11 PM | | i always find this interesting cause i am pretty small n. american wise. i'm scottish by birth and 5'5" is about average there. whats interesting is i've had good long relationships with women of all heights, including a 5'9" model, and thats short for a model! in fact, the sexual "fit" of that is almost ideal (hah) i will go out on a limb and say that for women height is a "power" issue and concerns more with an "ideal" (seriously, what if the absolute love of your life isnt the height you dream of, will you let them pass by?) the real thing for me is that height is not an issue i can change or better myself, so its a non-issue, for me anyhow. | |
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Posted: 6/9/2005 11:58:47 PM | Well, as a "short" guy, hell I don't care...there was this one chick in HS who said her dad wouldn't let her date anyone shorter than her..and up to that point it was the funniest damn thing I'd heard...I didn't mean to laugh in her face..but that cracked me up..probably because it was the last thing I expected to hear..a simple no would've worked..but thanks for the laugh, hehe.
Men make way to big a deal of this, in particular..the vertically challenged ones..and it never ceases to make me laugh when a guy (sddude) goes off on a tangent about it.
You're short..so am I..in the words of James Hetfield...so f*cking what?
So, anyway, thanks for the giggle HS girl, and sddude..that part about kicking those three guys a*ses was what really got me laughing...thanks again, it's been a fun night and it's just getting started.
ln23...youse one smart chicka!! | |
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Posted: 6/10/2005 12:00:16 AM | I generally won't go after women taller than myself on dating sites simply because out of those taller women that I'm interested in, most of them have stated a minimum height restriction that I don't meet. Doesn't really bother me, although it does reduce the pool of possibilities somewhat.
I did date a woman who was 4" or so taller than me once and height was almost never an issue. I actually asked her if she was standing up straight a couple of times because I think she was slouching to try and match up our heights :). The height difference never bothered me.
Most of the other women I've been with have been within a couple inches of my height, making them taller with heels. I'll comment on it, but it doesn't bug me in the least. I happen to like long legs :).
One thing a lot of women should realize (of the one's who like the protected feeling) is that it's primarily an illusion. Seriously, how often do your guys get into fights? How often are they called upon to protect you from an unarmed mugger or robber? There are far more equalizing factors besides height and weight that will affect those situations.
If you're talking sports, skill will generally make a bigger difference than size in most situations (except maybe linesman in football or a defenseman in hockey clearing the front of the net), but I doubt that has anything to do with dating attraction. It's all purely perception that most of the time is not based in fact.
That being said, I don't think you need to justify it, or take flak from people calling you shallow because of it. Everyone is wired a little bit differently, and physical attraction is not rational.
To all the short guys out there, it's not that you need to be proud of being short. Be confident and proud about the things you can affect and don't worry about the rest. If you notice the general comments of a lot of the women here, the ones who initially didn't have a problem with shorter guys, they've stopped giving those guys a chance (or it takes a lot more to give that chance). Not because the height is factor in their attraction, but because of the insecurity and attitude that seems to follow it.
Stop screwing it up for the rest of us short guys who don't care about our height :P.
That's probably more than enough rambling for one post... | |
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Posted: 6/10/2005 12:19:12 AM | | shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh dont tell no one next lol. and tall women should stand up tall and not slouch i think that gets to me more then girls crossing their arms in front of their waists cause they think they're fat . but i never used to have a certain height preference until, my ex went all bone headed and wa s a jerk even now i still have moments were i find a guy attractive who is shorter then me. its just the fear of that sms happening a gain lol like a bad plot from a b movie lol | |
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Posted: 6/10/2005 12:55:29 AM | ln23..
OMG...I love B movies..have you seen Mystery Science Theater 3000...the best show/movie ever!!
(scuse me...ADD took over)
OT!! I didn't mean to reveal any secrets...sorry...promise to stop kissing and telling, hehe.
I think everyone should stand tall or as tall as they can..(and if you don't feel tall enough..step ladders work wonders)
Obviously I have no problem laughing at myself..I'm trying *so* hard not to offend..but..nah..f*ck it, lol
Don't let one guy ruin it for the rest of us!! | |
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Posted: 6/10/2005 1:44:21 AM | For some height is a problem. Me being only five seven i have dated women six foot. Growing up i asked a friends sister should a guy date a woman taller than him she said no what if she beats you up lol.
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Posted: 6/10/2005 4:22:13 AM | nextinline If you state your height within an inch or two of what it actually is on your profile, it won' affect whether I'll go out with you or not. I have no height preference stated because I don't have one. If I do meet you and you're noticeably NOT your height, visually noticeable with the naked eye, I won't mention it, so you shouldn't either. I'd rather you say that I look nice tonight or nice to meet your rather than starting off with wow you're much taller than I thought......and the first 15 minutes of meeting you is a height convo. IF I do date you anyway, in spite of your deception and have to listen to your short guy stories over and over and then get tired of it, well......what would you expect?
I've dated two guys who were 5'9" supposedly who I was taller than without heels at 5'7". Those two have made me shy away from shorter men only because I don't want to have to deal with that again. THey're the ones who are shallow if you ask me. | |
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Posted: 6/10/2005 5:44:16 AM |
THey're the ones who are shallow if you ask me.
Could NOT agree with you more bucs!!!
I'd rather you say that I look nice tonight or nice to meet your rather than starting off with wow you're much taller than I thought
Since I've seen and heard nearly everything and can die happy with that though..I am still shocke that someone would just say som shit like that "wow...you're much taller than I thought.) That's pretty rude, lol..
I'm more of an eye guy...height is of no consequence for me.
IF I do date you anyway, in spite of your deception and have to listen to your short guy stories over and over and then get tired of it, well......what would you expect?
Still with ya!! Would much rather talk about ..well..anything other than height..I mean, who gives a damn how tall the Empire State Building is...that is *so* yesterday.
I think you may be thinking that I suffer from SGS..couldn't be further from the truth. Just ADD and a few physical things
*watches ceiling fan*
Right..anyway...I totally see where you're coming from. | |
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