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| Do hearts harden with age?
Posted: 7/5/2008 4:17:34 PM | | Many of us still have open hearts. We may be more wary than when we were younger. We are much more aware of the fact that, as much as we wish it were so, love doesn't conquer all. The majority of relationships don't last and we know this statistic to be factual. Do we really want to set ourselves up for the possible, if not probable, heartache that will ensue when the rose is off the bloom? Yes, by God! I would rather be in love for one year than spend the rest of my life without love. Even if it means going through the pain and sorrow of a failed relationship. I know that the next time I will do all I possibly can to prevent it from failing. And I think lost love hurts just as badly when we are older as when we were young. When we were young, it was as if our world was ending and we would never be happy again. The difference is that now we know we will survive the pain and come out the other side of the darkness. | |
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| Do hearts harden with age?
Posted: 7/6/2008 12:36:13 PM | Mandrake, honey,  I don't believe this in a million years....
my heart is so hard, you'd need a jack hammer to get through to it! If ya can find it first!!
.....you may not want a relationship, but you've got a heart of gold! I very often wish we lived closer....I'd love to have a friend with a heart like yours in my area!!!!
(Where is that jack hammer when you NEED it....just in case you are right???? Just kiddin')
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| Do hearts harden with age?
Posted: 7/6/2008 12:41:37 PM | Dang!....she caught me....again!! I guess my sense of humor was a little dry on that one!....but you don't have to tell everyone else????  | |
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| Do hearts harden with age?
Posted: 7/6/2008 5:37:36 PM |
like message # said they will look so hard they will forget what they are looking for I agree with this post in that the hardening of the heart from pain would cause one to live in fear and in the past or past experiences…
I tend to feel that my heart has become raw with age. I say this only for the reasons that I think I know more of myself and have become a tad wise with age that I might appreciate where I am at any given moment. I tend to be more raw with my emotions as well which at times is not a good thing….or is that a result of menopause? …. 
I read in a post today somewhere “ the heart knows no age, tends to lends it self to spirituality and youth”. I know it is not a direct quote but found so much truth in it.
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| Do hearts harden with age?
Posted: 7/6/2008 7:55:26 PM | | I don't think it is the heart that hardens --- but rather there is tiredness that sets in. | |
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| Do hearts harden with age?
Posted: 7/6/2008 9:03:03 PM | | Even at this age, if we fall in love and then it ends, the heart hurts just as much as it did many years ago. I think what helps at this age though is the knowledge that we can make it on our own (if we've established that in our lives). I think the heart does harden, the hurt, disappointment and all the other aspects felt from relationships that didnt last. | |
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| Do hearts harden with age?
Posted: 7/6/2008 10:18:42 PM | No, hearts don't harden with age. Bitterness will make any heart calloused, young or old. There are some misconceptions about those over 45yo. A person can be young at heart and real beauty never fades. My Aunt Ella will be 84yo soon she's more fun and active than people half her age. Blessings, Patricia ~thecryofthewolfinthewildernesspraisinghiscreator   | |
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| Do hearts harden with age?
Posted: 7/6/2008 10:38:21 PM | Some....if folks never take personal responsibility for their own destiny......sure
depends on your choices to learn the power of forgiveness and learn to refill the spirit...otherwize you get that negative spin of entitlement IMO anyways....
can make a big old sour grape...hahaha i have seen a few profiles like that....attractive no?????? rolmfao  | |
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| Do hearts harden with age?
Posted: 7/7/2008 8:48:42 AM | yes a man has a soft heart and hard slong when young but as time goes by and women divorce and takes from the man its swings round to hard heart and soft pee wee. then women wonders why no guys want to date?.
women!!! time to fork out on the viagras!! | |
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| Do hearts harden with age?
Posted: 7/7/2008 12:00:17 PM | | good point ed!!!! most of us would be better to think with our heads and feel with our hearts. most folks get those two mixed up to their own sorrow. glad to see common sense may not be that common but at least shes not dead yet!!!! | |
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| Do hearts harden with age?
Posted: 7/7/2008 3:37:44 PM | hate to break it to ya boys...but a man does not have enuff blood in his body to fill his brain and his tool at the same time...you fella's have an excuse  | |
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| Do hearts harden with age?
Posted: 7/7/2008 3:59:39 PM | Pearl 1. Just because you can't see something coming doesn't mean it won't. He could be pop into view tomorrow so keep your eyes open.
Pearl 2. Love, support and companionship take many forms not just that one typical romance. You may go a spell without the ideal arrangement but you'll still get what you want by other means, through friendships and community.
Pearl 3. There is an abundance of interesting, fun, rewarding and meaningful things to do in life there for the doing. Time not spent at one thing can be spent at something else. Life is a banquet.
