| ex ruining my life, help!!!!
Posted: 7/5/2008 10:18:01 AM | Hmm, you have children from multiple fathers, the last of whom was a relatively short-term boyfriend you never married; your profile screams that you're looking for Mr. Right Now and how much you love sex, and you refuse the sensible advice in this thread to call the police in on this, because "in your neighborhood, you confront and handle things yourselves."
If it looks like a duck, walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck - its hardly ever a swan. Next time Mr. Right Now shows up, you'd do well to use protection. | |
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| ex ruining my life, help!!!!
Posted: 7/5/2008 10:45:54 AM | Sounds to me like you have a stalker next door. This person sounds very controling and scary to me. Do you have feelings for him. If you don't then you should just live your life and not worry about him at all. No one can live your life for you but you! Every day is a gift. You should just take one day and a time and not worry about what he says or does at all. You should also let him know you don't appreciate is unwanted snooping.  | |
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| ex ruining my life, help!!!!
Posted: 7/6/2008 2:45:39 AM | 1purplehaze
That what i said befor seval times if the man is that bad i would think to contact the polce and file a restaing order asap.
Befor it get's out of control and nasty.
I only hope the op understands that by calling the police or file any restraing order will protect her from him that is the reason right there. | |
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| ex ruining my life, help!!!!
Posted: 7/6/2008 2:25:51 PM | | excuse me dallas we was engaged for four years things went sour and again just because i like sex, does not mean i sleep around and you shouldnt just assume things i have 3 kids two daddys not 3 kid 3 daddys, i stay at home with my kids and i always always take care of them first i cant get a restraining order because hes not breaking the law end of story. | |
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| ex ruining my life, help!!!!
Posted: 7/6/2008 11:24:41 PM | | you need to move, I know that is extreme but you are in a horrible situation and extreme measures will probable need to be taken. | |
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| ex ruining my life, help!!!!
Posted: 7/6/2008 11:45:01 PM | " just because i like sex, does not mean i sleep around "
Actually, it does imply that you are an easy lay. This is especially true with a handle that also advertises you as sexy. You are the one making an issue of your sexuality and bringing it up in your profile, your posts and your name. The rest of us hear loud and clear. If you don't want us to hear so loud and clear, than don't shout about it quite so much.
You are not a strong, independent woman if you go to doormat in order to keep the peace as your opening post indicates that you do. If you really want to care about and for your kids, consider changing your role modelling. Cause they will expect women to respond to them the way you are responding to this guy ... and they will treat women the way his is treating you because that is how you are teaching them to treat women by your actions. I am sure you will respond that you tell them otherwise, but kids learn by our actions, not our words. | |
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| ex ruining my life, help!!!!
Posted: 7/7/2008 4:20:34 PM | | I read these every now and then and i find that you (readyornot) give people such great and insightful advice. Maybe you missed your calling! I hope you are well. | |
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| ex ruining my life, help!!!!
Posted: 7/7/2008 6:31:07 PM | your right i will say differant about my kids, and they show woman and all ppl respect i have good kids, and as young as they are and how they see things going on has only resulted in them having no respect for my ex. i have a question why if a woman likes to have sex mean shes a whore or sleeps around fyi i havent had sex in a year because i respect myself, but i do0 enjoy sex and as for my handle crazy sexy cool, its from an album dumb ass from tlc. so dont be so quick to judge were not talking about if i like sex or whatever i asked for advice on how to handle my ex not what you think about my sex life which is none of your busines. | |
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| ex ruining my life, help!!!!
Posted: 7/7/2008 6:31:37 PM | | your right i will say differant about my kids, and they show woman and all ppl respect i have good kids, and as young as they are and how they see things going on has only resulted in them having no respect for my ex. i have a question why if a woman likes to have sex mean shes a whore or sleeps around fyi i havent had sex in a year because i respect myself, but i do0 enjoy sex and as for my handle crazy sexy cool, its from an album dumb ass from tlc. so dont be so quick to judge were not talking about if i like sex or whatever i asked for advice on how to handle my ex not what you think about my sex life which is none of your busines. | |
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| ex ruining my life, help!!!!
Posted: 7/7/2008 7:02:36 PM | I don't care if the OP is having sex with the entire 101st Airborne...this loser ass exboyfriend has no right to stalk her, surveil her, call her names and make her life miserable. His sorry ass isn't even paying child support, and my recommendation is that she do whatever is within her legal right to deny him access/visitation to his son until he steps up, gets a life, gets a job, pays child support and starts acting like a grown man instead of a little boy who didn't get his way.
OP, if your neighborhood is like you say it is, and you aren't getting much help from the legal/law enforcement structure,and you ex continues to be verbally abusive and threatening, some "gentlemen" that might be of help have names like Glock, Smith&Wesson, Ruger...
This from a gal who lives where many homes display a picture showing a head on view of a loaded revolver and the legend "We Don't Call 911!"
Cindy O | |
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| ex ruining my life, help!!!!
Posted: 7/8/2008 2:29:49 PM | well like i said before hes not doing anything illegel so not much i can do there if he dont like what im doing he can move or step away from the window...lol...., ill date who i want when i want wether he likes it or not. | |
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| ex ruining my life, help!!!!
Posted: 7/28/2008 1:13:33 AM | You go girl, I think people get too judgemental without holding onto the thought that they themselves are not perfect. You need too be careful lady and just because you like sex sometimes doesn't mean you sleep around. All people are born with an insticnt to mate. Some more than others, and some who just prefer not too. Hope it all works out for ya there lady.
Beside darling you can always go out of town to date if you get tired of it. Your not that far from alot of other towns. Besides lady it sounds like you are more looking for someone too talk too instead of have sex with. | |
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| ex ruining my life, help!!!!
Posted: 8/10/2008 1:23:25 PM | yeah well a lot of people are stupid and read to much into things, mr. right now mean that not all relationships work for the long haul so have fun with the one your with right now ., mr. right doesnt mean im ****ing every tom****and harry that comes around so before you judge me ask istead of assuming things, most guys get it only the closed minded idiots dont. sorry your so quick to call woman whores which was implyed that i am, if theres woman on here who likes sex watch out to many ppl are quick to say your doing the neighborhood or anything with something hanging between his legs even if you just think sex is an important part of a relationship like i do, you get labled as a loose whore so beware, hahahhahahaqhhaha x  | |
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| ex ruining my life, help!!!!
Posted: 8/10/2008 1:29:27 PM | | If you have a child in common you can get an order of protection. In NY, it is done via family court and not Criminal court. | |
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| ex ruining my life, help!!!!
Posted: 8/10/2008 2:01:04 PM | This is easy to resolve...
Next time he acts out of line call the police. Once there is an incident report it will be a piece of cake to take out a restraining order on him. Then when he violates the order call the police again and they'll come and take him away. You can always say to the police that you fear for your safety and think he is out to cause you harm. If he's still persistent and making you feel threatened I'd then get a gun just in case he goes over the edge and breaks in the door. If he does that then put a hollow point in his belly or knee cap. Those are the two most painful places to be shot. He won't die and then you can claim self defense. He'll be in prison for criminal trespass, breaking an entry, and possible assault and he'll have a limp the rest of his life. lol  | |
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