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Posted: 7/14/2008 6:43:34 PM | | Well I'm a bi guy who never uses condoms. If I'm having sex with a woman or if a guy is doing me, it doesn't matter I DON"T WANT A CONDOM INVOLVED. However I have caught HIV, HSV, and anal warts from my years of experience. I can't use them on myself and want a guy to shoot in me. But a bloodtest only covers so much. You need to do swab tests of the penis which does hurt, to find some of them, the blood tests will find HIV, Syphilis, and a few others but not all. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2008 7:00:54 PM |
However I have caught HIV, HSV, and anal warts from my years of experience.
This is why I will always try to stay as safe as possible. It doesn't sound like anything to be proud of, no offense. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2008 7:57:20 PM | I don't think anyone would say they enjoy using condoms, but they are a necessary 'evil'.
I know of one guy who goes soft at the mere mention of a condom. No amount of foreplay helps, once he has in his mind that he has to wear a condom, that's it ~ game over!
I asked him how he has managed to have sex since he broke up with his wife. His answer was he hasn't! Yep, he's had unprotected sex with god knows how many women and doesn't think there's anything wrong with that, even said "well their good girls, I can tell they're clean" WTF??? Good lord, how can a 35yo man be so naive or should I say ignorant! He thinks as long as the woman is on the pill or some form of birth control, it's all good. 
He has completely psyched himself out of wearing a condom, and now has the attitude of "I just can't", I think it's psychological more than anything. I really does amaze me how many men will happily have sex without a condom. The ironic thing is ~ they're later the ones that complain "some slut gave me herpes" (or whatever).
It's about respect IMHO | |
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Posted: 7/15/2008 5:27:46 PM | | non taken, but I still have my people for sex who are in the same boat as me. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2008 9:26:51 PM | I would always use a condom with someone I am engaging in sex with on a more casual basis or someone whose history is unknown to me or suspect in some way. I am not all that quick to reach orgasm even without a condom and with one I can sometimes not reach orgasm at all with conventional vaginal sex.
A condom will protect against things that are easy to test for ... HIV and various bacterial infections. They won't protect against most other viral infections such as HSV or HPV. An up to date blood donor card is generally a very good indication of someone's heath as someone with most STDs will not be able to donate blood.
Most of all it is a certain comfort level with those you are having sex with. If they tend to be stable in their sexual relationships and appear to care about their own health, chances are you are going to be just fine. 99% of the people over, say, 35 years old, don't have an STD so you can't catch one from them. In fact it is even lower than that. Once you get to age 45 we are talking about one tenth of a percent of the population.
Use condoms if you are having sex with someone you don't know well (or at all) or someone who you suspect might be having unprotected sex with multiple people who aren't known to them. But if you are having sex with most average people who don't have sex with a lot of strangers, you are probably going to be ok.
There's a lot of sex phobia out there, you need to maintain perspective and have a realistic picture of what the risks are. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2008 12:19:09 AM | yes it's true a****sometimes goes soft AFTER the first round of sex when putting on the condom. normally it's just the womans fault  But also with right woman once it's hard again that **** stays hard for a good 40 some odd minutes.
lets take one of the last ladies i had sex with. i actually like the girl but the sex... i almost want to run from it  she is so freaking selfish. The only foreplay she knows is to touch herself, do only licking she knows is to then taste herself. So im thinking "should i be here?" becaues of the lack of feeling from the condom, she/women needs to make up for that by stimulating me/men in other ways. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2008 3:12:27 AM |
You hear so many men and women talk like they have safe sex but so often men will go soft (lose erection) when it comes to using condoms.
It is true that sometimes the time comes when in the heat of the moment you want to have sex but fumbling around with condoms can be one of the biggest turn offs ever.
I've been told "Don't worry, I'll go to the pharmacy tomorrow" but I always want to use a condom just in case. | |
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