Pearl 4. You may be by yourself at times but you are never alone. As a human being you are part of a very large family that generally shares your basic desires and experiences.
Pearl 5. Smiles are free and they bring out the best in people, in case you ever have any use for people's best.
Pearl 6. Life is lived one day at a time and luckily we are all capable of making at least part of each day turn out well.
Pearl 7. Darkness turns to light, sorrow yields to joy, and paper covers rock. | |
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| Do hearts harden with age?
Posted: 7/7/2008 4:44:36 PM | Well I think that people learn to ignore or control their impulses better. Even though I am not that old, even I know that acting based on your emotions ends up in hurt.
I think that love is great. However, when you get shot down, or rejected, it hurts a lot. You learn to hide it. | |
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| Do hearts harden with age?
Posted: 7/7/2008 6:58:43 PM | | Pretty Moon, speaking for myself, a widower at age 71, I live in danger of wearing my heart on my sleeve so to speak simply because I miss the affection and intimacy of marriage. Not many ladies want a man my age I realize (and I'm not feeling sorry for myself) and the ones that pretend to are usually insecure and looking for someone to provide them a house that they can keep if their new husband dies first. I can understand their insecurity but it still makes me overly cautious and anytime I see a beautiful young lady hooked up with quite an older man its usually because he is rich and she knows it. Am I being unfair in my outlook? | |
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| Do hearts harden with age?
Posted: 7/7/2008 7:26:06 PM | As we grow older we are expected to be able to handle the slings and arrows of broken relationships better than the younger crowd. But...for some it hurts just as bad. We are supposed to handle ourselves with some grace and decorum, unlike the younger crowd that may fly off the handle, pull stupid stunts, whatever.
Many an older person doesn't handle emotional pain very well...how many times have we heard of a long term marriage going south and the spouse goes in and kills everyone and then themself?
As far as I'm concerned, the only thing that grows "harder" is my veins...so the docs say anyways...age does that...but, with experience, I handle emotional turmoil far better than when I was, say 20 something. | |
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| Do hearts harden with age?
Posted: 7/7/2008 8:34:45 PM | and some of us live thru the senario above....and we become stronger people for it. We learn the lesson that
that choice is a short term solution to a LONG TERM PROBLEM.....
breakup is a test of your personal character....is thru pain we learn to love ourself
and let go and let god.....
God grant me the serenity
To accept the things i can not change,
Courage to change the things i can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.
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is amazing how those words can pull you out of the darkness and into the white light.................is a choice to find your personal power and hold your value ...
is your job to find the keys in your soul and not without a h3ll of alot of personal work....
cha cha cha....it only gets better when you realize you hold all the power in YOURSELF!!!!
the strength of character is the champion of justice.... 
in fact....the investment of learning to love yourself is the most significant relationship you will ever command in life....aren't you worth that???? | |
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| Do hearts harden with age?
Posted: 7/8/2008 6:08:12 AM | I can't believe this question is even being asked.
What we stop doing as we get older is that we stop deceiving ourselves. When I was 21, I could take a pretty face and the slightest bit of interest in me and turn it into The Romance of the Century. Then boo-hoo-hoo when the object of my illusions didn't turn out to be the blend of Saint Joan, Xaviera Hollander, Mother Theresa, and Carly Fiorina that I imagined her to be. | |
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| Do hearts harden with age?
Posted: 7/8/2008 6:25:15 AM |
Hearts don't harden but I think the head does......
Touche x3!
I've mellowed with age. Things roll off of me much more easily than when I was in my 20's and 30's. I go into a potential love relationship with my heart wide open, yet am not devastated if it turns out I am mistaken about said potential. | |
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| Do hearts harden with age?
Posted: 7/8/2008 7:43:37 AM | | well then simply we better fill the brain up and use it before we take the tool out of the box!!!!!!! | |
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| Do hearts harden with age?
Posted: 7/8/2008 9:07:15 AM | Indeed..............or recognize that character traits can be grown with a choice or lay on your back and live in self pity....LOL
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| Do hearts harden with age?
Posted: 7/8/2008 2:22:37 PM | | You're never too old to fall in love again,at least that's what I hope..my heart aches for that. | |
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| Do hearts harden with age?
Posted: 7/8/2008 2:43:24 PM | | Most of these people spilling their hearts out move on to the next and the next and the next, it's much more about drama and hormones than about romance and real love. My arteries my have hardened a bit but my heart is fine, I just don't suffer fools lightly anymore and I'm not so much prone to fantasyland every time I met a man. Experience and maturity have saved me from some stupid places I use to go and get all giddy about and call it love and passion and heartfelt. It was mostly hormones and desperation and inexperience. | |
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